Squirting

[JanuaryGirl]

I have been doing some research on porn for my husband and I to watch together. I have been seeing lots of squirting orgasms, and I can't believe they are real. I heard that some are fake.

My question is this: How common is it to really squirt and can you develop the talent? Is the orgasm stronger than a "regular" one?

thank you!

JG

 

[Paxter]

Hi JG. This is a commonly asked question and a much discussed topic. I would suggest that you check out this thread.
http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=70892

Good luck in your quest for knowledge and the ultimate orgasm.

 

[elib257]

I know it's real - I've done it myself. However, my squirting orgasms are never as exciting as in the porn world (or any of the sex I have for that matter...). I'd take it all with a pinch of salt if I were you but if you look at the stickys at the top of the page I'm sure you'll find lots of information about it and how to do it - maybe.

 

[bearlee]

I have been doing some research on porn for my husband and I to watch together. I have been seeing lots of squirting orgasms, and I can't believe they are real. I heard that some are fake.

My question is this: How common is it to really squirt and can you develop the talent? Is the orgasm stronger than a "regular" one?

thank you!

JG

My wife and we didn't think it was real until we met a guy that somewhat speicalizes in doing it. Please believe me, it's real. As far as being stronger, she didn't say it was. It does last a long time and it never seems to stop unless the person doing it stops. Awesome to see. So, my wife wife wasn't a believer and I had never really given it much thought but we've seen and we believe.


The talent to do it I guess you can read about different places. I will say it for the person making it happen it seems to take a lot of work.

One added the benefit is the taste. Pure sweetness is what I noticed. If that's always true I don't know. What I know is the guy doing it is in big demand. His cell phone never stopped ringing.

Probably not much help, but yeah, it's real.

 

[dirtycarol]

O.k.....That's one thing I've never done.

 

[SweetErika]

Female ejaculation is real, but some women do fake it (either intentionally or unintentionally).

This is the best article I've read on it, hands down, because it's based on reasearch and facts, instead of hype: http://www.the-clitoris.com/f_html/ejacula.htm

It's longish, but well worth the read.

To answer your questions, it's more about learning to be comfortable with your body, relaxing fully, finding the technique(s) that work for you, specifically, and seeing if it happens, than developing some kind of talent. Some women can ejaculate, others can't - there's nothing wrong or more right about either way. If you try to force it, you'll likely end up with a fake ejaculation or nothing at all.

I haven't found orgasms with ejaculation to be particularly better than those without. Physically, there's a different feeling of build-up and release, kinda like the pleasure I get from peeing when I have to go really bad. A g-spot orgasm alone is definitely not more pleasurable than one that combines good clitoral and g-spot stimulation, so without the clit stim, it's not all that great for me.

A lot of people thrive on the mental component of female ejaculation. I think many men elevate it to 'the best thing ever' because there's more of a visual component (at least in porn; in real life, it's often more of a big gush of fluid) and they feel a greater sense of accomplishment because of that. Some women have been convinced ejaculation is the mark of a 'real' or 'superior' orgasm, too, and thus strive to achieve it and/or interpret it as more pleasurable when it happens.

Not that it's not pleasurable or cool when it happens; I just think there's a lot of undeserved hype around it and it's pretty ridiculous for people to start thinking orgasms without ejaculation are somehow less valid/pleasurable or that women who ejaculate are superior.

 

[Mr.G]

Interesting perspective

""I haven't found orgasms with ejaculation to be particularly better than those without. Physically, there's a different feeling of build-up and release, kinda like the pleasure I get from peeing when I have to go really bad. A g-spot orgasm alone is definitely not more pleasurable than one that combines good clitoral and g-spot stimulation, so without the clit stim, it's not all that great for me.""

Thanks. That's the kind of feedback I've had posted over on TRY THIS too. Nobody has made the claim that ejaculating increases the intensity of the orgasm AT ALL. Not one. That's why I wonder why all of a sudden spewing is THE goal of so many couples. Probably due to all the silly firehose porn clips.

I have had tons of posts and P/IMs that tell me the GSpot O's or G-Gasms ARE much more intense than regular clitoral but many find them both of equal levels of pleasure. It is interesting getting the various perspectives. Hopefully it will put some rational perspective on couple's desire to cause an ejaculation orgasm.

If ejaculating greatly increased orgasm intensity I could understand the goal but for MOST it doesn't seem to and most of my PMs run along the lines these days of "OK I got there. Made a big mess. How do I stop doing it now. We used to have sex all over the house, in the car ... now I'm scared to because of the mess."

Hmmmm quite the "goal."

NOT.

 

[RozieMozie]

SweetErika and Mr. G - ty so much for ur contribution to this topic! ... i didnt learn about squirting unil i licked a lady for the first time, i was warned tht she was a squirter and she had a towel under her to take care of the mess ... sure it was cool to watch when it happened ... but while i licking her i was uneasy about getting her juices all over her face (i hate my face being wet!) ... i wondered if it was better to squirt or felt better ... i had someone tell me tht he could make any lady squirt and i never thought about the possibility of doing it myself until then ... though the two of u have just reconfirmed how comfortable i am with how i cum ...

ty again! ... im sure tht what u two said will help other ladies feel comfortable with who thy r too!

 

[SweetErika]

i had someone tell me tht he could make any lady squirt and i never thought about the possibility of doing it myself until then ... though the two of u have just reconfirmed how comfortable i am with how i cum ...

ty again! ... im sure tht what u two said will help other ladies feel comfortable with who thy r too!

I'm glad it helped.

Anyone who says something like, "I can make any woman squirt (come, enjoy anal, fuck me, etc.)" is full of bullshit, plain and simple. Some people aren't capable of certain things physically, others aren't interested in doing them and no one can make someone do something they can't or won't do. Men who say shit like that are usually desperate, clueless, or have an overblown ego, none of which are remotely attractive traits, IMO.

On a completely unrelated note, what's up with all of the text-speak ("u," "r," "tht," etc.)? Are you posting from a cell phone? Or is your ISP charging you by the letter?

 

[where]

at the ripe ole age of 43 I've only just started gushing ( wonder sometimes if porn 'squirters have a jif lemon up there and just have real strong muscles!). It does feel different and more 'whole body' than a clit orgasm alone. I get them riding my rock chick which does also give clit stim and if I get both together I'm wrecked.

Sadly Mr TRB hasn't picked up on my suggestions I got of Mr G's awsome thread, but I intend passing them onto my potential fb should the situation arise

 

[WriterDom]

I've found that while there are young squirters, many women don't start until later in life. Mid thirties to forties.

 

[saraga99]

Good and Bad

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[VoicesMP]

A lot of people thrive on the mental component of female ejaculation. I think many men elevate it to 'the best thing ever' because there's more of a visual component (at least in porn; in real life, it's often more of a big gush of fluid) and they feel a greater sense of accomplishment because of that. Some women have been convinced ejaculation is the mark of a 'real' or 'superior' orgasm, too, and thus strive to achieve it and/or interpret it as more pleasurable when it happens.

I completely agree that there's a mental connection in men to the ejaculation and pleasure. It's a physically showing that they achieved the goal of providing us with some sort of satisfaction. There are so many stories about women faking orgasms that when they see the squirt of fluid they know they did things right.

I also find that they aren't much better in the sense of stronger sensation so much as the feeling of release. The combination of clit and g-spot stim has the best affects for an orgasm if not necessarily an ejaculation. Ejaculation is somewhat overrated, and just causes messy beds or whatever you're on.

 

[SweetErika]

I completely agree that there's a mental connection in men to the ejaculation and pleasure. It's a physically showing that they achieved the goal of providing us with some sort of satisfaction. There are so many stories about women faking orgasms that when they see the squirt of fluid they know they did things right.

I also find that they aren't much better in the sense of stronger sensation so much as the feeling of release. The combination of clit and g-spot stim has the best affects for an orgasm if not necessarily an ejaculation. Ejaculation is somewhat overrated, and just causes messy beds or whatever you're on.

Or they think it's more evidence they're doing things right. Female ejaculation can be faked to the point where most men don't know the difference, just like female orgasms.

It'd be nice if we could get over the questions of real vs. fake, orgasm vs. no orgasm and ejaculation vs. no ejaculation, and just trust our partners when they say they enjoy themselves. I hate the 'I need proof,' 'My partner needs to orgasm,' 'She should come ___ way,' and 'X result is better than Y result' mindsets with a passion. I need my partners to trust what I say, trust me to know my own body and be willing to explore without the notion that they know better than me or certain activities and results are superior/more valid than others. That--not whether I ejaculate or do XYZ, or not--is the mark of a great lover and enjoyable sexual experience.

 

[VoicesMP]

It'd be nice if we could get over the questions of real vs. fake, orgasm vs. no orgasm and ejaculation vs. no ejaculation, and just trust our partners when they say they enjoy themselves. I hate the 'I need proof,' 'My partner needs to orgasm,' 'She should come ___ way,' and 'X result is better than Y result' mindsets with a passion. I need my partners to trust what I say, trust me to know my own body and be willing to explore without the notion that they know better than me or certain activities and results are superior/more valid than others. That--not whether I ejaculate or do XYZ, or not--is the mark of a great lover and enjoyable sexual experience.

Completely agreed. Sex is so much better when you trust the other person is going enjoy themselves fully and not have to worry about what proof they show you. It's entirely possible for a person, either male or female, to have an amazing sexual experience without having to ejaculate everywhere. Most people automatically connect ejaculation to pleasure. Mr. Voices and I will have incredible sex without him getting off, which I sometimes feel bad about, but it's about the experience and not the end result. Trust that you please the other person and that they please you and not worry about how much either of you squirt.

 

[readerandlover]

Thanks for this reply!

And even though men say they like it...episodes like last night still embarrass, especially if through oral sex, as I feel like I am about to drown the poor man! Just can't help feeling that way.

Don't be embarrassed! Even if a fella did drown that way, it would be the happiest death anyone could ask for!

 

[saraga99]

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[rod10275]

It is real. My wife has squirted and gushed large amounts of juice. I have used clitoral and oral to get her to that point.

As a guy I have to agree it is very satisfying to stimulate my partner to such an orgasm.

 

[In Anticipation]

I know it's real - I've done it myself. However, my squirting orgasms are never as exciting as in the porn world (or any of the sex I have for that matter...). I'd take it all with a pinch of salt if I were you but if you look at the stickys at the top of the page I'm sure you'll find lots of information about it and how to do it - maybe.

How appropriate!

I've never experienced a woman squirting. Plenty of liquid yes, although I don't know how you measure it.

Some of the stuff you see on porn is ridiculous, bucket loads . . .

 

[asas2004]

true

It's very true
I didn't experience it with my wife untill lately
But guys that's awsome
It happens everytime
As long as I continue it cums out again and again till she begs me to stop.
The story is how to arouse her first and give her one clitoral orgasm then go for her G-SPOT till she has some few ejaculatory orgasms.
Be aware to cover the sheets ....... lol

 

[weedwhacker]

For many years my wife claimed to not be able to orgasm at all. It turned out that she was a squirter(or gusher)and was embarrassed by it. Now that we got over this hump, she orgasms and gushes everytime we have sex.

 

[JanuaryGirl]

Wow!

Thanks Everyone!

I really have enjoyed reading everyone's thoughts. I want to clarify that I was equating the female ejaculation with a full body orgasm.

I have always had amazing clitoral orgasms, but never really strong orgasms from penetration. I saw a video of a full body, g spot orgasm (with some squirting) and I was thinking it looked stronger and longer than my "normal" clitoral orgasms.

The human body is so complex, and we are all so different in our reactions - it is a pleasure to read all the comments.

I totally agree that people who are trying to hard to achieve an orgasm (squirting or not) sometimes can miss the point of making love.

I think we are programmed to get our partner off first and foremost and for me, I have been working on slowing down with my husband and enjoying the buildup more.

Thanks again!

JG

 

[mynameiskate]

I think I'd actually prefer not to squirt. The less messy, the better.

 

[Tawny_Temptress]

I squirt. It is real. When i first did it I thought it was urine. It is very messy and very intense.

 

[CmdrSymax]

My wife squirts and it's the greatest thing in the world. It took us a few times to figure out what was going on. Now that we know how natural and hot it is, we treasure it as a great part of our life together.

For me, personally, I love it when she drenches me (and so does she, BTW).