Soft sex vs Animal sex

[sexy-girl]

i've read a few times on the boards from people who are bi/bi curious that they like female sex when in the mood for soft sensitive love making and male sex when they are looking for wild animal sex

being a lesbian who only likes female sex but still enjoys both soft and wild sex i don't see why some bi people bracket the genders with different styles of sex they desire


so is it just a stereotype or a legitimate way to differentiate between sex with men and sex with women

 

[Chicklet]

Hmm...

I've noticed on Literotica a lot of the g/g stories are first timers, girls that've never been with another girl before. I think that when trying something new, one should go slow and soft...maybe people get the wrong idea from these first time stories and believe that lesbian sex is soft all the time.

Also it sucks that women have such a reputation for being so gentle. I am quite rough, thank you, I *like* it rough, from a male or a female.

-Chicklet

 

[Pookie]

I believe it's just a stereotype. The stories here and elsewhere help to generate preconceived ideas, in my opinion. Some of the wildest sex I've had has been with a chick, and some of the softest has been with a guy.

 

[sexy-girl]

interesting point saying about it being first time sex

my first time with a girl though was both soft and a bit wild

 

[Quint]

*shrugs* My girly friend has a nasty sadistic streak, but even bearing the bite marks, I still think of her as cuddly more than vicious. And even though T (my male lover) and I made love the other night, I will always associate him with my primal need to be fucked raw. That's just the particular way I'm wired--I submit to men and turn to women for smooches.

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

i've read a few times on the boards from people who are bi/bi curious that they like female sex when in the mood for soft sensitive love making and male sex when they are looking for wild animal sex

being a lesbian who only likes female sex but still enjoys both soft and wild sex i don't see why some bi people bracket the genders with different styles of sex they desire


so is it just a stereotype or a legitimate way to differentiate between sex with men and sex with women

hmmm for me, this used to be a legitimate way of expressing what i wanted. Now, though, i focus more on getting both the wildness and the softness from a woman. I love it when it's wild and raw or soft and gentle, and i would prefer to keep that with one partner, preferably my girl.

lil girl

 

[Netzach]

The sex I have with women involves a lot of stern repressive and rigid activity, followed by orgasms for me and frustrations for her, followed by orgasms for her.

Maybe. (?)

If she's a good girl. A very good girl.

Warm and cuddly after if I like her a lot. Not requisite.

Is that wild? No. But it's not the soft-focus doe eyed first time either.

 

[sexy-girl]

*shrugs* My girly friend has a nasty sadistic streak, but even bearing the bite marks, I still think of her as cuddly more than vicious. And even though T (my male lover) and I made love the other night, I will always associate him with my primal need to be fucked raw. That's just the particular way I'm wired--I submit to men and turn to women for smooches.

no offense meant or anything but i find that odd ... but i guess everyone is different ... do you feel that way because of their genders or just how you split yourself between your two lovers ?


thanks everyone else for your replies

 

[april-wine]

Hmmmmm it is ALL about the sex after all....

 

[SweetCherry]

Hmmmmm it is ALL about the sex after all....

So you keep telling me.

 

[WanderingWiccan]

I'll let you know when I finally lose my virginity. I'm a pretty good judge of people and their needs and desires. lol I really don't know what this was about so... *bounces*

 

[Chicklet]

*shrugs* My girly friend has a nasty sadistic streak, but even bearing the bite marks, I still think of her as cuddly more than vicious. And even though T (my male lover) and I made love the other night, I will always associate him with my primal need to be fucked raw. That's just the particular way I'm wired--I submit to men and turn to women for smooches.

I see where you're coming from, because I see it in people a lot, too...even in myself. I'm a bouncy, cheerful, very feminine girl. I feel that I see a lot more females who are bouncy and cuddly than hard and more masculine (I know there are plenty out there, but maybe not as many)

Guess it all goes back to media, and even though our generation is much, much more free of stereotypes we really are still very influenced by them. right?

 

[brownhairedboy2]

I met a bi-woman here at Lit a few years ago who I talked to on the phone several times.

The thing about here was she only had sex with women when she was horny and wanted some hot, nasty, no-strings-attached sex but she felt no emotional intimacy with other women so when she wanted deeper more meaningful love-making she fucked men.

 

[brownhairedboy2]

I also saw a episode of Cheaters where a b/f caught his g/f cheating on him with another woman. When he and the camera crew confronted here she gestured to the other woman and said "Come on honey, she's just a girl, we were just having fun-it dosen't mean anything!"

 

[Quint]

no offense meant or anything but i find that odd ... but i guess everyone is different ... do you feel that way because of their genders or just how you split yourself between your two lovers ?


thanks everyone else for your replies

I honestly don't know why I work that way. When I think about having a male lover, I *need* him to be dominant for me to have any interest in him. Sadistic doesn't hurt, either. (Har, har, har.) I lust after being taken and used by a strong male force.

With girls, I'm more ambisexual. We both take turns on top, and it isn't all sweet smoochies and snuggles. But the number of girls I have purely lusted after is very small compared to the number of girls I have wanted to kiss and cuddle with. I don't especially want to get violent with one, either giving or receiving.

But maybe a large part of this is based on my current situation, where I've found my brutal male and my darlin female. I don't see the male dynamic ever changing ideally, but like I said above, the female one is more flexible.

 

[Quint]

I see where you're coming from, because I see it in people a lot, too...even in myself. I'm a bouncy, cheerful, very feminine girl. I feel that I see a lot more females who are bouncy and cuddly than hard and more masculine (I know there are plenty out there, but maybe not as many)

Guess it all goes back to media, and even though our generation is much, much more free of stereotypes we really are still very influenced by them. right?

Sure, but I think it's important to note that I'm consciously aware of what works *for me* and not assuming that all men should dominate the wimmins, just cuz that's what I get off on. As to why, God only knows.