Dom with a foot fetish

[DrewC40s]

Hey you awesome lit lovelys!

So a dilemma I’ve been facing since embracing my sexuality and desires.

I’m very much a dominant man, but I also have a very strong foot fetish. Whenever I’ve tried looking into it, it’s always portrayed as being a sub thing. It’s always men being called foot slave, foot boy, or whatnot, and being ridiculed.

Obviously these things very much go against who I am, and as my wife is also a sub, I want to maintain the balance of power for us both, while still enjoying my fetish (my wife has truly gorgeous little feet!).

Anyone else in the same boat? Any advice would be greatly welcome!

 

[seela]

I'm not really in the same boat, but I wanted to post something anyway and give this thread a bump, and because I think you bring up an interesting point. Certain acts are almost exclusively seen as dominant or submissive, even if many times the acts themselves are neither and could lend themselves to all kinds of dynamics and play.

I have a little experience of Doms with foot fetish, so even if it's not a commonly discussed combo, they are out there. Is your wife into foot play? If not so much, that's already a power move if you "force" her to engage in it because you enjoy it. You can make her be the active one in the scenario and please you with her feet the way you like it. If you're into funishments, you can add that aspect as well if she doesn't do the deed to your standards. You can make pedicures a D/s thing where you pick when and how she takes care of her feet. You can tie her up and then have your way with her feet if that's your thing. Can pain be a part of the foot play? The way you talk about what's going on can make the dynamic very clear to you both as well. Just a few ideas.

The power dynamic is in the brain, and if it's in the brain, you can make it a part of the actions as well. I think most people would agree that the one getting fucked isn't necessarily the submissive one. Similarly the one sucking the toes, or whatever, doesn't have to be the submissive one, either.

Anyway, it's an interesting topic to me, how certain acts get categorized dominant or submissive, especially online. In my experience the real world is much less black and white.

 

[Silvergrizzly31]

The power dynamic is in the brain, and if it's in the brain, you can make it a part of the actions as well. I think most people would agree that the one getting fucked isn't necessarily the submissive one. Similarly the one sucking the toes, or whatever, doesn't have to be the submissive one, either.

This right here! I have found that being a Dom isn't necessarily the action, but the mindset of being in control, of course with that established trust

 

[Sappho_CGN]

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[subdudeme13]

Darf ich bitte deine schönen Zehen küssen?

 

[SPARTAN047]

I've known that it's possible for a dominant to instruct their submissive to spank them. Or tell their sub to act dominant. So no worries.

 

[emme8]

If your wife is submissive enjoy her feet anyway you choose. As much as you choose.
(Within her hard limits obviously)

My feet are extremely sensitive. It's a HARD limit. No one was allowed to touch my feet. My wonderful husband is careful not to ever touch. A foot massage or pedicure would be torture.

But a year into submission with Dom, I allowed him to touch, but not tickle.
He has used his belt of my feet. Surprisingly it was good. I hope he never decides to push my submission by licking my feet or sucking my toes. But if he does he's still the Dom and I will submit.

 

[Rm3452]

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Beautiful.....love the red

 

[Crownvic]

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Beautiful feet and red toes..

 

[silversnakess]

Same as the others. Feet are parts of the body like any other, whatever you do with them is. your business.

 

[Inthelastrow]

It is perfectly possible, but depends on the hook you have in a foot fetish. Is it the beauty of your wife's feet? Is it the desire to suck toes, or lick? Is it a foot job? Or all of the above? The answer is the means to enjoy this as a Dom

I love women's feet. I think woman's feet are the exclamation point of their beauty, a chance for them to show off and draw attention to themselves. Some women do, others don't. I am lucky that my wife has gorgeous feet and she shows them off. Part of our relationship is she knows that I enjoy her feet and have a foot fetish (sight, touch, sexual play) and keeps them prepped accordingly.

If I were you I would tell your wife how much you like her feet and instruct your wife to keep her feet soft and pretty. To display her feet for your enjoyment; barefoot, in flip flops, sandals or heels. Tell her to get pedi's or wear the color polish you like. Let her choose the right nail polish color for your delight. Same with the shoes she wears...socks/nylons too. Allow her some leeway to make it that much more pleasurable for you. Let her surprise you. After all she is displaying her beauty for your enjoyment.

As for sex, who says licking and or sucking feet is a sub act? Hardly. It's taking ownership of her. Enjoying that aspect of her beauty and sexuality. If she allows, make it part of your play. For example have her offer herself to you. Tease her, tickle her feet, have fun with it, control her actions. Tell her to lay face down on the bed and make her offer her feet to you as you sit behind her. Use feathers and ice on her feet. Tie up her feet. Suck or lick her toes. Make it an aspect for fore-play. Go for a foot job. Foot jobs are extremely enjoyable if you both enjoy that sort of thing.

There are multiple ways to enjoy a foot fetish and it's hardly submissive, just know her limits. But by all means enjoy her feet and what she has to offer. Don't put labels on it.