Sexy at Work

[shizzz]

I can’t help myself at work. When I see a tight top, or bottom, I look. If the buttons are a little low, and she leans over, I look.

Am I being inappropriate? I’ve been caught once or twice, and in notice that later they will be more careful, or reach up to cover the neckline.

Am I now a pervert in their eyes?

How/can one recover from that? Not everyone understands how impulsive that can be for some guys (I know I know. I did enjoy it….)

Ladies? Can you help me understand this?

 

[NightL]

"Am I now a pervert in their eyes?" probably yes

"Not everyone understands how impulsive that can be for some guys (I know I know. I did enjoy it….)" seriously get another role model than Trump - not working out well for him and nor will it for you.

Are you old enough to have a wife or even a girlfriend? I suggest whatever you write here passes through a filter of "how would they judge me for writing this?". Now if you are as immature as your post implies, perhaps ask your mother.

 

[shizzz]

"Am I now a pervert in their eyes?" probably yes

"Not everyone understands how impulsive that can be for some guys (I know I know. I did enjoy it….)" seriously get another role model than Trump - not working out well for him and nor will it for you.

Are you old enough to have a wife or even a girlfriend? I suggest whatever you write here passes through a filter of "how would they judge me for writing this?". Now if you are as immature as your post implies, perhaps ask your mother.

I’m no trumpster and yes I am old enough to have a wife. I do not go around trying to check women out. When the situation arises, my eyes shift, I don’t view any of my coworkers as sexual objects.

But from your comments, this makes me a terrible person?

 

[Carnevil9]

If they already think you are a pervert (and they probably do), you might as well enjoy it! Go on and be all the perv that you can be. Most women will probably be creeped out by it, but once in a while, one will dig it, and she will make it all worth the effort!

 

[SunShyne92]

I can’t help myself at work. When I see a tight top, or bottom, I look. If the buttons are a little low, and she leans over, I look.

Am I being inappropriate? I’ve been caught once or twice, and in notice that later they will be more careful, or reach up to cover the neckline.

Am I now a pervert in their eyes?

How/can one recover from that? Not everyone understands how impulsive that can be for some guys (I know I know. I did enjoy it….)

Ladies? Can you help me understand this?

It all depends on the woman. I mean it is human nature for most people to look both male and female. I think at some point most of us have looked if we see something attractive or curious. When it comes to clothing yes some women dress to show off and to be noticed. Other women dress to feel confident, professional or even so we feel sexy ourselves because we want to. We don't do it for anyone else other than ourselves and our own reasons. Those or times when it can get irritating being eyeballed.

 

[shizzz]

It all depends on the woman. I mean it is human nature for most people to look both male and female. I think at some point most of us have looked if we see something attractive or curious. When it comes to clothing yes some women dress to show off and to be noticed. Other women dress to feel confident, professional or even so we feel sexy ourselves because we want to. We don't do it for anyone else other than ourselves and our own reasons. Those or times when it can get irritating being eyeballed.

the act of ‘covering up’ is a clear indication Of the latter. Is there a way to ‘repair’ or just do my best and it alll comes out in the wash.

Unless I should apologize for the act, but I feel like talking about it makes it worse

 

[SunShyne92]

the act of ‘covering up’ is a clear indication Of the latter. Is there a way to ‘repair’ or just do my best and it alll comes out in the wash.

Unless I should apologize for the act, but I feel like talking about it makes it worse

If you are to get caught and it is clear that the attention was not appreciated I would recommend a quick and to the point sorry. You don't have to discuss it but the act is usually appreciated and then you can move on most of the time.

 

[shizzz]

If you are to get caught and it is clear that the attention was not appreciated I would recommend a quick and to the point sorry. You don't have to discuss it but the act is usually appreciated and then you can move on most of the time.

Quick ‘sorry’

And assume we all know what I am talking about. Not a ‘sorry I was checking you out’. My hesitation always comes from what to say, cause it always sounds worse in my head. Like what I wrote. Lol

 

[SunShyne92]

Quick ‘sorry’

And assume we all know what I am talking about. Not a ‘sorry I was checking you out’. My hesitation always comes from what to say, cause it always sounds worse in my head. Like what I wrote. Lol

It's a small offer but about the best in a bad situation. For the most part we all know you're sorry mostly about getting caught versus looking. If you offer a comment about the situation then it will most likely move into an awkward discussion that probably neither of you want to have. So my simple suggestion would be to say sorry, look away and continue on. If she wants to discuss it more she'll more than likely comment or say something or both of you move on. If you do want to discuss it then you can comment or be more specific in apologizing but yeah I can see that getting awkward or even heated if with someone who really didn't appreciate the attention. Again just my opinion and I am sure some people will agree and some people not.

 

[shizzz]

It's a small offer but about the best in a bad situation. For the most part we all know you're sorry mostly about getting caught versus looking. If you offer a comment about the situation then it will most likely move into an awkward discussion that probably neither of you want to have. So my simple suggestion would be to say sorry, look away and continue on. If she wants to discuss it more she'll more than likely comment or say something or both of you move on. If you do want to discuss it then you can comment or be more specific in apologizing but yeah I can see that getting awkward or even heated if with someone who really didn't appreciate the attention. Again just my opinion and I am sure some people will agree and some people not.

I appreciate the advice, and I will take it to heart!

 

[Rob_Royale]

If they already think you are a pervert (and they probably do), you might as well enjoy it! Go on and be all the perv that you can be. Most women will probably be creeped out by it, but once in a while, one will dig it, and she will make it all worth the effort!

Not great advice unless you want to end up in front of HR and probably be fired. And then you have to explain to the NEXT potential employer why they can't contact your last employer.

Honestly, it's not that hard to just keep your eyes on the work, at work. It's not. A little self-control when you're in close quarters is appreciated by everyone. I've worked around attractive women my whole career. A quick "sorry" is NOT advised either. That means, "Yes, I know it was wrong, but did it anyway, and don't want you to be mad." It's a band-aid on an amputation.

If you cannot control yourself, I recommend seeing a mental health professional. I know you were asking for input from the ladies, but I felt this needed to be said.

 

[shizzz]

Not great advice unless you want to end up in front of HR and probably be fired. And then you have to explain to the NEXT potential employer why they can't contact your last employer.

Honestly, it's not that hard to just keep your eyes on the work, at work. It's not. A little self-control when you're in close quarters is appreciated by everyone. I've worked around attractive women my whole career. A quick "sorry" is NOT advised either. That means, "Yes, I know it was wrong, but did it anyway, and don't want you to be mad." It's a band-aid on an amputation.

If you cannot control yourself, I recommend seeing a mental health professional. I know you were asking for input from the ladies, but I felt this needed to be said.

I try. And I do well, typically. But no one is 100% and no one is perfect. Trying to figure how to manage the times I am not on point. Cuz shit happens.

I can see where you are coming from and totally appreciate the advice. I can see what you mean by interpretation. And to play it by what I know of the person

 

[kinkyyjulia]

I can’t help myself at work. When I see a tight top, or bottom, I look. If the buttons are a little low, and she leans over, I look.

Am I being inappropriate? I’ve been caught once or twice, and in notice that later they will be more careful, or reach up to cover the neckline.

Am I now a pervert in their eyes?

How/can one recover from that? Not everyone understands how impulsive that can be for some guys (I know I know. I did enjoy it….)

Ladies? Can you help me understand this?

Most of them would say you are a pervert. But I would surely enjoy the looks I get.

 

[UtilityCurve]

Most of them would say you are a pervert. But I would surely enjoy the looks I get.

That bespeaks a perverted understanding of the word "pervert."

2. sexual behavior or desire that is considered abnormal or unacceptable.

Abnormal? Hardly. In fact, I would argue precisely the opposite.

Unacceptable? Unless it is categorically unwanted without regard to time or place, I'd call this behavior "unwelcome" at worst.

Not a few women have, perhaps with resignation but definitely with assurance, said that this is expected behavior and entirely predictable. My wife observed that if I were not inclined to notice things like that, I probably wouldn't have the hots for her and that wouldn't do at all.

 

[GD88]

In these situations, if you’re a guy, the best and most low-risk scenario is if you enjoy discreetly (ie. Don’t make it obvious you’re ogling) and they continue to dress sexily. I’ve been lucky enough to be caught by a female co-worker and for my attention to be tacitly welcomed but I suspect this is the exception to the rule.

 

[justforfun8288]

I can’t help myself at work. When I see a tight top, or bottom, I look. If the buttons are a little low, and she leans over, I look.

Am I being inappropriate? I’ve been caught once or twice, and in notice that later they will be more careful, or reach up to cover the neckline.

Am I now a pervert in their eyes?

How/can one recover from that? Not everyone understands how impulsive that can be for some guys (I know I know. I did enjoy it….)

Ladies? Can you help me understand this?

Maybe I’m in the minority, but I love when I catch men take a lingering glance. It’s a compliment, and even sometimes a turn on.

 

[ronde]

It depends entirely upon the woman. The way most sexual harassment laws are written, all that's required is for the woman to say she feels uncomfortable in the workplace.

I know an engineer who spent a significant time in HR because of five words he said to a co-worker. This was in 1984 after the movie "The Woman in Red" was released. This co-worker wore a red dress to work, and the engineer smiled and said "It's the woman in red". She went to HR and said he'd made her feel uncomfortable. The engineer didn't lose his job, but he was forced to apologize to the woman and warned that any future complaints about his would result in his termination.

 

[ned63]

Maybe I’m in the minority, but I love when I catch men take a lingering glance. It’s a compliment, and even sometimes a turn on.

Well Id love to be able to take some nice lingering looks at you. You'd see the sparkle in my eyes as I take in the beauty of what I was getting a glimps of mmm and I hope Id see the sparkle in your eyes too.

 

[shizzz]

Maybe I’m in the minority, but I love when I catch men take a lingering glance. It’s a compliment, and even sometimes a turn on.

I love a woman who understands. Has a little fun and makes their coworkers day a little better.

I tell jokes to put a smile on others faces. I’d wear grey sweatpants if I could, but there is a business casual dress code

 

[lil_jenni]

I can’t help myself at work. When I see a tight top, or bottom, I look. If the buttons are a little low, and she leans over, I look.

Am I being inappropriate? I’ve been caught once or twice, and in notice that later they will be more careful, or reach up to cover the neckline.

Am I now a pervert in their eyes?

How/can one recover from that? Not everyone understands how impulsive that can be for some guys (I know I know. I did enjoy it….)

Ladies? Can you help me understand this?

Considering that the colloquial use of 'pervert', or more frequently 'perv', as opposed to the cited dictionary definition above (indeed, some dictionaries--the better, more complete ones--will include colloquial definitions), the answer is... it depends.

For me, a guy whose eyes flick downward if I'm leaning over or he's standing and I'm sitting is not alone enough to make me think he's a perv, in the colloquial sense. I might try to hold my neck closed or avoid situations where he can look if it is repeated behavior. But unless he's actively trying to get that look, and doing it on the regular, then I don't think he's a perv. He's human. Hell, I can't help but look sometimes in the same situations.

 

[live4thebj]

Becareful in the work place. Can get you fired and sued.

 

[lil_jenni]

Becareful in the work place. Can get you fired and sued.

Good point. And I wanted to clarify I was only commenting for myself, not any other woman, and certainly not women as a whole...

 

[shizzz]

Considering that the colloquial use of 'pervert', or more frequently 'perv', as opposed to the cited dictionary definition above (indeed, some dictionaries--the better, more complete ones--will include colloquial definitions), the answer is... it depends.

For me, a guy whose eyes flick downward if I'm leaning over or he's standing and I'm sitting is not alone enough to make me think he's a perv, in the colloquial sense. I might try to hold my neck closed or avoid situations where he can look if it is repeated behavior. But unless he's actively trying to get that look, and doing it on the regular, then I don't think he's a perv. He's human. Hell, I can't help but look sometimes in the same situations.

Yeah. I don’t mean to, and I try to keep it as professional as I can. But as an older man, I don’t get out often, so I don’t see these things as often as I used to. Or as I’d like. But I try very hard but too. As much as I’d love to be treated as a piece of meat, I don’t want my coworkers feeling that way. Unless they want to. Hence my dilemma. I can never tell if it’s me. Or if it’s them.

 

[Toylovr]

There's a lady I work with in an office, she's about 9 years or 10 years younger than me, newly divorced (very bad situation) with two late teen daughters. We have worked together for over 2 years now. She is very... hmmmm... she is a bit on the crazy side I guess! lol She is a beautiful woman, just went through some rough times and partly due to her own self inflicted problems has hit rock bottom and working her way back up the ladder in her life and taking control. She dresses the way she wants at work, there really doesn't seem to be an enforced dress code as there is only 8 of us that work in the office and warehouse at this location. She will wear jeans, dresses, yoga pants, shorts, etc. Tops are anything from sweaters, button up shirts, t-shirts, blouses, etc. She is a curvy woman, not a bbw, but she is "fluffy" and she certainly carries herself well. She isn't a slut by any means either. She dresses for HER, now that she has a boyfriend, perhaps for him too, and it looks good (in my eyes). Now when she wore short shorts one day, that just about caused the other two women in the office to have heart failure, they thought the world was coming to an end! Not overly sure why she wore those to work thinking it would cause the hens to cluck, but it sure didn't bother me. Did I look, hell yes, I have a dick and well that head seems to take over in situations like that. No different than yesterday when she wore a peach colored sun dress, long and semi sheer. Nice low cut neck line but not too low. Nude bra and a pair of black thongs. I'm sure that isn't the correct choice for this outfit, but I sure as hell loved it. I didn't mind seeing the outline of them through the dress all day! What an ass she has!!

But anyways, talk about getting side tracked!

About 8 months ago or so, I said to her one day when she was really down on herself and was chatty about all her problems. I told her that she looks good in what she chooses to wear to work. She looks classy. She was just wearing blue jeans and a nice black top, think it was the one that is see through if in the correct light?? And she did look good, simple yet sexy. I told her that she NEEDS to look in the mirror each day and love her body. She was down on the weight she had gained since last summer when she lost I think she said 35lbs. I told her she looked great and to stop beat'n herself up. We had a short discussion about her looks/body/liking herself. In the end she smiled and thanked me, said it made her feel good. Since then, just about every day I comment on her outfit and how she looks. I'm telling her truthfully. I like the way she dresses. If its a bit provocative, so what! The way I see it, if someone doesn't like it - DON'T LOOK! Don't be the one to run to HR and start complaining! There are kids going to school half naked and you want to complain about the way the lady in the office dresses? Look at the way the world is changing, less clothing is way more acceptable now a days. It should carry through into the office too!

Getting caught looking. Yeah, definitely deserves an apology. Ya gotta do the looking with tact, cautiously..... I know I will NEVER stop admiring a woman, no matter where I am. The female form should be enjoyed and loved, and NOT in a creepy way!

Oh man, I need to make another coffee and get off my soap box.