Should I be honest with her?

[YoungStud]

Well, i'm new here, but I've been hanging out, reading a lot here. My question for everyone is this. I have a girlfriend, and we've been going out for over a year. I am 18 (note: youngstud!) and there are many women out there willing to fool around and have sex with mer. My question, is what should I do about my present girlfriend? Should I behave, and keep my sexual urges for her, or should I say "i'm not married, and I only live once" and go for it? Obviously, I think I know the right choice, but I need other people's opinions.



"Life is a waste of time, Time is a waste of life, so lets get Wasted all the time and have the Time of our life!"

 

[Nicole]

How would you feel if she slept around on you???

I know that your saying your young enough, and if you truly think that way you need to tell her thanks for the good times but I need to search out my sexual identity. That way no-one gets hurt.

Just explain to her that you want to seek out a more sexual relationship rather than a commitment relationship. Honesty is the best key

Then again if she makes you happy and you think she's the "one" then stay with her and be faithful

 

[wolfy]

I take it you are having sex with your gf? You didn't specify.
If you are and you enjoy being with her then why would you want to sleep with other girls? You are young so more then l ikely your relationship won't last forever. It would be great if it does but if not you will have plenty of time to experiment later. Enjoy your close relationship while you can and maybe have her join this board so you can both get new ideas on what to try!!!

If you arn't currently having sex with her then I suggest you talk to her and let her know how you feel. Try and see why she is waiting and then make your decision and explain yourself to her truthfully if you can.

Hope this helps some friend

 

[Roll-One]

This is a normal thought for a young guy to wonder about these feelings.

the only thing i can tell ya is that you have to be open and honest to yourself first, and then be open and honest to your girlfiend about your feelings.

Nicole is right, surely you wouldn't want to hurt your girlfriend, talk to her about it.....
Hope this helps ya

 

[Guest]

I have to agree with the general opinion out there currently. If you're with your girlfriend, and you love her (or care about her), and you enjoy being with her, why cheat on her? What would you do if she slept around? Granted you might be "young", but if you're in a relationship with someone, you should be faithful to them.

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[YoungStud]

I am sleeping with her.... and the sex is great. I have fooled around with other girls, even a married woman once I honestly think that, the reason I want to sleep with other women, is a way to get back at her. I love her, and in 10 years could see myself with her, but not before I got to experiment with other women. I've told her I love her, but she's never said if back, she's afraid to get hurt. I guess this is my way of getting back at her neglect, or lack of love for me. Deep down inside I want to believe she loves me, but deep down inside I want to be free. it's hard to decide, but thanks for all the help. I really like it here at LitErotica, I can really relate to most of you people!

"Life is a waste of time, Time is a waste of life, so lets get Wasted all the time and have the Time of our life!"

 

[Nicole]

You want to get back at her for not saying she loves you???

Babe give up and go experiment, if you feel that way then this is not the relationship for you. You have already messed around behind her back, what makes you think that you can hold this relationship together? You say she's afraid to get hurt. What do you think your doing to her by experimenting with other women?

Go and enjoy yourself while you can.

Sorry everyone but this relationship sounds to me like it will never work.

 

[Roll-One]

I agree Nicole... sounds like to me there's more going on than we know

 

[Unclebill]

Nicole, sounds like you nailed it. No way to improve on your comments. I'll simply agree with your wisdom and directness.