So...How do I get my man's attention?

[Rosamund]

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[lovetoread]

Has he got any medical problems that you know of?

 

[Rosamund]

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[PinkOrchid]

 

[Rosamund]

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[PinkOrchid]

 

[Lust Engine]

It seems as though there's a communication breakdown here somewhere. I don't think the lack of sex is the problem here but it does seem to be one of the symptoms. You might have to initiate the dialogue. Be forthright with him. Let him know your desires sexually and otherwise. Start off the conversation with "I..." Don't become accusatory as to what he's not doing. Don't put him in a defensive posture. Let him know what you want and see where he wants to go with it. Let him know you still crave him mentally, emotionally & spiritually... see how he responds. Ask him for his solutions and not just answers to your "problems". These are pertinent things in your relationship.

Good luck.

 

[thehumanvampire]

he's crazy

leave him and come home to me. Only thing i can suggest. I mean there are guys like me who would love having a woman like you.

 

[HoldenMcCrank]

Have you tried this....

Take a drive with him (no kid) and try to find someplace with out alot of traffic ( country road or Highway ) and talk to him. Tell him that you are hitting your peak sexually. All the while that you are talking to him start to play with yourself. Wear a squirt if that is something you do and start to masturbate while he is driving the car. Tell him that you will do what ever he wants to Energize his sex drive. Tell him that pleasing him Sexually will make you happy. Tell him that you want back the intamacy that you had and are willing to do whatever it takes to get there.

Good luck

Holden

BTW if my wife did this for me I would have to pull over and ravage her right then and there. I know for me that will never happen. Good Luck and please let us know how it goes!

 

[huskie]

Lets assume its physical not emotional, for the moment. Try serving him gynsing tea..... it works for me.

 

[TxBelle]

Oh honey I feel so bad for you. You've offered but he's not taking you up on that offer and not even you know why. It could be any number of issues. Either way you are entitled to know whats wrong. This is your marriage and your sex life too. Are you having sex at all?

I know it sounds harsh but you may have to tell him outright you aren't getting what you need and he needs to step up to the plate and take some iniative to deal with the situation RIGHT NOW!

Warm Fuzzy Hugs To You

 

[svenmn]

We talk all of the time, spend time together, he kisses me and gives me hugs.

I've tried making the first move until I am worn out, I can't do it and be turned down again. I have written him intimate notes, I have cooked his favorite meals, I have offered him blow jobs anytime that he wants them, and I have gone naked to bed and slept alone. I don't know, I have tried all kinds of things, but nothing has made a difference.

give him blow job after falls a sleep see if it wakes up.

 

[jeff_is_smiling]

My personal experience.....

I was in a similar situation when I was married....no drive for sex...my wife thought I was gay as a matter of fact...lol...and asked me to see a shrink about it. While we eventually divorced, the shrink "cured me" of a long-time problem I didn't know I had...

...I had been depressed for many years....I was always tired (one excuse I came up with for not wanting sex)....I liked being alone alot....I was "unemotional" and tried to not get too high or too low emotionally (which is a bad thing sexually).....

My suggestion is to look for subtle signs of depression and seek treatment if you find them. No doubt you are a sexually attractive and available woman for your man...no doubt you are capable of sexually pleasing the man...if he has the capability to have sex...then perhaps it is time to check for other reasons....

For what it is worth...

 

[TryItTwice]

I know the feeling...

I had the same problem with my husband. We were married a few years and sex tapered off... he is 11 years older than me, so I blamed his age. He works long hours at a stressful job. Mostly he was just tired... and the stress wasn't helping. I also got tired of begging and always making the first move. When I got pregnant I was 100x's hornier than usual... so eventually I just had to tell him... HEY, you signed up for this... you have a job to do. We had a long talk about it and he never realized how little we were having sex until I brought it to his attention. He still has the same job, so I have to give reminders every so often... but!!! It did get a lot better. And like someone said, try sucking him while he's asleep... if you get any response at all, chances are you'll be sweaty soon enough. Another thing I do to get his attention when it's been a while is using my vibe in front of him. It isn't long before he gets the point.

Good luck!!

 

[Amfig]

One day I got a call from my wife while I was at the office. She asked me what I had on my calendar for that evening. When I said, "nothing" she said "Great! Put down "fuck wife' for 9:00 o'clock. I'll be waiting.' Got my attention.

 

[Native Alien]

personally i like Amfig's wife solution....

but, i would also suggest a good medical check up and then have

him see someone about possible depression.......

 

[FreakyBuddy]

i think a good blowjob would do it

 

[tigerjen]

Dress up in a sexy bra and garter belt w/ stockings........


if that doesn't work.......Viagra??



tigerjen

 

[Jaded1]

TJ......

I don't see how getting this poor guy dressed up in a sexy bra and garter belt w/stockings is going to get him aroused for his wife.......

As a guy I now I'd feel pretty dam stupid....

What the hell were you thinking.....

I think Lust Engine is into that kind of stuff....

Jaded1, CT

 

[tigerjen]

Jaded

I don't see how getting this poor guy dressed up in
a sexy bra and garter belt w/stockings is going to
get him aroused for his wife.......

As a guy I now I'd feel pretty dam stupid....

What the hell were you thinking.....

I think Lust Engine is into that kind of stuff....

Jaded1, CT

I never said anything about the hubby getting dressed
up in a bra and garter belt...........you are way too silly!!!


tigerjen

 

[ApplesMcgee]

here's a thought...

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