Should I kill him?

[FurryFury]

For electrical play.

http://www.blowfish.com/catalog/toys/estim.html

Holy cow, that's a lot of gear. Thanks! I'll have to show it to my darling.

Fury

 

[FurryFury]

Maybe it's the attachments you used. You want something more intense? Try an attachment with a point on it...something like a butter knife, a fork or spoon. Of course you will need to use the body attachment for these . But, the smaller the part that touches the body, it will send all of the juice through that small point, and in effect make the intensity quite strong.

You should try a dental pick... god damn does that hurt...[/QUOTE]

*nods*

I agree that the smaller the point of contact the better on the intensity meter. We found that out but as I said he still wanted more or different.

Fury

 

[FurryFury]

((((hug)))) if ok

Absolutely okay!

Thanks so much!

I love hugs!

*hug*

Fury

 

[FurryFury]

FF--

In reading through this post, I've seen that you and hubby are both naturally subs who take turns topping one another, and that you have chronic pain. Now it seems to me that you could use both of these situations to your advantage.

For instance, get all up in Domme mode and make him enroll in a massage class, even if it's just a community ed type of thing. They still teach some basic techniques for relaxation, etc. Then, when the pain is intense, Domme it up again and make him practice what he has learned...maybe employ some teasing and denial play, and this should appeal to his sub side while you reap the benefits of pain relief. At a later date, you might get your sub self satisfied if he's been denied orgasm and all extra horny.

Just a suggestion, but it could turnout to be a win-win situation.

Just my 2 cents' worth...

Great ideas. Thanks Bareman.

He gave me a massage the other night and it did help for a while. I don't ask for massages. Maybe I should. I want him to do the things he wants to and sees a need for. I do offer them when he has problems though.

Also the paddling and flogging after the massage helped. We are not into orgasm denial in any way for either of us.

I'm glad he is pretty good at massage already because with his schedule there isn't a way to take any ongoing courses at all.

Usually my pain is limited to my head or my throat but this week I've had a really painful thing going on with my neck, upper back and shoulders. It's really getting to me.

Muscle relaxers have mostly succeeded in screwing up my stomach, lessening the pain a touch and maybe because of that I've messed it up even worse, I dunno. What I do know is I have to be good to work by Tuesday somehow.

Fury

 

[FurryFury]

Update:

This week I got an urgent call to come by a gf's house to look at some clothes before they went on to charity or something.

There were several very short items. Some were even slutty.

Husband is rather pleased.

However I'm about to freeze to death.

I don't like cool air against my skin unless someone is heating me up in some other way, damn it.

Fury

 

[graceanne]

Update:

This week I got an urgent call to come by a gf's house to look at some clothes before they went on to charity or something.

There were several very short items. Some were even slutty.

Husband is rather pleased.

However I'm about to freeze to death.

I don't like cool air against my skin unless someone is heating me up in some other way, damn it.

Fury

I only wear lingerie if it's coming off soon. I prefer to be buck naked for comfort. And if their's children around a nice cotton nightie, or a long t-shirt works for me.

 

[FurryFury]

I only wear lingerie if it's coming off soon. I prefer to be buck naked for comfort. And if their's children around a nice cotton nightie, or a long t-shirt works for me.

Yesterday I work shorts and a rather sexy V necked shirt. *brr*

At home I wore a very short red silk robe with a dragon on the back. *brr*

Fury

 

[graceanne]

Yesterday I work shorts and a rather sexy V necked shirt. *brr*

At home I wore a very short red silk robe with a dragon on the back. *brr*

Fury

I'm wearing jeans and a tshirt right now. I'm also cold,t hough. It must be your fault.

 

[FurryFury]

I'm wearing jeans and a tshirt right now. I'm also cold,t hough. It must be your fault.

Want me to warm you up?

*waggles brows*

Fury

 

[graceanne]

Want me to warm you up?

*waggles brows*

Fury

Um, some other time.

 

[FurryFury]

Um, some other time.

*puts away hot water bottle and heating pad*

Kay.

*winks*

Fury

 

[graceanne]

*puts away hot water bottle and heating pad*

Kay.

*winks*

Fury

Goose.

I'm just gonna have to put on socks and a sweater. *grumps*

 

[FurryFury]

Goose.

I'm just gonna have to put on socks and a sweater. *grumps*

*L*

I rarely go about without something on my feet.

I keep blankets close by the couches as well.

Fury

 

[FurryFury]

After the sex quiz someone said something along the lines of "Please may I have another?"

Well it's a sort of quiz.

BUMP!

Fury

 

[neonflux]

One word, Fury - MILF

(That IS what your hubby really meant, right? if not, you need to get him some glasses!)

Neon

 

[FurryFury]

One word, Fury - MILF

(That IS what your hubby really meant, right? if not, you need to get him some glasses!)

Neon

Thanks!

I think I bumped the wrong thread though.

Crap.

Funny story perhaps, last night I was wearing this outfit someone gave me. I have gained some weight lately and I'm NOT happy about it. I felt it looked good overall but with the top off I could see some belly rounding. I was thinking, SHIT I look FAT!

But he was all, "this is the sexiest pair of pants ever."

God knows, I will NEVER understand him.

LMFAO!

I so need a work out partner and someone to MAKE me do it!

Yes, he thinks I'm a MILF. Yanno why that doesn't thrill me? Cause guys who want MILF just can't keep from mentioning how fucking old you are compared to them usually. Usually they are babies! LOL!

But he hated that gown, I mean he REALLY hated it.

Fury

 

[neonflux]

Thanks!

I think I bumped the wrong thread though.

Crap.

Funny story perhaps, last night I was wearing this outfit someone gave me. I have gained some weight lately and I'm NOT happy about it. I felt it looked good overall but with the top off I could see some belly rounding. I was thinking, SHIT I look FAT!

But he was all, "this is the sexiest pair of pants ever."

God knows, I will NEVER understand him.

LMFAO!

I so need a work out partner and someone to MAKE me do it!

Yes, he thinks I'm a MILF. Yanno why that doesn't thrill me? Cause guys who want MILF just can't keep from mentioning how fucking old you are compared to them usually. Usually they are babies! LOL!

But he hated that gown, I mean he REALLY hated it.

Fury

Additions in italics... Well, then first of all, he was blind when he saw you in the gown! *shakes head back and forth in incomprehension* I'm glad that he saw the light more recently (you may not have felt hot, but I honestly cannot imagine you being anything but )

I have never been called a MILF - I once referred to myself as such when talking to my old play partner and he protested that there is just absolutely NOTHING motherly about me, no matter how hard I try, LOL... ~D is 6 years younger than I. He does mention how turned on he is by the fact that I'm my age AND so hot. I have gotten to the point now, where I prefer NOT to think of myself as old, but rather as "very nicely preserved," thank you.

Neon

P.S., (I think I'll keep him )

 

[FurryFury]

It used to bother me when some people, mostly men who saw me perform my pre school story programs would find me all earth mother sexy.

Heck I had men falling all over me when I was pregnant. Didn't expect that.

Peoples is strange.

I'd prefer to think of myself as a separate entity from being a daughter, wife, or mother. I prefer to been seen as sexy in whatever form that takes though.

I think I mentioned that when I was younger I was all "but I have a mind too damnit!" Now I'm just fine with the sexy thang. Sure peeps think that way as long as you can!

LOL!

Fury

 

[neonflux]

It used to bother me when some people, mostly men who saw me perform my pre school story programs would find me all earth mother sexy.

Heck I had men falling all over me when I was pregnant. Didn't expect that.

Peoples is strange.

I'd prefer to think of myself as a separate entity from being a daughter, wife, or mother. I prefer to been seen as sexy in whatever form that takes though.

I think I mentioned that when I was younger I was all "but I have a mind too damnit!" Now I'm just fine with the sexy thang. Sure peeps think that way as long as you can!

LOL!

Fury

Goddess, I identify with your last comment, LOL. When I was young, I hid my breasts because of the attention they brought me (I also wanted to be seen for my mind). Now, I show them off every chance i get. Neon

 

[FurryFury]

Goddess, I identify with your last comment, LOL. When I was young, I hid my breasts because of the attention they brought me (I also wanted to be seen for my mind). Now, I show them off every chance i get. Neon

When I was young I didn't have big boobs or anything else. However they still got attention. I didn't like to wear a bra.

I noticed the other day that my shirts are rather low cut. After two kids, the boobs are bigger.

Fury

 

[CutieMouse]

I still don't (and probably never will) understand the MILF thing.

 

[FurryFury]

I still don't (and probably never will) understand the MILF thing.

I think it must lie along the same lines as the divorcee thing. She'll be so hot and put out so much? I dunno.

I'd rather someone want to fuck me than not and I am a mother but it still seems a bit strange to me.

Fury

 

[CutieMouse]

I think it must lie along the same lines as the divorcee thing. She'll be so hot and put out so much? I dunno.

I'd rather someone want to fuck me than not and I am a mother but it still seems a bit strange to me.

Fury

I just can't seem to see far enough past the adventures one's body goes through, to understand the hottness of MILF status. LOL I can grasp that (while dressed) I look damned good for a woman who has given birth eleventy-million times; why a man would want this body over that of a 25 year old, confuses the hell out of me. Add to that, that it mostly seems to be a younger guy kink, with the whole Mrs. Robinson thing, and I'm just koo koo kachoo'd into creepy old woman-land... and not in a good way. LOL

 

[Chris_Xavier]

After two kids, the boobs are bigger.

Fury

What's wrong with that??

 

[neonflux]

I just can't seem to see far enough past the adventures one's body goes through, to understand the hottness of MILF status. LOL I can grasp that (while dressed) I look damned good for a woman who has given birth eleventy-million times; why a man would want this body over that of a 25 year old, confuses the hell out of me. Add to that, that it mostly seems to be a younger guy kink, with the whole Mrs. Robinson thing, and I'm just koo koo kachoo'd into creepy old woman-land... and not in a good way. LOL

But why? We have other things that are more valuable and sex is certainly not only about the physical. I feel like I have much more to give in every sense of the word and I am much more generous with it (and not in the sexual sense, although with me I suspect many people would think that). I am much more comfortable with my body now than i was 20 years ago. I am more skilled sexually. I have more confidence, enter a room with greater power. I do keep in shape, but you're right, I WILL NEVER look 25 again, no matter how many minutes per day I do my crunches or my facial exercises. I like the lines in my face, and in the faces of others my age - we have character now. We are "fully formed."

Not everyone likes older women, but what's wrong with a younger guy having that kink? It's another type of wiring, another preference, like liking blonds or bbw's... Most of us are discomfitted by seeing an older woman and younger man together. We're not discomfitted by seeing an older man with a younger woman. Why? It seems to be a pecularly American thing... Helen Mirren, who is considered a sex symbol in many parts of the world - they don't know what to do with her in Hollywood! They cast her as the stern headmistress in silly teen movies!

Would I prefer that I not age? Of course - I'd love to be permanently stuck at 39 (I especially hate seeing my 20/20 vision go). But it's not going to change - I need to appreciate what I have and who I am now. I met a magnificent Domme at a play party I went to about a month ago (she introduced herself to me.) She was in her 70's. Felt perfectly comfortable walking around topless. Her sub was much, much younger. (Middle-aged.) I loved that she oozed so much power and control. She had a presence that was very sexual.

Clearly, you touched a nerve, LOL! I wil get off my soapbox now.

Neon