Tell Us! How has Lit changed you?

[Violetvixen1]

Good or bad, how has Lit and/or the people who visit here changed you? Your life? Your views? I think most of us have a story to tell about this little corner of the internet that we share and how it’s affected us. So here’s your place to share. So go on, tell us!

 

[Violetvixen1]

I’ll start! This place was the beginning of me becoming the person i was meant to be. It gave me courage to change things I thought would never change. It gave me community when I had none. Friends that I could say ANYTHING to! I came here as a place to escape and it truly gave me a reason to believe I could be myself (my true self not the fake cupcake/PTA mommy/wife that others expected me to be) in my real life and that changed EVERYTHING! I now have a job where I talk about sex in positive and (mostly) healthy ways all day long. I’ve changed and expanded my marriage to include things I never thought possible. I have long lasting g friendships that span continents as well as genders. This little corner of the world has truly and greatly changed so many aspects of my life and I can never be thankful enough for all of you who helped shape me into the grownup I finally grew into!

 

[ydahecnot]

Expanded my 10+ letter word vocabulary, etc.

 

[Violetvixen1]

I have made some amazing friends that I can talk to about anything and whom I can truly say I adore. Unfortunately, it also brings about a lot of heartache, drama and jealousy that I could live without.

I think the key to Lit is to not take it too seriously and get your heart involved. Much easier said than done.

I agree wholeheartedly!

 

[Violetvixen1]

Expanded my 10+ letter word vocabulary, etc.

It has definitely sharpened your snark skills over the years!

 

[done_got_old]

It hasn't changed me at all.

 

[Violetvixen1]

It hasn't changed me at all.

Truly?! Now how is that possible after all this time?

 

[done_got_old]

Truly?! Now how is that possible after all this time?

I don't allow anything from Lit to move to my real world.

 

[ydahecnot]

It has definitely sharpened your snark skills over the years!

Nah, it has just taken those skills to a wider audience.

 

[beachbaby179]

It's made me much less judgmental, toward others and toward myself.

 

[Violetvixen1]

It's made me much less judgmental, toward others and toward myself.

THIS!!! It has helped me to be much more open minded!

 

[done_got_old]

It's made me much less judgmental, toward others and toward myself.

That's usually a good thing.

 

[ydahecnot]

Oh, it has also taught me to always choose the corset

 

[Violetvixen1]

Oh, it has also taught me to always choose the corset

Awwww I bet you look STUNNING in a corset darlin!

 

[Violetvixen1]

I don't allow anything from Lit to move to my real world.

So it hasn’t opened your eyes to anything new or different or even remotely changed your opinion on anything over the years?

 

[tnman03]

This place has been a mixed blessing and sometimes tragicomedy in process but have I ever learned some new vocabulary and more about porn than I wanted to know.

 

[elli1point1]

If it weren't for a handful of litsters, I doubt I'd be where I am now: living in the UK, doing a PhD.

One helped me through some really tough times and got me to finish my MA. Another has been a close friend for a few years, cheering me up, cheering me on, and giving motherly advice I usually tend to ignore. And a third has been my greatest supporter and motivator in the last 2 years.

 

[Violetvixen1]

This place has been a mixed blessing and sometimes tragicomedy in process but have I ever learned some new vocabulary and more about porn than I wanted to know.

Hahahaha oh man do I feel that! Though I love learning new things and figuring out what makes people tick, so I’m happy to go on seeking it out.

 

[Spenser41]

Lit allowed me to meet people that are in many ways like me. I found out I wasn’t a sex pervert for wanting it often, something the ex wife used to tell me all the time.
And the second wife well she doesn’t want it either. ( I think I suck at marriage) but I made some awesome friends, that was much more then sex talk. It was about real things, real life issues, being there for each other...that is what I love the most about Lit. Yea it’s a sex site but it’s much more. It’s creating friendship that have blessed me all these years. And yes I’m one of the old lit people and and an older guy but I still enjoy making friends on here.

 

[Leigh81]

Lets see...
Opened my eyes more towards sex, helped me with my bisexual curiosity, found out about many fetishes & kinks I had no idea existed, met some great people. Unfortunately people like to just disappear without a word.
Got duped with a man pretending to be a woman, made me give up my bi curiosity on here. Never go there again, thankfully I have a special someone in my life for that
I will say it has made my real life much better sexually. It was wonderful before but now it's off the charts. My husband & I can tell each other anything, we role play different scenarios in the bedroom. I have a special GF who is part of our lives & has been living with us since Aug. of '16. No it's not based on sex but we have our fun.
I don't bring my bisexuality up on here often. I'm also very guarded on here & feel some ladies keep their distance from me because of me being bisexual. I have no desire for that on here. I'll talk about it but no way I'll play on here with gals.
I'm very social so I find real life much more easier than this place.

L

 

[Smoothshavendad]

Lets see...
Opened my eyes more towards sex, helped me with my bisexual curiosity, found out about many fetishes & kinks I had no idea existed, met some great people. Unfortunately people like to just disappear without a word.
Got duped with a man pretending to be a woman, made me give up my bi curiosity on here. Never go there again, thankfully I have a special someone in my life for that
I will say it has made my real life much better sexually. It was wonderful before but now it's off the charts. My husband & I can tell each other anything, we role play different scenarios in the bedroom. I have a special GF who is part of our lives & has been living with us since Aug. of '16. No it's not based on sex but we have our fun.
I don't bring my bisexuality up on here often. I'm also very guarded on here & feel some ladies keep their distance from me because of me being bisexual. I have no desire for that on here. I'll talk about it but no way I'll play on here with gals.
I'm very social so I find real life much more easier than this place.

L

Love you and love your honesty, my friend.You make Lit a better place just by being a part of it. Happy Easter.

 

[done_got_old]

So it hasn’t opened your eyes to anything new or different or even remotely changed your opinion on anything over the years?

No. You have to understand that I'm a baby-boomer who came of age during the 60s. I had planned to attend the music festival at Woodstock. Free love and burning bras was the norm. I was an underage drinker who went to bars at 17 as a college freshman. I mourned the death of friends, not to street violence, but to a place called Vietnam. Others returned but were never the same. On my flip side was a scholar who played in several orchestras and my high school band, a flute trio in college and one gig with professional musicians. I haven't seen it all, but almost nothing shocks me.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

If it weren't for a handful of litsters, I doubt I'd be where I am now: living in the UK, doing a PhD.

One helped me through some really tough times and got me to finish my MA. Another has been a close friend for a few years, cheering me up, cheering me on, and giving motherly advice I usually tend to ignore. And a third has been my greatest supporter and motivator in the last 2 years.

cunt

 

[done_got_old]

Lets see...
Opened my eyes more towards sex, helped me with my bisexual curiosity, found out about many fetishes & kinks I had no idea existed, met some great people. Unfortunately people like to just disappear without a word.
Got duped with a man pretending to be a woman, made me give up my bi curiosity on here. Never go there again, thankfully I have a special someone in my life for that
I will say it has made my real life much better sexually. It was wonderful before but now it's off the charts. My husband & I can tell each other anything, we role play different scenarios in the bedroom. I have a special GF who is part of our lives & has been living with us since Aug. of '16. No it's not based on sex but we have our fun.
I don't bring my bisexuality up on here often. I'm also very guarded on here & feel some ladies keep their distance from me because of me being bisexual. I have no desire for that on here. I'll talk about it but no way I'll play on here with gals.
I'm very social so I find real life much more easier than this place.

L

Why would someone keep their distance because of your preferences? Yeah, I know too. I keep my distance from people that annoy me. They're card-carrying assholes.

One thing I've learned on this race to death is that time passes much quicker than anyone can imagine. It's like a roll of toilet paper. The closer you get to the end, the faster it goes. The thing to do is enjoy every minute. Stop and enjoy the people who love you and ignore the others.

 

[interestedtoknow]

...
Got duped with a man pretending to be a woman...

glad to know I wasn’t the only one...fucking asshole liars...