Speaking of rebounds..

[Soblue]

Oh, that was me, talking to myself.

Anyway, I am ending my rebound relationship. The one I started after my husband left us. You know, 3 years without sex and you've got to grab onto someone quickly for what you've been missing.

So now that it's ending, I'm not feeling any regrets. Did I use him? Maybe a little, did he use me? Most likely. I wish he'd be more sensible and just walk away though. He keeps calling, and calling, and calling.

Do you all think it’s a mistake to have a rebound relationship? Did you recognize it for what it was? Or was it something more. Are you still with them? My girlfriend says she married her rebound. That was 8 years ago, and they’re still together. Mine lasted 6 months.

 

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[mbb308]

Focus on why your hubby left you

Focus on why you're ducking me . . . .

 

[Aquila]

Oh, that was me, talking to myself.

Anyway, I am ending my rebound relationship. The one I started after my husband left us. You know, 3 years without sex and you've got to grab onto someone quickly for what you've been missing.

So now that it's ending, I'm not feeling any regrets. Did I use him? Maybe a little, did he use me? Most likely. I wish he'd be more sensible and just walk away though. He keeps calling, and calling, and calling.

Do you all think it’s a mistake to have a rebound relationship? Did you recognize it for what it was? Or was it something more. Are you still with them? My girlfriend says she married her rebound. That was 8 years ago, and they’re still together. Mine lasted 6 months.

does he know he was a rebound and that your ending it? or have you not informed him yet?

 

[Bob_Bytchin]

I think we all have "rebound" relationships. When you can recognize this fact, it's so much easier. After ending a long-term relationship, you should keep this in mind, and not expect anything more than a "get it out of my system" relationship with the next person.

Is that a bad thing? No not really. I know that if I was involved with some woman who just got divorced or broke it off with a boyfriend, I wouldn't expect anything long-term from her.

** edited to add - It's not a bad thing to do as long as you let the person know that they are probably a "rebound."

 

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[Soblue]

I guess I thought it would work out in the beginning. Who goes looking for short term relationships? I don't think I could.

I wouldn't be that cruel to tell someone they are a rebounder. But that's how it worked out. I can see it now looking back on it though.

 

[Aquila]

I guess I thought it would work out in the beginning. Who goes looking for short term relationships? I don't think I could.

I wouldn't be that cruel to tell someone they are a rebounder. But that's how it worked out. I can see it now looking back on it though.

Nothing wrong with rebounds, and short terms, just so long as when you get into it, both y'all know your just there for sex.
But Im a denerate, so don't truse me on that one.

 

[Bob_Bytchin]

I guess I thought it would work out in the beginning. Who goes looking for short term relationships? I don't think I could.

I wouldn't be that cruel to tell someone they are a rebounder. But that's how it worked out. I can see it now looking back on it though.

I don't see it as cruel...I see it as being truthful.

Sometimes the rebounds do work out for the better. But if you sit down with the person ahead of time and say "Hey, I just got out of a long-term relationship with someone, and although I don't want you to be a rebound, I have to be honest and say that it may end up that way...but I hope it won't."....nothing cruel about that, and you're being honest with yourself and the other person.

 

[Soblue]

Yeah Bob, I did say those things. I went in with reservations, and a broken, barely working heart. He knew that, we talked about it.

 

[427cobra]

Nothing wrong with a rebound. Had a few myself. They can be great for getting back into the swing of things, as long as you keep in mind that they are not more than that. I'd not have minded being yours, though.