Stamina

[MakeMeSweat]

Okay, trying not to open myself to ridicule. I would assume that I am not alone here, but I struggle with stamina.

How do I last longer?

 

[klippert]

Okay, trying not to open myself to ridicule. I would assume that I am not alone here, but I struggle with stamina.

How do I last longer?

This is the greater of all ED concerns...first, don't watch porn and compare yourself. Don't by anything on line...speak with your doctor. The future looks bright. "Evil" American Big Pharma (Johnson/Johnson) are funding Dapoxetine

Evil FDA had some concerns in 2006, the 'Manufacture' has addressed them...but, that didn't stop the FDA from a 10yr 'we'll get back to you'

 

[HayleyLuvsSex]

jack off beforehand

 

[tnhardon]

Okay, trying not to open myself to ridicule. I would assume that I am not alone here, but I struggle with stamina.

How do I last longer?

Honestly, practice makes perfect. I find that when I have less sex or masturbate less that I have more issues with stamina. I would try to build up your stamina by trying that first.

 

[SquirtnBrat]

Okay, trying not to open myself to ridicule. I would assume that I am not alone here, but I struggle with stamina.

How do I last longer?

Age?
What is your sexual experience like?
Surveys suggest men last 10-20minutes on average. If you can go for round 2 you're doing better then most! Some women like a guy who can offer them quickies and spend more time on foreplay then the act itself. So as long as it's pleasing your partner, no worries!

Lesss time watching porn, more time masturbating alone, trying to figure out how to edge without busting too soon.
If my hubby is going to cum when I am not ready for him too, using a firm grip on the base of his shaft will slow things down. There is a certain twist of my wrist type motion... I couldn't properly describe it if I wanted to.
Good Luck! Have fun!

 

[MilkFountain]

Great question! Easily answered:

Okay, trying not to open myself to ridicule. I would assume that I am not alone here, but I struggle with stamina.

How do I last longer?

Don't be embarrassed. STAMINA lies in FIVE areas:

1. First, desire: to be lustful, turned on, obsessively wanting someone, consider the prerequisites:
a. In good health, no cigarettes, not drunk . . . either normally rested or have slept and woken during the night, before your "second sleep."
b. Be physically fit!
c. Recognize the moment and seize it!
d. Focused, undistracted.

2. Second . . . to be free of society and its "norms, to know how to be selfish, to be worshipful and considerate of your partner--all at the same time."

3. Develop a good imagination, unencumbered by what society dictates, mindful of your partner's comments or reactions to whatever you signal that you want (need!) to do.

4. Know in your bone marrow that, as you build to shooting and, especially, as you shoot, it's your desire to make life explode in her.

5. ENJOY!

 

[MakeMeSweat]

I am 40 and well, not physically fit. Which I assume is a large part of the problem.

I think along the way, masturbation wasn't a means of slow enjoyment but to quickly explodes I as not to get caught - in my teen years and early adult life. I guess I am hoping I didn't "break" anything and can retrain myself.

 

[SquirtnBrat]

I am 40 and well, not physically fit. Which I assume is a large part of the problem.

I think along the way, masturbation wasn't a means of slow enjoyment but to quickly explodes I as not to get caught - in my teen years and early adult life. I guess I am hoping I didn't "break" anything and can retrain myself.

I doubt you broke it! It's all muscle memory. Like training yourself to hurry, you can train yourself to slow down. With a partner it may be easier to focus on the other persons pleasure then worrying about crossing that finish line yourself.
Burpees and squats are quick that can help you meet your fitness goals. Each exercise has many variations, find the modification that works for you at your level. Obviously you won't be able to do a clap pushup the first time, but you can always add to the workout when you feel yourself plateau.
Good Luck!

 

[bluesbreaker_69]

Discuss it with your partner and relax and enjoy good foreplay building up the length of time before ejaculation. Learn when to switch attention to your partner and their pleasures before returning to yours.

 

[klippert]

plenty of good suggestion.. accept...it's not just a muscle that's at issue, may be due to a combination of hypersensitivity of the penis and hyperspasticity of the pelvic muscles*. Just doing 1000 sit-up or Burpees aren't going to save the moment. and not done correctly...cause injury. then what do you have

since the Mid 90's and do to the increase prescribed anti-depressants (go figure) they found an interesting side affect that has lead researchers to tilt more towards "serotonin". Serotonin is the key ingredient in stamina...ejaculation.

i'm not saying don't exercise those muscle. And don't go running out and claiming your depressed....I know plenty of people that have been prescribed anti-depressants. They have other side affects too...they either can't get it up, or they have to crank on it to get something hard enough for sex...and can lose it in an instant.

*
mens health Center research

 

[suckonsimon]

Are you willing to tell us some more, MMS? Is the issue one or more of the following:

Are you finding your erection softens before you ejaculate?
Or is it more a mental thing: that the desire and drive fizzles mid intercourse?
Or that you are cumming sooner than you want to as a kind of short cut to concluding all the spending of energy?
Or something else about which you are willing to be specific?

And meanwhile ... one or two of the exchanges on my herbals thread - a click from my signature - may speak to your issue helpfully.

All the best with your endeavours to sort this mate. Your thread will be helping loads of other guys no doubt, so good on you for opening up about it.

Simon.