Size Matters

[cumonkelly]

Shoot, 10 to 15 minutes is a quickie BJ around my house. Unless he wants different (or we are short on time), I like to take my time and keep him squirming with pleasure.

There are times when a quickie is necessary (time constraints and when I really need fucked so I'm sucking just to get him hard), but all other times should be a mandatory 30 minute minimum. Nothing keeps a man happier and more faithful than a good cock worship.

 

[betabrad]

https://imgur.com/o3uVRyX

This is Steve. My wife's exboyfriend and her lover. She keeps this image on her phone.

I have to admit, that is a really nice looking cock. When I see a big hard cock like this it makes me feel submissive.

 

[mywife4othermen]

I have to admit, that is a really nice looking cock. When I see a big hard cock like this it makes me feel submissive.

Oh I know the feeling.

 

[Bbl87]

There are times when a quickie is necessary (time constraints and when I really need fucked so I'm sucking just to get him hard), but all other times should be a mandatory 30 minute minimum. Nothing keeps a man happier and more faithful than a good cock worship.

True. If I got that, I don't think you'd see me on here much.

 

[cumonkelly]

True. If I got that, I don't think you'd see me on here much.

I'm sorry to hear that. I know some of us just really enjoy giving head. I frequently feel the need to give him a blow job that will stick in his mind for many days. I especially do this when we won't see each other for a while. The kind of memory he can think back to and jerk off. On those times when it will be a really long time I'll let him record the session.

 

[Bbl87]

I'm sorry to hear that. I know some of us just really enjoy giving head. I frequently feel the need to give him a blow job that will stick in his mind for many days. I especially do this when we won't see each other for a while. The kind of memory he can think back to and jerk off. On those times when it will be a really long time I'll let him record the session.

That's why I come here, to live vicariously through others.

 

[SlutAddicted]

Most of the pleasure nerves are located in the clitoris and the vaginal opening, and the G-spot (for those who say they feel it), which is located about 2 to 2.5 inches from the opening. The rest of the vagina has few nerves. The vagina is usually 2.5 to 4 inches deep when dormant, and extends to 4 to 7 inches when aroused. So "physically" or "medically" a 4 inch penis with the same girth of a 7 inch penis provides the same pleasure. Where length makes a difference is in the mind of a woman.

Yes, many women do not want the penis to reach the cervix and their very end as it may hurt.

Studies on preferred length (and girth) for women show marked contrasts some studies showing 4.5in being the ideal, others showing 6in. One thing is for sure, many women, during sex, do not distinguish if the pleasure they are getting is physical or mental (or both). They simply do not think of it.

You sound like a dude trying to tell a woman how her pussy works rather than just accepting that she likes bigger cocks. As an average guy with an average cock I would love to believe that I am women's ideal size, but it just isn't so. For some women it is, but I know that some women prefer larger (length and girth) as well.

 

[policywank]

Can you convince my wife that she can take my girth in her ass?
https://i.ibb.co/1Mncn9d/image.jpg

Lol. We’ll all she needs is some lube and a bit of “training” to get in the right mindset. I suggest using butt plugs and get a set with multiple sizes so she can work her way up to it. The discomfort is all at the entry point and it is basically all because the mind is telling that muscle to resist so it tenses up - once she overcomes that the discomfort goes away and the rest is all pleasure.

 

[Bbl87]

Lol. We’ll all she needs is some lube and a bit of “training” to get in the right mindset. I suggest using butt plugs and get a set with multiple sizes so she can work her way up to it. The discomfort is all at the entry point and it is basically all because the mind is telling that muscle to resist so it tenses up - once she overcomes that the discomfort goes away and the rest is all pleasure.

I think you just need to have a good talk with everybody's wives!

 

[magicman76]

It's worth pointing out that just like penises come (pun not intended but still fun ) in a lot of different sizes, so do vaginas. Even at my most aroused and relaxed, anything over 7" is probably going to hurt me. Other women can take a lot longer, and I bet some probably can't take as much length as I can. Same is true for girth. I can take thick, but I had a friend in college who said she could take long but liked thinner shafts because thicker ones made her uncomfortable during sex. So, the moral of this all is that not one size will be ideal for all women.

No but there's a range of size that is like the generally preferred size of women it seems. Notice you said anything over 7 is too much not anything over 5 or 6. So only a half inch difference from what I said offhand was perfect but believe me I'd rather the ideal be 7 or smaller. The actual average size of a man is like 5-5 1/2 according to studies btw so it's funny that women say these things like don't worry guys size doesn't matter I can't take much more than a 7 as if every guy can just breathe a sigh of relief after reading that.

 

[magicman76]

I think we can all accept that people have preferences that may not align with what any one of us offers without hating ourselves. Obviously nobody should hate themselves for not having a bigger dick. But it is healthy to recognize that some women may want a bigger dick and that is their prerogative too.

Well the guy I was responding to hates himself, go read the comment I quoted and click his profile to check out what he's about. It's all that cuckold, SPH hate yourself for having an average size dick stuff that I'm sick of seeing. If that makes anyone feel bad oh well.

 

[littlecordelera]

Well the guy I was responding to hates himself, go read the comment I quoted and click his profile to check out what he's about. It's all that cuckold, SPH hate yourself for having an average size dick stuff that I'm sick of seeing. If that makes anyone feel bad oh well.

Obviously it makes you feel bad.

 

[magicman76]

Obviously it makes you feel bad.

Yes it makes me feel bad that men are being taught that they're worthless for having average sized penis. Is that a problem for you? Because if it is I don't care.

 

[Colonelinguist]

I can relate to all of that. Working on those cock sucking muscles keeps them in shape so they don't get sore!

I like a big dick in my pussy or ass. It took a while to train my ass to accept greater girth but it has always been able to take more length. The pussy does have an absolute limit whereas not so much with the ass as long as he works it in slowly.

 

[SlutAddicted]

Yes it makes me feel bad that men are being taught that they're worthless for having average sized penis. Is that a problem for you? Because if it is I don't care.

I see a few guys indulging in their own fetish around having a "small" penis, but this is a fetish board. Otherwise I don't really see anyone telling guys they are worthless for having an average penis. A woman not being willing to lie to men to make us feel less insecure is not at all the same as teaching us that we are worthless.

 

[Krigirl1233]

Again it ain’t how big you make it… it’s HOW you make it big.

 

[whenagain]

Yes it makes me feel bad that men are being taught that they're worthless for having average sized penis. Is that a problem for you? Because if it is I don't care.

Tbh I don’t think that men are being taught that they’re worthless. Some of us are more interested in hearing from self professed size queens than others, but as said above, this is a fetish board. Don’t get mean to the women who actually engage.

 

[LisaVegas]

Everyone comes to our nudist place dressed and since I am the hostess and greeter guess who sees them nude first

I know who has a large cock before I know for a fact. I am a pretty good guesser and I am often right!


So I openly admit this...
For me once they are 8+ it's all great! But I also love thick! There is no explaining it unless you know first hand how it feels!!

 

[Colonelinguist]

Lol. We’ll all she needs is some lube and a bit of “training” to get in the right mindset. I suggest using butt plugs and get a set with multiple sizes so she can work her way up to it. The discomfort is all at the entry point and it is basically all because the mind is telling that muscle to resist so it tenses up - once she overcomes that the discomfort goes away and the rest is all pleasure.

Graduated finger fucking; starting with your partner’s Lubricated index finger and eventually including the next two digits, can be one way of Convincing that primary sphincter muscle in your ass to relax enough accept what you might consider a Dick of exceptional girth IMO policywank, particularly when anal sex occurs in the heat of the moment.

Butt plugs can be another option, but I would think they require some pre-planning, which of course, might be especially erotic and pleasurable for those couples in Monogamous relationships.
However, there is something l have frequently suggested to female partners faced with uncertainty regarding my girth, and that’s to gently push; push and take in deep breaths, just as one pushes when evacuating their bowels. Much of the discomfort associated with getting fucked in the ass comes from contracting that sphincter, a natural reflex, similar to your Physician tapping on your knee. the way I see it,
pushing; when done in sync with my Dick advancing forward; something similar to magnetic attraction can naturally occurs.

Until I began reading stories with Butt Plugs in their scenarios here on Literotica, I knew absolutely nothing at all about them. On the other hand,(excuse the pun) we male boomers have often had to adhered to an old adage; ‘necessity is the mother of invention,’ when it comes to our Experiences of anal sex, while genuinely striving to make it enjoyable for each participant.

 

[lil_jenni]

No but there's a range of size that is like the generally preferred size of women it seems. Notice you said anything over 7 is too much not anything over 5 or 6. So only a half inch difference from what I said offhand was perfect but believe me I'd rather the ideal be 7 or smaller. The actual average size of a man is like 5-5 1/2 according to studies btw so it's funny that women say these things like don't worry guys size doesn't matter I can't take much more than a 7 as if every guy can just breathe a sigh of relief after reading that.

It seems to me that you are conflating maximum size with preferred size, at least with respect to my post. You assumed that because I said anything over 7 will hurt me, then I must prefer 7 inches over shorter as it is the largest I can comfortably accommodate. This misses my point that you should not generalize to all women that 7 to 8 (or whatever) is the ideal size. Even falling back on the idea that "there's a range of size that is like the generally preferred size of women it seems" masks a great deal of complexity by projecting a general analysis of what appears to be anecdotal data onto women as a whole, and more problematically, on women individually.

Now, returning to what I prefer, as opposed to the maximum length penis that can penetrate me without hurting me on every thrust, my preference is my Husband. And I cannot tell you with any precision what his penis measures to be, in length or girth. It works really, really well for me, and part of that is it's metrics, part is how he uses it, and part is what I feel for him. Again, focusing on the metrics as the primary factor masks a great deal of complexity. And while I have never measured him (and don't care what that measurement is), I can tell you he is not 7 inches. If average is 5.5, he may be half an inch longer, but well within the range (5~6 inches, I suspect) that my anecdotal experience has found that most men fall. And yeah, my experience is limited, but it's probably as high as some smaller studies (over a hundred partners with vaginal sex, probably triple that with just oral). And whether they were college frat boys or brothel clients (you know, 'Johns'), most of them were within that 5~6 range. And all other things being equal, that range would be my preference, I think. Hell, on occasion even Hubby can hit my cervix during especially hard, rough sex (although he's usually good about only doing that once), and not being punched in the cervix by a cockhead is a big part of what I think is ideal for me.

 

[lil_jenni]

...A woman not being willing to lie to men to make us feel less insecure is not at all the same as teaching us that we are worthless.

Yep! And I will add, with some people, even trying to assuage that insecurity by pointing out that things are more complex than feared may not work, as some people want to wallow in their insecurities and blame them on other people.

 

[crashD]

Long, no. I have a small pussy. I am only 4’10”. I really like fat cocks though

Girth is king!!

 

[longboy2022]

There has always been arguments about the importance/unimportance of penis size. There are valid points on all sides of the discussion. It all depends on a variety of different factors. I am generally of the opinion that it matters if u make it matter. I have a very small erect penis (a slim 4") and tiny flaccid size of 1.5" My unimpressive erect status has sometimes been a buzz kill for some women but my tiny flaccid size is more damning. Even though most people are aware that flaccid size does not necessarily indicate erect size my soft member is so pathetic it is hard to envision it improving that much. Most times in the public arena be it public showers change rooms urinals where men size themselves up against the competition u gain a rep for being particularly large or small. This can affect your status amongst other males and worse filters out into the female members of work school or social group. Not good if you are in the tiny dick category. I know for certain it has caused more than a few women to have no interest in me sexually. That may seem rather shallow of them but if you line up a group of guys who have equally attractive personalities equally attractive clothed physiques etc etc for the most part The guy who is known to have a tiny cock is probably at a disadvantage.

Guys can get penis extenders. Girls can get magnifying glasses.

 

[Colonelinguist]

"And that is kind of how monogamy makes the size thing into an issue. With monogamy it isn’t enough to enjoy each partner for what they are, we are expected to pretend one is the absolute best to the exclusion of all others. It isn’t small dick or big dick, tofu or beef that presents the problem. It is the compulsion to pretend.

Completely agree. There is not much a guy can do about his cock size (not really), but he can develop his confidence to a point where his wife or GF enjoys other cocks and it isn't such a big deal.
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When a person chooses to commit to a monogamous relationship, ( and not necessarily marriage ) that person has decided simply, that they’ve found someone who has all of the necessary ingredients to satisfy them both emotionally and sexually, the way I see it.
Anyone with experience, I suspect, will agree that when all is said and done, women ultimately do the choosing, particularly when it comes to choosing that ‘special’ someone in their lives.

She already knows which size penis will do the trick for her for the long game; ok, check. Question is, does he have skills? Well, check. Is he open to suggestions about how he might Improve his techniques? (especially when it comes to cunnilingus ) ok,well sort of; check. Oh, and this is really important; are you and him best friends, or in the process of becoming so? Check, check and double check,
‘cause if the man is a lying asshole, it won’t work; no matter how accommodating her vagina is to the man’s particular length and girth.

Of course, when two people make such a commitment, I would think that they have an understanding as to whether or not theirs, is a ‘open relationship.’

Call me old fashioned, but wait; if you and him have sowed all of your wild oats so to speak, and together you both have decided on filet mignon as opposed to Catfish, then why not remove seafood from the menu altogether?
Look, I understand the reasons why women and men occasionally get an itch to try different sexual partners; it’s only human, right? After all, didn’t
A wise person once say, “if you love someone, ( or something ) let them go. If they love you back, then they’ll return to you. Of course that may or may not be be true.
And I don’t believe that has too much to do with the man’s self confidence either. In fact, it works both ways.

I knew a musician who refused to take a gig in the house band of a local jam session. As the Bassist, he’d have to allow other musicians; strangers, to play his bass; an instrument that he’s had for 42 years. When I asked him why, he told me ‘look, when I play her, it’s as if we’re making love, and If I do it right, then and only then will she
Comply and beautiful music can then be produced. She’s temperamental; I can’t ever come to her with half ass playing. And she would not appreciate me letting someone else manhandle her. It might break her heart, I think. And what if this person isn’t up to the task? She would feel used and It would be all my fault.
You may think of her as an inanimate object, but when I play her my friend, she is anything but!’
So call me old fashioned. I’ve been in a handful of monogamous relationships, even marriage onetime, and the idea of them being open relationships never came up.
I understand that this is a fetish forum, but are we to believe that the other person, ( or persons ) the X factor(s) in a ‘open
Relationship, will use a prophylactic each and every time?

In short, if two people say, ‘hey baby, let’s try monogamy’ then I think having one or two or several other lovers won’t work, and I can’t for the life of me understand how a woman could respect a man who would accept those terms, and confidence has nothing to do with it IMO.

 

[artgorden]

Well the guy I was responding to hates himself, go read the comment I quoted and click his profile to check out what he's about. It's all that cuckold, SPH hate yourself for having an average size dick stuff that I'm sick of seeing. If that makes anyone feel bad oh well.

Being submissive can be wonderful. I just posted the following in another thread. Hands on my head. Using me like a masturbation toy. Telling me how my wife loves his cock that is twice as big as mine.
Then my reward.