Stamina...

[TheAlmightyZeus]

My situation is a little weird to me because I can think of no reason for why it should be so. About two and a half years ago I became sexaully active with my then girlfriend, at that time, my sexual stamina was fairly good, each time we had sex I could go for about 30-40 minutes before getting off. Then we split up, and I went for about 8 to 10 months with no non-masturbatory sexual contact. When I finally started dating again I found that my stamina had virtually dissapeared, I was only able to go for around 5-10 minutes max. I thought it might just have been because I had gone without sex for a long time, but it hasn't improved over the last year or so, and Its really starting to impact my confidence. Do any of you guys out there have any suggestions for increasing sexual stamina? Any help anyone could offer would be greatly appreciated!!!

 

[EJFan]

engage in sexual activity that isn't necessarily geared toward gettin' in and gettin' off. be nude with your partner... explore each other... enjoy one another's touches and just being together.

more importantly, try not to stress over busting too soon. in the event it happens, be sure to address your partner's orgasm and then have another round if/when it's possible. a lot of men also either masturbate before sex when this issue arises... or cum via a blowjob or something before intercourse.

 

[bisexplicit]

EJ!!

:emoticons:

We've missed you!!

 

[human_male]

Isn't five to ten minutes good?

 

[SweetErika]

Isn't five to ten minutes good?

As long as that's (and I'm assuming we're talking actual sex, or something with constant, focused stimulation like a blow or hand job) the smallest portion of the total experience by a long-shot, I think so. Even if he comes after a few minutes of foreplay or sex, as long as he's into pleasuring me and can go again after a rest if we want to, a few minutes is perfectly fine.

 

[human_male]

As long as that's (and I'm assuming we're talking actual sex, or something with constant, focused stimulation like a blow or hand job) the smallest portion of the total experience by a long-shot, I think so. Even if he comes after a few minutes of foreplay or sex, as long as he's into pleasuring me and can go again after a rest if we want to, a few minutes is perfectly fine.

No I was talking about the whole shebang, and for the night.

 

[Eating_Scarlett]

No I was talking about the whole shebang, and for the night.

It takes the average male 90 seconds to blow a load.

I reckon you're stressing too much about it... I would hardly worry.

 

[human_male]

It takes the average male 90 seconds to blow a load.

I reckon you're stressing too much about it... I would hardly worry.

What I didn't tell you is I'm including the amount of time it takes to eat the pizza.

 

[mrpenis]

What I didn't tell you is I'm including the amount of time it takes to eat the pizza.

LMAO!!

Feel lucky you can let it go that quickly, get it and start back over and the next session will last longer. I thought years ago when i first started doing the deed, long lasting was the way to be (wtching porno's ya know) so that's what I trained myself mentally to do. Many partners and years later it's a curse, I can't count the number of times I cant bust a nut and this will in turn play mental issues with your female parnter as she'll think she's not pretty enough, sexy enough, good enough, not doing a good job, etc...so it then turns into a bigger deal once she second guesses herself.

Be thankful and bust'em quick...leaves more time for sleep

 

[KarenDee]

Be thankful and bust'em quick...leaves more time for sleep

LMAO...now there's a guy on a tight schedule!

 

[LadyJeanne]

From a woman's point of view, I'm thinking 30-40 of constant thrust, thrust, thrust, thrust, thrust is waaayyyyy too much. Ouch. And waaaaayyyyy too boring. Snore.

10 minutes is a long time - guys don't usually last that long during PIV - but if you account for position changes which interrupt his climb to orgasm, I can see it.

But if you're saying 10 minutes from the first kiss to coming, and then you roll over and sleep, then yep, you've got some worrying to do. And learning about what turns women on.

When women talk about wanting men with stamina, we're not talking about being able to delay orgasms for 40 minutes during actual intercourse. We're talking about staying hard and interested long enough to pleasure each other orally, manually, and PIV before coming and losing desire for sex play.

 

[Chicklet]

I say if you cum early, use other parts of your body to pleasure your woman until she is satisfied or you're ready to go again. Your ability to hold in an orgasm isn't a problem, in fact, it's probably a little flattering for your partner that you get off so easily with her

Personally, I have a guy with very short recovery time, and I love when he cums multiple times during our encounters. Unfortunately, sometimes he holds back, and I always feel like something's been done wrong on my end if he DOESN'T climax in the first 15 minutes.

my two cents.

 

[Eilan]

From a woman's point of view, I'm thinking 30-40 of constant thrust, thrust, thrust, thrust, thrust is waaayyyyy too much. Ouch. And waaaaayyyyy too boring. Snore.

10 minutes is a long time - guys don't usually last that long during PIV - but if you account for position changes which interrupt his climb to orgasm, I can see it.

But if you're saying 10 minutes from the first kiss to coming, and then you roll over and sleep, then yep, you've got some worrying to do. And learning about what turns women on.

When women talk about wanting men with stamina, we're not talking about being able to delay orgasms for 40 minutes during actual intercourse. We're talking about staying hard and interested long enough to pleasure each other orally, manually, and PIV before coming and losing desire for sex play.

Just thought this was worth repeating.

 

[midwestyankee]

Just thought this was worth repeating.

And here I was thinking that women liked guys with stamina because we could run a mile to the drugstore for another dozen condoms at three in the morning and return before they fell asleep. Just shows you how little I know.

 

[Eilan]

And here I was thinking that women liked guys with stamina because we could run a mile to the drugstore for another dozen condoms at three in the morning and return before they fell asleep. Just shows you how little I know.

It's even more impressive if one has to run uphill--both directions--in at least a foot of snow.

 

[midwestyankee]

It's even more impressive if one has to run uphill--both directions--in at least a foot of snow.

Been there...done that...how do you think I developed all this stamina?