you know, i agree with you, it is a little on the embarassing side, and i think it made me respond more because it made me uncomfortable than the need to help you out,...
i have,... i don't know what you want to know about it, but at one point in my life it was somewhat of a regular occurence, so not only have i done it, but it wasn't a one-time thing,...
let me know how i can help you, and perhaps we oculd discuss it over e-mail (here is just as good, whatever works for you,...)
lala thanks for replying, l don't know whats better here or email, but the thought of having it done to me turns me on but when l am just by myself thinking l get mixed thoughts plus it is an uncomfortable subject to broach with females and it usually hurts becuase either l dont relax or are going about it the wrong way.
well merle,
if you're interested, there are a few things-
1) look up maybe on the how to boards here, or elsewhere online about anal- it is different.
2) find someone you trust and care about who is willing to do this, and make sure they're really ok with it-
i wasn't and i didn't have the balls to say i wasn't comfortable doing this to him- i got used to it, i didn't overly enjoy or hate it, but i wouldn't have if he hadn't asked.
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as one of my male bi acquaintances said- "you can't just lube up and ram me" he was right. it takes a lot of time, you have to be turned on, but relaxed, it has to be eased, you have to say when it starts to hurt. it takes time, practice, and patience.
you may find it will never not hurt, and then you'll have to do something else,...
oh yeah, (i almost forgot) the important part! try something like anal beads (aka ben-wa balls) etc. or "butt plugs" there is paraphernalia that will fit every stage and preference you have, shop around. don't settle for one big dildo. you may find something that floats your boat like nothing else!
lala thanks for the info it has certainly aroused my thoughts again, it is amazing what goes through my mind when l think of what can happen with those beads. please keep in contact my email is mattpr@senet.com.au
