Study Suggests Difference in Lesbians' Brains

[lucky-E-leven]

Yet another indicator that I'm odd. This human is NOT primarily visually oriented.

Same here. Exactly.

 

[lucky-E-leven]

We're wired differently... that's apparant.

Praise the lowered.

 

[TheEarl]

Praise the lowered.

<struggles not to make joke about not being able to get any lower...>

The Earl

 

[impressive]

I think I'm prejudiced greatly against my vision. I don't trust it.

I'm not visually-stimulated to begin with -- but my distrust of vision adds to my bias, mainly because physical "beauty" (per social norms) is transient.

I swing so far in the opposite direction that someone who is considered physically attractive (again, per those norms) has the farthest road to travel before I'll consider them sexually attractive.

It's also probably the core reason I've eschewed most of the daily trappings of "beautification" (like make-up & other things that cause many women to take an hour just to get ready to leave the house). I'll stand (or fall) on what I was born with, thank you very much.

The other senses are pretty balanced -- but, when it comes to sexual attractiveness, I don't need to touch/taste/smell/hear at all. It's ALL about character. I've said it before: integrity & altruism will light my fire. Add a big box of smarts? Even better.

 

[Recidiva]

I'm not visually-stimulated to begin with -- but my distrust of vision adds to my bias, mainly because physical "beauty" (per social norms) is transient.

I swing so far in the opposite direction that someone who is considered physically attractive (again, per those norms) has the farthest road to travel before I'll consider them sexually attractive.

It's also probably the core reason I've eschewed most of the daily trappings of "beautification" (like make-up & other things that cause many women to take an hour just to get ready to leave the house). I'll stand (or fall) on what I was born with, thank you very much.

The other senses are pretty balanced -- but, when it comes to sexual attractiveness, I don't need to touch/taste/smell/hear at all. It's ALL about character. I've said it before: integrity & altruism will light my fire. Add a big box of smarts? Even better.

Yep, for me, humor and intelligence (three kinds, common sense, book smarts and street smarts)

But for me, if you can sing on top of that...it's all over.

 

[3113]

I haven't noticed too many guys, even of the really neadnertal persuasion pissing on the rug to mark their territoriy. I've gone out, in the period before my period when I should be "ready" and I never noticed guys beating each other sensless to get a crack at me.

Boy. Have you been missing out.

Okay, so we don't DO that sort of thing; so social/tribal education does have some power over our behavior. Conditioning at a young age is very powerful--it's what keeps gays in the closet, and, in your example of the South, kept white women and black men apart. No one wants to be lynched. That's a pretty powerful incentive to resisting even powerful biological urges--and human beings can resist them if they have to.

HOWEVER, I will say that there are times of the month when my husband just *smells* good. And that's not just me saying it. Other women will hug him and say the same. He doesn't do anything different--wear cologne or use a different soap in the shower...he just smells more desirable at certain times. And there are times during the month when he'll lean in to kiss me and suddenly say, "You *smell* good" and he'll get a definite gleam in his eye.

The one thing I remember so many guys telling me, on mentioning why they like girls (in general--the question usually being why they're not interested in experimenting with guys) is: "They smell good."

Maybe this smell doesn't induce the guys to piss on the rug--or even to approach the girl in the first place. For that, yes, they likely will rely on how she looks and if she's got the figure (although a lot of men tell me that while a sexy woman will catch their eye, what makes them want to talk to a woman is her smile, the sparkle in her eyes). However, once these guys have introduced themselves, gotten to know the girl a little better, and are allowed to lean in, I think those pheromones can make them want to stick by her. AND to that end, I think this magical fragrance might make them growl a bit at other men who come sniffing near, it might make them a bit more possessive.

 

[Ulaven_Demorte]

Yep, for me, humor and intelligence (three kinds, common sense, book smarts and street smarts)

But for me, if you can sing on top of that...it's all over.

Ahem.. excuse me while I get my jam on.

 

[Recidiva]

Ahem.. excuse me while I get my jam on.

See? All over.

 

[SEVERUSMAX]

Boy. Have you been missing out.

Okay, so we don't DO that sort of thing; so social/tribal education does have some power over our behavior. Conditioning at a young age is very powerful--it's what keeps gays in the closet, and, in your example of the South, kept white women and black men apart. No one wants to be lynched. That's a pretty powerful incentive to resisting even powerful biological urges--and human beings can resist them if they have to.

HOWEVER, I will say that there are times of the month when my husband just *smells* good. And that's not just me saying it. Other women will hug him and say the same. He doesn't do anything different--wear cologne or use a different soap in the shower...he just smells more desirable at certain times. And there are times during the month when he'll lean in to kiss me and suddenly say, "You *smell* good" and he'll get a definite gleam in his eye.

The one thing I remember so many guys telling me, on mentioning why they like girls (in general--the question usually being why they're not interested in experimenting with guys) is: "They smell good."

Maybe this smell doesn't induce the guys to piss on the rug--or even to approach the girl in the first place. For that, yes, they likely will rely on how she looks and if she's got the figure (although a lot of men tell me that while a sexy woman will catch their eye, what makes them want to talk to a woman is her smile, the sparkle in her eyes). However, once these guys have introduced themselves, gotten to know the girl a little better, and are allowed to lean in, I think those pheromones can make them want to stick by her. AND to that end, I think this magical fragrance might make them growl a bit at other men who come sniffing near, it might make them a bit more possessive.

There have actually been tests on this matter, with the girls not knowing which guy's scent they were smelling, and they had clear preferences on the smell.

 

[TheEarl]

Boy. Have you been missing out.

Okay, so we don't DO that sort of thing; so social/tribal education does have some power over our behavior. Conditioning at a young age is very powerful--it's what keeps gays in the closet, and, in your example of the South, kept white women and black men apart. No one wants to be lynched. That's a pretty powerful incentive to resisting even powerful biological urges--and human beings can resist them if they have to.

HOWEVER, I will say that there are times of the month when my husband just *smells* good. And that's not just me saying it. Other women will hug him and say the same. He doesn't do anything different--wear cologne or use a different soap in the shower...he just smells more desirable at certain times. And there are times during the month when he'll lean in to kiss me and suddenly say, "You *smell* good" and he'll get a definite gleam in his eye.

The one thing I remember so many guys telling me, on mentioning why they like girls (in general--the question usually being why they're not interested in experimenting with guys) is: "They smell good."

Maybe this smell doesn't induce the guys to piss on the rug--or even to approach the girl in the first place. For that, yes, they likely will rely on how she looks and if she's got the figure (although a lot of men tell me that while a sexy woman will catch their eye, what makes them want to talk to a woman is her smile, the sparkle in her eyes). However, once these guys have introduced themselves, gotten to know the girl a little better, and are allowed to lean in, I think those pheromones can make them want to stick by her. AND to that end, I think this magical fragrance might make them growl a bit at other men who come sniffing near, it might make them a bit more possessive.

Okay, you're taking over from Weird Harold in saying what I was trying to say more clearly.

The Earl