strap on's!
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kodos9000
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Will do! Sorry to hear the wife won't comply!
We initiated it together. We watch lots of hardcore porn together and we awtched Bend Over Boyfriend, Strap Attack and Babes Doing Guys and we talked about it. Then we purchased a vibrating anal toy and I asked DW to use it on me while she gave me a blowjob. When she saw how intense my orgasm was she was open to almost anything. We purchased a strap on (Bend Over Beginner Kit) and she fucked me and enjoyed it. We have added several different dildos to our collection.
Recently we purchased the Buzz Me Tender Harness and a double dildo(Nexus Jr.) We both love it. In fact she had her first squirting orgasm with it.
It turns out that strap on sex had always been one of her fantasies.
PM me if you would like to hear more details of our strap on and other fucking activities.
Jenna2641
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We initiated it together. We watch lots of hardcore porn together and we awtched Bend Over Boyfriend, Strap Attack and Babes Doing Guys and we talked about it. Then we purchased a vibrating anal toy and I asked DW to use it on me while she gave me a blowjob. When she saw how intense my orgasm was she was open to almost anything. We purchased a strap on (Bend Over Beginner Kit) and she fucked me and enjoyed it. We have added several different dildos to our collection.
Recently we purchased the Buzz Me Tender Harness and a double dildo(Nexus Jr.) We both love it. In fact she had her first squirting orgasm with it.
It turns out that strap on sex had always been one of her fantasies.
PM me if you would like to hear more details of our strap on and other fucking activities.
Sounds like a wonderful experience. Hope you two keep have such great loving joy together!
kodos9000
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did it take a lot of convincing? did she judge you at first?
My ex introduced me to anal sex. She didn't just bring it up she just gave it to me one night after we had been dating for about four months. That was a whirl wind night. The biggest thing I miss with her is getting fucked weekly.
With my wife I brought it up and she is accepting and willing but it isn't as much of a turn on to her as was my ex. She will dildo me but so far no strap on.
With my wife I brought it up and she is accepting and willing but it isn't as much of a turn on to her as was my ex. She will dildo me but so far no strap on.
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johnie ringo
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I can tell you what worked for my wife and I. I assume, you like a million other males, are a bit hesitant to bring it up with your lover! Tough to get over the labels that come to mind when your a male and want someone to ride you. Too bad, the feeling is outstanding, and if you and your lover both enjoy the experience...all the better.
Anyway, always had the desire for a dildo, or ultimately, a strap on being used on me. Now the wife and I have been married for almost 20 years, but more importantly, have been making love for closer to thirty. It was not untill just a few years ago, that WE even discussed, let alone tried this out. We have no one to thank but LITEROTICA itself for our "COMING OUT" party. I had been on this sight for a few years, lurking, reading, enjoying the GLBT chatter. The stories are by far the best and hottest. Started with those one day, telling her I found this sight with stories and she should check them out and let me know. I sent her one that was not involving a strap on, but I believe it had to do with him cumming on her tits and him licking it off. Kind of like a test the water thing. To my surprise she was totally turned on by it, and actually had me do it that night!!
Again, like many guys, always wanted to do it, but after I came, the urge left, and foolish me never mentioned it to my wife, for fear that she would think I was a wacco.
I used lit to help me cross many barriers. Sometimes it is easier to use the third person approach, less fear of non exceptance of yourself. I believe I found a thread on strap on play, forwarded it to her, and to my surprise two weeks later, the UPS man had my dream in a box!! HOpe this helps
Anyway, always had the desire for a dildo, or ultimately, a strap on being used on me. Now the wife and I have been married for almost 20 years, but more importantly, have been making love for closer to thirty. It was not untill just a few years ago, that WE even discussed, let alone tried this out. We have no one to thank but LITEROTICA itself for our "COMING OUT" party. I had been on this sight for a few years, lurking, reading, enjoying the GLBT chatter. The stories are by far the best and hottest. Started with those one day, telling her I found this sight with stories and she should check them out and let me know. I sent her one that was not involving a strap on, but I believe it had to do with him cumming on her tits and him licking it off. Kind of like a test the water thing. To my surprise she was totally turned on by it, and actually had me do it that night!!
Again, like many guys, always wanted to do it, but after I came, the urge left, and foolish me never mentioned it to my wife, for fear that she would think I was a wacco.
I used lit to help me cross many barriers. Sometimes it is easier to use the third person approach, less fear of non exceptance of yourself. I believe I found a thread on strap on play, forwarded it to her, and to my surprise two weeks later, the UPS man had my dream in a box!! HOpe this helps
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I guess I have the cake and eating it too thing. Let me 'splain. Being in a poly relationship is a great thing. Kitty and I, now and again, take turns wearing the strap on while we are with him. It gives both of us that wonderful "No vacancy" moment south of the boarder.
Jenna2641
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Sounds like a wonderful experience! Glad you two worked on it together!
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You are a lucky man
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The first time it happened I initiated it. She asked me what a fantasy was and I told her that I always wanted to be fucked with one. The next day we went and purchased one. It is one of the hottest and best feeling experiences I've had and highliy recomend it.
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to all the lucky ones.....well done
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My husband began experimenting with P-spot play on his own with an Aneros. I up the play with a Vixen Mistress in my terra harness. I think I enjoyed it more than he did
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The first woman I ever had a strap on encounter with basically initiated it by first fingering me during oral sex. She never asked me if I'd like her to but I never said stop . I guess she figured she'd just keep pushing the limits to see how far she could take it. It soon moved on to getting several fingers during every type of sexual activity (not just oral). Next thing I know, she is "jokingly" mentioning how she's going to use her vibrator on me. Of course... didn't say stop again. Finally, since her exploring my ass became part of our normal sexual routine, she just up and bought one for us one valentine's day. What a night! She fucked me silly ALL NIGHT. Next thing I know, we're moving up in sizes & role playing & just out in the open about it with close friends even.
Since her, I have decided to make a woman's desire to peg me (and even more so showing some enthusiasm about it) a part of my basic criteria for compatibility. Sexual desires are not to be repressed (as long as it's consensual)! Therefore, I bring it up very early in the game. If she's weirded out by it or uninterested, I usually don't pursue much longer.
The way I look at it, the earlier you get your desire out in the open the better. As uncomfortable as this may be for you and her as a topic of conversation, it'll be a hell of a lot more uncomfortable if she discovers any of your toys or other paraphernalia months or even years down the road without having had any mention. Sometimes it works to pass the mention off as a lighthearted recurring joke, but I've become impatient. I've also found that many women think men really are joking.
If you're honest and forthright and she's down, it'll make the experience way more erotic. If she's not down, then you need to decide if it's something necessary for you in a sexual relationship and your own decisions will surely be quickly apparent.
. I guess she figured she'd just keep pushing the limits to see how far she could take it. It soon moved on to getting several fingers during every type of sexual activity (not just oral). Next thing I know, she is "jokingly" mentioning how she's going to use her vibrator on me. Of course... didn't say stop again. Finally, since her exploring my ass became part of our normal sexual routine, she just up and bought one for us one valentine's day. What a night! She fucked me silly ALL NIGHT. Next thing I know, we're moving up in sizes & role playing & just out in the open about it with close friends even.Since her, I have decided to make a woman's desire to peg me (and even more so showing some enthusiasm about it) a part of my basic criteria for compatibility. Sexual desires are not to be repressed (as long as it's consensual)! Therefore, I bring it up very early in the game. If she's weirded out by it or uninterested, I usually don't pursue much longer.
The way I look at it, the earlier you get your desire out in the open the better. As uncomfortable as this may be for you and her as a topic of conversation, it'll be a hell of a lot more uncomfortable if she discovers any of your toys or other paraphernalia months or even years down the road without having had any mention. Sometimes it works to pass the mention off as a lighthearted recurring joke, but I've become impatient. I've also found that many women think men really are joking.
If you're honest and forthright and she's down, it'll make the experience way more erotic. If she's not down, then you need to decide if it's something necessary for you in a sexual relationship and your own decisions will surely be quickly apparent.
Some of the best advice I've heard! Thanks for sharing!
johnie ringo
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Thanks for the shout out. Just trying to help others go from Thoughts to reality. God knows we are glad we did
We started with my wife having a finger in my ass when she was blowing me. She noticed how much I liked it and we talked and we went first for a vibrator...and finally to a strap-on. She never doubted my masculinity, she always inderstood that being penetrated gave me huge pleasure and that was totally normal. It was more difficult to have her let me suck her cock...it's different and I knew she was not so confortable...but after we tried she felt some kind of power, and she enjoyed it too...talking down on me But she prefers much more to fuck me then to have me sucking the strap-on.
But she prefers much more to fuck me then to have me sucking the strap-on.
