Support/Reinforcement/Nice Thread

[hugo_sam]

Hi Everyone,

In visiting some of the wonderful people who populate this Board I noticed there did not seem to be a place for garnering support for important life decisions. There was also not a place just to seek and get a nice word, just for it’s own sake, both for the seeker and the giver.
The nice denizens of the Vibe always make you feel welcome, and are always so friendly. I thought maybe a place to seek support or maybe just some positive reinforcement, would be nice.
Before anyone is offended. I am usually found up at the Author’s Hangout, although I am a frequent visitor to the Vibe. I am a straight male, just so no one thinks me traveling under false colors.
I hope this will be a thread you find useful and beneficial.

JMHO

Hugo

 

[hugo_sam]

I'll start it off with a heartfelt thank you to the lovely people from the Vibe who have made me feel so welcome and confortable there.

Thank you

Hugo

 

[playwithlezli]

It's just because you are so darn lovely to have around eh!

And you give the best hugs!

I'll start it off with a heartfelt thank you to the lovely people from the Vibe who have made me feel so welcome and confortable there.

 

[hugo_sam]

It's just because you are so darn lovely to have around eh!

And you give the best hugs!

TY
You have all been so Sweet
I hope people like this thread.
I saw a number of posts about people with life changing or potentially life
changing events or the results of same, I thought a place to go for support and
nice things would be useful.

Hugo

 

[fieryjen]

Aw, this is a really nice idea. *hugs all around*

 

[kasumi ryu]

It's a bit long...forgive me

May I? If I can, I would like to thank everyone....*bows*

My life hasn't been that good....in fact, it's been really...bad. I know that now...saying that your life is bad means nothing because everyone can say they've had a bad life. So it really has no impact, but just the same, my life hasn't been so sweet. 4 years ago, a lot of things were forbidden to me...even laughter. When I came to the US, I knew nothing of the US way except what I could read while overseas, and it wasn't much.

Then I met Dragon, and everything changed...I realized I had feelings that ran deeper than the sea, and reached higher than the heavens....in fact, I realized that the emotion I felt for her went beyond the bounds of anything I was ever allowed....and it didn't help that she was female....before, I wasn't even allowed love with a male, let alone a female.....

....so it was hard for me...but I couldn't stop emotion...it's like trying to cage wind, or stop a raging tiger. Dragon showed me Lit, and then, the next day, I joined, still hesitant towards my feelings.

But soon it just got to be too much...So then I just gave in....and we've been happier for it ever since. At least, I have...she's helped me so much.

And then the good men and ladies of Lit have opened their arms and have allowed me in....I can never repay you like I would like to. I love you all...and I hope you all can realize it, even though I have nothing to give in return except for my understanding, caring, and kind support as you've shown me.

Sorry for the long post, thank you much for reading my words....
Kasumi

 

[kasumi ryu]

I'll start it off with a heartfelt thank you to the lovely people from the Vibe who have made me feel so welcome and confortable there.

Thank you

Hugo

Bear-san, can I thank you persoanally? For starting this thread and for the support you've shown me?

You have been so kind to me......and I hope in time I can repay you for what you have done for me...arigato.

Kasumi

 

[hugo_sam]

Bear-san, can I thank you persoanally? For starting this thread and for the support you've shown me?

You have been so kind to me......and I hope in time I can repay you for what you have done for me...arigato.

Kasumi

Kasumi
I would be honored to accept your thanks, and deeply humbled. It is I who should thank you for your kindness and gentility to an old bear.
I am truly sorry for your life's troubles, I can only wish that they improve greatly and rapidly.Your addition to the lit family is one of our priviledge and enjoyment. The diversity, understanding and caring of the denizens of these boards are what make lit an interesting and vibrant gowing entity.
Your previous post is exactly why I began this thread and it is most appropriate for it to be there. I am pleased that you have found such personal love and understanding with Dragon.
Good thoughts and wishes for you, Sweetie.
*Grizzly Bear Hugs*

JMHO

Hugo

 

[little_dragon]

May I? If I can, I would like to thank everyone....*bows*

My life hasn't been that good....in fact, it's been really...bad. I know that now...saying that your life is bad means nothing because everyone can say they've had a bad life. So it really has no impact, but just the same, my life hasn't been so sweet. 4 years ago, a lot of things were forbidden to me...even laughter. When I came to the US, I knew nothing of the US way except what I could read while overseas, and it wasn't much.

Then I met Dragon, and everything changed...I realized I had feelings that ran deeper than the sea, and reached higher than the heavens....in fact, I realized that the emotion I felt for her went beyond the bounds of anything I was ever allowed....and it didn't help that she was female....before, I wasn't even allowed love with a male, let alone a female.....

....so it was hard for me...but I couldn't stop emotion...it's like trying to cage wind, or stop a raging tiger. Dragon showed me Lit, and then, the next day, I joined, still hesitant towards my feelings.

But soon it just got to be too much...So then I just gave in....and we've been happier for it ever since. At least, I have...she's helped me so much.

And then the good men and ladies of Lit have opened their arms and have allowed me in....I can never repay you like I would like to. I love you all...and I hope you all can realize it, even though I have nothing to give in return except for my understanding, caring, and kind support as you've shown me.

Sorry for the long post, thank you much for reading my words....
Kasumi

*hugs kasumi for a good long while*
I would like to thank everyone, too.....but I don't have to right words to say! I've been in and out of this thread, thinking of what to type, but I got nothin.

Thanks to everyone for being so supportive and helpful...and yeah, when I have something more, I'll post again, lol.

Dragon

 

[hugo_sam]

*hugs kasumi for a good long while*
I would like to thank everyone, too.....but I don't have to right words to say! I've been in and out of this thread, thinking of what to type, but I got nothin.

Thanks to everyone for being so supportive and helpful...and yeah, when I have something more, I'll post again, lol.

Dragon

YOu said plenty Sweetie
Just glad you are happy and you share your happiness with us here.
Thank you.

JMHO

Hugo

 

[kasumi ryu]

a hard decision...

I just told Dragon this....and I really don't know if I should post here, as it is a very painful topic for me.

For family reasons, I have to go to Korea....this will be the 2nd attempt to go...for personal reasons, I'm very afraid to go. If I go though, I won't be able to come back. At least, I don't think I'd be able to. It's very complicated, with many layers.

Not only will I not be able to come back (maybe), but...my family will not accept Dragon and I....and I'll end up leaving her for eternity.

If I stay here, they'll come for me.

I can't explain all the details here, even though I wish I could...Dragon wants to kidnap me ........

I know I have provided minimal information here...forgive me for that...but can anyone help me based on what I have given? Not you Dragon...I know your stand ......

And I don't want to leave you either.

Thanks in advance to all...
Kasumi

 

[~GliterDollie~]

Hi there! I'm new here too!

 

[ezervet]

Kasumi: before i go into my shit, what do you mean they'll come for you? are you over 18? I know its hard to do, but if you're not a minor and you don't want to go back to Korea, i'd say to hell with other people, stay here. granted, i know from limited experience that it won't be that easy, but there are steps you can take. its what the US is all about, right? Granted we didn't put "gay relationships" on the statue of liberty, but thats just because we ran out of space. (maybe not entirely true, but it feels right to me.) Even you are a minor, i'd consider still saying the hell with it and doing whatever you can to stay here. impulsive, perhaps. regardless, i'm sorrry for what you're going through, so i'll throw out some good vibes for ya. ah hell, even if it might mean offending some people, i'll pray for you. that's meant as a token of sympathy, i don't mean it in a "i'll pray for you because youre a sinner" way. (of course, i might not be on god's good side..so take that with a grain of salt.)

Now onto my shit, that i need positive reinforcement about..apologies to the starter of the thread, but it seems that this is what the thread's about.

I've just started coming out as bi, been going to GLBT youth group meetings, came out to my best friend, and i'm moving in that direction, glacially, but i'm moving in that direction. (to clear it up, i'm a 19 year old male sophomore in college) i've never been with a guy, beyond some fooling around with my (former) best friend in high school. i made him stop, we haven't been close since, what a moron i was. ANYWAY.

I really want to be with a guy now, but i'm not into random hookup sex, whether i'm meeting someone online or at a club or whatever. i want my first time to be as part of a relationship. but i really have no idea, how i'd even go about meeting a guy. heh, i have a hard enough meeting girls, just stumbling along and hope i meet someone. how do i manage to do that when i'm looking at a pretty small fraction of the population? I'm not real worried, i'm pretty sure i'll just keep chipping away at the whole "out" thing and eventually get into the gay/bi scene, and hope i stumble into a nice guy. but part of me is really afraid that i'll meet some girl, and end up married and living my life, never having experienced this. and i'm not sure i wouldn't rather end up with a guy, on a permanent basis. any advice? PMs welcome.

this is really my parents and brother's fault. "oh, we all just met the people we love and got married and now we're living happily ever after, you'll get married in the next few years too, right?" I love em, and they love me, we're a great family, but that is some shit for me to carry around, from my perspective anyway.

/end being a whiny little so and so./

i could write pages about this, but i won't. not now at least. Lets keep this thread alive, people!

 

[hugo_sam]

Now onto my shit, that i need positive reinforcement about..apologies to the starter of the thread, but it seems that this is what the thread's about.

i could write pages about this, but i won't. not now at least. Lets keep this thread alive, people!

Ez
No apologies needed or necessary for either portion of your message. This/that is exactly what this thread is about and it's purpose.
Best of luck to you in finding some of the answers you need. Post on.

Hugo

 

[hugo_sam]

I have several friends here that are hurting for various reasons. Most involve matters of the heart. My best wishes and good thoughts go to each and every one of them. I hope things improve for them soon.

http://i28.photobucket.com/albums/c201/hugo_sam/rosesbear.jpg​

*Grizzly Bear Hugs* to each of them.

Hugo

 

[little_dragon]

Not you Dragon...I know your stand ......

Kasumi

*struggles to keep mouth shut....*

It just ain't right. Or fair. I emailed you on this subject....

Now, come live with me?

In all seriousness....please? I'll protect you. Like I promised I would.

Dragon

 

[little_dragon]

I'm bumping this thread up.

It can't die! People need positive energy, yeah?

Dragon

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

First of all, many thanks to my favorite Grizzly for this brilliant thread. It is so rare to find positive influences on the web..but you are definitely one.

kasumi~ I wish I could give you some words of wisdom concerning your situation but alas, I can not. All I can honestly say is, follow your heart. After all, God blessed you with a heart for a reason. Love as thou wilt. And do what is most healthy for you.

By the by..here is a small poem that I use as a meditation helper. It's something I wrote myself to guide my focus.

Waiting

A breath that begins slowly
Shivering upon the air like fairy wings
Every color of the rainbow trapped between
This moment and the next
An eternity of waiting
Wanting, wishing.

Exhalation which brings comfort
Breathe in peace, blow out impatience quickly
Every minute brings one closer to completion
Each second slowly trickling away
An eternity in the making
Each second, waiting

And yet, this wanting continues
Unending, an atomic clock with perfect time
Without the pleasure of the sound: tick, tock
Trapped here in sublime stillness
Eternity in each moment
Waiting, still waiting

 

[ezervet]

*positive energy bump*

i think this a good thing.

smiles all around folks.

 

[hugo_sam]

Sending good thoughts and well wishes to Kusami,
who is in the hospital rather ill.

http://i28.photobucket.com/albums/c201/hugo_sam/EO-823B_b.jpg​

*Grizzly Bear Hugs*

hugo

 

[amBIguous]

I'm not real worried, i'm pretty sure i'll just keep chipping away at the whole "out" thing and eventually get into the gay/bi scene, and hope i stumble into a nice guy. but part of me is really afraid that i'll meet some girl, and end up married and living my life, never having experienced this. and i'm not sure i wouldn't rather end up with a guy, on a permanent basis. any advice? PMs welcome.

Hi eservet...

I just couldn't resist responding to your post. I can almost hear myself saying that 12 years ago. And I can tell you that all that you really have to do is (I almost can't believe I'm going to say this) be patient and stop trying so hard. The gay scene isn't something that you have to find or break into. It isn't some secret club or fraternity that you have to prove yourself to. Just be yourself and you are a part of it. It is one of the things that has kept me going. Doesn't matter who you are, what you look like or who you like, we all have the same issues and we can all accept each other.

And stop worrying about finding the right guy (or girl) as the case may be. I can say from personal experience that you can't control who your heart will fall for. If you find the right person you won't care what you may or may not be missing out on. Relax and enjoy life.

 

[Guest]

Nirvana and Sam

it can be hard when youve found happiness and it seems like everyone around you are feeling neglected and unloved. You said with every hello there is a goodbye.

You deserve your hello more than anyone i know and nothing else matters.

Love her and let her love you back.
Jessi

 

[Queersetti]

First of all, many thanks to my favorite Grizzly for this brilliant thread. It is so rare to find positive influences on the web..but you are definitely one.

kasumi~ I wish I could give you some words of wisdom concerning your situation but alas, I can not. All I can honestly say is, follow your heart. After all, God blessed you with a heart for a reason. Love as thou wilt. And do what is most healthy for you.

By the by..here is a small poem that I use as a meditation helper. It's something I wrote myself to guide my focus.

Waiting

A breath that begins slowly
Shivering upon the air like fairy wings
Every color of the rainbow trapped between
This moment and the next
An eternity of waiting
Wanting, wishing.

Exhalation which brings comfort
Breathe in peace, blow out impatience quickly
Every minute brings one closer to completion
Each second slowly trickling away
An eternity in the making
Each second, waiting

And yet, this wanting continues
Unending, an atomic clock with perfect time
Without the pleasure of the sound: tick, tock
Trapped here in sublime stillness
Eternity in each moment
Waiting, still waiting

A lovely poem, darling, and a gorgeous av as well.

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

A lovely poem, darling, and a gorgeous av as well.

OMG!!! hello my favorite Man!! I haven't seen you in forever. Thank you for the compliment and for being your own sweet self.

 

[ezervet]

Hi eservet...

I just couldn't resist responding to your post. I can almost hear myself saying that 12 years ago. And I can tell you that all that you really have to do is (I almost can't believe I'm going to say this) be patient and stop trying so hard. The gay scene isn't something that you have to find or break into. It isn't some secret club or fraternity that you have to prove yourself to. Just be yourself and you are a part of it. It is one of the things that has kept me going. Doesn't matter who you are, what you look like or who you like, we all have the same issues and we can all accept each other.

And stop worrying about finding the right guy (or girl) as the case may be. I can say from personal experience that you can't control who your heart will fall for. If you find the right person you won't care what you may or may not be missing out on. Relax and enjoy life.

thanks alot for saying somehing. what you're saying makes sense, of course. i swear, whenever i have an issue with regards to my sexuality, its just incredibly stupid when i say (or type) it out loud. like i really need to "worry" about falling in love. and as for the other thing, how else did i ever fit into a group than by being me and then whatever happens, happens.

hehe, it seems alot of my posts follow this formula. "stupid problem" - "obvious answer kindly phrased" - "huh, yeah, duh." ah well, thats life.