Size Matters

[artgorden]

https://imgur.com/o3uVRyX

This is Steve. My wife's exboyfriend and her lover. She keeps this image on her phone.

Wouldn't mind sucking Mrs. Gorden's cum off of that

 

[Hipshot1554]

I'm sorry to hear that. I know some of us just really enjoy giving head. I frequently feel the need to give him a blow job that will stick in his mind for many days. I especially do this when we won't see each other for a while. The kind of memory he can think back to and jerk off. On those times when it will be a really long time I'll let him record the session.

For days...? I would think, after reading some of your posts, that any guy would remember your BJ forever!

 

[ouchfeelsgood]

It’s not how big you make it…. It’s HOW you make it big

Well put!

 

[jimmyturtleman]

You go along thinking that your little cock is just the "perfect" size for your wife, then one day she tells you that her boyfriend has a BIG cock, and it's really THICK, she says, with a huge smile on her face.
Then you realize that size does matter.

 

[artgorden]

Wouldn't mind sucking Mrs. Gorden's cum off of that

And yes I would also love watching him fuck her like i never could

 

[Goldenfinger]

I heard a lady say you show me a guy with a thick 12” cock and I’ll show you a virgin.

 

[FGB]

Yeah...Well it helps to be at least Average or more in Length and Girth.

 

[LeeKee]

You go along thinking that your little cock is just the "perfect" size for your wife, then one day she tells you that her boyfriend has a BIG cock, and it's really THICK, she says, with a huge smile on her face.
Then you realize that size does matter.

Exactly

 

[Malcolm_79]

https://postimg.cc/BLNWjtzD How would you rate me?

From a guys perspective that's a very attractive dick.

 

[shrek100]

Being brave
This is mine - not the biggest but the best I have

https://postimg.cc/BtpHKsng

 

[LMWM321]

Before the days of Amazon I was dispatched to an adult toy store by my wife to buy more of her favorite lube. I spent a few minutes looking around then asked the woman who works there what was the most common size dildo they sell. She said when women come into the store with a guy they tend to leave with something cartoonishly big. ..But when a woman comes in alone to buy for herself, she nearly always buys something much nearer to average dick size (ie., 5.5" insertable length x 4.75 girth). Also, although I can't recall where (Dan Savage podcast?, Cosmopolitan?) I heard something similar said by the owner of an online retailer (Adam & Eve, maybe). ..She said that guys tend to buy huge dildos for their female partner whereas women buying for themselves tend to get something very average. This is just an anecdotal account, not exactly a well-constructed clinical study.

And no, I'm not someone with a small penis projecting my insecurity. On the contrary, I have a huge dick (8 1/8 long - properly measured, and 6 1/4 girth) who likes to point out that it has done more to detract from my partners' sexual pleasure than to enhance it. Anal is nearly impossible w/out tons of buzz-killing preparation and oral is nearly impossible w/out getting scraped by teeth, and it can be endured by my partners for only a short while. ..As one partner told me, "your dick size is wonderful for giving a hand job or titty-fucking, but for everything else - I wish it was a lot smaller. Shame too, b/c it's actually quite pretty looking."

I'm being totally honest when I say if I could have some kind of low-risk surgery that would reduce my length by at least 1" and my girth by 3/4" without otherwise affecting it's appearance, I would jump at the chance.

 

[saintcero]

I once said to my wife that I wish my cock was bigger for her. Her response was, “why? Are you trying to kill me? I’m 6” or maybe 6.5” and about 1.6” in diameter. Hope she likes it then and now

 

[drobert44]

I once said to my wife that I wish my cock was bigger for her. Her response was, “why? Are you trying to kill me? I’m 6” or maybe 6.5” and about 1.6” in diameter. Hope she likes it then and now

That's about right, my gay top was barely 6, loved deepthroating him, and it was OK when he fucked me. I sucked a sissy who had 9", scared me to death!

 

[saintcero]

That's about right, my gay top was barely 6, loved deepthroating him, and it was OK when he fucked me. I sucked a sissy who had 9", scared me to death!

My dildo play has convinced me that I couldn’t handle anything close to a big cock. I seem to be limited on length and diameter. My limitations may end up haunting me as my #1 fantasy is to feel bull balls slap against my butt. I might end up impaling myself just to get his balls close enough

 

[drobert44]

My dildo play has convinced me that I couldn’t handle anything close to a big cock. I seem to be limited on length and diameter. My limitations may end up haunting me as my #1 fantasy is to feel bull balls slap against my butt. I might end up impaling myself just to get his balls close enough

I am about 7", and no sissy or woman ever complained. The sissies ride me cowgirl, they just slide right down on it and then they ride and do all the work, so nice!

 

[saintcero]

All a good bottom can do is try.

 

[Malcolm_79]

All a good bottom can do is try.

Exactly

 

[HoldYouDown]

Assuming this thread is about vagina size. It's not as important as you think, ladies.

 

[jimmyturtleman]

Before the days of Amazon I was dispatched to an adult toy store by my wife to buy more of her favorite lube. I spent a few minutes looking around then asked the woman who works there what was the most common size dildo size they sell. She said when women come into the store with a guy they tend to leave with something cartoonishly big. ..But when a woman comes in alone to buy for herself, she nearly always buys something much nearer to average dick size (ie., 5.5" insertable length x 4.75 girth). Though I can't recall where (Dan Savage, Cosmopolitan?) I heard something similar said by the owner of an online retailer (Adam & Eve, maybe). ..She said that guys tend to buy huge dildos for their female partner whereas women buying for themselves tend to get something very average. This is just an anecdotal account, not exactly a well-constructed clinical study.

And no, I'm not someone with a small penis projecting my insecurity. On the contrary, I have a huge dick (8 1/8 long - properly measured, and 6 1/4 girth) who likes to point out that it has done more to detract from my partners' sexual pleasure than to enhance it. Anal is nearly impossible w/out tons of buzz-killing preparation and oral is nearly impossible w/out getting scraped by teeth, and it can be endured by my partners for only a short while. ..As one partner told me, "your dick size is wonderful for giving a hand job or titty-fucking, but for everything else - I wish it was a lot smaller. Shame too, b/c it's actually quite pretty looking."

I'm being totally honest when I say if I could have some kind of low-risk surgery that would reduce my length by at least 1" and my girth by 3/4" without otherwise affecting it's appearance, I would jump at the chance.

I wish you could just 'gift' me that extra inch you have. I do truly believe your anecdotes on the buying habits of men vs women. I can verify that, to the extent of what my wife brought home from a 'toy' party.

 

[SlutAddicted]

Yep! And I will add, with some people, even trying to assuage that insecurity by pointing out that things are more complex than feared may not work, as some people want to wallow in their insecurities and blame them on other people.

I think that is absolutely correct.

Although I do think that there is a fine line between giving constructive feedback that assuages insecurities and avoiding the question or dodging the issue in a way that may feel patronizing.

In an ideal world you would be able to say, sure it matters but not as much as you might think, other things matter more, preference is unique to each woman and it isn't purely a larger is better type of thing.

But I think that as a woman maybe you are caught in a catch 22? For some guys that answer will be an insufficient repudiation of the premise that size could matter at all. And for others it feels like a dodge.

I am probably closer to the latter. I think of it this way as a man who quite likes cooking. If I ask you how the roast is and you say the green beans were awesome, or that cut is difficult to make tender or the gravy really made it that means the roast wasn't good. All those other things might be true but they don't answer the question. I don't buy the dodge and I am probably insulted by that more than if you had just found a diplomatic but direct way to say the roast was not so great. But I understand why people choose to prioritize avoiding conflict, especially for a woman not wanting a negative encounter with a hostile male.

 

[policywank]

I think that is absolutely correct.

Although I do think that there is a fine line between giving constructive feedback that assuages insecurities and avoiding the question or dodging the issue in a way that may feel patronizing.

In an ideal world you would be able to say, sure it matters but not as much as you might think, other things matter more, preference is unique to each woman and it isn't purely a larger is better type of thing.

But I think that as a woman maybe you are caught in a catch 22? For some guys that answer will be an insufficient repudiation of the premise that size could matter at all. And for others it feels like a dodge.

I am probably closer to the latter. I think of it this way as a man who quite likes cooking. If I ask you how the roast is and you say the green beans were awesome, or that cut is difficult to make tender or the gravy really made it that means the roast wasn't good. All those other things might be true but they don't answer the question. I don't buy the dodge and I am probably insulted by that more than if you had just found a diplomatic but direct way to say the roast was not so great. But I understand why people choose to prioritize avoiding conflict, especially for a woman not wanting a negative encounter with a hostile male.

The idea of assuaging insecurities or not making someone else feel bad is an interesting one beyond this context. And I make these comments with no intended direct or indirect reference to anyone in this chain.

There are certainly times that well meaning people seek to avoid hurting another person by redirecting or changing the context. Sometimes it is the best thing to do. But it isn't always effective and it isn't always obvious that avoiding that hurt is the best thing for them. If you are 5'2" and you plan to make the NBA or you have micro penis and want to be the next interracial porn star you need to face your reality one way or another. If you or I don't want to be the one to burst that person's bubble I can see that. But we shouldn't behave as though we are doing them a favour.

There are also times that people use this kind of deflection as a way of avoiding conflict just so that they don't have to deal with it. Maybe they are being selfish. Maybe they are just being practical. But I have seen cowardly or narcissistic acts clothed in a patronizing notion of virtue that had little or nothing to do with benefit to the person being mislead.

In my view not wanting to hurt somebody's feelings is a laudable goal, but it is not in and of itself justification for not telling people the truth or at least not misleading them.

 

[NancyPan]

Whether or not it is about penis size, satisfaction in love-making, bad breath, or anything else particularly personal, it seems to be that how, when, and if it is said (or if anything is said) depends a great deal on the nature of, and degree of intimacy of, the relationship.

In my own situation, my wife was not entirely forthright with me that my performance in intercourse was not entirely satisfying to her until we were in the empty nest stage of our life and I was asking for more Dominance from her. As difficult as it was to hear, it did change our lives for her to tell me the truth.

 

[lil_jenni]

Although I do think that there is a fine line between giving constructive feedback that assuages insecurities and avoiding the question or dodging the issue in a way that may feel patronizing.

With my students, I always try to find a positive they can build on, but I also have to tell them what needs to be done differently. Admittedly, it usually goes well with second graders because they want to please me and do better. They don't have deep seated resentments yet. It's one reason I like teaching second graders.

If you are 5'2" and you plan to make the NBA or you have micro penis and want to be the next interracial porn star you need to face your reality one way or another. If you or I don't want to be the one to burst that person's bubble I can see that. But we shouldn't behave as though we are doing them a favour.

This is one of the reasons I always cringe when people tell a kid they can be whatever they want to be. It is not true and sets people up for failure. I spend a lot of time reframing expectations for parents who have ridiculously high expectations of what children should be learning in second grade, as well as of what their particular child(ren) are capable. And yes, those discussions include a lot of focus on strengths, but it isn't doing anyone any good if I don't discuss weaknesses too. It's a matter of framing and balance.

Which brings me back to SlutAddicted's roast example. It depends on how the question is framed. "I loved the potatoes" is an evasive response if the question was "did you like my meat?" It's less so if the question is "did you like dinner?" Sometimes the meat is not the main focus. I mean, I spent years asking my mother to cook pot roast for my birthday and then eating mainly the potatoes and carrots. Those were what I wanted, because nothing makes potatoes and carrots taste as good as being slow cooked with a hunk of beef. And no, that's not a double entendre, pervs!

 

[whenagain]

With my students, I always try to find a positive they can build on, but I also have to tell them what needs to be done differently. Admittedly, it usually goes well with second graders because they want to please me and do better. They don't have deep seated resentments yet. It's one reason I like teaching second graders.

This is one of the reasons I always cringe when people tell a kid they can be whatever they want to be. It is not true and sets people up for failure. I spend a lot of time reframing expectations for parents who have ridiculously high expectations of what children should be learning in second grade, as well as of what their particular child(ren) are capable. And yes, those discussions include a lot of focus on strengths, but it isn't doing anyone any good if I don't discuss weaknesses too. It's a matter of framing and balance.

Which brings me back to SlutAddicted's roast example. It depends on how the question is framed. "I loved the potatoes" is an evasive response if the question was "did you like my meat?" It's less so if the question is "did you like dinner?" Sometimes the meat is not the main focus. I mean, I spent years asking my mother to cook pot roast for my birthday and then eating mainly the potatoes and carrots. Those were what I wanted, because nothing makes potatoes and carrots taste as good as being slow cooked with a hunk of beef. And no, that's not a double entendre, pervs!

Seems kinda like a single entendre to me.

 

[LMWM321]

... it isn't purely a larger is better type of thing.

That! ..In the Physical Domain, I'm pretty sure that excellent hygiene, being reasonably fit, and caring about your appearance matter way more to a woman than your dick being big. And in the overall Attractiveness Domain, being confident, interesting, kind, having a sense of humor, caring without being possessive, being attentive, being a good active listener, etc... are also far more important.

Ignore porn and kink websites and stop seeing your dick size as some sort of determinant of your sexual worth. ..My wife shared a story about a friend (it's always a friend, right ) who says her new husband has a slender cock. She says her OBGYN recommended inserting a butt plug (now available at CVS!) when they have sex - which was something she never had much interest in using w/ her previous husband. Well, she did and voila! ..Her pussy volume (is that a widely accepted medical term? ..I'm guessing not) is considerably reduced by having a toy in her rectum which makes his cock feel bigger. Boom. problem solved, or at least significantly improved. Neither she, nor her new husband obsess on his dick being slender, instead they sought a solution and found one.

As I've shared many times, I have the other problem with dick size - it's now too girthy and too long to reliably give my wife an orgasm. I say "now" because as my wife has gotten older her vagina - like most women - has lost some of it's elasticity. Estradiol cream has helped but it's still the case that she has an easier time cumming when I'm using a much thinner dildo on her while she uses her Womanizer (a horrible name for it, if you ask me but it's a cool toy).

Again, find a workaround people!