Technically

[BlueSugar]

I do not technically belong here, i don't think anyway. I am mearly "into bdsm play." I like to be spanked, and paddled, and humilated, and buying toys that hurt and stretch, (etc...) I love powerplay, and being submissive, I am definetly not a switch, but i suppose I top from the bottom, and would maybe one day be in a D/s relationship.

My question for you all that are in the lifestyle is, are you annoyed by people like me?
That aren't in the lifestyle but just like to incoporate it into their "love making." And enjoy the toys and dressing up every now and then, and are just 'acting.'
Or do you love us equally, and see us as either ill-informed and not seeing the whole picture / potential Doms/subs of the "near/eventually" future?
((I've read alot, and witnessed, and talked to many other people in the bdsm lifestyle and have friends that have the special bond, so i'm informed enough, but not totally if that means anything lol))

ty for your time

 

[catalina_francisco]

I have no problem with you being here B_S. I think the forum is really for anyone interested in the topic in any form, even if not experiencing it in their everyday life, or wanting to. So please don't go disappearing on us as you make many great posts and share your perspective which is just as important as a 24/7 player. I personally only get annoyed with people who deliberately come here to troll, or those who feel their way is the only way and try and push that perspective onto others.

Catalina

 

[Wizard]

I think there are any like yourself here......I have no problems.......

 

[wolf2002]

My question for you all that are in the lifestyle is, are you annoyed by people like me?

I think you qualify to stay... I have asked this question myself a couple of times, I mean, my BDSM life is basically online, I have never been in a dungeon and last time I looked I didn't possess any toys that stretch... still the folks here haven't kicked me out, they even seem to read my posts some times... go figure...

 

[Owlz]

::::::::::::::waves to Blue:::::::::::::

Nice to see you here. Please stick around.

 

[BlueSugar]

aw, well, I mean, well, ::blush:: I didn't mean that I would leave here or Lit, and I wasn't closing out my "are you annoyed by people like me," to just Literotica... i mean out there off online, people in the life style hearing some amature bdsm interested person getting a kick out of a spanking bc it turned them on and not because they were being punnished (and I do remember the thread some time ago about the difference between being fucked and getting spanked and getting spanked and beinf fucked...)
I suppose I didn't need to start this thread, I was just curious if the ill-informed or the dabblers annoyed anyone who was living bdsm.
I'm happy that people on Lit for the most part are very welcoming and openminded

::Hugs and gives a lil spank to all!::

 

[Ebonyfire]

Different strokes for different folks. I think that anyone who is thirsty for knowledge can enjoy this forum.

However this just that..an online forum, and it is what you make of it in your own life.

 

[lilredwolph]

ill-informed that acts like a know-it-all bothers me but that has nothing to do with dabble or lifers, because it can be either

assummers also bug me

 

[Netzach]

I'm hardly annoyed by people who are only into SM as sexual activity. SM is just one thing among many that makes me tick.

The majority of people who annoy me are fellow lifestylers who think everyone also is and should be and that there's nothing of import BUT the lifestyle they live.

 

[BlueSugar]

Thank you all for your input and opinions, it makes me feel less awkward posting here, as i'm sure it'll help other people here on Lit as well

 

[Richard49]

I do not technically belong here, i don't think anyway. I am mearly "into bdsm play." I like to be spanked, and paddled, and humilated, and buying toys that hurt and stretch, (etc...) I love powerplay, and being submissive, I am definetly not a switch, but i suppose I top from the bottom, and would maybe one day be in a D/s relationship.

Need some help ?

 

[BlueSugar]

Re: Re: Technically

Need some help ?

see... this is where, I know, one day I will find a Dom and I will be his sub... because sometimes I wish it wasn't just 'play' and I wish we could incorporate it into life and into our sex all the time, I've found lately that I do not want "vanilla sex" for weeks at a time and then out of no where I was to go slow and loving and no spanking and be in the 'spooning' position.
And I'm sure somewhere out there there are D/s's that live this way so maybe I don't know what I want - which is normal right? lol

But, he isn't interested in making it our life, i've discussed it with him lightly, and I know i wont marry him either.
1. bc well, i just know
2. I would like to have a substantial relationship with a women I want to experience women, I love them equally.
3. ... lists are always better with #3s... truthfully, hes comfortable with what we have and we want to try new things with each other and incorporate others, and we both know that we wont find many adventerous/clean(testes) open minded to date...so we're sticking together not only bc of the loving attraction but definetly for our sex life and dreams

But yea... I wouldn't mind the help! And I'm sure if I ask, he'll be fine with it as well!!

 

[MissTaken]

If someone lacks information and seeks knowledge or even a community they can feel a kinship with based on their own practices, pleasures and beliefs, Welcome!

It is only those who mock BDSM practicioners that grate on my nerves.

People who are exploring their interests on line, also bring a certain perspective and some wonderfully thought provoking questions to the forum.

So, as the almight sticky says, anyone with a "serious" interest in BDSM is welcome here.

 

[Richard49]

Re: Re: Re: Technically

But yea... I wouldn't mind the help! And I'm sure if I ask, he'll be fine with it as well!!

Email me and let's talk

 

[BlueSugar]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Technically

Email me and let's talk

your PM box is full.

 

[Kain]

I personally only get annoyed with people who deliberately come here to troll, or those who feel their way is the only way and try and push that perspective onto others.

Catalina

Well said.

 

[Never]

If they let me in, they've pretty much opened the door to anyone.

 

[AnelizeDarkEyes]

Trolls piss me off.

Anyone who's hungry for knowledge, open-minded, and willing is welcome in my eyes.

Paths take twists and turns, diverge and come together at different places. Knowing who you are, and how, and where you see yourself is never a bad thing. Knowledge is power, and this is a great place to begin to find it.

Glad you're here

~anelize

 

[navarre]

Trolls piss me off.

Anyone who's hungry for knowledge, open-minded, and willing is welcome in my eyes.

Paths take twists and turns, diverge and come together at different places. Knowing who you are, and how, and where you see yourself is never a bad thing. Knowledge is power, and this is a great place to begin to find it.

Glad you're here

~anelize

I must say I agree whole heartedly.

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

I do not technically belong here, i don't think anyway. I am mearly "into bdsm play." I like to be spanked, and paddled, and humilated, and buying toys that hurt and stretch, (etc...) I love powerplay, and being submissive, I am definetly not a switch, but i suppose I top from the bottom, and would maybe one day be in a D/s relationship.

My question for you all that are in the lifestyle is, are you annoyed by people like me?
That aren't in the lifestyle but just like to incoporate it into their "love making." And enjoy the toys and dressing up every now and then, and are just 'acting.'
Or do you love us equally, and see us as either ill-informed and not seeing the whole picture / potential Doms/subs of the "near/eventually" future?
((I've read alot, and witnessed, and talked to many other people in the bdsm lifestyle and have friends that have the special bond, so i'm informed enough, but not totally if that means anything lol))

ty for your time

I think it is your personality more than anything else that annoys us...

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

If they let me in, they've pretty much opened the door to anyone.

And we've been regretting it ever since...

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

Honestly, folks, so long as you are honest with us, and with your partner(s), and you aren't a troll or predator, I don't care what your level of involvement is. I'm pretty much all for people getting what they want.

 

[Howling_Ire]

you know, the man i'mm with/marrying into is into occasional s/m play we really do'nt have an s/m relation ship. i'm fine with that. luckly for several reasons, we have an open relationship, which allows us both to explore aspects of our sexuality with other people..of course we talk long and hard before we get into relationships with other people in that facet, and we also get to know that person, and are honest with them. not everyone gets it. eventualy i'd like to find a p/t dominate to share parts of my life with, obviously i can't give myself to f/t one, and if my husband, s/o ever would like to try that aspect in our life, i'd be more then happy. i've had loves who were into bdsm in the past, and it is very rich and enjoyable. but mine, like yours is just one of the many kinds of relationships that are helped/influcned/particpateing in this kind of life style. a nd that's part of what gives it color and helps out. it'ss not really fair for anyone here to judge it, because it is your own unique life, and if i'm welcome, i dno't see why you wouldn't be *smiles*

 

[FungiUg]

I'm not a "lifestyler" myself, but I have been encouraged by the welcome I've received at this place. Itd' be sad if other non-lifestylers feel they "don't fit in" or "don't belong" because they aren't into BDSM as a lifestyle.

Anyway... encouraging diversity is what it's all about.

 

[Shadowsdream]

Lifestyle Lovestyle Playstyle!

One really is no more valid than another except occassionally in the eyes of some practitioners.

Thank heavens for the diversity, real time, online, LDR, vanilla et bloody cetra!

Knowledge and those that seek it are needed in forums such as this for no one knows everything and that which each of U/us shares with another empowers U/us all.

No it does not annoy Me when the dabblers or curious post here. I enjoy the twists of looking through other eyes and watching growth and friendships develope.