Submission is beautiful.

[LostBabygirl3489]

So I've been harboring these thoughts for awhile...and I know there are others out there who feel the same, but they are honestly hard to find. I don't see submission as weakness or power play really. I don't see it as degrading or humiliating at all. I'm sure many will laugh at me or call me corny, but I see it as a beautiful gesture, to surrender myself completely to a man or woman with no shame or remorse. I've never felt degraded or humiliated when I am getting face fucked or when a guy comes on my face or body. It makes me feel beautiful and alive. I'd love to chat with others who feel the same. It's okay if you see D/S differently, but the predominant theme I seem to pick up on is that I am labeled as worthless/inferior/weak/pathetic by many dominants and I completely disagree. I could never get with a dom that views his sub that way. Hence the reason I haven't submitted yet.

 

[LeinadVirgo]

I'm a switch, though sub is where i feel happiest. But I have always felt that when I sub, i am the one giving them the gift. I can be happy as a stong alpha male, so for me to give that up, something that comes easily to me... Well it makes me happy to trust somebody like that, but they have to know, I can always take it away,and have to respect what I do for them. Sorry if its not clear or redundant

 

[LostBabygirl3489]

I'm a switch, though sub is where i feel happiest. But I have always felt that when I sub, i am the one giving them the gift. I can be happy as a stong alpha male, so for me to give that up, something that comes easily to me... Well it makes me happy to trust somebody like that, but they have to know, I can always take it away,and have to respect what I do for them. Sorry if its not clear or redundant

That makes perfect sense to me. I agree that you are giving a gift. It's so lovely and feels amazing to give.

 

[LeinadVirgo]

That makes perfect sense to me. I agree that you are giving a gift. It's so lovely and feels amazing to give.

In the heat of the moment, or that long build up to it, use and abuse me. Just... after its all over, hold me and tell me you appreciate me.

 

[KimGordon67]

I could never give control up to someone who saw me as inferior. My in-charge guy knows very well that the trust I have in him is something he's earnt, and in all honesty I think we both understand that my ability to give him that is a strength on my part, not a weakness.

 

[SissySalina]

So I've been harboring these thoughts for awhile...and I know there are others out there who feel the same, but they are honestly hard to find. I don't see submission as weakness or power play really. I don't see it as degrading or humiliating at all. I'm sure many will laugh at me or call me corny, but I see it as a beautiful gesture, to surrender myself completely to a man or woman with no shame or remorse. I've never felt degraded or humiliated when I am getting face fucked or when a guy comes on my face or body. It makes me feel beautiful and alive. I'd love to chat with others who feel the same. It's okay if you see D/S differently, but the predominant theme I seem to pick up on is that I am labeled as worthless/inferior/weak/pathetic by many dominants and I completely disagree. I could never get with a dom that views his sub that way. Hence the reason I haven't submitted yet.

sissy is a sissy and that is what sissy strives for, to be the best sissy a sissy can be. This means being submissive, sissy is totally submissive to Her, sissy is not a slave. She is sissy's bff and Dominant and sissy totally trust Her and will do anything She ask of sissy.
Sissy cannot be humiliated because sissy is a sissy and not a person. In order to degrading or humiliating you must have feelings and sissy's do not have those types of feelings. sissy is here to satisfy Her wishes no matter what it takes.
To be able to totally give oneself for the use of others takes a strong inner self which is mastered by few and most people cannot understand what it takes because they would not consider totally giving themselves to someone else.

 

[adrina]

It has always made me feel very powerful. Submission to one, and a high - a confidence - to take with me out into the world. It's... heady.

 

[Primalex]

I am labeled as worthless/inferior/weak/pathetic by many dominants and I completely disagree. I could never get with a dom that views his sub that way.

What if the Dom views every other human being as inferior?

 

[adrina]

What if the Dom views every other human being as inferior?

As a rule, the common denominator is most likely the source of the problem.

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

So I've been harboring these thoughts for awhile...and I know there are others out there who feel the same, but they are honestly hard to find. I don't see submission as weakness or power play really. I don't see it as degrading or humiliating at all. I'm sure many will laugh at me or call me corny, but I see it as a beautiful gesture, to surrender myself completely to a man or woman with no shame or remorse. I've never felt degraded or humiliated when I am getting face fucked or when a guy comes on my face or body. It makes me feel beautiful and alive. I'd love to chat with others who feel the same. It's okay if you see D/S differently, but the predominant theme I seem to pick up on is that I am labeled as worthless/inferior/weak/pathetic by many dominants and I completely disagree. I could never get with a dom that views his sub that way. Hence the reason I haven't submitted yet.

well, the "dominant" who makes you feel worthless/inferior/weak/pathetic, is a dominant​ who can go fuck himself with a cattle prod.

Just my not so humble opinion..

And for those who feel as though everyone is inferior to them, let me direct you to the Handbook of Clinical Psychology. At the sound of Tinkerbell's chime... Let's turn to the chapter on dealing with the Narcissist...

 

[PaxNurgle]

That is a beautiful original post, Lostbabygirl, and I wish I felt that way.

I do feel the way you do, secretly, about submission, although part of me does aroused by being degraded like that.

But I think it's different for males, or male submissives specifically, and the way that being submissive is regarded. It just makes me feel shame. We are meant, taught to feel ashamed of being this way. Like it is a pathological and self- destructive drive that makes us unattractive and unappealing, and (more to the point) unlikely to ever enjoy a mutually fulfilling relationship. So I keep it closeted.

Secretly it makes me feel alive when getting spanked or face fucked (by her strapon) or covered in spunk (while being ordered to fluff her lover)- just as it does you- assuming I would ever get to experience such things. But me being a heterosexual male- it is not viewed as acceptable to feel this way. But I absolutely think you nailed it with your post- it is indeed a powerful feeling.

 

[Primalex]

And for those who feel as though everyone is inferior to them, let me direct you to the Handbook of Clinical Psychology. At the sound of Tinkerbell's chime... Let's turn to the chapter on dealing with the Narcissist...

"We make him president."

Awesome!

 

[jackstud]

So I've been harboring these thoughts for awhile...and I know there are others out there who feel the same, but they are honestly hard to find. I don't see submission as weakness or power play really. I don't see it as degrading or humiliating at all. I'm sure many will laugh at me or call me corny, but I see it as a beautiful gesture, to surrender myself completely to a man or woman with no shame or remorse. I've never felt degraded or humiliated when I am getting face fucked or when a guy comes on my face or body. It makes me feel beautiful and alive. I'd love to chat with others who feel the same. It's okay if you see D/S differently, but the predominant theme I seem to pick up on is that I am labeled as worthless/inferior/weak/pathetic by many dominants and I completely disagree. I could never get with a dom that views his sub that way. Hence the reason I haven't submitted yet.

Your beautiful

 

[sterculius]

With a woman I tend to be assertive, but as a cocksucker I like being told what to do. I like letting the guy know that I'll do whatever he wants (within reason), orally to get him off. I like being roughly throat fucked. I like having my head held tightly while my throat is being used as a cock sleeve for him to masturbate with. I'm proud of my ability to tolerate this sort of treatment.

 

[Primalex]

Your beautiful

There are already two different correct ways to write it:
You are.
You're.

And you pick the only wrong one.

 

[13Fantasies]

So I've been harboring these thoughts for awhile...and I know there are others out there who feel the same, but they are honestly hard to find. I don't see submission as weakness or power play really. I don't see it as degrading or humiliating at all. I'm sure many will laugh at me or call me corny, but I see it as a beautiful gesture, to surrender myself completely to a man or woman with no shame or remorse. I've never felt degraded or humiliated when I am getting face fucked or when a guy comes on my face or body. It makes me feel beautiful and alive. I'd love to chat with others who feel the same. It's okay if you see D/S differently, but the predominant theme I seem to pick up on is that I am labeled as worthless/inferior/weak/pathetic by many dominants and I completely disagree. I could never get with a dom that views his sub that way. Hence the reason I haven't submitted yet.

I have never understood men or women that intentionally degrade and actually mean it. I understand there are some role playing elements, but that's fine if both understand. If not, I hope the submissive finds someone better.

 

[Primalex]

I have never understood men or women that intentionally degrade and actually mean it.

You are such a pussy.

 

[KentuckyDom1971]

There is so much honesty and truth in the words of your post. I think there are many ladies who would love to be submissive and give in to that side of themselves but yet are afraid to because the men they have encountered have been selfish and use them for their own pleasure rather than understanding the complexity of a woman and a relationship that includes domination and submission.
A lady who will submit to a naturally dominant man is not something to be devalued but something that should be cherished to the highest degree by such a lucky man. And it is one of life's hidden treasures and Few men find it and even fewer know what to do with it when I find it.

 

[learningslut]

I have never understood men or women that intentionally degrade and actually mean it. I understand there are some role playing elements, but that's fine if both understand. If not, I hope the submissive finds someone better.

hear hear, as an evolving slave i enjoy being degraded like that, treated like meat or an object, but afterwards i want to know that I'm actually valued

 

[PaxNurgle]

hear hear, as an evolving slave i enjoy being degraded like that, treated like meat or an object, but afterwards i want to know that I'm actually valued

YES! That is part of the turn on.

Not everyone gets that, and not everyone is turned on by that, but when SHE talks dirty to me, verbally humiliates, degrades and abuses me, that really gets me hot. And I suspect it is the same for many (but certainly not all) sub females as well.

Its just what you are into. Not all male or female dominants like to speak like this to their subs, either.

 

[SparkyWalter]

well, the "dominant" who makes you feel worthless/inferior/weak/pathetic, is a dominant​ who can go fuck himself with a cattle prod.

Just my not so humble opinion..

And for those who feel as though everyone is inferior to them, let me direct you to the Handbook of Clinical Psychology. At the sound of Tinkerbell's chime... Let's turn to the chapter on dealing with the Narcissist...

Very well said Rubenesque. There is nothing whatsoever that is weak about a submissive. I think some submissives Are very strong in their desire to get what they want. Anyone that sees them it's pathetic should go fuck themselves.

 

[Blackandstrong]

So I've been harboring these thoughts for awhile...and I know there are others out there who feel the same, but they are honestly hard to find. I don't see submission as weakness or power play really. I don't see it as degrading or humiliating at all. I'm sure many will laugh at me or call me corny, but I see it as a beautiful gesture, to surrender myself completely to a man or woman with no shame or remorse. I've never felt degraded or humiliated when I am getting face fucked or when a guy comes on my face or body. It makes me feel beautiful and alive. I'd love to chat with others who feel the same. It's okay if you see D/S differently, but the predominant theme I seem to pick up on is that I am labeled as worthless/inferior/weak/pathetic by many dominants and I completely disagree. I could never get with a dom that views his sub that way. Hence the reason I haven't submitted yet.

Put simply, a submissive, for me, has a very strong desire to please which a considered Dominant is able to satisfy. If they are not able to satisfy the needs of the submissive, they are actually not much of a Dom in my view. If you think about that for a moment you could argue a Dom and a sub actually have a very similar outlook on life. Satisfying a sub's craving to please is actually also the Dom having a strong desire to please too. The difference is purely on where the control lies.

 

[Stockholmblondie]

I view myself as a submissive, but do need to feel that the dominant part needs to be able to express caring and passion too. So many of the so called doms here I have met just use it as an excuse to treat women badly. A true dom (to me) is supportive and giving at the same time he is demanding. But we all are different, not judging anyone with different views.

 

[LockedDreams]

I view myself as a submissive, but do need to feel that the dominant part needs to be able to express caring and passion too. So many of the so called doms here I have met just use it as an excuse to treat women badly. A true dom (to me) is supportive and giving at the same time he is demanding. But we all are different, not judging anyone with different views.

Do you think a submissive woman needs to feel protected and cared for?

 

[yukonnights]

I view myself as a submissive, but do need to feel that the dominant part needs to be able to express caring and passion too. So many of the so called doms here I have met just use it as an excuse to treat women badly. A true dom (to me) is supportive and giving at the same time he is demanding. But we all are different, not judging anyone with different views.

Just so you know that someone agrees with your take , I agree Unfortunately there seems to be some confusion between Sadists and Doms. As you said, each person is welcome to their own cup of tea, but not all "subs" are also masochists. Just from my own personal reading, it seems that only a minority of submissive people are into being treated badly with no overarching intention by the Dom to enhance the sub's experience and growth.

The higher calling of BDSM is for enhanced mutual intimacy and personal growth into self awareness. This places the greater burden on any Dom to be equipped with intelligence, empathy and self-control. Such Dom's are out there, and it is incumbent on any sub to thoroughly evaluate anyone claiming to be a Dom.