Sir vs Master

[Safphyre]

Do you feel there is a difference in which title you address your Dom with ? Perhaps it is a personal choice and the meaning varies with each situation? Or is it just a "title" no matter which you choose to use?

I personally feel that Master is more befitting in a setting where the Sub is in a postion of complete service and Sir is a title used in more of a mutually respectful setting ...if that makes any sense ...<sigh> ... dontcha just hate it when you know what you want to say and you struggle for the words and even then it does not come out quite how you planned ...

 

[shelleb4]

My personal perceptions of Sir vs Master or any other such hierarchical title, are that they are both/all, politically correct titles in this scene. I cannot envisage myself ever calling anyone by these names.

If calling your play mate assists you to submit, then do it. If it assists the D to be in role, then they should also indulge.

Perhaps this is one of those postings that will come to bite me on the ass one day lol.

 

[shelleb4]

My personal perceptions of Sir vs Master or any other such hierarchical title, are that they are both/all, politically correct titles in this scene. I cannot envisage myself ever calling anyone by these names.

If calling your play mate assists you to submit, then do it. If it assists the D to be in role, then they should also indulge.

Perhaps this is one of those postings that will come to bite me on the ass one day lol.

 

[Xelebes]

*bites on Shelleb's ass*

 

[FungiUg]

It's all about what turns you on, I guess.

I prefer being called Sir, but Sir & Mistress kinda sounds silly, so it ends up being Master & Mistress.

As for the title... it's a way of constantly reminding the people involved of the ongoing power exchange.

 

[SubmissiveDove5]

I can't see myself calling him Sir/Master throughout the entire relationship. It makes it sound so detached to me. Whether I call him Master or John or whatever, I'm still going to submit because it comes naturally to me.

 

[Mr Blonde]

In the past I have had mixed feelings about being called "sir" or "master" by my girlfriends. It has seemed to fit some relationships but not others. Sometimes it sounds natural and sometimes it sounds like arbitrary formalities. (A few times I have felt like my girlfriend was Igor and she was fetching me some brains. "Yeeeeees, masteeeeer...")

In my current mindset, looking to the future, I am thinking of renaming a girlfriend to give her a "subbie" name and then giving myself a linguistically matching "dommie" name. We could call each other by our given name or this special name depending on the circumstances. That would provide context and setting for the D/s part of the relationship.

 

[Justina123]

I call my Dominant by his first name most of the time, and tack on "Sir" to a good number of my sentences directed towards him. However, I don't say "Sir" as often in public as at home, it just depends.

We simply don't care for the "Master" title, to me it always conjures up Larry Hagman and I'm no Jeannie. However, that does not mean I am not in a position of service. Personally, I don't think honorifics are really a good way to get a handle on the type of relationship.

-justina

 

[rosco rathbone]

In the past I have had mixed feelings about being called "sir" or "master" by my girlfriends. It has seemed to fit some relationships but not others. Sometimes it sounds natural and sometimes it sounds like arbitrary formalities.

spot on. some people can make it sound natural and some can't.

 

[Scarlett_t2]

Mistress is not something that ever jerked my chain....I do like when "they" call me Ma'am. To me is is a term of respect, and that is very important to me. It just feels natural when they say it and just natural because that is who I am.
IMHO
Scarlett

 

[fallon2]

I agree

I agree that Master and Sir can also be tedious at times. A good sub will use either but eventually will come to say the first name with an equal amount of respect. However, in the room, alone, she'll want to say Master or Sir since that is often their nature especially when playing.

 

[A Desert Rose]

It's all up to the individuals involved and what they decide on.

 

[GoodSirRolf]

A good sub will know what her Dom expects, and please him with her astuteness

 

[A Desert Rose]

A good sub will know what her Dom expects, and please him with her astuteness

Yes maybe so, but as a day job I am not "Cleo the-phone-psychic."

I expect to be told what would please my Dom, if there is no other way for me to know it.

 

[shelleb4]

rubs her arse, ouch!

 

[enigma nocturne]

best way to find out how a PYL wants to be addressed is to ask.

For instance, a Domly person I am getting to know I added Mr. before his first name. Sometimes in conversations he is Sir, instead. If we should end up in a closer relationship, I already know what he would like to hear, and will try to comply, even though it is new to me. But the point is, I know what he prefers cause I talked to him about it . And it is what works for him and me, not what convention decreees that matters..

 

[Netzach]

I prefer "O she who maketh the hands grasp the ankles"

or "She of the relentless and varied dildo drawer"

or "Mistress of the mysteries of the plastic chastity tube"

 

[Richard49]

And it is what works for him and me, not what convention decreees that matters..

Amen

 

[tythisredheadup]

Being from the South, I was always expected to call my elders as "Sir" or Ma'am. I just prefer Sir to Master.

Master sounds so "I Dream of Jeannie"

 

[Phoenix Stone]

(A few times I have felt like my girlfriend was Igor and she was fetching me some brains. "Yeeeeees, masteeeeer...")

Or worse, the Young Frankenstein version, 'Math-ter.' Which is why I asked for an alternative. So it's 'Good-night, slavegirl.' 'Good-night, Sir.'

In my current mindset, looking to the future, I am thinking of renaming a girlfriend to give her a "subbie" name and then giving myself a linguistically matching "dommie" name.

Like, say, Boris and Natasha? Always tryin' to help.

'She who must be obeyed,' not good enough for you Netz? Love your alternatives. Very Shakespearean somehow.

 

[wickedwanda]

After 33 years of marriage I surprised my husband by telling him of my long-long-time bondage fantasies.

He likes it. I like it. We've moved on from there.

But the idea of calling him Master or Sir just breaks the two of us into hysterics. On a day to day basis there is no change in our relationship. I'm hardly the submissive type and he has a strong personality as well but we try to please each other as we've done all our lives.

I guess we've got a 24/7 DD/ss relationship going ( LOL ) and labels just get in the way.

I know personally that I find it distasteful to call anyone Sir or Master. I guess I'm just a bottom rather than a submissive and often feel out of place at munches or online. Actually I'm seriously thinking of capitalizing my name but that probably comes with a whole other set of problems.

You have to use what works for you, otherwise it's just not genuine.

 

[Bandit58]

When we play I call Him Master, and I refer to Him as such on this board. Out of scene, at home, He is My Love, and when we are in public I use His first name, with no honorifics.

 

[Phoenix Stone]

Actually I'm seriously thinking of capitalizing my name but that probably comes with a whole other set of problems.

What problems would that cause? Certainly nothing from people on this board.

 

[Richard49]

What problems would that cause? Certainly nothing from people on this board.

caps on the internet indicate screaming

 

[Kajira Callista]

caps on the internet indicate screaming

i think she meant capping the first letter of her name