Tallulah's Thread. Fuck yeah.

[Tallulah82]

I think it's really your decision. I think whoever your partners are, should just deal.

I can say this, in case random internet opinion person matters-

When I was dating a woman 17 years older than me and she started looking her age in her mid 40s, I found it erotic that she was visibly older than me.

If you look great, but also, not 20 anymore, fine.

People will be into that. People who you'd want to have fun with, because they like who you are, and don't care if your hair has fake color.

My dad, lived to 72 and never dyed his hair, never got a gray hair on top of his head.

He looked 50 when he died, he looked 35 at 50.

I have inherited his youthful looks and I do not look 42, at all, not remotely.

If I dated someone in her 50s and she had grey hair, I'd walk proudly around with her on my arm and give her kisses and make people stare.

Only an age gap of like 10 years, pah, I've done nearly double that.

If she looks her age but is also beautiful inside and out, I'd flaunt her.

Grey is not ugly. Embrace your beauty.

Be who you are, or want to be. Both are valid. My opinion and that of all the random others don't matter, what you want comes first.

Just know, society may have trained us to despise the concept of getting old, I'll drag an older woman everywhere and show her off and give her kisses, that's what I've done my whole life.

I am now at the age I am willing to return the favor, so dating folks in their 30s is now on my radar for the first time, more or less.

Some 30 year olds when I was 20.

Oh. Partners and their opinions have no footing in this! I don't make my appearance for or about anyone except myself. Ever.

 

[BongoGal]

A glimpse inside my brain... typical overthinking incoming!

I am 51 years old and generally I am happy with my appearance in terms of ageing. I'd never go down any kind of cosmetic surgery route for tackling wrinkles etc. But my hair...

I've dyed my hair pretty much all my life. From being early twenties just for fun colours then slowly fell into dying it because I began to have grey hairs before my thirties. I am a lazy twat, though, and don't do the regular upkeeps of roots and my hairdresser has despaired of me many a time, pointing out that I could have them done every other month then wouldn't have to do the "big" appointment every 4-6 months as I do. Nah. That's far too much faff. 1 x three-hour appointment every six months sounds fine to me. I'll only go earlier if there's a special reason to.

Which brings me to now. I last dyed my hair in August 25. The grey is coming through strong now and I'm seriously debating never colouring it again. It'll look wrong for probably about another year or two, but then it'll be all grey. All natural. And I have zero problem with being full grey before I'm 55. In fact, I like to buck trends and being a younger-older person with full grey hair appeals to me.

The issue is that I also have long hair which I adore. It's also thick so it hangs really well. I want to keep the length. I want to be that older woman with long grey locks. But sense would say to chop it off to more of a bob once the grey tideline reaches that point. I've had bobs before for practical purposes but never really liked them. So this is when the oddness of growing out greys could reach critical point - to chop or not to chop. This, I think, is my biggest issue. I'd have to be careful not to fall into the 'old lady haircuts' realm.

A small part of me wants to dye it and ignore the problem - make that a Tallulah at 60 problem of going through growing out the dye. But. I'm already six months into it, so it seems silly to postpone the inevitable anyway.

The beauty of right now is that my hair is a dark blonde colour with a couple of highlights so it's not a terrible terrible contrast.

I'm also following a wig woman on FB - she's Scottish and she began wearing wigs to grow out her grey. I love this idea- though I don't think I would become a daily user, but maybe for special occasions just for the fun of it.

Normally, I'd be dying it for travelling but this time I think I'll be wearing hats/scarfs most of the time anyway, so that's not concerning me now.

I'll be booking my hair appointment in a few weeks time (March) and talking to my hairdresser - at the very least it'll need a trim and shape anyway. I wonder if I'll still feel this bold and confident when I'm sat in the chair.

I demand and expect a full Xena colour and cut.

 

[Tallulah82]

I demand and expect a full Xena colour and cut.

A Xena type wig would be amazing - I've had a fringe once before and that was a faff to maintain too. I don't like faff!

 

[snexxer]

A glimpse inside my brain... typical overthinking incoming!

I am 51 years old and generally I am happy with my appearance in terms of ageing. I'd never go down any kind of cosmetic surgery route for tackling wrinkles etc. But my hair...

I've dyed my hair pretty much all my life. From being early twenties just for fun colours then slowly fell into dying it because I began to have grey hairs before my thirties. I am a lazy twat, though, and don't do the regular upkeeps of roots and my hairdresser has despaired of me many a time, pointing out that I could have them done every other month then wouldn't have to do the "big" appointment every 4-6 months as I do. Nah. That's far too much faff. 1 x three-hour appointment every six months sounds fine to me. I'll only go earlier if there's a special reason to.

Which brings me to now. I last dyed my hair in August 25. The grey is coming through strong now and I'm seriously debating never colouring it again. It'll look wrong for probably about another year or two, but then it'll be all grey. All natural. And I have zero problem with being full grey before I'm 55. In fact, I like to buck trends and being a younger-older person with full grey hair appeals to me.

The issue is that I also have long hair which I adore. It's also thick so it hangs really well. I want to keep the length. I want to be that older woman with long grey locks. But sense would say to chop it off to more of a bob once the grey tideline reaches that point. I've had bobs before for practical purposes but never really liked them. So this is when the oddness of growing out greys could reach critical point - to chop or not to chop. This, I think, is my biggest issue. I'd have to be careful not to fall into the 'old lady haircuts' realm.

A small part of me wants to dye it and ignore the problem - make that a Tallulah at 60 problem of going through growing out the dye. But. I'm already six months into it, so it seems silly to postpone the inevitable anyway.

The beauty of right now is that my hair is a dark blonde colour with a couple of highlights so it's not a terrible terrible contrast.

I'm also following a wig woman on FB - she's Scottish and she began wearing wigs to grow out her grey. I love this idea- though I don't think I would become a daily user, but maybe for special occasions just for the fun of it.

Normally, I'd be dying it for travelling but this time I think I'll be wearing hats/scarfs most of the time anyway, so that's not concerning me now.

I'll be booking my hair appointment in a few weeks time (March) and talking to my hairdresser - at the very least it'll need a trim and shape anyway. I wonder if I'll still feel this bold and confident when I'm sat in the chair.

Hope you don't mind me commenting

My sister when she was around the same age had the same predicament. What she did was have her hair dyed a really bright blonde, close to grey. Then as the hair grew out it wasnt as obvious. She's now 56, long grey hair and never looked back.

 

[Tallulah82]

I mean, you have gone 6 months already, If you do a full dye now, you are back to square one.

This is my thinking, yes.

 

[Tallulah82]

Hope you don't mind me commenting

My sister when she was around the same age had the same predicament. What she did was have her hair dyed a really bright blonde, close to grey. Then as the hair grew out it wasnt as obvious. She's now 56, long grey hair and never looked back.

I did consider this but then any dye would set me back the 6 months. and it'll take probably 2 years to get it to the current length all grey so 6 months is a decent chunk. And the colour my hair is now is kind of doing the same thing. But I'll see if my hairdresser thinks adding more dye would be a fair option or just keep going as I am.

 

[snexxer]

I did consider this but then any dye would set me back the 6 months. and it'll take probably 2 years to get it to the current length all grey so 6 months is a decent chunk. And the colour my hair is now is kind of doing the same thing. But I'll see if my hairdresser thinks adding more dye would be a fair option or just keep going as I am.

Good luck. Im sure you'll look great no matter what.

 

[OldDirtyAltGuy]

A glimpse inside my brain... typical overthinking incoming!

I am 51 years old and generally I am happy with my appearance in terms of ageing. I'd never go down any kind of cosmetic surgery route for tackling wrinkles etc. But my hair...

I've dyed my hair pretty much all my life. From being early twenties just for fun colours then slowly fell into dying it because I began to have grey hairs before my thirties. I am a lazy twat, though, and don't do the regular upkeeps of roots and my hairdresser has despaired of me many a time, pointing out that I could have them done every other month then wouldn't have to do the "big" appointment every 4-6 months as I do. Nah. That's far too much faff. 1 x three-hour appointment every six months sounds fine to me. I'll only go earlier if there's a special reason to.

Which brings me to now. I last dyed my hair in August 25. The grey is coming through strong now and I'm seriously debating never colouring it again. It'll look wrong for probably about another year or two, but then it'll be all grey. All natural. And I have zero problem with being full grey before I'm 55. In fact, I like to buck trends and being a younger-older person with full grey hair appeals to me.

The issue is that I also have long hair which I adore. It's also thick so it hangs really well. I want to keep the length. I want to be that older woman with long grey locks. But sense would say to chop it off to more of a bob once the grey tideline reaches that point. I've had bobs before for practical purposes but never really liked them. So this is when the oddness of growing out greys could reach critical point - to chop or not to chop. This, I think, is my biggest issue. I'd have to be careful not to fall into the 'old lady haircuts' realm.

A small part of me wants to dye it and ignore the problem - make that a Tallulah at 60 problem of going through growing out the dye. But. I'm already six months into it, so it seems silly to postpone the inevitable anyway.

The beauty of right now is that my hair is a dark blonde colour with a couple of highlights so it's not a terrible terrible contrast.

I'm also following a wig woman on FB - she's Scottish and she began wearing wigs to grow out her grey. I love this idea- though I don't think I would become a daily user, but maybe for special occasions just for the fun of it.

Normally, I'd be dying it for travelling but this time I think I'll be wearing hats/scarfs most of the time anyway, so that's not concerning me now.

I'll be booking my hair appointment in a few weeks time (March) and talking to my hairdresser - at the very least it'll need a trim and shape anyway. I wonder if I'll still feel this bold and confident when I'm sat in the chair.

Fuck the dye. I've got a set of paints. Let me make you my living work of art.

 

[cheekygirl75]

A glimpse inside my brain... typical overthinking incoming!

I am 51 years old and generally I am happy with my appearance in terms of ageing. I'd never go down any kind of cosmetic surgery route for tackling wrinkles etc. But my hair...

I've dyed my hair pretty much all my life. From being early twenties just for fun colours then slowly fell into dying it because I began to have grey hairs before my thirties. I am a lazy twat, though, and don't do the regular upkeeps of roots and my hairdresser has despaired of me many a time, pointing out that I could have them done every other month then wouldn't have to do the "big" appointment every 4-6 months as I do. Nah. That's far too much faff. 1 x three-hour appointment every six months sounds fine to me. I'll only go earlier if there's a special reason to.

Which brings me to now. I last dyed my hair in August 25. The grey is coming through strong now and I'm seriously debating never colouring it again. It'll look wrong for probably about another year or two, but then it'll be all grey. All natural. And I have zero problem with being full grey before I'm 55. In fact, I like to buck trends and being a younger-older person with full grey hair appeals to me.

The issue is that I also have long hair which I adore. It's also thick so it hangs really well. I want to keep the length. I want to be that older woman with long grey locks. But sense would say to chop it off to more of a bob once the grey tideline reaches that point. I've had bobs before for practical purposes but never really liked them. So this is when the oddness of growing out greys could reach critical point - to chop or not to chop. This, I think, is my biggest issue. I'd have to be careful not to fall into the 'old lady haircuts' realm.

A small part of me wants to dye it and ignore the problem - make that a Tallulah at 60 problem of going through growing out the dye. But. I'm already six months into it, so it seems silly to postpone the inevitable anyway.

The beauty of right now is that my hair is a dark blonde colour with a couple of highlights so it's not a terrible terrible contrast.

I'm also following a wig woman on FB - she's Scottish and she began wearing wigs to grow out her grey. I love this idea- though I don't think I would become a daily user, but maybe for special occasions just for the fun of it.

Normally, I'd be dying it for travelling but this time I think I'll be wearing hats/scarfs most of the time anyway, so that's not concerning me now.

I'll be booking my hair appointment in a few weeks time (March) and talking to my hairdresser - at the very least it'll need a trim and shape anyway. I wonder if I'll still feel this bold and confident when I'm sat in the chair.

I say go grey! But don’t do the chop… Idk if your perimenopausal or full on or nothing yet, but in peri my hair seems to grow a lot more slowly, so it might take a lot longer to get back to the length you want.