somnophilia

[satindesire]

I think you have to consent before entry. If men are allowed to negotiate consent after entry, that opens a whole can of worms.

A woman might enjoy sex very much...but not all the time. There might be times, for instance during her beauty rest, when she'd rather not be used as a receptacle for male stress.

Some pervs, allergic to consent, like to seek out those moments.

You wouldn't happen to know anyone like that, wouldja?

 

[eastern sun]

One reason this is hot is just the old-fashioned-ness of it.

100 years ago no one would have thought it "perverse" for a husband to awake in the night with needs and then take what was rightfully his in the eyes of god and man.

Now here in the 21st century we need to be in the BDSM forum to even be talking about this and there's a frisson attached to it that's only a couple degrees from rape.

Honestly, I have always assumed this was part of everyone's sex life.

 

[Netzach]

Does aggressive action involving morning wood count? I really like persisting till "wha? now?" becomes "yes."

I remember the myth of Selene/Endymion *really* fucking made me hot.

OTOH, I am a heavy sleeper, and my vanilla ex must have misinterpreted my behavior as being awake because I woke up to mystery condom in the trash and asked him about it and he was floored that I wasn't awake. I was *so* furious at him, which wasn't really logical, but mine is not a sexuality of fairness. We were on the sexual outs and I found myself ridiculed for my kink and denied sex when I wanted it, so it was not helping things at all. I think that was my mental last straw.

Nothing, as in No - thing appeals to me as the receptive in this. But the do-er? Absolutely.

 

[AmelieStar]

I find the idea of it all makes me insatiably hawt.

My SO quite likes to partake too, especially when I've not exactly been forthcoming with dishing out the intimacy. However he's yet to get inventive with the cling film (Saran wrap?), as Marquis suggested earlier in the thread, fully wrapping the victim, cutting out any hole that's a goal sounds simply divine.

On the consensual side of things, I believe it goes down to one of a couple of things - the dynamics of your relationship are such that the dominant one shouldn't/wouldn't need to ask consent, or if you believe it exists.... Consensual non consent pre event. But I can't decide if I think that's practicing safely with limits or just simply topping from the bottom.

Meh, it makes me horny as hell for Him and he usually gets the desired result so I'm not even sure it matters too much!

 

[celticsunspiral]

Yes I quite agree that this is sooo hot. Definitly been on my list of fantasies, tried to get my x to do it but he never did. I think one time he played a bit but got not much response so he stopped.

A way long time ago I was sleeping in the same bed as an x. And he started touching me, I played sleep, but he kept it up and we wound up having sex. I played a sleep the whole time. To me thinking about it it is almost a bondage type thing which is my fetish. The lose of control or inability to controll what is happening, no decision to make but to stay still. mmmmmm.

 

[SomNinja]

I've just been looking on Google at some links. It seems this fetish is almost always thought of as being male only, often confused with necrophilia, and promoted as being quite dangerous by most sites! I suppose that could be said of a fair few fetishes, but maybe this gets more harsh treatment than most?

Here's an example:

Somnophilia is a paraphilia that is also well-known as sleeping princess pattern in which the sexual attention spotlights on forward on and waking a sleeping visitor with erotic touches without the use of strength or violence. The word has been derived from the Latin word somnus meaning sleep.

Facts and Tips about Somnophilia

• Somnophilia is the sexual support with rubbing the body parts by finger without power when spouse is resting or sleeping and it is also known as sleeping princess syndrome.
• It is a behavioral confusion consists of sexual desire, fantasy, kissing, rubbing and stimulation.
• Somnophilia is caused due to psychological troubles.
• Behavioral treatment, pair and sex remedy will manage the symptoms of this condition.
• Give correct sex method teaching to somnophilic men to develop their quality of behavior.
• Take advice of your physician for any trouble regarding to sexual intercourse.

Symptoms of Somnophilia

• Sexual liking for unconscious
• Sexual liking for sleeping person
• Irregular amount of time spent thinking about unconscious or sleeping person
• Recurring strong sexual desires involving unconscious or sleeping person
• Recurring strong sexual advises involving unconscious or sleeping person

No mention that it could involve consent of both partners and especially the female?! I'm quite shocked!

 

[rosco rathbone]

I've just been looking on Google at some links. It seems this fetish is almost always thought of as being male only, often confused with necrophilia, and promoted as being quite dangerous by most sites! I suppose that could be said of a fair few fetishes, but maybe this gets more harsh treatment than most?

Here's an example:




No mention that it could involve consent of both partners and especially the female?! I'm quite shocked!

That looks like it was badly translated from Arabic.

 

[midwestyankee]

One of the hottest stories from Anais Nin's Delta of Venus tells of a man who takes his wife this way.

 

[AmelieStar]

I've just been looking on Google at some links. It seems this fetish is almost always thought of as being male only, often confused with necrophilia, and promoted as being quite dangerous by most sites! I suppose that could be said of a fair few fetishes, but maybe this gets more harsh treatment than most?

Here's an example:
Somnophilia is a paraphilia that is also well-known as sleeping princess pattern in which the sexual attention spotlights on forward on and waking a sleeping visitor with erotic touches without the use of strength or violence. The word has been derived from the Latin word somnus meaning sleep.

Facts and Tips about Somnophilia

• Somnophilia is the sexual support with rubbing the body parts by finger without power when spouse is resting or sleeping and it is also known as sleeping princess syndrome.
• It is a behavioral confusion consists of sexual desire, fantasy, kissing, rubbing and stimulation.
• Somnophilia is caused due to psychological troubles.
• Behavioral treatment, pair and sex remedy will manage the symptoms of this condition.
• Give correct sex method teaching to somnophilic men to develop their quality of behavior.
• Take advice of your physician for any trouble regarding to sexual intercourse.

Symptoms of Somnophilia

• Sexual liking for unconscious
• Sexual liking for sleeping person
• Irregular amount of time spent thinking about unconscious or sleeping person
• Recurring strong sexual desires involving unconscious or sleeping person
• Recurring strong sexual advises involving unconscious or sleeping person



No mention that it could involve consent of both partners and especially the female?! I'm quite shocked!

clearly that example was written by someone who would consider BDSM a sinful way of life, or maybe written by a feminist. I agree though it is quite shocking to see that it would appear to be a psychological disorder in the minds of some people.

Don't get me wrong, I don't expect it to float everyone's boat; but I still have an internal struggle everytime it dawns on me that not everyone in this world is liberated enough to have an open mind to other people's preferences, kinks or persuasions.

 

[SomNinja]

I've decided to embark on a more in-depth journey of somnophilia.

I hope this site doesn't mind me linking, but I have a MySpace blog and will be running an identical blog at Wordpress - both under this username. No doubt I'll be going over some of the things discussed here, and i will be checking back here whenever there are new posts!

If anyone wants the links:

http://blogs.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=blog.ListAll&friendID=519776211

and

http://somninja.wordpress.com/

 

[Sheevapanther]

My husband has this fetish and has tried to have sex with me while I was asleep. I don't mind! But I always wake up. Unfortunately he knows me well enough to know when I'm faking sleep. I take sleeping pills on occasion due to insomnia, but I would like to really be asleep and let him have his fantasy. I'm afraid that my body won't respond to sleeping pills like someone who doesn't use them. I thought of passing out drunk, but I get horrible hang overs. Any advise on something I can take, a bit stronger than sleeping pills, to safely ensure that I will sleep through it?

 

[Mohousewife]

"I've woken up to discover I was receiving a BJ.. not sure if that counts since I woke up in the middle of it, but it was still a very nice way to wake up.. "

It's fun to sneak up on hubby and do this...he says the same thing "very nice way to wake up"

I just wonder is a woman was taking a pill to relax her would it be easier for her to squirt? Just a thought

 

[00Syd]

This is something that I'm still really interested in. Hasn't happened yet, though. Boooo

 

[SomNinja]

My husband has this fetish and has tried to have sex with me while I was asleep. I don't mind! But I always wake up. Unfortunately he knows me well enough to know when I'm faking sleep. I take sleeping pills on occasion due to insomnia, but I would like to really be asleep and let him have his fantasy. I'm afraid that my body won't respond to sleeping pills like someone who doesn't use them. I thought of passing out drunk, but I get horrible hang overs. Any advise on something I can take, a bit stronger than sleeping pills, to safely ensure that I will sleep through it?

Nytol seems to work well...

Generally using sleeping pills won't detract from the thrill or sensation - unless you know she's completely out of it and there's no chance whatsoever that she'll wake up.

That's in my opinion, of course - I prefer the softer stuff, though. Someone into rougher/harder sleep sex may well be after someone who won't wake up however hard you pound them.

 

[switchbitch]

even the word turns me on!

it's the desire to do dirty things to someone unconscious...or faking unconsciousness.
there's no term for the person who likes to be on the receiving end.

who digs it? who does it?

this fetish deserves a thread!
{with the word in the title}

I love This I was unaware it had a title and Ilove both giving and receiving the sneaky yummy feeling of turning someone on in their sleep being oh so careful not to wake them and in reverse waking up cuming with an unexpected cock in my pussy

 

[NomadLady]

I think this is something I'd really like to try.....

 

[lovescoldmetal]

I realise I am not discussing true somnophilia in the sense that others are, but I would dearly love to be on the receiving end of this while I feigned sleep/unconsciousness.

To be posed, photographed and have my partner do whatever he wished as if I were totally unaware would be (as others have pointed out) an insight into his desires.

Additionally this ties in a little with my medical kink. To be (mock) anaesthetised while the doctor/students use my body to practice more intimate examinations. I completely agree with the poster who commented on the objectification aspect of this.

 

[carbing]

handeled while asleep

I my experience, when handeled during sleep, and starting to get aroused( getting hard), I always wake up.
The same aplies when I did that to other men; on arousal they wake up.

Even when having a wet dream, I do wake up.

 

[carbing]

handeled during sleep

yet, the whole concept is way hot; someone taking control over your sexuality( or doing the same to someone else...)
sleep is a good excuse for being helpless, and thus inviting "control"

 

[seela]

This has been one of the biggest fantasies of mine for the longest time and it finally happened. I'm a very light sleeper and the previous attempts have been pretty futile because of that, so I had settled for this to remain a fantasy and nothing more.

Until... I had wrist surgery a few days ago and it was a simple day time operation so I got home the same day. When I took the meds they gave me to get through the night, I got really drowsy and it didn't take long until I was knocked out.

He had his way with me while I was gone for the most of the time. I could feel him doing things to me, but it felt pretty surreal, it was mostly vague flashes. It totally made the post-op discomfort worthwhile. With this memory I actually might even get through the icky physiotherapy without complaining too much, it just was that good!