soreness - help!

[bunny bondage]

ok - here's the skinny. as i'm sure you already know, i'm currently in a relationship with this "Him" i keep refering to. now, He loves doing all kinds of naughty things with me, and i can handle all of them - the spanking, whipping, biting, etc. the one thing that i've had to say no to is the most common thing of all - sex. now, this isn't because i don't want to, it's just that i get sore. i mean SORE. i hate to say no, as i just hate not being able to please Him, and though He tells me He's not disappointed with me or angry, i know it's got to be frustrating. and i'd love to just grin and bear it, being a masochist and all, but i just break down, start crying, and the pain is too much.

so here's my question - HELP! ok, that's not really a question. i wanted to ask if there's anything i can do to ease this. it's not a lubrication problem (He often tells me that i get more "excited" than He's ever seen before) but after a day of satisfying His EXTREME sex drive, i just can't take it anymore. i've heard of the numbing products, but that seems like it would just temporarily fix the problem and the after-effects would be even worse. aren't there some stretches i can do or some super special secret i'm not aware of?

thanks for your input in advance!

 

[Pure]

Hi Bunny B,

This is strictly a lay opinion--well, non-medical. But it seems to me that physical causes should first be ruled out, namely low level vaginal or urinary infections, including yeast, and Chlamydia.
Get the actual testing.

Other factors might be the angle or depth of penetration.

There was a thread here where several woman described a variety of sensitivities of pussy, from 'delicate' to 'brick shit house' construction. Annanbelle Chong fucked a couple hundred guys, for instance; and walked away. So some of the issue is just what you're born with, so to say.

You may, if really delicate, have to limit penentration sessions; fortunately, as you know the orgasm doesn't depend on penetration.

Best,
J.

 

[Quint]

Just wanted to say I empathize sooo much, bunny. I only see T every other month or so, and so when I wake up the morning after a delirious first night and I can't even let him enter me, I feel like an amazing disappointment. I'm almost always supersaturated by the time he enters me and so my problem isn't with lubrication either.

This past visit (Spring Break), I had the least problems with being sore ever, and I think I've gotten a few reasons why that may or may not help you.

First, I played with lots of insertables on my own time beforehand. I reestablished that nice pounding penetration and essentially told my body to get used it it, cuz more is coming. I don't know how often you get to play with Him, but perhaps if you have some spare hours, get some stretching and acclimating action going on your own. When you control the factors (pace, depth, etc.), I've found you don't get nearly as sore.

Second, I eased off the exercises. I do lots of Kegels and that has the double effect of making me deliciously tight...and then excruciatingly sore. They freeze my muscles in that tighter position, and so a LOT more stretching and pain occur when I do them. He actually told me to quit doing them so damned diligently--and we barely noticed the difference. I could still contract around his cock during sex for added tightness, but there was no need to prime myself for him beforehand.

Gotta say, though, this is a time when enjoyment of anal sex is a plus. Any other orifice that satisfies him when one just isn't functioning is a blessing! I hope this helps, bunny...and don't get too down on yourself! o)

 

[bunny bondage]

thanks for the advice, pure! i didn't know doing excercizes could actually make it worse! i do work out every day, and while i don't know what a kagel is, i do lifts and things which do tighten those muscles.

i see him almost every day, (except sundays on which i go see my dad) so i'm afraid that extra solitary play would just make it worse, but i do think a little "stretching" would probably help a bundle. as for anal sex, neither of us have an interest in it, and that sounds like it would hurt even more!

thanks again, pure, i do have a particularly large pink "friend" here which would probably help to condition my body some.

 

[WillowPuss]

bb - do you use any form of protection for penatrative sex? I am just wondering if you might be sensative to rubber/latex/whatever.

 

[bunny bondage]

bb - do you use any form of protection for penatrative sex? I am just wondering if you might be sensative to rubber/latex/whatever.

no we don't. we're both clean (yes we had recent tests) and i'm on the pill. i know, i know, it's safer to use every form of protection, but yes, i do have bad reactions to condoms (especially the unlubricated kind, itchy rash and the like) but thanks for your concern!

 

[Pure]

Hi,

That remark about latex bring up another area to look at; irritations. Any chemicals from jells etc. Any substances that might irritate; do you use only silicone items that can be boiled.

Also the wearing of tight or noncotton panties; maybe the place needs a bit of airing!!

Good luck.

 

[bunny bondage]

Hi,

That remark about latex bring up another area to look at; irritations. Any chemicals from jells etc. Any substances that might irritate; do you use only silicone items that can be boiled.

Also the wearing of tight or noncotton panties; maybe the place needs a bit of airing!!

Good luck.

i'm a pretty "all natural" kinda gal. i don't use jells or douches or lubes or edible panties or anything. but can wearing panties really have this kind of side effect? it would be easy enough to just walk around my house panty-less, i guess i just never thought about it! my usual home-wear is a shirt of His and my bra/panty selection for the day. but you really think removing the panties could help?

 

[Solitude]

i'm a pretty "all natural" kinda gal. i don't use jells or douches or lubes or edible panties or anything. but can wearing panties really have this kind of side effect? it would be easy enough to just walk around my house panty-less, i guess i just never thought about it! my usual home-wear is a shirt of His and my bra/panty selection for the day. but you really think removing the panties could help?

*chuckles*

Maybe it will help, maybe it won't, but I'm willing to bet you won't hear any complaints from Him.

 

[TxBelle]

I need some help too. I was up until dawn and then slept til 4:30 this afternoon. I had two gorgeous guys in my bed last night who were doing their best to make me happy. The result is that every orfice I have is sore, swollen, and thanks to our friends rather long nails I'm cut too. Hell my lips are even raw....yes both sets! My husband hands are large and he gets a little rough so eventhough it felt great then I'm paying for it now. Even my tail bone hurts and I haven't figured that one out yet. Is there something I could use as a soak in the tub that wouldn't burn too bad? Or is tub soak even a good idea until I heal up? The shower was fine but the soap was a really bad idea. I also think i hurt my neck. It's only a little stiff but everytime I turn my head I get vertigo.

 

[WillowPuss]

i'm a pretty "all natural" kinda gal. i don't use jells or douches or lubes or edible panties or anything. but can wearing panties really have this kind of side effect? it would be easy enough to just walk around my house panty-less, i guess i just never thought about it! my usual home-wear is a shirt of His and my bra/panty selection for the day. but you really think removing the panties could help?

It certainly might help

Ummmmmm ... I really hate to mention this - but is there any possibility you might be allergic to his semen? I have a friend who has an awful reaction every time her skin comes in contact with her husbands semen.

 

[Ebonyfire]

I need some help too. I was up until dawn and then slept til 4:30 this afternoon. I had two gorgeous guys in my bed last night who were doing their best to make me happy. The result is that every orfice I have is sore, swollen, and thanks to our friends rather long nails I'm cut too. Hell my lips are even raw....yes both sets! My husband hands are large and he gets a little rough so eventhough it felt great then I'm paying for it now. Even my tail bone hurts and I haven't figured that one out yet. Is there something I could use as a soak in the tub that wouldn't burn too bad? Or is tub soak even a good idea until I heal up? The shower was fine but the soap was a really bad idea. I also think i hurt my neck. It's only a little stiff but everytime I turn my head I get vertigo.

Epsom Salt tub soak.

Does wonders.

 

[Ebonyfire]

ok - here's the skinny. as i'm sure you already know, i'm currently in a relationship with this "Him" i keep refering to. now, He loves doing all kinds of naughty things with me, and i can handle all of them - the spanking, whipping, biting, etc. the one thing that i've had to say no to is the most common thing of all - sex. now, this isn't because i don't want to, it's just that i get sore. i mean SORE. i hate to say no, as i just hate not being able to please Him, and though He tells me He's not disappointed with me or angry, i know it's got to be frustrating. and i'd love to just grin and bear it, being a masochist and all, but i just break down, start crying, and the pain is too much.

so here's my question - HELP! ok, that's not really a question. i wanted to ask if there's anything i can do to ease this. it's not a lubrication problem (He often tells me that i get more "excited" than He's ever seen before) but after a day of satisfying His EXTREME sex drive, i just can't take it anymore. i've heard of the numbing products, but that seems like it would just temporarily fix the problem and the after-effects would be even worse. aren't there some stretches i can do or some super special secret i'm not aware of?

thanks for your input in advance!

Take less showers and more tub baths. For some reason women who soak in a hot tub more have less problems with everything vagina related.

Try adding Epsom Salts to the bath water. It helps.

 

[kayte]

I need some help too. I was up until dawn and then slept til 4:30 this afternoon. I had two gorgeous guys in my bed last night who were doing their best to make me happy. The result is that every orfice I have is sore, swollen, and thanks to our friends rather long nails I'm cut too. Hell my lips are even raw....yes both sets! My husband hands are large and he gets a little rough so eventhough it felt great then I'm paying for it now. Even my tail bone hurts and I haven't figured that one out yet. Is there something I could use as a soak in the tub that wouldn't burn too bad? Or is tub soak even a good idea until I heal up? The shower was fine but the soap was a really bad idea. I also think i hurt my neck. It's only a little stiff but everytime I turn my head I get vertigo.

TxBelle ~ The best thing is Epsom Salts and a cool, not hot not cold but just cool water...

 

[kayte]

Looks like Eb beat me to to it. Waving, good afternoon Eb.

 

[redelicious]

Hi Bunny, it looks like you have gotten a lot of very good advice.

Pure said something about angle or depth of penitration. I know that positioning can affect this. I read somewhere that women most often have difficulty being entered from behind - in this position your partner has more control and accessablility (well duh Red). I have had problems with this myself because my uterus is slightly tilted, and well you know some guys just aren't *ahem* curved in a way that is compatable. The article I read also said that the easiest position for women is with her on top, because then she can control the angle and depth (for what it is worth).

One other thing to think about is birth control. Sometimes hormones can cause you to experience sexual disfuntion. Usually this is limited to vaginal dryness (which you have said doesn't apply), but I think in some cases it could be a factor in the type of pain you are talking about.

 

[Ebonyfire]

Looks like Eb beat me to to it. Waving, good afternoon Eb.

Hi Kayte. I personally prefer a hot bath. But to each his or her own .

 

[kayte]

Hi Kayte. I personally prefer a hot bath. But to each his or her own .

I think I am one of the odd ones. I like a hot shower as general rule.

But soaking in epsom salts can aid irritation.

Hope you are having a great day.

 

[Ebonyfire]

I think I am one of the odd ones. I like a hot shower as general rule.

But soaking in epsom salts can aid irritation.

Hope you are having a great day. [/QUOTE

I am.

I read somewhere that women who soak in a tub frequently have less vaginal infections than women who only shower.

I do not know how true it is, but if you like baths it makes a good excuse. I take hot showers too, but I love a hot bath. In the summer I take cool showers and lukewarm baths.

 

[redelicious]

Hey again Bunny...

All this talk of baths and vaginal infections reminded me of something else I read...not sure if it was here or at a similar website. Anyway, someone suggested using a tampon coated with yogurt to ease irritation. I think what happens is that you naturally have a certain amount of bacteria in your vagina. When that amount is disrupted somehow you can experience problems (think this is why some women get yeast infections when they take antibiotics). I think the yogurt is supposed to help you maintain the proper balance.

The things I read.

 

[Ebonyfire]

Hey again Bunny...

All this talk of baths and vaginal infections reminded me of something else I read...not sure if it was here or at a similar website. Anyway, someone suggested using a tampon coated with yogurt to ease irritation. I think what happens is that you naturally have a certain amount of bacteria in your vagina. When that amount is disrupted somehow you can experience problems (think this is why some women get yeast infections when they take antibiotics). I think the yogurt is supposed to help you maintain the proper balance.

The things I read.

Adding acidophilus to water and douching works too.

Of course I am please to announce ot you young ladies that when you are an old bird like Me (post-menopausal) you can kiss yeast infection goodbye!

 

[bunny bondage]

It certainly might help

Ummmmmm ... I really hate to mention this - but is there any possibility you might be allergic to his semen? I have a friend who has an awful reaction every time her skin comes in contact with her husbands semen.

well that's strange....but no, it's not His semen. i never get sore after we have sex once or twice in a day, it's only after He's been after me five times in an afternoon or such (He's VERY virile)

 

[bunny bondage]

Re: Re: soreness - help!

Take less showers and more tub baths. For some reason women who soak in a hot tub more have less problems with everything vagina related.

Try adding Epsom Salts to the bath water. It helps.

i had never even thought of that. perhaps a nice book and a bath would be pleasant from time to time. good advice, thanks a bundle, Eb! ^_^

 

[bunny bondage]

Hi Bunny, it looks like you have gotten a lot of very good advice.

Pure said something about angle or depth of penitration. I know that positioning can affect this. I read somewhere that women most often have difficulty being entered from behind - in this position your partner has more control and accessablility (well duh Red). I have had problems with this myself because my uterus is slightly tilted, and well you know some guys just aren't *ahem* curved in a way that is compatable. The article I read also said that the easiest position for women is with her on top, because then she can control the angle and depth (for what it is worth).

One other thing to think about is birth control. Sometimes hormones can cause you to experience sexual disfuntion. Usually this is limited to vaginal dryness (which you have said doesn't apply), but I think in some cases it could be a factor in the type of pain you are talking about.

i have noticed that i get sore quicker when He's coming in from behind, so the whole angle thing does affect it, and i've asked Him to pick another position when i know that i'm gettin' kinda sore. i didn't know birth control could make ya sore, but i had this problem with another guy before i was on the pill, so i don't think that's it....thanks for your advice, red, i do think that less doggy-style would help. thanks! ^_^

 

[bunny bondage]

Hey again Bunny...

All this talk of baths and vaginal infections reminded me of something else I read...not sure if it was here or at a similar website. Anyway, someone suggested using a tampon coated with yogurt to ease irritation. I think what happens is that you naturally have a certain amount of bacteria in your vagina. When that amount is disrupted somehow you can experience problems (think this is why some women get yeast infections when they take antibiotics). I think the yogurt is supposed to help you maintain the proper balance.

The things I read.

umm.....i think i'll save the yogurt for a last-resort kind of thing! lol! thanks though, and if it gets bad enough, i guess i'll be willing to try anything! as long as it's not that fruit-on-the-bottom kind, i hate that stuff!