sub vs slave

[dark_tipped_rose]

whats the difference between sub or slave? what about submissive behaviour that can't be turned off - such as its in the bedroom, and out?

also, what a troll?

 

[CutieMouse]

Drive-by [overly simplified] posting before going to pick up kids -

'Submissives' tend to submit, while maintaining certain "rights" agreed upon between those in the relationship.

'Slaves' tend to submit, without maintaining said "rights", or retaining certain rights only out of the good grace of their "owner/Master".

Some people choose to submit in sexual situations [bedroom], only; others choose to submit as just another part of daily life. Either point of view (bedroom/life) is perfectly valid, and to be decided on an individual basis.

A "Troll" is an internet asshat who's purpose in life is to stir up trouble/disrupt/otherwise disturb message board communities - just to sit back and watch the forum members get themselves in a tizzy.

 

[myinnerslut]

i cant speak everyone, only of my own personal experience in my role as a sub and my role as a slave. to cut down on personal confusion im am going to stick with discriptors of my current relationship, not my experiences with my ex.

its easier to say how things changed when i went from one to the other then it is to try to list all the attributes of both. the most visible change was my collar. as a submissive to Homburg, i didnt wear a collar. this may have just been the timing, as he made my collar himself and needed time to do so, but the fact remains, the day i recieved my collar was the day i was collared as his slave.

the next most obvious change is in honorifics. as a sub i used "Sir". as a slave i used "Master".

a big difference is seen in limits. as a sub i had a few hard limits and a safeword which i could have used if i felt it was neccesarry. when i was collared as a slave i gave up my limits and my safeword. to date i have een in one situation (involving being bound, gagged, and beaten with a singletail) in which i missed my safeword. after the fact, im glad i didnt have it becuase i ended up enjoying the experience overall.

another change is more subtle. as a sub, Master was a main focus of my life. i wanted to please him. i tried to please him. i took care of myself for him. i do they same things now as a slave. as a sub, Master was among the highest priorities in my life. now Master is THE highest priority in my life, and if my priorities go lacking for whatever reason there will be hell to pay.

from this thread: http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?p=27878639&e

 

[dark_tipped_rose]

thanx

thanx for the replies. I think I'd most definitely be a sub, but if there were things a master would never do, such as urine and booboo, then I might be a slave.

 

[Sqoodd]

thanx for the replies. I think I'd most definitely be a sub, but if there were things a master would never do, such as urine and booboo, then I might be a slave.

All Masters are different. Some are interested (turned on) by 'urine and booboo' while others are not. The key is to communicate what YOU are interested in at the beginning of the relationship (using the term very generally) to see if you and the Master agree and have similar interests.