VelvetDarkness
Polysyllable Whore x
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I've been turning this one over and over in my head for the last couple of weeks, and I'm venting here. I apologize in advance.
Sometimes I'm irrational.
I know he's human and prone to normal human emotions. I know he has a lot more on his plate to worry about than a whiny slave. I know he has responsibilities that are more important than me. I know all these things.
But I also know that I have SO much more to give him. Sometimes, he acts like he wants it, needs it, in fact. Sometimes--like now--, he acts like he doesn't give a shit.
I know, I know. He has other responsibilities. He has other priorities. But it still hurts. I need more than this. Sometimes I want to jump up and down and scream, "I'm one of your responsibilities, too, dammit!" I feel like in my need to feel some tangible sign of his control, I'm pushing him farther away. It's not conducive to fixing things at all.
Trying to sit back, shut up and take it is leading to me attention-whoring all the time. I know it's getting on his nerves. It's getting on MY nerves. I'm trying my best not to, but it's making me crazy. But he's the Master. He can control me as much or as little as he wants, I suppose. It's just that when it wanes like this, I feel like he doesn't care enough to try to fix it. And probably the more I push the issue, the less motivated he feels to do anything about it.
I'll be spending some time with him soon. I hope we can iron out our problems then. I just feel myself falling deeper and deeper in servitude, and I need some assurance of the security of my position, I suppose.
All right, I'm done complaining. Back to work.
I can relate to how you're feeling here. Master uses attention and a lack there of as means of control and of dominance. He might demand my attention and service when I'm busy and stressed or doing something I enjoy and it's really just to reinforce the fact that my needs and wants will always come a long way second to his. He will also ignore me at times, not blank me but deny me attention that I'm clearly craving, to prove that I do not get to decide what my needs are. He often has friends round to play music and/or computer games and unless refreshments are required, I keep out of their way. It's his guy time. I may go to see my own friends or I might just retire up to the bedroom with my laptop or a book (oh the wonders of wifi). Even when he's playing computer games or the guitar alone, I don't usually interfere or make any demands on his attention.
I know this probably isn't exactly what you meant. Master and I cohabit so it's rarely possible for us not to see enough of each other and occasionally, we both need a bit of space. I can relate to wanting attention and being denied though, often specifically to make me feel unimportant and presumptuous.
It's a hard thing for me to become accepting of, even now when I know how much he loves me and wants me to spend my life as his. Conventional notions of love are very much bound up in things like attention and affection. Our dynamic throws that yardstick for love out of the window. I give attention whenever it is demanded of me and he responds according to his mood, when he wants to give attention but rarely is what he thinks I want/need his first concern. It's just another facet of our lives together where the concept of fairness and quid pro quo is null and void. It's actually impacting on me now in that I feel I want/need attention less often and am more than content with the time he chooses to be loving and affectionate. I too have more serenity and I do actually believe I am more secure as a slave as a result.
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