The Lit experience: men v women

[may_I_please]

I feel that way.
Seems like I can not get any of the traction that I had back.
I want to meet and make friends on here and I had started pretty well, now it's the opposite.

I definitely am opinionated. LOL. I travel around and I end up talking to people from all over the country that I get to see different cultures, opinions, lifestyles, etc, etc. So my opinions get formed from all the different experiences that I have every single year.
My Disaster, Emergency Response, Search and Rescue Teams travel all over the country working.
In 2022 we were in California, Kentucky, Missouri, Colorado, Florida, Tennessee and Michigan.
Summer through Fall is our busiest time of the year because people are doing things outside plus weather is batshit crazy.

So basically action man. And you aren’t getting any? Dude!

 

[TallGlassOfSarcasm]

I had to check profile for gender :blushing:

Checking profiles is the Lit version of "lift them up to look"

I'll let myself out.

 

[Seadog777]

So basically action man. And you aren’t getting any? Dude!

If you mean sex, the answer is no.
Wife has a medical condition that has killed her drive.

My team still responds to Fire and Accident Calls here at home which happens a few times a week. Space heater and dumbass drivers are everywhere. LOL.
It's nothing like the wildfires out west or the flooding that was in KY and MO in 2022.

 

[may_I_please]

If you mean sex, the answer is no.
Wife has a medical condition that has killed her drive.

My team still responds to Fire and Accident Calls here at home which happens a few times a week. Space heater and dumbass drivers are everywhere. LOL.
It's nothing like the wildfires out west or the flooding that was in KY and MO in 2022.

I meant (c)lit attention

 

[munch2much]

If it helps I had no idea who you were before this thread

I had to check profile for gender :blushing:

Haha I’m not surprised. I will spend a month on Lit, then be away 3 or more. And I dated a Litster in real life for many years, only popping on on here occasionally.

Sometimes I’m ultra chatty, but if RL gets busy I am a lurker!

 

[Seadog777]

I meant (c)lit attention

Oh It's just harder to make friends as adults.

 

[clark_kent]

I have sent many an unsolicited pic. You would think that people would be grateful but no, not even a “um thanks”.

Maybe I should do some new ones with lighting and props

I think you may be in the minority of women sending. I can’t say I have ever received an unsolicited pic. Hell, it’s rare I get a solicited one - let alone in a costume or with props. LOL

 

[ffdan]

My experience has mostly been good on my 11 or so years here. I’m generally shy so find talking in rooms a little tough. I have gotten to know. few ladies here over the years, some intense relationships and others just friends. I can see how woman must get a barrage of IMs. Guilty. But I’ve never sent unsolicited pics and try to make a connection before it goes anywhere further.

 

[Seadog777]

I have never received any photos from anybody.
I sure haven't been asked for any either. I'm not sure anybody wants to see my redneck country ass.

 

[Lady2020]

I tend to intimidate a lot of men. But I don't see my acting like a blowup doll would get better results.

 

[munch2much]

I tend to intimidate a lot of men. But I don't see my acting like a blowup doll would get better results.

In real life?

 

[Lady2020]

In real life?

OL. If I met enough men IRL, it would probably be the same, though.

 

[munch2much]

OL. If I met enough men IRL, it would probably be the same, though.

I am soooo curious now

 

[Seadog777]

I tend to intimidate a lot of men. But I don't see my acting like a blowup doll would get better results.

How do you intimidate folks???

 

[Lady2020]

How do you intimidate folks???

I've had a few men tell me I'm intimidating. I'm glad they felt comfortable enough to tell me.

 

[tallladiesman]

I've had a few men tell me I'm intimidating. I'm glad they felt comfortable enough to tell me.

Did they want to be intimidated?

 

[Lady2020]

Did they want to be intimidated?

No.

 

[Seadog777]

I've had a few men tell me I'm intimidating. I'm glad they felt comfortable enough to tell me.

On here or in RL???

 

[tallladiesman]

No.

You must be scary

 

[Lady2020]

You must be scary

Apparently.

 

[munch2much]

You must be scary

She doesn’t post links on the What Are You Listening To thread.

It explains a lot

 

[MorLesMom]

Well I'm new to this website.
I'm female and honestly just started out here.
From what you all explain, I have seen it first hand. In the short time of being on this platform. I have received a plentiful of messages from random men I have chosen to ignore. Some get mad and curse me out before leaving me alone..

I thought this was just a site to publish my stories...

 

[Lady2020]

She doesn’t post links on the What Are You Listening To thread.

It explains a lot

Yes, that explains everything.

 

[munch2much]

Yes, that explains everything.

See, you can’t be that intimidating, look at the increase in posts on this thread, all for you

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

My bad memory versus Lit

I often feel, hmm a bit anxious?

I’ve been on Lit a long time.

In real life I have a truly awful memory for names. Not great with faces tbh. But somehow I muddle through life ok. I can remember who I’ve talked to before.

But on Lit, over the years I’ve talked to so many. Mostly fairly briefly. But also a fair few more intimate moments. My memory just doesn’t deliver consistently.

I feel awful that I almost certainly talk to people having forgotten about the naughty stuff a year (or ten) ago.

Of course I assume everyone else has near perfect recall.

So please forgive me folks.
And please don’t pretend, just to toy with me, I will believe you

I hasten to add I do recall the Litsters I’ve actually met in real life!

I don’t suppose anyone else has these concerns?

I was also mentioning my poor memory earlier in another thread. You know those "have you ever" whatever with the litster above you threads? About 75% of the time, I look at the name and am not sure. That is why I barely participate in them and NAL threads. Of course, the fact litsters change profile pictures and come back with new names doesn't help either. I will also admit to having spent so much time talking to a person on skype, I forgot who they were on Lit. I will forget all dates. Birthdays, major life events etc. Though, unlike you, I assume everyone also forgot all of this about me.

There are also some positives. Like, all your best stories, you can tell me about them several times if you wait a few months. If I don't remember, it is new to me. I don't expect you to remember any details about me, dates, anything, so I am not bothered if you don't remember and am impressed if you do. I am super easy to ghost. I forgive most anything, often because I can't remember what you did that annoyed me. I used to use my buddy list as a list of litsters who I really wanted to avoid, so that way, I'd remember to not engage if I just checked a PM against my buddy list. Then the change happened. I was advised we could see followers, I saw I didn't know most of mine and I am all "who follows someone they won't talk to", then I saw the four people I was following and was all oh haha, I am that person who follows people I won't talk to just to remind me not to talk to them. So I cleared my list, replaced it with people I enjoy, now I am not sure who I want to remember that I want to stab with a rusty spork. sigh.

Point is, you are not alone at all, except I assume you also remember nothing about me.