doveofserenity
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*giggles* brilliant.
thank you. Thats actually how Sir and i got to realizing W/we connected on more ways than either thought.
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*giggles* brilliant.
thank you. Thats actually how Sir and i got to realizing W/we connected on more ways than either thought.
*giggles*
I guess I'm a little spoiled, the last few people I've met, I've known we've had at least...that...incommon. *giggles*
~grins~Meeting new people in this little county, they are either at the bars for pickup, fishing, mud running, paint balling (and those suckers HURT when they hit on a tit) or hunting...and that could be squirrel, deer, or chicks.
So being "in common" around here is very rare. i just happened to cross fates path, i guess. ~shrugs~
And very happy with that path.
No offense, but the very second a woman would ask me this on the very first date, I would be gone, especially if she asked for details about my job/income before.
I don't think I would ask it on a first date, or as an opener, lol, but it's a valid question. And hey, not every woman wants to get married.
Wench, would you like to get married again? Forgive me if you said this already.
When I think about entertaining a relationship which might get serious (for me, marriage), I have a set of criteria:
(1) Must be Jewish or be Jewishly fluent and able to commit to having a Jewish home;
(2) Must be financially stable (i.e., no crazy spending sprees);
(3) Must be self-aware and able to be truly conscious in a relationship; and
(4) If he has kids, he has shared or sole custody.
Btw, I'm not saying if you don't meet this criteria, you're a big asshole. It's just not going to work out, because those are non-negotiable items for me.
Now, these work for me, because it reflects what I need. I think it's important to really think about who you are, wench, and what you need. The more you know yourself, the easier it becomes to ascertain who you're looking for.
This is exactly why this is such odd timing for me...besides the fact that I was looking for a few hours of entertainment for one night online.
I have mentioned a few times in various places that I have spent the past month or so trying to figure out what it is I want. I do want to have a wedding, but I'm not sure I want to get married again (of course I would need to get devorsed first. ). I know I would like to have some one who was able to spend a night, a weekend, a week maybe with me but I don't really want to live with some one at this point. I enjoy living alone for the most part, there are a few nights that I wish I had some thing to snuggle other than my body pillow, but I just don't want to be tripping over some one all of the time. I'm not even sure if I want kids anymore, where that was once my "mission in life".
I'm at a crossroads in my life where I have more questions than answers, and up comes along some one who...omg...has me really considering a future! It's nuts!
dove brings up another issue:
When talking safety rules, it's been mentioned here a lot, no play on the first meeting. And I'll admit, it's a rule I don't always seem to follow, but I make it clear that it is not my intention, and the possibilities are slim.
So, do you play on the first date?
Would you get into a car with some one you just had lunch with? I think that one worries me more...some how.
When do you give it up? second, third, forth meeting? or do you just go with the flow, no regrets?
So, do you play on the first date?
I don't date, but I do meet potential play partners here and there. Haven't played on the first meeting with any of them. I'm not going to play unles sI a comfortable with a person, and the sort of comfort takes a meeting or two to gel.
The only time I've gone against that was at a play party. Admittedly, it resulted in a wonderfully satisfying scene, but it is the exception, not the rule. That environment is probably the only place in which I would feel comfortable with playing with someone on the first meeting. In a situation like that, everyone in attendance is at least cognizant of the possibility of play, whether they choose to do so or not. Different energy as a result.
See, I have met people before, who I met with the expressed interest that there would be play involved and that was why we were meeting. This is different.
This doesn't *feel* like some one I'm just going to let beat on me a few hours here and there...this has meat to it, but I'm afraid that biting into that meat too soon may make it loose some of it's flavor.
So I guess there needs to be a distinction here. What do you do when meeting a potential play partner, and what do you do when you meet a potential....well potential?
dove brings up another issue:
When talking safety rules, it's been mentioned here a lot, no play on the first meeting. And I'll admit, it's a rule I don't always seem to follow, but I make it clear that it is not my intention, and the possibilities are slim.
So, do you play on the first date?
Would you get into a car with some one you just had lunch with? I think that one worries me more...some how.
When do you give it up? second, third, forth meeting? or do you just go with the flow, no regrets?
Everyone lies...
Its about intentions.
If you think you can read Twysts last paragraph, and classify yourself as the "truthful" one, you are full of shit...
And Yes, peoples baggage from old relationships carries on to stifel new ones...
But, come on! Don't you remember...
Everything happens for a reason...
Not sure how i brought it up, but down here; "going anywhere" which i said in my last posting usually means taking a walk around town, just chatting about what W/we see happening around us.
Nowadays, the way the world is; i would never think to get into a vehicle with One i had just met a few hours earlier.
Each come to the pre set restaurant or wherever in their own vehicles, and leave the same way.
To giving it up? When you feel that the TRUST and Communication has hit the point within yourself that says, "Yes, He is for real; and you feel safe handing Him that trust.
To me, its like handing over one of my tenderly and lovingly cared for roses. If the trust is there, the rose will still be as beautiful an hour later, and if not; the rose will be on the ground crushed.
It's no secret that I'm an exhibitionist attention whore. I am rather fond of my boobs, and take every opportunity I can to show them off. Since we are talking about hitting the zoo, weather is a key component, and means that the girls will have to stay in for the night. Still, I'm not very comfortable in casual clothes. It's either dressed to the nines for me, or not dressed at all.
This is a really hard question to answer without knowing the guy's taste & preference.Then there's the question: how much skin is too much on a first date?
It's gonna be frikken cold there, right? Chest-colds are not sexy.
dove brings up another issue:
When talking safety rules, it's been mentioned here a lot, no play on the first meeting. And I'll admit, it's a rule I don't always seem to follow, but I make it clear that it is not my intention, and the possibilities are slim.
So, do you play on the first date?
Would you get into a car with some one you just had lunch with? I think that one worries me more...some how.
When do you give it up? second, third, forth meeting? or do you just go with the flow, no regrets?