The Forum Crush

[angelicminx]

How many people here have had a "crush" (an admiration/interest/obsession with no realistic expectation of reciprocation) on another forum member or a person you knew only online? Is it rare or does it happen to you all the time?

Did you ever contact your crush or reveal your thoughts to them? Do you think a crush would lose its importance or fantasy potential if it is revealed? Is it the secrecy and the lack of response that makes it interesting, or is it only fun if you can develop it into a flirtation? Has any flirtation ever moved offline? Is that a guarantee of ruining something that's fun?

I can come up with a dozen more questions about this idea. I've got a story going with this at the core and I'd really love to hear other people's experiences and thoughts.

I haven't read the other posts yet, but I wanted to answer while I have the time.

I'm marrying a man I met online. We met while playing poker. It began as a friendship, just sharing thoughts on the tables. I invited him to read my work a few weeks after we met. We began flirting a little bit, not intending it to go anywhere. My marriage was on the rocks, as some of you already know, and it was a boost to my self esteem. My soon to be ex believes that this man was the cause of the break up, which couldn't be farther from the truth. My ex was the one who informed my fiance of the impending divorce. (Long story) A few months after I moved out, my fiance moved to Kentucky from California. We now live together and are planning on getting married shortly after the divorce is final. (My ex is planning to re-marry in June.) I'll fill in the details at another time, if you are interested, but it's too much to go into right now. My head hurts too much.

 

[Wildcard Ky]

Glad to see you back amongst us my dear.

 

[Honey123]

Really? *innocent look* Hold still a bit ... I'll see if I can work out what it is by touch.

*nuzzles*

Hmmm.

Might need to try some other senses.

Hmmm...down...down...a little to the left...now..the right...wait, go back to the left

 

[Honey123]

I still find the entire concept of developing emotional reactions/attachments to people based on nothing more than small images and typed words extemporanously entered fascinating. Even as I analyse it, I do it -- just as, I suspect, we sort people we see in crowds into "interesting/not interesting" or whatever other catagories we have in mind. Here, with a different "look" at people, we may "sort" them into catagories we never would if we saw them in a neutral place or met them casually.

I think I am a bit shier in person ~ that is until you get to know me. Then I don't hold back.

But yes, it would be interesting to see whom would befriend whom...and like Shang said, if no one knew your Lit name, if your personality would still play out, outside these white boxes....



Mal, please know I meant no disrespect to your thread or your intentions here...ok?