The 50-Plus Room - for

[Lilianna23]

I understand. I’m doing a turkey and a ham, mashed potatoes and gravy, yams, homemade cranberry sauce, stuffing, green bean casserole, rolls (not homemade)…. And I may make a lemon meringue pie if there’s time. I like making the big holiday meals, just wish there were going to be more people!

I should have just gone to your house for dinner! That sounds amazing! I love cooking big holiday dinners also.

 

[Lilianna23]

Yeah... I understand. I have had to limit my interaction with over half my family and my parents are under the spell of my asshole brother in law and oldest sister. I finally figured out that there wasn't anything I could do about it. So far nothing has changed. But!! I dont have to be the housework donkey anymore so there is that.... long long long story.... 7 would rather be alone than put up with the dysfunction... my grandma used to make the most delicious lemon meringue pie and her meringue never wept... my meringue does sometime (when I make it)

No one can push your buttons like family! Amirite? Good for you for going LC/NC.

 

[Lilianna23]

Hullo fae Scotland!

Turned 50 on July 4th this year, was pretty crappy the previous few months but is looking better.
Is cold and wet and the weather's rubbish too..

It's been clear but cold here. I love it!

 

[Lilianna23]

Sounds great. I was lucky to get groceries Monday. Gonna make pies tonight and straighten up the house. Everything else can be done tomorrow. Gonna bake potatoes in the oven like we used to before microwaves. I put olive oil and a little kosher salt on the outside as I bake..... so yummy.

I've been starting my baked potatoes in my instant pot then oiling and rolling in pink or Hawaiian salt to crisp the skins in the oven. Fluffy inside and crispy outside!

 

[CuriousRick]

That icky feeling is your body creating antibodies against the virus. It means the vaccine is working. Please don't stop getting vaccines...

Sorry. I have no faith in big pharm. plus flu shots are just a crap shoot. The one time I actually had the flu was after getting vaccinated. So nope I am good. But I believe everyone has the right to make their own decisions. Ultimately only you are responsible for your own health.

 

[Lilianna23]

I was just in a meeting and 8 swear sometimes I feel like I have receptive aphasia. And/or they are trick questions....it is such bullshit.... I just want to do my job not have to formulate action plans on excel spreadsheets (with little to no training) and hey you are going to present to leadership too...on stuff you don't know about

Yeah, that sucks! Then you'll get yelled at for not creating the spreadsheets right, not knowing the stuff, not doing a good enough presentation...

So sorry, hun. Been there.

 

[Lilianna23]

Follow up:

My boss who wasn't on the call called me and she was like WHAT!!! I told her how I felt and she was like no worries we will figure it out .... she is a good boss

Lucky girl! It's really great to have a boss who has your back.

 

[Lilianna23]

Lean methodology gemba process etc is gonna kill me.... I am a problem solver let me solve the damn problem already.... but I qk one of many and low on the totem pole...so you do whilst you have to do. I need a vacation badly...I have one scheduled for the week between Xmas and new year

Lean, gemba, SMART, etc., often create MORE work. I remember having to learn yet ANOTHER process, I've forgotten what it was now. I ended up telling the CEO I could spend my time doing that, or spend my time, like, actually doing my job! He let me opt out.

 

[Lilianna23]

Peeking through the door of this room on the first day I officially qualify for entry

Happy (late) birthday!

 

[Lilianna23]

Well after this years Thanksgiving dinner I’m about ready to tell my wife and kids they can do it all next year.

So we have a tradition where the kids make pies, with the girls making one pie and the boys making another, but for some reason it was decided they were each making pies. Okay, fine, and I asked them to start on Monday so I wasn’t fighting for space in the kitchen on Wednesday when I was trying to prep. Did they do that? Noooooooo! Plus my wife wanted to make a pumpkin roll and a Rice Krispies treat turkey to bring to todays bigger family gathering.

And then our teenage daughter gets invited for thanksgiving dinner at her friends house that will be at dinner time, so to accommodate that I have to plan for ours to be ready to eat around lunchtime. Which would be fine but our oldest has a job where he works from 4pm to 2am and worked the night before.

So somehow I get most of what I need to do done on Wednesday (which started with me washing a crap ton of dishes from what was done the night before and washing off the counters, after which I made some food to bring to my mom, who just had hip replacement surgery), yesterday I’m up at 7 to get the ovens warmed up, with the ham going in almost immediately followed by the Turkey at 8:30, and then I have to wash even more dishes because I don’t get any help without yelling at the kids. And did I mention I made coffee cake, bacon and eggs for breakfast but the teenagers wouldn’t get up for it?

Somehow I get everything cooked, sliced, plated, etc and on the table, and finally get the oldest awake and he starts bitch if that he doesn’t want turkey for breakfast, and then gripes about how he had a shitty week (he ran out of gas on the freeway and I had to get up and run gas out to him after I was already asleep, then he slipped in some mud coming back from lunch break and decided he was hurt so bad he had to go to urgent care because he has no pain tolerance at all, and then that morning his folding phone wouldn’t open up all the way) so he starts screaming and swearing at us, teenage daughter runs away from the table, wife is in tears, the oldest decides to leave for a whole, not taking his phone with him…

Lovely day altogether, right?

I say take yourself to a friend's or out to dinner and let them make their own next year. Sounds to me like you did entirely too much!

 

[willlph]

I've been starting my baked potatoes in my instant pot then oiling and rolling in pink or Hawaiian salt to crisp the skins in the oven. Fluffy inside and crispy outside!

I am
Gonna have to try that soon .

 

[Lilianna23]

OMG that sounds horrible. I am so sorry that it happened to you. I think that you would do well to scale down and do some limit setting and boundaries with whoever needs them. Sounds like reservations would be a great idea. I don't think ungrateful people get to have the benefit of all your hard work.....K

You said it much better than I!

 

[RIPAphrodite]

Wow, as a girl 19-25 bi sexual girl I got to say you are all beautiful people. This thread had proved a real sexy read so thank you so much, sorry for intruding

 

[Lilianna23]

Just got done with another cleaning fest at the old rental…… tenants!!!! A 40 yard dumpster filled!

People suck! I'm so sorry. Too bad you can't just take a match to it.

 

[Lilianna23]

Gonna drown my sorrows in the hot tub, eat some leftovers and maybe get drunk. Anyone wanna party?!

Sounds like you need the hot tub after all that work!

I've been putting up the outside lights this weekend. Used to be an H job, but is now mine. I'm taking today off. I  might start the tree, but probably not...

 

[PFWilly]

I have found that driving like every other vehicle is driven by a blind moron who wants to kill me has made me a safer driver.

Try riding a motorcycle. Best advice I ever had was to ride as though you are invisible.

 

[Imperfect_Guy]

You love to see family arrive but them leaving is sometimes a more pleasant site

That's very true.

 

[PFWilly]

People are nuts. They think the speed limit is the slowest able to drive. It is stupid and you can't argue with stupid

Paraphrasing George Carlin…”drivers who drive slower than you are idiots, those who drive faster are crazy maniacs.”

Count me as a crazy maniac..lol.

 

[Handeguy]

Sounds like you need the hot tub after all that work!

I've been putting up the outside lights this weekend. Used to be an H job, but is now mine. I'm taking today off. I  might start the tree, but probably not...

Ugh...outside lights. That's a labor of love - and waaaaaaaayyyyyyyy more than I can get up for. So, I salute your effort!

 

[Lilianna23]

that sounds delicious

It is! Easy and quick!

 

[Lilianna23]

Ugh...outside lights. That's a labor of love - and waaaaaaaayyyyyyyy more than I can get up for. So, I salute your effort!

It might not happen next year. We have a large yard with lots of trees and bushes. I'm getting tired of being expected to do what he can no longer do but still wants done.

 

[Crownvic]

I did also. I probably could, tho; I tend to stay up most nights anyway.

Worked 12 hr.shift..many years...you get used to it....love being tired all the time..

 

[Lilianna23]

that sounds delicious

It is!

 

[Handeguy]

It might not happen next year. We have a large yard with lots of trees and bushes. I'm getting tired of being expected to do what he can no longer do but still wants done.

This is a job from whicjh you are allowed to retire without significant penalty.

 

[Lilianna23]

This is a job from whicjh you are allowed to retire without significant penalty.

My biggest problem is I love how it looks! Especially if it snows.