She's dying...

[Silverluna]

If you see me...and I am extra whiny or something...pay it little mind...my Grandma is slowly dying...and it hard to hear about someone wasting away...and not a DAMN thing anyone can do...
~Silver

 

[LRC]

I'm sorry to hear about your grandmother.

 

[Silverluna]

Thanks..

Thanks LRC.....

 

[Mz_Scarlett]

Silver,

I'm so sorry to hear about your grandmother...my grandfather passed away almost 3 years ago...it was awful watching him slowly drift away. My comfort is in knowing that some of my best qualities were inherited from him. He was a great man and he will always be in my heart as I am sure your grandmother will always remain with you...

I'm here if you need someone to listen or even for just a cyber hug

Mz_Scarlett

 

[Mensa]

Sorry, love, that is rough. You have my sympathy.

 

[april-wine]

Sorry to hear that.....you are in my thoughts........

 

[Guest]

Oh, Luna. I am so sorry to hear about your Grandma.....

The only comforting words I have for you are these.

My Grandma died over six years ago.
I know for a fact that she is still watching over me, my little angel. Whenever I need someone to cry to, laugh with, listen to me, she is there.

I find comfort in the fact that when I go to heaven, her smiling face will greet me. And I will get to kiss that soft cheek once more.

Cherish your time left with her, comfort her in anyway you can.

Allow yourself the pain, tears and sorrow.

Special *hugs* for you. If you need someone to talk to, rant on or just to hear your words, my pm box is always sitting here.

 

[Silverluna]

my thanks to you all...I can't spend time with her....she's in another state....but I do know that she's got a place to go to....afterwards...she's not in any pain right now...cause when your body is this ...weak..it stops letting you know you are in pain...

 

[Wiggles]

Darnit, I am the Unregisturd......

 

[T.H. Oughts]

Sending hugs for you and your family

 

[Gamelover221]

Just try and spend any time you can with her now, whether it's phone calls or letters, anything will mean a lot. At least you know the end is coming and can prepare for it. You have this chance to say goodbye and have good closure. Take advantage

 

[Tim1]

Im sorry

Silver,
God bless you and your grandma. Time has come for her and time will be plentiful for you. You are a wonderful person to love her so much.

 

[on_the_verge]

There is nothing anyone can do. It's out of our hands, but we must realize death is not the end, but a passage we have yet to know until we meet it. I am sorry to see that your grandmother is not well and I hope that all the love ones will find the strength and courage to continue on in this world.

There is a passage that death is not the end, but a continuation. The spirit still thrives and the memories will stand the test of time. When I go to my parents house, I feed my dogs and wish them well as if they were still in the physical. I lay next to dog houses and think of how wonderful they are in my life.

I think of my grandmother and promised that I would be able to speak Thai to her one day before it was too late. I never fulfilled that promise, but every time I learn more and more of it, I feel I am giving what I wanted to my grandmother…the ability to speak to her grandson as a conversation and not "taxi cab" Thai.

Rat's! Now I am getting teary eyed…

 

[JaymesBlond007]

I'm sorry to hear that.

My Grandmother slowly passed away a few years ago, from brain and lung cancer. It was a real test of strength to watch her go, but death is a proccess which has no heart.

You can only be thankful that she is experiencing little pain, and hope that she passes on soon.

Once again, I want to express my most heart-felt condolences, and wish you the patience to make it through.

JB

 

[Silverluna]

Angry

Gahh...I can't help feeling a bit angry at the Divine....I know death is apart of life...but DAMNIT why doesn't it just hurry up and get this over with!!!!!???!!
I am so *sick* of seeing her suffering.....

 

[on_the_verge]

Re: Angry

Gahh...I can't help feeling a bit angry at the Divine....I know death is apart of life...but DAMNIT why doesn't it just hurry up and get this over with!!!!!???!!
I am so *sick* of seeing her suffering.....

Because the darkest of death and the radiance of faith allows us to see how precious life is and how horrible it can be and the fine grey lines in between…

 

[Silverluna]

mhh...maybe so...but it don't make the pain go away!! Grrr...

 

[Cheyenne]

Re: Angry

Gahh...I can't help feeling a bit angry at the Divine....I know death is apart of life...but DAMNIT why doesn't it just hurry up and get this over with!!!!!???!!
I am so *sick* of seeing her suffering.....

A wise doctor once told our family that "there are things worse than death." He was right, and I wish I never had to learn that.

It is okay to pray for the end to someone's suffering. I prayed for my grandmother's death for quite awhile before her time to go finally came.

 

[Silverlily]

Re: Angry

Gahh...I can't help feeling a bit angry at the Divine....I know death is apart of life...but DAMNIT why doesn't it just hurry up and get this over with!!!!!???!!
I am so *sick* of seeing her suffering.....

Much empathy.

I am in the same boat with my mother. She has ALS and is wasting away before my eyes. I can do nothing. Some days the anger is overwhelming. I know people mean well, but sometimes you want everyone to take their platitudes and choke on them.

Believe me, darlin', IF there is a god, I have a few choice words for him.

 

[lickerish]

Re: Re: Angry

Believe me, darlin', IF there is a god, I have a few choice words for him.

You took the words right outta my mouth (and the below message applies to you too)



I'm sorry Silverluna, for the pain you are going through.. and for all that your grandmother is going through. I am in a world of hurt right now because of my mom's situation.. so I know what you're going through. If you ever want to vent or talk.. i'm just a pm/email away.


Take care sweetie,

Licky

 

[sigh]

i've sat the death watch twice

the first was for six days and nights as my father slowly passed away, and while it was horrible to see his pain we gained an understanding, he and i, of what makes a perfect father and daughter team

we cried together, laughed together and swapped every story we could until he grew weak to talk...then i helped clean his accidents, gave him his morphine and kissed his eyelids closed when he went off into staring spells

when you hold a portable urinal for your father because he's too weak to help himself, you've broken down all possible barriers between the two of you

it was a heart-rending and yet a beautiful time too...he died with peace in his eyes, courage in his soul and a smile on his lips

the second watch was for my best high-school friend who died of AIDS before he could make it through college...that one was tearful and tragic (and infuriating), but the hours i spent at his side left me the best of friends with his mother who sat across his bed from me

death isn't wonderful, luna, but there is opportunity there to learn so much...i wish both my father and david were alive to this day, but i'll always treasure the hours we had together at the end

i'm thinking of you, dear

 

[freakygirl]

Luna, I'm sorry to hear the pain that is in your heart.

I didn't get the chance to tell my father or my brother good bye. Tragic deaths aren't any easier or worse than knowing and watching someone die.

My grandmother was admited to the hospital a little over a week ago. Congestive heart failure has been getting her down for atleast 10 years. We thought she was going to pass away last week but she fought hard and is getting ready to go home soon. She is 94 and told us that she has accepted it is time to go. She is tired and just wants to rest. Her words put me at ease. I'm not ready for her to go, but I'm glad that she is at peace with it. When she goes my heart will break. But knowing she was ready will make it easier.

*hugs*

 

[Ladyhawke]

There is nothing I can say to make the pain go away... it is so difficult to watch those we love suffer.

I watched my Grandpa suffer for too many years from emphysema. I felt it was a blessing when he passed away, and this may seem cold, but I didn't even cry at his funeral, he was where he wanted to be...free from his burden.

 

[LadyDarkFire]

Luna, hon, you have a PM.

 

[MechaBlade]

Sorry.

You have no idea how much I identify with you right now.

I wish you happiness and ends to both of your suffering.

MechaBlade.