Hi @Meekly_AnnaWhen you enter a relationship, it's a bit like signing a contract—not with a fancy pen and a notary public, but with a series of shared understandings and unspoken promises. Mutual trust is the cornerstone of this agreement. It's the belief that your partner has your back, that they'll be there through thick and thin, and that they'll respect the boundaries you've both set.
Yes, I agree, if the promise made at the outset of the marriage is "monogamy" then each has the right to expect the other to honor the promise.
But here's the thing... Holding your partner to that promise some 10, 15, 20 years later could well keep them from living their best life and is that really something you want to do? My wife and I were truly monogamous when we got married and for the more than two decades that followed. But 30 years later, after my wife and I had had sex literally 3000+ times (2x week for 30+ years), I chose to let my wife have occasional sex with other men rather then see her interest in sex continue to wither. I did it to help keep her young in body, spirit and mind. I did it because I love her and want her to live her best life and a long, healthy one. Our relationship is much too secure for me to worry about another guy taking my wife from me just because sex with him was fun. ..Won't happen.
And having your partner's back is not necessarily related to sexual exclusivity. I think we all know couples who challenge that notion.
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