Taking a big step

[SweetWitch]

Not bad. Slapping a flogger into the palm of your hand to make a sharp 'snap' helps.

Not sure about the 'NOW'. A Dom doesn't have to raise his voice in my opinion.

If you're spanking Molly, wanna borrow my vampire glove?

http://www.detailstoys.com/images/2007/gloves350.jpg

Ouch! Not the vampire gloves...

 

[dr_mabeuse]

DOC

Since when is a 'dom' concerned about assholes or bullies?

Doms ought to relish assholes and bullies, if youre truly dominant.

Recall the old KARATE KID movie? They asked Pat Morita what kind of belt he had, and his response was, 'J.C.PENNY belt, $4.95." Karate is in your heart, not hanging off your ass. Ditto for dominance.

No. You relish assholes and bullies if you're an asshole or a bully. Dominance has nothing to do with that.

And I don't learn dominance from goddamn Karate Kid movies.

 

[john-the-author]

Enjoy the trip, Rob.

Watch out for the the assholes in that world. There's quite a few--a lot of egomaniacs, a lot of narcissists, a lot of people playing "dommier than thou" and "supersub" who'll tell you if you're not doing it their way you're not doing it right, but screw them. There is no right way of doing it. It's all about intensity of feeling and following your heart and communication.

Just be who you are and you'll be fine.

--Zoot

Dr. M, as usual, speaks sooth. What you're there for and how you want to do things are going to be your combination, and this may well not be what someone else is there for. Keep true to yourself and don't get dragged off course by someone else's bullshit. Oh, and, like with anything else dealing with relationships and sexuality, you'll do best when you do your best to communicate clearly and deal fairly.

FWIW, I tried a little of this myself about, oh, 14 years ago. It wasn't really me, but I did have a better understand of the appeal. You'll have fun, I do believe.

 

[OneLustyWench]

Having just gotten out and about to explore my sub side, just be prepared to talk the first couple of times. You might be lucky and find that right play partner but don't ever worry about asking questions. They are usually friendly kinky folk and everyone likes to pull out their toys and help others learn.

It might be uncomfortable, it might even be painful (hopefully it is as you try new things), but if it's you and your desire, it will be worth it.

Can't go wrong with basic black. Male Doms have it soooo easy.

 

[OneLustyWench]

Enjoy the trip, Rob.

Watch out for the the assholes in that world. There's quite a few--a lot of egomaniacs, a lot of narcissists, a lot of people playing "dommier than thou" and "supersub" who'll tell you if you're not doing it their way you're not doing it right, but screw them. There is no right way of doing it. It's all about intensity of feeling and following your heart and communication.

Just be who you are and you'll be fine.

--Zoot

Listen to the wise one.

 

[OneLustyWench]

I shall never make a good sub, then. I've got enough pain without adding to it.

Being tied up, on the other hand...

*strokes her soft ropes and calls out SweetWitch, come play*

 

[rgraham666]

Thanks Wenchie.

That's what I expect although I will take my equipment along, just in case.

I've been wearing basic black for years.

 

[Guest]

Listen to the wise one.

Yes.

 

[SweetWitch]

*strokes her soft ropes and calls out SweetWitch, come play*

For you, I might just switch.

 

[Guest]

*strokes her soft ropes and calls out SweetWitch, come play*

For you, I might just switch.

Oh, my.

Can I watch?

 

[SweetWitch]

Oh, my.

Can I watch?

Ooo... Wenchie, can we tie up Sarahh?

 

[rgraham666]

Ooo... Wenchie, can we tie up Sarahh?

That I don't intend to watch.

 

[OneLustyWench]

Ooo... Wenchie, can we tie up Sarahh?

Sarahh first, you next?

 

[SweetWitch]

That I don't intend to watch.

I would expect nothing less.

Sarahh first, you next?

Only if Rob promises to be gentle.

 

[rgraham666]

Only if Rob promises to be gentle.

Always.

I will find your sensitive spots and I will play with them mercilessly though.

 

[OneLustyWench]

I would expect nothing less.



Only if Rob promises to be gentle.

Hey it only works if it works for everyone. Different tastes, levels, tolerances. You have to know your partner.

 

[Guest]

Hey it only works if it works for everyone. Different tastes, levels, tolerances. You have to know your partner.

Gentle is nice.

But some people prefer it to be rough.

 

[SweetWitch]

Always.

I will find your sensitive spots and I will play with them mercilessly though.

You cad! You merciless cad.

Okay.

Hey it only works if it works for everyone. Different tastes, levels, tolerances. You have to know your partner.

Or in my case, you have to have a partner.

 

[rgraham666]

Or in my case, you have to have a partner.

Just ask.

 

[SweetWitch]

Just ask.

But, I'm shy.

 

[rgraham666]

But, I'm shy.

Then I'll tell you. Get on the bed so I can tie you up. (Gives you a stern look mixed with a wicked, knowing smile)

 

[SweetWitch]

Then I'll tell you. Get on the bed so I can tie you up. (Gives you a stern look mixed with a wicked, knowing smile)

How I wish I could play. Sigh. We'll have to make it another night because I really have to get my butt back to work.

 

[rgraham666]

How I wish I could play. Sigh. We'll have to make it another night because I really have to get my butt back to work.

Night Molly. Some other time.

 

[SweetWitch]

Night Molly. Some other time.

 

[Belegon]

I just finished The Dark Garden by Eden Bradley. It has wonderful descriptions of the sub going into 'subspace'. I happen to have an autographed advanced reading copy.

I have all her stuff but keep forgetting to have her sign it for me... Miss Bradley is a dear friend... and hawt as hell too... (actually, if you look at my AV, Eden would have been sitting to the left of the photographer.)