Should I kill him?

[DVS]

Your post very well illustrates a good point about about men in their mid-40s and above - a younger man may be able to cum more often, but he also does it much more quickly and with much less skill. Although a young "bite" can certainly prove a tasty treat now and then, on an ongoing basis, I would much rather have a man with sexual experience who can control his body and knows it well enough to attend to my pleasure easily. Life experience is certainly also a plus - the mind being the sexiest organ of the human body, after all.

HOWEVER!!! Like Zusub, I am far more likely to be approached by a younger man than someone closer to my age. Youse-guys are all out chasing women in their late 20s to mid-30s.

Neon

I appreciate that you understand the older male advantages. But, wese-guys (at least this guys) don't see how the younger women...especially the vanilla "princess" crowd...is even aware of this advantage, looking instead for their "Prince Charming" of the night...the younger man with a full head of hair and washboard abs. And, more power to them.

Maybe I'm just disgruntled. I'd have no problem working to get washboard abs if I thought it was worth it. I'm not over weight but it's quite obvious that what's left of my hair is a tell-tale sign I'm no longer in my 20s. I guess I could work on my abs and wear a hat?

Like you say, younger partners are a lot of fun, if you are looking for the tight bod and non-stop physical sex. Oh, and a sore back, the next day. But, an intelligent woman who has experienced life and appreciates the fact that I find her attractive is very appealing to me.

Note I said intelligent. I don't mean she need be a brainiac, but she should know when her shoes are tied and when to laugh at my jokes. And, she's more likely to know when I'm mentally stimulating her kinky woman inside.

I think all women are fun. There's nothing at all wrong with younger women, but I think they see something wrong with me. And personally, I guess it's my ego that enjoys the kind of woman that's been with enough men to know when she's being approached by one that is more than just a quick fuck in the dark.

 

[neonflux]

...And personally, I guess it's my ego that enjoys the kind of woman that's been with enough men to know when she's being approached by one that is more than just a quick fuck in the dark.

Yes, well, we have taste , not to mention we taste good!

 

[zuzub]

I appreciate that you understand the older male advantages. But, wese-guys (at least this guys) don't see how the younger women...especially the vanilla "princess" crowd...is even aware of this advantage, looking instead for their "Prince Charming" of the night...the younger man with a full head of hair and washboard abs.

Whoa, dude, speaking for Vanilla princesses here (well who else can?) I've gotta say you don't give us much credit. Having said that, you're probably right. In the vanilla life, there is an undeniable transaction level involved in sex and it goes something like this - I expect you to be my equal or better - in terms of attractiveness, wealth, profession, family, status, education level etc. And quite honestly, I expect that too. Sexual experience is great, but it's a single component. Ultimately, my partner needs to blend into my world and I have to keep that in mind. Like attracts like. Leave the pretty babies to the pretty boys and don't sweat it. We all had our time.

 

[FurryFury]

When I was 16, I never dated anyone under 32.

*shrugs*

 

[Alt]

"Oh, you put on your Mom dress I see." He didn't say it in a very nice voice either.

I was super pissed. I was insulted too. Do you think I should have killed him?

Are you sure he didn't say prom dress and try to get you in the backseat?

 

[FurryFury]

Are you sure he didn't say prom dress and try to get you in the backseat?

Quite sure!

I WISH he had.

LOL!

 

[DVS]

Whoa, dude, speaking for Vanilla princesses here (well who else can?) I've gotta say you don't give us much credit. Having said that, you're probably right. In the vanilla life, there is an undeniable transaction level involved in sex and it goes something like this - I expect you to be my equal or better - in terms of attractiveness, wealth, profession, family, status, education level etc. And quite honestly, I expect that too. Sexual experience is great, but it's a single component. Ultimately, my partner needs to blend into my world and I have to keep that in mind. Like attracts like. Leave the pretty babies to the pretty boys and don't sweat it. We all had our time.

Whoa, dudette! You're a vanilla princess? If you're a vanilla princess, what are you doing here? Looking for something you can't get from the vanilla boys, I guess?

And, you say "we all had our time" as if that time is over. I don't know about you, but I'm still having fun.

 

[Ebonyfire]

Whoa, dude, speaking for Vanilla princesses here (well who else can?) I've gotta say you don't give us much credit. Having said that, you're probably right. In the vanilla life, there is an undeniable transaction level involved in sex and it goes something like this - I expect you to be my equal or better - in terms of attractiveness, wealth, profession, family, status, education level etc. And quite honestly, I expect that too. Sexual experience is great, but it's a single component. Ultimately, my partner needs to blend into my world and I have to keep that in mind. Like attracts like. Leave the pretty babies to the pretty boys and don't sweat it. We all had our time.

You definitely have a lot to learn, lol.

 

[DVS]

When I was 16, I never dated anyone under 32.

*shrugs*

And so...where were you when I was 32? Do you know how much testosterone I was throwing around back then? I had more hair then, too. Not a lot more...just more.

But, just 20 short years later I know more about things than I did, then. I knew more then than I did at 22, but at 22 I was just trying to get laid as often as possible.

22-just getting laid was important.

32-getting laid, but in kinky relationships.

54-I know so much more now, it's scary. And, I'm picky about women. Tell that to a 22 year old man, and see what he says.

The really scary thing about this trend I see? At 74, I'll be so damn smart about things, but will I be able to do anything about it?

Wow! You at 16? God, that would be something to see. Were you kinky at all, back then?

 

[neonflux]

And so...where were you when I was 32? Do you know how much testosterone I was throwing around back then? I had more hair then, too. Not a lot more...just more.

But, just 20 short years later I know more about things than I did, then. I knew more then than I did at 22, but at 22 I was just trying to get laid as often as possible.

22-just getting laid was important.

32-getting laid, but in kinky relationships.

54-I know so much more now, it's scary. And, I'm picky about women. Tell that to a 22 year old man, and see what he says.

The really scary thing about this trend I see? At 74, I'll be so damn smart about things, but will I be able to do anything about it?

Wow! You at 16? God, that would be something to see. Were you kinky at all, back then?

I am here , I am 51 (as of yesterday), I am extreeeeemly hot (had 30 year old eyes following me this evening) and I love bald men (my SO are one, LOL). It's such a pitty you're not switch.

Neon

 

[DVS]

I am here , I am 51 (as of yesterday), I am extreeeeemly hot (had 30 year old eyes following me this evening) and I love bald men (my SO are one, LOL). It's such a pitty you're not switch.

Neon

It's a pitty you're not.

 

[neonflux]

It's a pitty you're not.

Yea, and it's a pitty I cannot spell when I am drunk, either, LOL. (BTW, I am switch, just not feeling at all subby these days and have absolutely no idea of when those desires will return... )

 

[DVS]

Yea, and it's a pitty I cannot spell when I am drunk, either, LOL. (BTW, I am switch, just not feeling at all subby these days and have absolutely no idea of when those desires will return... )

Give me a little time with you bound and in my grasp...I think your subbie self would return. No brag, just fact. OK, some brag, too. LOL.

And, if not...you'd still be still bound and in my grasp.

 

[FurryFury]

And so...where were you when I was 32? Do you know how much testosterone I was throwing around back then? I had more hair then, too. Not a lot more...just more.

But, just 20 short years later I know more about things than I did, then. I knew more then than I did at 22, but at 22 I was just trying to get laid as often as possible.

22-just getting laid was important.

32-getting laid, but in kinky relationships.

54-I know so much more now, it's scary. And, I'm picky about women. Tell that to a 22 year old man, and see what he says.

The really scary thing about this trend I see? At 74, I'll be so damn smart about things, but will I be able to do anything about it?

Wow! You at 16? God, that would be something to see. Were you kinky at all, back then?

I believe our core selves are what we are at any age.

Therefore, yes I believe I was kinky at 16.

If the question is was I aware of it? I'd have to say no. Though I did have shameful fantasies back then. Hell, back at least as far as fifth grade, perhaps early.

If you are asking did I DO anything about being kinky? I'd have to say consciously no, subconsciously, perhaps.

I put myself in dangerous and compromised situations constantly, giving someone else power over me, on the one hand. On the other hand, legally I could have ruined lives and I knew it gave me a certain power.

This is back when I knew I desperately wanted sex but it was forbidden to me or I'd be a very bad girl. I was determined to be good, waiting until I was married.

Yet, in order to feel "loved" I needed a man to want me sexually. I didn't realize that consciously mind you. I simply acted on it. Many older men were willing to take what I would give and never ask for more.

I WISH I'd met you or someone who did know what they wanted kink wise at that age. Oh how I do wish! To think of what I could have done and experienced with all that time is nearly heartbreaking to me.

My time line is something like this.

16-not getting laid was important despite the fact I really wanted to experience sex. In fact, I'd readily tell my grandparent to thier aparent delight that I couldn't wait to make up for lost time once I was married.

Therefore I'd have drunk times, alone times with men at least twice my age and so forth, leaving myself vulnerable while in some ways holding the trump card.

I did everything I could think of but have intercourse. (Anal sex never occurred to me.)

21-got raped but didn't recognize it as such in my own mind. I justified it for him. I felt I would be "evil" if sex had occurred and I wasn't at least in love. The sin could in fact, be expunged. at least in part, if we married.

30-Pregnant, abused for a decade and walked out on, I was sure I'd be alone for at least three years. To my surprise a good half dozen people came out of the woodwork wanting to be with me but only one knew what it took.

At this time I was a walking hormone but couldn't come at all.

35-Two pregnancies behind me, I was still feeling guilty for my "bad" thoughts. I was also closed off sexually in several areas due to abuse from my first husband. My second husband put up with all this and a raging sex drive I could come now thank heavens. This sex drive raged in part from my insecurities, as it always has.

42-Begin online gaming. Turns into cyber. Leads me to explore what Power Exchange is. Ramps up sex drive into the stratosphere. Finally accept my kinky desires. Became sexually, totally open, to my husband. Worried about missed opportunities and lack of time.

 

[FurryFury]

I am here , I am 51 (as of yesterday), I am extreeeeemly hot (had 30 year old eyes following me this evening) and I love bald men (my SO are one, LOL). It's such a pitty you're not switch.

Neon

I already knew you are extremely hot!

LOL!

Of course you had men's eyes following you!

 

[DVS]

I believe our core selves are what we are at any age.

Therefore, yes I believe I was kinky at 16.

If the question is was I aware of it? I'd have to say no. Though I did have shameful fantasies back then. Hell, back at least as far as fifth grade, perhaps early.

If you are asking did I DO anything about being kinky? I'd have to say consciously no, subconsciously, perhaps.

I put myself in dangerous and compromised situations constantly, giving someone else power over me, on the one hand. On the other hand, legally I could have ruined lives and I knew it gave me a certain power.

This is back when I knew I desperately wanted sex but it was forbidden to me or I'd be a very bad girl. I was determined to be good, waiting until I was married.

Yet, in order to feel "loved" I needed a man to want me sexually. I didn't realize that consciously mind you. I simply acted on it. Many older men were willing to take what I would give and never ask for more.

I WISH I'd met you or someone who did know what they wanted kink wise at that age. Oh how I do wish! To think of what I could have done and experienced with all that time is nearly heartbreaking to me.

My time line is something like this.

16-not getting laid was important despite the fact I really wanted to experience sex. In fact, I'd readily tell my grandparent to thier aparent delight that I couldn't wait to make up for lost time once I was married.

Therefore I'd have drunk times, alone times with men at least twice my age and so forth, leaving myself vulnerable while in some ways holding the trump card.

I did everything I could think of but have intercourse. (Anal sex never occurred to me.)

21-got raped but didn't recognize it as such in my own mind. I justified it for him. I felt I would be "evil" if sex had occurred and I wasn't at least in love. The sin could in fact, be expunged. at least in part, if we married.

30-Pregnant, abused for a decade and walked out on, I was sure I'd be alone for at least three years. To my surprise a good half dozen people came out of the woodwork wanting to be with me but only one knew what it took.

At this time I was a walking hormone but couldn't come at all.

35-Two pregnancies behind me, I was still feeling guilty for my "bad" thoughts. I was also closed off sexually in several areas due to abuse from my first husband. My second husband put up with all this and a raging sex drive I could come now thank heavens. This sex drive raged in part from my insecurities, as it always has.

42-Begin online gaming. Turns into cyber. Leads me to explore what Power Exchange is. Ramps up sex drive into the stratosphere. Finally accept my kinky desires. Became sexually, totally open, to my husband. Worried about missed opportunities and lack of time.

Wow. You know...this sounds like a good thread. The open sexual thoughts of a developing kinky personality as the years progress. Done.

 

[Ebonyfire]

54-I know so much more now, it's scary. And, I'm picky about women. Tell that to a 22 year old man, and see what he says.

I dunno DVS, I just kicked a 22 year old to the curb. He does not like to date younger women. He thinks they are skanks (his words not mine, although from what I have seen lately while out and about, he is right).

Young guys just do not have the depth I look for.

 

[zuzub]

Whoa, dudette! You're a vanilla princess? If you're a vanilla princess, what are you doing here? Looking for something you can't get from the vanilla boys, I guess?

And, you say "we all had our time" as if that time is over. I don't know about you, but I'm still having fun.

Hey DVS. Points taken. You're right. I'm here for two reasons:

1) I ABSOLUTELY LOVE YOU GUYS! - You're the whole package - smart, detached, attached, introspective, sexy, funny, self-aware, imaginative, emotional...everything. I love being here and thank you for letting me. Hiccup. <grin>

2) My sex life has sucked ass to date. No doubt about it. Unfortunately, there's a common denominator here. You know what I'm saying? <cringe>. I gotta see what I can do about it. I've never had an orgasm in my life. If I keep it up, I could die this way. NOOOO!!!!!

For me, full of bravado means full of crap. Thanks for being nice about it. Once again, you guys are routinely a class act.

zuzu.bailey.

 

[zuzub]

I always knew I was kinky. I just wouldn't admit it. Do you think it's like being gay or straight? Is it coded or is it taught? What is it?

 

[BiBunny]

I always knew I was kinky. I just wouldn't admit it. Do you think it's like being gay or straight? Is it coded or is it taught? What is it?

I'm guessing it's a little of both. One's born with a predisposition, and something in one's environment brings it to the forefront. My entirely non-professional opinion, of course.

 

[Xelebes]

If you're going to kill him, make sure you don't murder him. Make it accidental - like oh! I didn't see you there.

Make it convincing though. A mack truck in his living room is not going to do the trick.

 

[FurryFury]

I think it's coded and NOT taught at all. Just my opinion.

 

[FurryFury]

If you're going to kill him, make sure you don't murder him. Make it accidental - like oh! I didn't see you there.

Make it convincing though. A mack truck in his living room is not going to do the trick.

That would be one hellva an accident though.

 

[Xelebes]

That would be one hellva an accident though.

I hear polonium is now the poison de le jour.

 

[satindesire]

Where the heck would you get something like that unless you were some kind of rocket/nuclear scientist?

aren't we all, here, though?