That Very First Moment

[catalina_francisco]

I know we talk of our relationships, meeting partners or potentials etc., but what I was wondering is what was your very first response when you met or received an email or message from your now pyl/PYL for the very first time? Did you think, 'here we go again', or take an instant liking, or did you perhaps think you could never have anything meaningful with this person....was there a physical response even? Could be both a fun and interesting topic, you think?!!

http://farm1.static.flickr.com/167/382685004_3ab0fcf2a9_t.jpg Catalina

 

[the captians wench]

I get warm fuzzies every time I think about this.

Jounar and I met on my pic thread. And after a bit of flirting (well a month or two of flirting I think) we pmed each other at the same time *giggles*. I remember the moment I realized that he had pmed me when I was pming him. My heart skipped a beat, *giggles* it still does when I think back on it. I remember the flutters and butterflies and just a different feeling than any one else who ever pmed me. We started a yahoo conversation after a few pms and it was only a few more weeks we realized there was something more here than just casual flirting.

 

[leeroy jenkins]

Well not that I have a real deep relationship with this one woman her on lit, but we were just going back and forth on one of the threads and she sent me a PM. I would say the right time and place with her. We were both also in a high state of arousal.

 

[Netzach]

"you gotta be kidding me"

That was my first thought. I almost deleted it before I read it, but then I remembered it might have been that guy from the munch who I'd talked to.

I met M before I ever emailed or IM'd.

He is not a chatter or bulletin board person.

He has one of those totally dumabss generic 4U type handles (don't take it as an insult if you do, but you know, those are kinda silly)

I'm enough of a snob that I'd probably have missed out on him had our first meeting been not 3-D. I laugh every time I think about this and think about how many great chats have been just agonizing dates!

 

[callinectes]

We met on a BDSM personals site. His message stood out because it was well written, polite, witty, and had no sexual comments or questions. I was impressed but I was also waiting for the other shoe to drop. After a week and a half of great e-mails and a couple of phone calls I agreed to meet him for lunch. About 30 minutes into lunch I was hooked and we have been dating ever since.

 

[amadaun]

I met my bf the first and only time I ever went on the Lit chat. To be honest, I thought he was a little bit smarmy at first. Probably what kept my interest was the fact that we spent all of that first night talking about indie rock and he showed a genuine interest in me despite my complete awkwardness in discussing anything sexual. We pretty much hit it off right away once I got over my complete freaked-out-ed-ness about having met someone online.

 

[Ksb]

I knew my SO online for over a year before we met... just as casual friends. We met with the intention of being slightly less casual friends... erm... yeah.

I can't remember the first/second time we chatted etc... though I remember when we met very very well

 

[BiBunny]

I knew immediately that he was different. But I should probably not be posting in this thread, given the obvious problems I'm having (evidenced by my own thread over there).

 

[lil_slave_rose]

ok i met Master for the first time in an AOL chatroom, through a mutual friend. we all chatted in the room for a long time and then i had to go to the gas station to get cigarettes, i came back and everyone but Him was gone. so we stayed and chatted for a while and then the next day i got nothing, the day after that He IMd me to tell me He was at a friends house. i don't remember alot of the other conversations. we started off talking about mundane things. the night that we 'met' in the chatroom He was still with someone else, the next day they split up. He was asking me advice about what to do in the situation. the funny thing is, that night when our mutual friend asked him to come in the room, He was JUST getting ready to sign off and go to bed, He almost told her no, and then decided to go ahead and go in the room for a while.

my first feeling about Him from the very second pretty much that He came into the room that night was , i gotta get to know Him!! He was funny, sweet, etc...but then there was the fact that He was just freshly out of a relationship (actually still in it, technically) so that's why we started out as 'friends' and then when we started talking about the BDSM lifestyle He offered to be my Mentor, nothing more, and yea, ya see how well that worked out. *grins* i knew what i wanted and i wasn't giving up till i got it. it took a whole lot of patience and actually some nights of my heart feeling like it was breaking because He didn't see me the way i wanted Him too...but anyway, the rest, as they say, is history. i do remember in like our 3rd conversation, we were in a private room and He said, just don't fall in love with me, that way you can't break my heart (i know, awwww)

 

[MasterPhoenix]

MP's side of the story...

Picture this if you will, I was in the dying days of a LDR and living in a crappy situation. I was tired and about to log off, when a friend of Mine invited Me to a chat with some friedns of hers that she said were 'hallarious.' Well, I followed the invite and eventually everyone left but this once chick who seemed pretty cool. We clicked a bit and added each other to keep in contact.

The next day the shoe fell and that relationship ended, and I had promised Myself that would be My last attempt at a LDR. I would be IMing with the chick I met in chat that night getting insight, but there was a big part of Me that was kind of relieved that the other relationship was done. well, that chick I was IMing with is My rose... (DUH) Not too long later we started talking on the phone. I thought she was a great person, and was intrigued by the idea of training someone from 'nilla, but still leery of any kind of a commitment to anohter LDR.

We started talking more, and I did start to have feelings for her then, but My life was going crazy with all the bullshit from My roommate, and a whole host of other shit. Rebounding from the issue machine I had just ended with, and such. I can safely say I was a bit confused, and definately not wanting another LDR.

About a month or so later, I had to split Vegas with no advance warning, because of a fight with My roommate at the time. I had told her what had happened, and that i didn't know for sure when I could talk to her again, but I was not abandoning her or anything like that. I was able to call her the night I got back to Cali, and we kept talking every day. I was still not out of the turmoil in My head, and not overly happy about the idea of an LDR, but I knew I cared about her a great deal as more than just an 'online' person. I would go out to the bars and check out the scenery and such, but I found Myself wishing she was there. And then one day at work, it hit Me.... I LOVED her.... I called her that night to tell her this and she was drunk off her ass... but that sobered her up... but thats another story for another time...

 

[Toa_lin]

met my pyl on a yahoo chat, just talking aobut random shit, and I quickly noticed how different she was. We rapidly became friends, and over tiem, we got to teh point where we were like brother and sister... tehn she found out she's a masochist, knew I was a sadist, asked me to help teach her... and within the first couple days of talking aobut this new area to our friendship, we both ended up admitting we'd been wanting more with teh other for a while, never thought we'd ahve the other, etc. etc.

yeah i know, a bit too "cheesy romantic style movie" for it to seem real, but hell, though I may b a Dom and a sadist, I also have a strong romantic side, ((check out teh I heart you thread on here, you'll see it come out wiht my plans for Vday)) which makes for some interesting conflicts of self-interest sometimes.... btu my sadist side normally wins in those moments

 

[MasterPhoenix]

met my pyl on a yahoo chat, just talking aobut random shit, and I quickly noticed how different she was. We rapidly became friends, and over tiem, we got to teh point where we were like brother and sister... tehn she found out she's a masochist, knew I was a sadist, asked me to help teach her... and within the first couple days of talking aobut this new area to our friendship, we both ended up admitting we'd been wanting more with teh other for a while, never thought we'd ahve the other, etc. etc.

yeah i know, a bit too "cheesy romantic style movie" for it to seem real, but hell, though I may b a Dom and a sadist, I also have a strong romantic side, ((check out teh I heart you thread on here, you'll see it come out wiht my plans for Vday)) which makes for some interesting conflicts of self-interest sometimes.... btu my sadist side normally wins in those moments

Well, with everything that rose and I have been though over the years, I swear tat our story would make a great chick flick... (Of course they would hafve to lave out the whips & such... damn hollywood)

The Cheesy Romace things are kinda cool sometimes, bro.

 

[leeroy jenkins]

Well, with everything that rose and I have been though over the years, I swear tat our story would make a great chick flick... (Of course they would hafve to lave out the whips & such... damn hollywood)

The Cheesy Romace things are kinda cool sometimes, bro.

May I inquire how many years its been??

 

[h_i_s]

my response was to DELETE Him

I know we talk of our relationships, meeting partners or potentials etc., but what I was wondering is what was your very first response when you met or received an email or message from your now pyl/PYL for the very first time? Did you think, 'here we go again', or take an instant liking, or did you perhaps think you could never have anything meaningful with this person....was there a physical response even? Could be both a fun and interesting topic, you think?!!

http://farm1.static.flickr.com/167/382685004_3ab0fcf2a9_t.jpg Catalina

When i received my Master's very first email, my response was to promptly delete it without opening or reading it.

... i was a new member at collarme.com that day.

With a very detailed profile which included a couple of recent photos (vanilla styled, ...one being a head shot, the other being a fully clothed full length) and a few paragraphs of text that clearly expressed what i wanted, needed, and was seeking..... as well as everything that i was NOT seeking...i received more than 100 emails in the first 3 hours as a member.
Most of the emails included attached files of images. While i can and do clean viruses from my computers (to include repairing, and done manually, if need be..).. it's a pain in the ass to do so. i refuse to open attachments from anyone** who doesn't give me a heads up prior to emailing them to me.

It was fate that we meet....

After deleting His email to me, i browsed a few profiles. i saw His profile, liked what i read about Him, and what i saw. In the photo on His profile, He was sitting at His computer fully clothed, and wearing a baseball cap. i liked His beard. More importantly, i recall thinking that He'd probably look even cuter if He'd relax and just allow the smile that was evident in His eyes, to break through past His clossed lips. i emailed Him. He emailed me back. During a few conversations in Yahoo! Messenger which followed that day we put two and two together and both realized that He'd contacted me first.. but i had deleted HIM! Upon receiving my email, He thought i was replying to His email. He didn't realize that i had taken the initiative of contacting Him with no encouragement other than what i saw on His profile, and that i had contacted Him not knowing He'd already tried to contact me first.

That was June 24, 2004 & the rest is history: Drove to meet Him the very next day. Owned and collared as His property on July 3, 2004. Traveled 50 miles each day to be with Him. We exchanged marriage vows ten months later. We are now busy living our happily ever after.


**The term of 'anyone' doesn't include my Master. Since being owned by Him, i've opened anything He has sent without question.

 

[MasterPhoenix]

May I inquire how many years its been??

This summer it will be four years...

 

[lil_slave_rose]

May I inquire how many years its been??

----------already been answered 'double post'

 

[FurryFury]

My ex, I didn't notice when we first met. It wasn't until he was fumbling around me that I noticed him. Then I used him and his contacts to get a student government position (in college) that I wanted and to find a good gaming group. Both of those were far more important to me than dating. In fact, I had sworn off of men at that time. He somehow wormed his way in.

When I first met my (now) husband, he made no (memorable) impression on me at all. It was a big gaming group. He didn't interest me but others in the group did. Months later he pissed me off royally in the way he played his character when mine needed his help. Over the years I came to see him as very intelligent and mostly neutral in conflicts and fair minded. Ten years later, we were pretty good friends. After I was walked out on, we got together. He convinced me that we could be friends and lovers, plus that he would make a good parent, which was a KEY thing in my book. It was only then that I truly got to know him.

When I got the first e-mail from my online Dom, I was very cautious and honestly tired of dealing with others that didn't work out. I was about ready to simply quit looking and give up. He was reasonable, not pushy and things slowly showed themselves to be incredibly right between us.

Fury

 

[Cherrysweetdeal]

Honestly.... we both worked at the same place and I didn't talk to him for almost all of the first year I was there...

He thought I was taken and it was one of those kind of awkward, shy, just a little bit sweet moments when we finally said we'd hang out for the first time.
If only he'd gotten up the courage to ask me out earlier. First time we hung out was not to bad it was kind of that whole shy first date thing.

 

[marieR19]

Well, since I'm currently single, I'll go with my recent ex, Beth.

The first time I talked to her was when she IMed me over Yahoo messenger, and I'm pretty sure my first thought was something along the lines of "great, not another one!" with rolling eyes. 'Cause she had IMed me to ask me how I knew I was a lesbian, how/why I felt it was okay, etc... All those things that straight people ask, and the more polite homophobics.

I never, ever imagined that we would end up together... But within a few days I realized that she was at least bi, just confused and unsure, and it went from there.


Heather

 

[liberatedslave]

I met my Sir in the Lit chatroom. The first conversations we had were cut short by me getting called back to RL & the first email he sent i deleted as i hadn't been checking them & was working through a backlog. A while after that we swapped numbers & when i was working in his town i sent a text. He went all shy when i suggested meeting but reconsidered. I remember walking to meet him thinking "what am i doing?" I fell for him that night & had to make myself go home alone. He's the BEST kisser.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Cool stories everyone. I have mentioned ours before on Lit, but for those who weren't here I will again. I had been told by my onliner no more looking for a Master that wasn't local, though it had never been my intention to do so anyway, just happened most I clicked with on any level were overseas and more than a few willing to come meet me. I had agreed tentatively, but had also a day or so earlier put an ad on a small site which once again had people from everywhere, but mostly o/s.

F had also been frustrated by his search and thought it was time for him to try to find someone local if possible, most importantly someone who wanted the same as he. He went onto the site I had placed the ad on and saw it and found himself thinking he had to reply even though I was so far away. I opened the email and for some inexplicable reason, I had a delightful shiver go up and down my spine immediately. I felt so strongly about it, I remember phoning my only female friend who knew about the details of my search and told her I thought I had just heard from the one who I would spend the rest of my life with. I am sure she thought I had lost it, but she humoured me by being supportive and encouraging.

Even though I had felt the way I did when I opened the email, I did have that feeling I shouldn't respond because of the agreement I had already made, but I sought permission and did it anyway. From there we were either on IM or phone, or emailing constantly, almost 20 hours a day most days. It just seemed right. I remember when he 'told' me we were going to get married that I was not even surprised despite turning down many proposals in the past few years....maybe it was because he didn't ask, he just told me in a way which not only seemed final, no arguments, but also flowed as part of the conversation more so than a huge dramatic declaration full of tension. I did call him a few hours later though to check he actually meant it...lol, he said he did but he was as surprised as anyone that the words had come out of his mouth as he not only had not thought consciously about it, but he had never wanted to get married before and seeing he was mid 30's, he never intended to.

Of course, when we met it was even more strange as he found not only was I the person he had dreamed in a dream long ago, but the unit we spent the first few days in was also familiar. Is one of his gifts to see things, and one he has been told he should work on developing, but so far he is happy to just let it happen when it happens. For him it was the final piece in the puzzle which put aside any doubts about what our future was meant to be.The rest is history and 4 1/2 years later we just keep getting happier and still can't figure why we find each other more desireable and lovable than the day before, day after day.


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[catalina_francisco]

I knew immediately that he was different. But I should probably not be posting in this thread, given the obvious problems I'm having (evidenced by my own thread over there).

Yes you should, it is still your reality, and none of us know what the future holds for us.

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[myinnerslut]

Sir and i had been going out for about six months before i brought up how much this lifestyle ment to me and we started it together. weve been together for almost two years, and for the exception of those first 6 months it has been D/s. although we are not 24/7, we are more then just bedroom. i actually found a copy of the conversation that he coaxed the submissive side of me out in, and what a luagh. things have changed so much. part of it was about limits, and i wrote something to the effect of "whips scare me". LOL. not anymore. so much has changed, and im so happy things ended up the way the are.... even if for the moment they are long distance.

 

[Etoile]

Yay, I'm poly, I get to have two stories!

I met both my wife and my Daddy in a very old-school chat room...just plain text. I joined there in late 1997 and I chatted with both of them along with a lot of other people. Over the winter intersession from college, I started talking with my wife a LOT more. My Daddy even kind of served as an intermediary, doing the middle school "so-and-so says she likes you" kind of thing!

I met my wife in person first. She came to my college dorm on her way to Connecticut for a party hosted by people from this same chat place, just because we had been talking so much and we felt really close to each other and wanted to meet. She used the outside phone to call down to my room and I went running upstairs and opened the door...and at that moment, I learned to believe in love at first sight. Of course we also knew each other already, it wasn't like a blind date, but when I opened that door...I was in love. We went out to dinner, and then she spent the night in my bed (with my roommate's permission) and gave me the MOST amazing backrub. I wanted her to do so much more but she didn't! We drifted off to sleep and in the morning she asked if I wanted to come along to the party with her...and I did, because I didn't want her to leave me! We started dating a week or two after that, thanks to a friend at my college who drove home every weekend anyway, and dropped me off at a subway station so I could get to where she lived.

As for my Daddy, we had met casually at a few of these parties. Eir expertise in rope-tying and my willingness to be tied up made a fun show for everybody, it was just casual play. But when my wife and I broke up for a while in 2000 (I moved out, but we still did a lot together, and eventually she took me back), I was up in NYC visiting my Daddy and another friend there. For some reason I had been flirting with em all day, and then in the evening e was going to do another rope-tying show for our other friend, and that time was like wow...dominance. When I was leaving e said "so now you have something to think about," and I sure did! I found myself going back the following weekend (e bought my train ticket), and the weekend after...and that's how we got started. We didn't really "officially" start dating until a couple of weeks later...oddly enough, at a party at my wife's house.

So I've been with my wife since February 1998 and my Daddy since May 2000. My wife and I are blissfully happy and spending the rest of our lives together; we hope my Daddy will be with us too but e isn't quite as devoted and committed as we are. E had a bad marriage in the past so e's reluctant to do any real committing.

 

[Toa_lin]

Well, with everything that rose and I have been though over the years, I swear tat our story would make a great chick flick... (Of course they would hafve to lave out the whips & such... damn hollywood)

The Cheesy Romace things are kinda cool sometimes, bro.

hehehe, i understand the idea of life without teh whips and all taht would be a chick-flick pretty much. And as far as it being cool, meh, even if ti wasn't wouldn't stop me. I'm still going to shower affection on her... though in the bedroom in a different way

/hijack