The Dichotomy of Bicuriosity

[LanaBehave]

So, there’s Bicurious, and then there’s biCURIOUS.

Or is there? Being bi, being curious… Erotic curiousity, sexual frontiers differ for each individual, of course.

On the male to male aspect of curiosity, where I am, I imagine that there are some that are curious about everything, and others that have a “side” they are curious about…

As a crossdresser, more or less submissive, I’m curious about the feminine role. And this curiosity is well represented in topics, stories in Lit.

Males that are on the other side, masculine, dominant, but curious about submissive or feminine role males, are most interesting.

What do you think? Rarer probably, but I’ve ‘met’ some, are bicurious females that like to explore the feminized feelings of gender exploring males, and vice versa. These are interesting too.

Trichotomy?

 

[muycurioso]

So, there’s Bicurious, and then there’s biCURIOUS.

Or is there? Being bi, being curious… Erotic curiousity, sexual frontiers differ for each individual, of course.

On the male to male aspect of curiosity, where I am, I imagine that there are some that are curious about everything, and others that have a “side” they are curious about…

As a crossdresser, more or less submissive, I’m curious about the feminine role. And this curiosity is well represented in topics, stories in Lit.

Males that are on the other side, masculine, dominant, but curious about submissive or feminine role males, are most interesting.

What do you think? Rarer probably, but I’ve ‘met’ some, are bicurious females that like to explore the feminized feelings of gender exploring males, and vice versa. These are interesting too.

Trichotomy?

This is me "Males that are on the other side, masculine, dominant, but curious about submissive or feminine role males, are most interesting." I have told a few long past gf's about it and my wife knows.

 

[LanaBehave]

This is me "Males that are on the other side, masculine, dominant, but curious about submissive or feminine role males, are most interesting." I have told a few long past gf's about it and my wife knows.

Hi...

 

[muycurioso]

hi, good choice for a topic

Hi...

I like how you wrote it.

 

[LanaBehave]

...maybe it should be called Bichotomy

I like how you wrote it.

Thank you Muy, it's nice to see that there are different desires, possibilities to be explored. That there are interesting men out there as curious about what I am, as I am curious about what they are, what they want. We're not all the same, and that's a good thing, just like men and women aren't the same. It's a bichotomy!

 

[MadCatZach]

I can't say that I am bicurious since I have lain with men and women. I have seen that there are certainly many degrees of I guess we call it sexuality. I have known women who are as excited by sucking a cock as any gay man. Others who do it as part of the sex act but it is part of the ritual and not the main event. I've known men who want to be pushed to their knees and face fucked and treated like a slut. I've known men who want to kiss and touch and feel our naked bodies against one another. I have met men who want to treat their cock sucker like they are a pig. They are fine when their cock is getting sucked but afterward they are ashamed I guess.

In a way I suppose I am excited by being used but I am excited by the giving of pleasure. I enjoy licking a woman's pussy for a very long time. I don't necessarily care if they do anything for me in return. I enjoy them enjoying what I am doing. I am excited to make a man's cock get hard. To suck him slowly and give him a pleasure I have known. To make him moan with the pleasure and his ejaculation is proof of the pleasure I have given him. I gave him an orgasm and it took nothing away from me.

 

[HBergeron]

Having been in the bi-swing lifestyle since 2004, I've come to avoid guys who identify as bi-curious, and a few couples I've known won't bother with someone until they've truly 'been there, done that' a FEW times. It's generally a waste of time.

Go suck a cock - it's no big deal these days.

 

[Smallchange4]

So, there’s Bicurious, and then there’s biCURIOUS.

Or is there? Being bi, being curious… Erotic curiousity, sexual frontiers differ for each individual, of course.

On the male to male aspect of curiosity, where I am, I imagine that there are some that are curious about everything, and others that have a “side” they are curious about…

As a crossdresser, more or less submissive, I’m curious about the feminine role. And this curiosity is well represented in topics, stories in Lit.

Males that are on the other side, masculine, dominant, but curious about submissive or feminine role males, are most interesting.

What do you think? Rarer probably, but I’ve ‘met’ some, are bicurious females that like to explore the feminized feelings of gender exploring males, and vice versa. These are interesting too.

Trichotomy?

I am generally seen as a masculine, definitely more alpha than beta male. However behind closed doors I discovered I am into being the submissive. I totally get off on my female partner or another girl watching as a guy fucks me like a girl missionary style. One girl exclaimed that my tiny flaccid penis was like a clitoris as her well hung partner pushed his cock into me. I immediately got an erection.

 

[LanaBehave]

Having been in the bi-swing lifestyle since 2004, I've come to avoid guys who identify as bi-curious, and a few couples I've known won't bother with someone until they've truly 'been there, done that' a FEW times. It's generally a waste of time.

Go suck a cock - it's no big deal these days.

Sheepishly...you are absolutely right, of course, HB.

And I have... but still consider myself more of a curious than experienced bisexual. Things to do...and try.

 

[KDLeon]

So, there’s Bicurious, and then there’s biCURIOUS.

Or is there? Being bi, being curious… Erotic curiousity, sexual frontiers differ for each individual, of course.

On the male to male aspect of curiosity, where I am, I imagine that there are some that are curious about everything, and others that have a “side” they are curious about…

As a crossdresser, more or less submissive, I’m curious about the feminine role. And this curiosity is well represented in topics, stories in Lit.

Males that are on the other side, masculine, dominant, but curious about submissive or feminine role males, are most interesting.

What do you think? Rarer probably, but I’ve ‘met’ some, are bicurious females that like to explore the feminized feelings of gender exploring males, and vice versa. These are interesting too.

Trichotomy?

I'm not sure what you are looking for or why you seem to be struggling with semantics. Are you questioning why men are bi-curious?? What does being curious about ones sexual limits have to do with someones preference for being dominant or submissive, either with the same or opposite sex?

 

[liqueur]

In a way I suppose I am excited by being used but I am excited by the giving of pleasure. I enjoy licking a woman's pussy for a very long time. I don't necessarily care if they do anything for me in return. I enjoy them enjoying what I am doing. I am excited to make a man's cock get hard. To suck him slowly and give him a pleasure I have known. To make him moan with the pleasure and his ejaculation is proof of the pleasure I have given him. I gave him an orgasm and it took nothing away from me.

This = me

 

[liqueur]

Having been in the bi-swing lifestyle since 2004, I've come to avoid guys who identify as bi-curious, and a few couples I've known won't bother with someone until they've truly 'been there, done that' a FEW times. It's generally a waste of time.

Go suck a cock - it's no big deal these days.

Everyone has to start somewhere. No one was a cocksucker before they were curious.

 

[KDLeon]

Every man is "bi-curious". Whether or not they have any desire to explore having sex with another man is another matter. And of the heterosexual men who will explore it, all will do it in a different way with their own unique limits on what they desire. For some men it's about being a woman in every way they can. They want to look, smell, dress and act just like a woman and desire to have a loving, sexual, intimate and romantic relationship with a man. For other, like myself, the desire to take a feminine role with a man is all an internal thing. I am not attracted to men as I am to women. I do not desire an intimate, loving, or romantic experience or relationship with a man. I have no interest or desire to kiss a man. Mostly I want to enjoy pleasing a man's cock with my hands and mouth. Yes, I like to feel somewhat sub/fem to a mature/older man, but I do not want to dress or act like a woman.

With a woman, I do not have the same desire to be submissive, yet I prefer woman who are less passive in the bedroom. Unfortunately, it seems most women are too comfortable being very passive in bed. I think they would be more sexually satisfied if they would simply make some effort at showing interest in sex. Or more exactly, showing some desire to be sexual. Maybe men who want a less passive and more openly sexual partner find what they are looking for in other men?? My awareness of my openness to sucking an older man's cock came at a young age, but I didn't act on it until my late 30's.

We are curious about everything before we do it for the first time. Even before having heterosexual sex or oral sex with the opposite sex. So why the big deal about saying one is "'bi-curious"? It's not different than anything else we do sexually. We don't say we were heterosexual-curious. Guys don't claim to be "boob-curious", but most were at some point before they ever saw a pair in person. Same with girls and cocks. Until they see the first one, they are "cock-curious", but no one ever says that. Call it "bi-curious" if you want but in reality it is just realizing your willingness to explore a sexual experience with the same sex. No matter what the details of that experience will be for you.

And to echo what was said before, it's no big deal. Societal pressures and labels of taboo make it a big deal only if you let it.

 

[LanaBehave]

And what's wrong with being curious, even if you already have some 'experiences'?

And what's wrong with it being a 'big deal'? Being excited about trying something, doing something... letting the taboo heighten the experience?

If it's no 'big deal' I guess it's not very exciting, desirable, or fun even. Like doing the dishes, or sanding the scuffs off the baseboards.

And this is why I started this subject, because I find it interesting to discuss ideas like this, to find the range of reactions, feelings. I am happy there is discussion, participation, varying views coming forth!

I guess to simplify what I was thinking at the outset, I'm curious about men, and I'm a sissy crossdresser. And there are men that are especially curious about those of us that like to self-feminize, but these guys don't desire to put the panties and dresses on, too. I wanted to hear more about both sides, whether from a 'curiosity' viewpoint, or from experience, I guess.

 

[KDLeon]

Nothing is a big deal in the grander scheme of life but yes, the experience can be a "big deal" if it's something that one finds exciting, erotic and arousing. Otherwise it wouldn't be worth the effort. There is certainly nothing wrong with it being a big deal to you, or anyone.

You seem stuck on the word "curious". Do you actually mean "aroused"?.....by the thought of actually pursuing a sexual experience with another man? Are you wanting to know exactly what other men are looking to experience that way? I could have a conversation with another man who found the idea of being sexual with another man "curious", in that he didn't relate to or understand another man's interest in that. But that isn't your view, I am certain.

 

[liqueur]

Nothing is a big deal in the grander scheme of life....

What a crock!

And what's wrong with being curious, even if you already have some 'experiences'?

And what's wrong with it being a 'big deal'? Being excited about trying something, doing something... letting the taboo heighten the experience?

If it's no 'big deal' I guess it's not very exciting, desirable, or fun even. Like doing the dishes, or sanding the scuffs off the baseboards.

Very well-stated! Bravo!

 

[KDLeon]

What a crock!


If it's a crock, then could you give an example of something you think is a big deal?

 

[muycurioso]

great attitude

Nothing is a big deal in the grander scheme of life but yes, the experience can be a "big deal" if it's something that one finds exciting, erotic and arousing. Otherwise it wouldn't be worth the effort. There is certainly nothing wrong with it being a big deal to you, or anyone.

You seem stuck on the word "curious". Do you actually mean "aroused"?.....by the thought of actually pursuing a sexual experience with another man? Are you wanting to know exactly what other men are looking to experience that way? I could have a conversation with another man who found the idea of being sexual with another man "curious", in that he didn't relate to or understand another man's interest in that. But that isn't your view, I am certain.

I like what your post on the bottom says about women. I will always take a great attitude over great looks.

 

[LanaBehave]

Nothing is a big deal in the grander scheme of life but yes, the experience can be a "big deal" if it's something that one finds exciting, erotic and arousing. Otherwise it wouldn't be worth the effort. There is certainly nothing wrong with it being a big deal to you, or anyone.

You seem stuck on the word "curious". Do you actually mean "aroused"?.....by the thought of actually pursuing a sexual experience with another man? Are you wanting to know exactly what other men are looking to experience that way? I could have a conversation with another man who found the idea of being sexual with another man "curious", in that he didn't relate to or understand another man's interest in that. But that isn't your view, I am certain.

Bi-curious or bicurious is a common term, and it appears in lots of dictionaries, and is used online a lot in discussions of sexuality, in articles, and when people are chatting to feel each other out, so I'm not sure why I need to mean 'aroused' when I actually am bicurious. And, you're right, I don't mean that it's 'curious' that a man might be interested in other men, you're right about that.

https://pics.me.me/not-sure-ifitmcurious-or-bi-curious-quick-meme-kom-lol-14788136.png

 

[KDLeon]

Bi-curious or bicurious is a common term, and it appears in lots of dictionaries, and is used online a lot in discussions of sexuality, in articles, and when people are chatting to feel each other out, so I'm not sure why I need to mean 'aroused' when I actually am bicurious. And, you're right, I don't mean that it's 'curious' that a man might be interested in other men, you're right about that.

https://pics.me.me/not-sure-ifitmcurious-or-bi-curious-quick-meme-kom-lol-14788136.png

So nowI guess I'm just confused as to what you are looking for in your original post. You just seemed to answer your own initial question.

 

[LanaBehave]

Everyone has to start somewhere. No one was a cocksucker before they were curious.

Yes! And some of us, could we be serially curious? One step at a time...

 

[CandiCame]

I think some of that stuff might veer into generqueer territory rather than sexuality, but y'all do you!

What I mean by that is that if you're wanting to branch out your gender identity that's not always necessarily a sexuality thing. It can be, but it doesn't have to be.