Sometimes saying hello means saying hello

[canadiancutie]

My definitions are probably not that uncommon, but anyways, here goes.

I consider men virgins until their cock has been in a human vagina, mouth or ass.

Women are virgins until their vagina, mouth or ass has been penetrated by a cock.

That's really it. But I also believe that to an extent there are physical and mental/spiritual virginities. But I probably shouldn't go into that, it could take all night.

then I'm not a virgin by your definition! hoorah! I'm only a virgin in the clinton sense of the word

 

[catalina_francisco]

Does collarme have many people there from your country? Most of whom I see when I browse hail from the US or Canada.

Only visited there a couple of times and from memory it did...not many but seems any site that is not Euro based is dominated by US and Canadian cits through location ease of word of mouth etc., I guess. LOL, of late we have been getting asked by Americans who are visiting Europe if we would consider them....it's a hard life shuffling through all these applications!!!

Catalina

 

[jasonlf]

I'm only a virgin in the clinton sense of the word

Haha. That's an awesome way of putting it.

 

[Krinaia]

Due to the fact ath I'm both bored and lazy, I haven't read EVERYONE's response here so what I'm saying may be a reiteration of something said previously by someone else.

AS a single female - I have found I get fewer responses now that my collarme.com profile is listed as switch rather than submissive. But I'll say this, if someone ims me with just a "hi"... it isn't an instant message, it's an email and I'm hardly going to waste my time trying to carry on a real time conversation in a non-real time media. And also, I tend to ignore anyone who obviously hasn't read my profile ALL the way through OR was unable to comphrened what they read. Again, just don't want to waste my time. If the email says you were interested in my profile, I don't take in completely seriously unless it was personalized in some way - what about it did you like? It's like writing a good cover letter for a job interview. Don't just say you like the firm, tell the potential interviewer why you liked the firm - I guarentee you're more likely to catch their interest that way. I don't mind a long email with plenty of informaton with which to start a conversation on, what I do mind are invitations to chat from people I don't know whose profiles are not filled with information that would lead me to believe that they could make interesting conversation instead of boring small talk.

But as to talking to newbies - sometimes if the person seems quirky and fun, sure I'll talk to them but otherwise I get tired of having the same coversation with every single person new to the "lifestyle". And I refuse to start listing my fantasies (which is often what these newbies who im me want) just so that can either validate their own fantasies or go whack off to whatever I told them. It's all about the way you approach these conversations. Large generalities are hard conversations to discuss, for many bdsm, can be like religion - it's likely to raise a lot of differences in theories and positions and ideologies. My suggestion is ask pointed questions that would interest both the person you want to talk to and that would also interest yourself. For example, my c.com profile states that I am a bondage fetishist. If that interests you and you want to talk to me about it - don't im me and ask me right off my deepest bondafe fantasy or how I knew I was a fetishist, because that might be the kind of personal information I am unwilling to share with a stranger. Instead, try asking me if there are any ties I particularly enjoy and wher eyou could find information on learning them. Something that isn't personal that may open up conversation that could lean to a comfort level between strangers that would allow you to begin discussing more personal issues as we get to know each other.

Hope this helps.