The BDSM Forum and flaming

[Desdemona]

I know there are alot of newcomers here. You are seeing elements of the past dredged up. Some of us have been there and done that right here. It serves no useful purpose and certainly isn't fun or good for this forum. Please, don't play into it.

If you feel the need to support MissT, by all means, let her know. If you feel the need to blast someone, go for it privately. A PM is a great way to do that without keeping the crap at the top of the page.

If we don't post to those threads, they will go away and we can go on with business as usual.

I think the vast majority of us are here to learn, share and have a good time. Lets put our energy where it will do us all some good.

 

[zanna]

I know there are alot of newcomers here. You are seeing elements of the past dredged up. Some of us have been there and done that right here. It serves no useful purpose and certainly isn't fun or good for this forum. Please, don't play into it.

If you feel the need to support MissT, by all means, let her know. If you feel the need to blast someone, go for it privately. A PM is a great way to do that without keeping the crap at the top of the page.

If we don't post to those threads, they will go away and we can go on with business as usual.

I think the vast majority of us are here to learn, share and have a good time. Lets put our energy where it will do us all some good.

i would hope i am not out of line by making a clarification. What i was replying to was the idea that b/c someone is a member/moderator of this board or any other that therefore means their life is an open book and anything less is dishonest.

i support MissT, yes. *No one* should be publicly attacked in such a way, and when you are and others remain silent, it can feel like a pretty damn lonely place. More often than not, a person bent on destruction (especially one who has nothing to lose) will take silence for either consent/agreement or permission to continue. They do not just pack up and go home. i agree with you in that i do not think anything is gained by response after response after response in a flame war. That would gain nothing. But i see nothing wrong with stepping up to the plate for a blanket response against a person bent on adversary, negativity, hatefulness and general disturbing of the peace. i would do no less anywhere else in my life.

If i was out of line for this forum, then i offer my apologies.

As for learning, sharing, etc., ummmmm i don't suppose you have a good book or video on bondage techniques, do you?

zanna

 

[zanna]

Re: Re: The BDSM Forum and flaming

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[Desdemona]

Zanna, no you aren't out of line. I'm just offering my observation that given the strength of the personalities here, these things tend to take on a life of their own long after the instigators have moved on to more interesting pursuits. It happened here before and it took us quite a long time to recover. I'm also offering an alternative way to show support or disapproval, via PMs, rather than perpetuate this stuff publicly. I wouldn't wish for MissT or anyone else to feel abandoned or anything of the sort.

Now, in terms of your question, no, I don't personally own any bondage "how to" books or videos. Sorry.

 

[Etoile]

Sometimes I can be SO oblivious. I don't even know what's under discussion. I do know that while my first thought was that this thread was about other posts, my immediate second thought was "then again, maybe it's about fire play."

 

[Desdemona]

Sometimes I can be SO oblivious. I don't even know what's under discussion. I do know that while my first thought was that this thread was about other posts, my immediate second thought was "then again, maybe it's about fire play."

ROTFL!! Any thoughts about fire play??

 

[Etoile]

ROTFL!! Any thoughts about fire play??

Yeah, it's pretty hot stuff....
(grin, duck, run like hell)

 

[catalina_francisco]

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As for learning, sharing, etc., ummmmm i don't suppose you have a good book or video on bondage techniques, do you?

Maybe this link will help

http://www.rainbowrope.com/howto/

 

[Desdemona]

Yeah, it's pretty hot stuff....
(grin, duck, run like hell)

Never mind, my pretty. I'll get you for this one when you least expect it. LOL

 

[zanna]

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Maybe this link will help

http://www.rainbowrope.com/howto/

thanks!

z

 

[zanna]

ROTFL!! Any thoughts about fire play??

*comes in carrying a pack of lighters, a blow torch, candles, incense, matches, and knives for heating*

Is this the right place for Fire Safety 101?

 

[Desdemona]

*comes in carrying a pack of lighters, a blow torch, candles, incense, matches, and knives for heating*

Is this the right place for Fire Safety 101?

Babe, you must have been a girl scout! But, where's the fire extinguisher?

 

[AnelizeDarkEyes]

Librarian to the rescue!!

Go check Wizard's Link Thread in the Library under the Links category.

It's loaded with links to rope sites

He keeps the links current too.

Have fun!

~anelize

 

[AnelizeDarkEyes]

Wax and Fire Play.

Goodness kids....<leads ya'll by the hand to the Library>

*taps her ruler*

~anelize

 

[AnelizeDarkEyes]

*laughing at vision of her submissive librarian self with ruler in hand*

 

[zipman]

I know there are alot of newcomers here. You are seeing elements of the past dredged up. Some of us have been there and done that right here. It serves no useful purpose and certainly isn't fun or good for this forum. Please, don't play into it.

If you feel the need to support MissT, by all means, let her know. If you feel the need to blast someone, go for it privately. A PM is a great way to do that without keeping the crap at the top of the page.

If we don't post to those threads, they will go away and we can go on with business as usual.

I think the vast majority of us are here to learn, share and have a good time. Lets put our energy where it will do us all some good.

Hey Des,

While I agree with a lot of what you wrote in your post, I have always felt that silence is too often perceived as tacit approval or agreement. I believe in being vocal when I see something posted publicly, so that my silence is not misconstrued as agreement.

Cymbidia's behavior is both malicious and detrimental to the forum, and I think that MissT has earned a mot more respect and loyalty than my silence would show.

I rarely misjudge people, but I am embarrassed to have ever considered cym as a friend, regardless of how brief a time it was.

 

[zanna]

Babe, you must have been a girl scout! But, where's the fire extinguisher?

*grin* i knew i forgot something!

 

[zanna]

*laughing at vision of her submissive librarian self with ruler in hand*

*eyes Anelize with that ruler in her hand and chews her lip nervously*

Ummmm....sorry! i promise i won't be late in returning my borrowed thread ever again, really!

lmao

z

 

[Desdemona]

Re: Re: The BDSM Forum and flaming

Hey Des,

While I agree with a lot of what you wrote in your post, I have always felt that silence is too often perceived as tacit approval or agreement. I believe in being vocal when I see something posted publicly, so that my silence is not misconstrued as agreement.

Cymbidia's behavior is both malicious and detrimental to the forum, and I think that MissT has earned a mot more respect and loyalty than my silence would show.

I rarely misjudge people, but I am embarrassed to have ever considered cym as a friend, regardless of how brief a time it was.

Zip, you and I agree on many things. We just approach this sort of situation differently. At least our approaches remain consistent over time.

 

[zipman]

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Zip, you and I agree on many things. We just approach this sort of situation differently. At least our approaches remain consistent over time.

As well as our mutual respect!

 

[Desdemona]

Anelize, where would we be without our librarian to steer us in the right direction?

 

[Desdemona]

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As well as our mutual respect!

Exactly.

 

[AnelizeDarkEyes]

Anelize, where would we be without our librarian to steer us in the right direction?

thank you

 

[Lancecastor]

I don't think there's anything wrong with a good old fashioned FlameWar every now and then...it's not like the Forum will melt or anything.

Zip...you shouldn't be ashamed to count Cym as a friend. She's got tons of great information and is highly articulate. I find her a bit bossy and rigid at times, but hey, some people don't warm up to me either.

MissT is no angel any more or less than Cym...none of us is perfect by any stretch....we all have our days.

Cym blows her stack an goes all DramaQ every 90-120 days, in case you hadn't noticed by now.

I kinda enjoy it because it means there might be a good argument...as you may know, I rather enjoy a good pissing match now and then. Masterdebater, doncha know.

I hope the scabby old cow sticks around for a good scrape!

 

[Desdemona]

Lance, may I say you haven't changed a bit? I'll give you points for consistency.