The Bitch Thread

[graceanne]

Lord I have had the night of all nights.

K has to show up to the MEPS center tonight, and he ships out (probably) tomorrow. So last night we went to bed early nana: ). About 1:30 I got a hysterical phone call from my best friend, asking me to come get her daughter, 'they' had just taken her boyfriend away. I couldn't get much more out of her, so I threw on clothes and left. I got a block away, and turned back cause I'd forgotten my glasses. ( I can't even see my feet without them. oops. ) I got to her house and their were two cop cars and four cops there. Evidently J (the boyfriend) got drunk off his ass and decided to beat up M (my friend). I am not all the surprised since I've seen bruises on M that she's refused to admit to. Evidently he started smashing stuff, and she tried to call the police. He took the phone from her, broke it, and proceeded to punch her several times in the head. She has several goose eggs. It's a good thing he was wasted or she'd be a lot more badly hurt. The neighbors heard him yelling, and called the police, luckily. Their was glass everywhere, and M&M's, so I helped clean that up so none of the animals would get hurt or sick. K (the daughter - 7) was creepily calm. I don't know if the police calmed her, of what. I had a talk with her, and I explained that her daddy (not really - but he's been with M since K was 3, and K's dad has had nothing to do with her since he found out M was preggers) has a disease and it's alcoholism. I also made sure she knew that it wasn't her fault, and did what I could. Right now she's in the room with my oldest (they're best friends, have been since they were 18 mo old), and to tell the truth I think her talking it out with A will do her the most good. Plus I'll grill A later to make sure that K doesn't think it's her fault or anything.

Anyway, then we came home and put K to bed with A. She fell asleep pretty fast, she was exhausted. Me and M went out into the garage so M could vent, then she crashed on my couch. All in all it was almost 5 am before I could go back to sleep. I'm wiped. And quite frankly my stomach hurts. Now I gotta go run a shitload of errands that have to be done before K leaves.

*edit due to exhaustion - they took her boyfriend away - sigh*

 

[FurryFury]

*hugs*

Breaking up, that's so hard. I'm glad you weren't there too!

I'm so sorry you have to go through this.

Fury

 

[FurryFury]

Lord I have had the night of all nights.

K has to show up to the MEPS center tonight, and he ships out (probably) tomorrow. So last night we went to bed early nana: ). About 1:30 I got a hysterical phone call from my best friend, asking me to come get her daughter, 'they' had just taken her daughter away. I couldn't get much more out of her, so I threw on clothes and left. I got a block away, and turned back cause I'd forgotten my glasses. ( I can't even see my feet without them. oops. ) I got to her house and their were two cop cars and four cops there. Evidently J (the boyfriend) got drunk off his ass and decided to beat up M (my friend). I am not all the surprised since I've seen bruises on M that she's refused to admit to. Evidently he started smashing stuff, and she tried to call the police. He took the phone from her, broke it, and proceeded to punch her several times in the head. She has several goose eggs. It's a good thing he was wasted or she'd be a lot more badly hurt. The neighbors heard him yelling, and called the police, luckily. Their was glass everywhere, and M&M's, so I helped clean that up so none of the animals would get hurt or sick. K (the daughter - 7) was creepily calm. I don't know if the police calmed her, of what. I had a talk with her, and I explained that her daddy (not really - but he's been with M since K was 3, and K's dad has had nothing to do with her since he found out M was preggers) has a disease and it's alcoholism. I also made sure she knew that it wasn't her fault, and did what I could. Right now she's in the room with my oldest (they're best friends, have been since they were 18 mo old), and to tell the truth I think her talking it out with A will do her the most good. Plus I'll grill A later to make sure that K doesn't think it's her fault or anything.

Anyway, then we came home and put K to bed with A. She fell asleep pretty fast, she was exhausted. Me and M went out into the garage so M could vent, then she crashed on my couch. All in all it was almost 5 am before I could go back to sleep. I'm wiped. And quite frankly my stomach hurts. Now I gotta go run a shitload of errands that have to be done before K leaves.

You really put yourself out there for your friends! You are just the best!

I'm sorry you are feeling so bad. *hugs*

Oh and that little girl will feel it's partly her fault no matter what. That's what kids do. It can't be helped but I know you will do the best you can for her.

Fury

 

[greenmands]

Thank you Graceanne. I hope the child is doing well. I Know you'll do your best for her. It's always rough on the children.

 

[graceanne]

Thank you. I came online tonight mostly to collect *hugs*.

 

[chris9]

Thank you. I came online tonight mostly to collect *hugs*.

*hugs* And lots of them.
If you need to vent, just PM me.

 

[graceanne]

*hugs* And lots of them.
If you need to vent, just PM me.

Thanks hon. For now, I'm going to bed. I feel like someone's blow torching my insides, and that's a sure sign i need to chill. *huggles*

 

[Tim25nc]

reply like or not

nice notes there where did u learn them?

 

[FurryFury]

nice notes there where did u learn them?

I'm lost.

*sighs and look for signs that might help*

Fury

 

[graceanne]

I'm lost.

*sighs and look for signs that might help*

Fury

Ic ouldn't read it. What'd it say?

 

[Evil_Geoff]

Ic ouldn't read it. What'd it say?

I couldn't decipher it either gracie.

And a big ol' {{{{{{{{{{{{{HUG}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} for you and your friend. I'm sorry you went through that, but I'm glad for her that you were there to take her and her daughter in. You really are terribly generous.

My best to you, and my thoughts and prayers with you, your friend and her daughter.

 

[DVS]

nice notes there where did u learn them?

you all couldn't read this?

 

[graceanne]

you all couldn't read this?

Now I can. In that small print I couldn't. Quite frankly, whenever soemone uses that print I normally ignore their post, but since fury asked a question, I wanted to know what she wasn't understanding.

K leaves tomorrow morning, 6:20 am. My seven year old is still crying, and the two and four year old frankly don't understand. My stomach hurts.

 

[FurryFury]

Now I can. In that small print I couldn't. Quite frankly, whenever soemone uses that print I normally ignore their post, but since fury asked a question, I wanted to know what she wasn't understanding.

K leaves tomorrow morning, 6:20 am. My seven year old is still crying, and the two and four year old frankly don't understand. My stomach hurts.

I'm so, so sorry beautiful Graceanne!

*hugs and hugs*

Fury

 

[chris9]

Now I can. In that small print I couldn't. Quite frankly, whenever soemone uses that print I normally ignore their post, but since fury asked a question, I wanted to know what she wasn't understanding.

K leaves tomorrow morning, 6:20 am. My seven year old is still crying, and the two and four year old frankly don't understand. My stomach hurts.

It's tough for the kiddies when their dad leaves. And it's tough for the mom, too. You're in my thoughts. *hugs*
And I think it's very brave of you to stay at home and give your husband the opportunity do what he feels he has to do.

 

[brioche]

It's tough for the kiddies when their dad leaves. And it's tough for the mom, too. You're in my thoughts. *hugs*
And I think it's very brave of you to stay at home and give your husband the opportunity do what he feels he has to do.

Awww. You are going through so much, gracie.
I'll be thinking of you.
And your friend and her family.

 

[caela]

I fucking HATE my school!!!!! Last semester I was told I had enough financial aid credits to pay for last semester and this semester. Apparently the guy that did the figuring and told me this was wrong. He told me I had 19.5 FA credits left for spring term when I had 19.5 FA credits left total. So now because of some idiot that can't read a form properly I am looking at being dropped from my program in my last semester if I can't come up with 4000$. I just want to scream and throw things and cry my eyes out.

This close to graduation and they decide to fuck me.

 

[graceanne]

I fucking HATE my school!!!!! Last semester I was told I had enough financial aid credits to pay for last semester and this semester. Apparently the guy that did the figuring and told me this was wrong. He told me I had 19.5 FA credits left for spring term when I had 19.5 FA credits left total. So now because of some idiot that can't read a form properly I am looking at being dropped from my program in my last semester if I can't come up with 4000$. I just want to scream and throw things and cry my eyes out.

This close to graduation and they decide to fuck me.

Can you prove he said that?

 

[caela]

Can you prove he said that?

Sadly no. Not unless he admits it. Even if he does the school's likely response will be "It's not our fault he didn't read the form properly."

 

[DVS]

Sadly no. Not unless he admits it. Even if he does the school's likely response will be "It's not our fault he didn't read the form properly."

Ah, but if he's employed by the school, it should carry some weight...maybe to the point they give you some special grace period.

It might not hurt to talk to someone about it. It surely won't hurt, and you just never know what good might come from it.

 

[caela]

Ah, but if he's employed by the school, it should carry some weight...maybe to the point they give you some special grace period. It might not hurt to talk to someone about it.

I'm going to but even a grace period wouldn't help. My tuition is simply more than I can pay...period. I need my financial aid to pay that tuition and to have enough to pay my rent for the next few months as well or I'm looking at not just losing my spot in my program but my apartment as well.

Part of me is pissed at myself. I should have expected something like this. Just when everything seems to be looking like it's going right the rug is always pulled out from under me...no exceptions.

 

[brioche]

I'm going to but even a grace period wouldn't help. My tuition is simply more than I can pay...period. I need my financial aid to pay that tuition and to have enough to pay my rent for the next few months as well or I'm looking at not just losing my spot in my program but my apartment as well.

Part of me is pissed at myself. I should have expected something like this. Just when everything seems to be looking like it's going right the rug is always pulled out from under me...no exceptions.

Do they have emergency bursaries? Many of the ones at my university only came into play if people will be kicked out without them, and sounds like you would. You can usually apply for several at a time.
Also, you may be able to get a loan due to circumstances.

Gracie, is it colitis you have?

 

[caela]

Do they have emergency bursaries? Many of the ones at my university only came into play if people will be kicked out without them, and sounds like you would. You can usually apply for several at a time.
Also, you may be able to get a loan due to circumstances.

I'm going to be talking to them to find out what I can do. It's just difficult to get down there because I'm at the point where I'm doing my clinicals so I am out at a hospital over an hour away from the school and I'm not back in town usually until about an hour after they close. I'm going to call on the way home tomorrow and see if I can get someone on the phone at least...preferably without being on hold for 45 minutes this time.

I'm sorry I am just uber-cranky when it comes to dealing with this office. They totally screwed a bunch of us last semester and now they're doing it to me again this term and it's just pushing all the wrong buttons a lot harder than it normally would be.

 

[brioche]

I'm going to be talking to them to find out what I can do. It's just difficult to get down there because I'm at the point where I'm doing my clinicals so I am out at a hospital over an hour away from the school and I'm not back in town usually until about an hour after they close. I'm going to call on the way home tomorrow and see if I can get someone on the phone at least...preferably without being on hold for 45 minutes this time.

I'm sorry I am just uber-cranky when it comes to dealing with this office. They totally screwed a bunch of us last semester and now they're doing it to me again this term and it's just pushing all the wrong buttons a lot harder than it normally would be.

I understand.
I had to deal with a variety of offices during my stay at university. Once I got caught up in the middle of a turf war between two offices, that was nasty.
I was just trying to throw you some options.
One suggestion - if someone says they can't help you and expects you to leave, just stand there. Don't glare or anything, just don't leave. Eventually they will give you information or something to get you to leave. They don't know how to deal with it. It's not like you're bitching or anything - they get that every day. I've found it quite effective.

Finally, DO NOT apologize for being cranky - that is the primary reason for this thread!

 

[graceanne]

Gracie, is it colitis you have?

No, I have crohns. Why?