Taking the Lead

[_Troia_]

Do you prefer to lead or be led with a partner?

I love both!

 

[CuckGuy89]

Be led

 

[Azuldrgon]

Do you prefer to lead or be led with a partner?

I love both!

I agree with your answer because it depends on mood and such.
In some cases, I like being lead because I learn what she likes and doesn't like.
There are times though I like taking the lead knowing full well she might enjoy what I have cooked up in my mind.

 

[Mnkinkcpl]

I was just thinking about this the other day. Most of my partners are more of the follower type, even Anne has always wanted me to lead. The one stand out of my regular playmates is Quinn, when we first started getting together she was very out spoken on what she wanted, over the last five years as I learned exactly what to do and when, she has transitioned to letting me set the pace. Quinn is pretty simple in her wants, little to no foreplay, oral on her switching to a sixty-nine until we come. A water break while we catch our breath and then a hard fuck switching positions until she comes again. At that point she is super sensitive and if I'm not going to pop off quickly she will go down on me to finish things off.

There are definitely times that I would like the female to take the lead, but in my experience that rarely happens. I think in my case at least that my playmates know that their pleasure is my goal and like me to lead with no pressure on them other than to let me know that what we are doing is working for them.

 

[SubmissiveSnowflake]

Led. And tell, don't ask. I know I can say no, so just be who you are and let me be who I am.

 

[traill]

Led, but I'm a submissive within a BDSM context so it makes sense. I love to surrender during sex, it makes me go somewhere else in my head that just intensifies all of the sensations and makes me so incredibly horny. There's something just so intrinsically sexy in the idea of submitting.

 

[tellingtales2023]

It depends on the person. I love a more mature woman taking charge and telling me what to do, but with women slightly younger or my age I prefer to take the lead

 

[StrongMaster7]

In my limited experience, most of the women I have been with have not taken the lead. I have taken the lead and they have defined the limits to our play. I would kiss her and she would kiss me back. I would touch her pussy and she would touch my cock. But when I would rub her asshole with my finger, she would pull my hand away and put it on her breasts, for instance.

So to me, the sexiest thing is when a women initiates ANYTHING. Or suggests ANYTHING. When I need 'inspiration' I think about that time my college gf asked me to fuck her tits, or when my wife told me to squeeze her tits hard and bite her nipples, or when that woman surprised me with a small toy up my asshole. I can think of few times that a woman suggested something or initiated some thing that I wasn't 100% up for.

 

[Older_Pervert]

Do you prefer to lead or be led with a partner?

I love both!

I enjoy being in control, leading my partner, telling her what to do to please me…..

 

[_Troia_]

I enjoy being in control, leading my partner, telling her what to do to please me…..

What about her pleasure?

 

[Fire_starter01]

Do you prefer to lead or be led with a partner?

I love both!

Lead mostly but for the right woman I’ll let her lead me

 

[FGB]

Lead, Follow...or lay there restrained...enough talking!

 

[_Troia_]

Lead mostly but for the right woman I’ll let her lead me

She is very lucky, indeed!

 

[Fire_starter01]

She is very lucky, indeed!

Perhaps it wouldn’t be her that’s the lucky one

 

[wallstreetguy]

Leading. 100 percent.

 

[TallGlassOfSarcasm]

90% take charge. 10% of the time....you gotta shift things up

 

[RachelWalsh]

I prefer to let my partner lead. I am rather submissive and find things are easier this way.

 

[ctarrantella]

Led. And tell, don't ask. I know I can say no, so just be who you are and let me be who I am.

A long time ago my wife said the same thing to me.
Just do it. I can say no! She doesn’t want to be asked.

 

[Tayloroc]

I love both

Both are so exciting but prefer to be led

 

[Islander55]

I prefer to be led but one does need some variety. Also you need to make sure he knows the boundaries and what things you really like.

 

[tristianc]

Lead, I don’t like feeling submissive at all when it comes to sex, I’ve discovered it’s a turn off for me. I need to feel in control of what’s happening sexually.

 

[SevMax2]

Do you prefer to lead or be led with a partner?

I love both!

I’m with you. I’m a switch, so with a submissive partner, I would dominate, but submit to a dominant person who has earned my trust. Submission is tougher for me, because it requires more trust.

 

[_Troia_]

I’m with you. I’m a switch, so with a submissive partner, I would dominate, but submit to a dominant person who has earned my trust. Submission is tougher for me, because it requires more trust.

It’s good you realize that because it allows you to share that with your partner!!

 

[13Fantasies]

Generally, I lead, unless I get a straight no.

 

[Trubbycat]

Like most folks here I’m probably a switch. I love to lead but also love to let someone else call the shots.