Sexual Heath- Questions

[sweetnpetite]

question about anal

Here's a question. No matter how lubbed up I am for anal, and no matter how careful we are or how slow we go and even if it doesn't hurt at all during, I am always sore for about 2 days after and have a hard time w/ bowel movements (not bc. of the muscles, but the tenderness) Does anybody have any idvice for post-deed soreness? or is there something I should be doing differently during or before to prevent this?

 

[Caliber]

I wonder about the mucus. Is it harmful in anyway? for instance could it lead to anykind of respetory problems or anything like that? are there way to thin or thicken it?

Mucus is (and this goes for mucis pulled from any part of the body) composed mostly of water leeched off from the lymph nodes. If the person exepelling the mucus has an infection, look to the mucus first as a highly contagious area.

Otherwise, I can't think of it being harmful at all.

Note that if you inhale semen (ie, allow it access to your respitory system) it WILL mess you up. Just like inhaling water or anything other than air will. But just swallowing it should be fine (as long as the donar is problem free.)

I know what a man eats changes the flavor, and I wouldn't be suprised if it also changes the viscosity (thickness - thinness) of his semen as well.

From my own experiences I know that how hydrated I am and the last time I've had sex contribute largely to how thick or thin my semen is.

If I'm really dehydrated or I've cum quite a bit already, its normally really thick (although reduced to very limited quantities)

If I'm the opposite (just drank some water or haven't cum in a while) its thinner (although by no means even close to water consistency) because there is a lot more precum involved.

If anyone wants to test out if any foods make a man's load thicker or thinner, please share with the boards.

 

[Caliber]

I agree. And the "husband's knot"- I never heard of it, but I found it kind of insulting. I've had 3 kids and they never cut me. I tore the first too times, but healed up quite nicely. The third time (6 years after the last) the labor was slowwwwwwwwwwww, and I ended up not tearing at all despite the baby being nearly 8 pounds. oooohhhh, but I was sore!!!!

BTW, as the founder of this thread, I am expanding it to any sort of reproductive health questions.

I got questions about ovaries, anybody got *updated* info?

What's the question?

 

[Caliber]

not sure, but here's a shocker that many people don't know:

condoms (used alone) are only 85% effective!!!! I always thought it was 95% or more.

I think every woman should know about the rythem method (although I do not) even those who use other forms of birth control, we should all be more aware of how our bodies work and function.

Another thing not many people know is when you get a percentage like that quoted to you, it almost is always followed by (if used correctly)

Incorrectly used condoms are roughly 0% (ZERO percent!) effective, so you better know what to do with them, and what not to combine them with.

Also note that that percentage is per time you use it. Most people don't seem to realize it, but even if condoms were 95% effective (and they aren't) and you had sex 100 times, statiscally speaking you would be pregnant (5 times in fact!)

Condoms work excellently in the short term, but unless you combine them with other things (pills, for example) in the long term, one WILL bust at an inopportune moment.

And by the way, I believe condoms with spermicide included with them are close to 95% effective, but I'd have to go get my Sex Ed book. Best to trust in at least two types over the long run either way.

The rythm method is one of many methods which involve trying to time sex in between your cycles so that you only have sex when you are the least fertile (and thus the least likely to get pregnant)

Most of them were invented back in the day, when (for religious reasons mostly) any other form of birth control was frowned upon.

The problem is, most women do not have a perfect 28 day cycle. So to use the scientifcally correct method (and the one with the highest chance of success) you have to get a little extra space on both ends of your cycle to account for un-regularity.

In the end, the result is only a few days every month where it is "safe" to have sex. Not that great (although better than nothing)

 

[Caliber]

Re: question about anal

Here's a question. No matter how lubbed up I am for anal, and no matter how careful we are or how slow we go and even if it doesn't hurt at all during, I am always sore for about 2 days after and have a hard time w/ bowel movements (not bc. of the muscles, but the tenderness) Does anybody have any idvice for post-deed soreness? or is there something I should be doing differently during or before to prevent this?

Hmm. I really don't know.

It seems strange that you report no pain during the sex, but soreness afterward. It would seem one would require the other.

Have you tried a different kind of lube? Or perhaps a different position?

 

[PinkOrchid]

 

[PinkOrchid]

 

[sweetnpetite]

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The rythm method is one of many methods which involve trying to time sex in between your cycles so that you only have sex when you are the least fertile (and thus the least likely to get pregnant)

Most of them were invented back in the day, when (for religious reasons mostly) any other form of birth control was frowned upon.

The problem is, most women do not have a perfect 28 day cycle. So to use the scientifcally correct method (and the one with the highest chance of success) you have to get a little extra space on both ends of your cycle to account for un-regularity.

In the end, the result is only a few days every month where it is "safe" to have sex. Not that great (although better than nothing) [/B]

My idea for use of this is to simply avoid sex during these days evven while using birth control. (some of us just seem to get nocked up no matter what we do, lol) and you definatly have to time your own cycle and not just go on an average.

 

[Guest]

Spermicides are fine, as long as it's NOT nonoxynol-9, which has recently been proven to be irritating to a lot of women and slightly increases the risk of contracting HIV (there was another thread on this, do a search for nonoxynol-9 if you are interested).

As for the rhythm method, if you keep track of your basal body temperature, you can determine how regular your cycle is and often be able to reliably predict when you are ovulating. You can then choose not to have vaginal intercourse at that time (2-3 days before and after, since sperm can live in the vagina for a few days). The consistency and amount of your discharge can also indicate where you are in your cycle. You are at your driest at the beginning of your cycle, discharge gets really thick and gloppy at ovulation (it should be clear, though), then thins out after ovulation but is more copious than early in your cycle.

You'll need to chart this for about 6 months to really have a good idea about yourself. Your temperature will spike 1 degree when you ovulate. An average woman, for example, will be about 97.6 degrees before ovulation and 98.6 after. Most women are not likely to get pregnant the first 11 days of their cycle, and once you know you've ovulated, you can wait a few days. The first day of your cycle is considered the first day of your period.

To take your basal temperature, as soon as you wake up use an old fashioned oral (not digital) thermometer in your armpit for 10 minutes. Don't get out of bed or move around or even go to the bathroom (if you can help it) before this or it can affect the results. Keep track of this on a graph. You can also not if you are sick or encounter any serious emotional distress, which can affect your results.

If you're a geek like me, this can be a really interesting thing to do just to learn about yourself and your cycle, sort of a science experiment on yourself.

EXCELLENT Information!

I believe that condoms with a type of spermicide (insert, foam, etc) are close to 100% effective - but be very selective in what you choose - ask your doctor, do a bit of research.

And - fellow geek here! Before we conceived our second child I charted my cycles. I found that even though my cycle is around 28 days, I tend to ovulate very early. We didn't have any difficulty with conception, but I know some couples who have, and I think it really helps for the woman to have a clue what is happening in her body at what time!

And in addition to the change in temperature before ovulation, your own vaginal moisture does undergo significant changes. Right before (and during) ovulation it becomes very clear, slippery, sort of "stretchy", and seems to be the consistency of egg white. This is so happy little sperm can swim up those strands to the fallopian tubes.

Immediately AFTER ovulation, your moisture becames more opaque and very thick. (Almost to prevent anything from swimming upstream?)

And for me, any type of sickness or stressful event tends to delay ovulation. (For instance, our accountant just did our taxes - LOL) The worry leading up to that event has caused me to ovulate late - I can tell - and so my cycle is going to be about six weeks.

(makes for better sex this month . . .)

 

[sweetnpetite]

question about ovaries:

I think I can feel one of mine. Do they normally swell at any time duing your cycle, or anything else? Or is this definatly a very bad sighn? In any event, I'm calling for an appointment in the morning. I'm also curious about ovaries in general. Always kinda took them for granted.

 

[Guest]

question about ovaries:

I think I can feel one of mine. Do they normally swell at any time duing your cycle, or anything else? Or is this definatly a very bad sighn? In any event, I'm calling for an appointment in the morning. I'm also curious about ovaries in general. Always kinda took them for granted.

My doctor told me once that her ovaries swell slightly and become tender before she ovulates.

But seeing your doctor sure sounds like a good idea - you don't want to take chances with this part of your body!

 

[sweetnpetite]

My doctor told me once that her ovaries swell slightly and become tender before she ovulates.

But seeing your doctor sure sounds like a good idea - you don't want to take chances with this part of your body!

thanks so much. I thought I had heard this, but I couldn't remember. And I don't really know how big there supposed to be. I always thought they where microscopic! Dumb me! Lotsa stuff I don't know about my own body, but i'm learning. (i'm 28 by the way. why don't they teach us this stuff anywhere?)

 

[Guest]

 

[Ange1icflowers]

Hey you aren't the only one who don't know jack...I was in that SAME boat...but My husband and I are trying to get pregnant with #2 (#1 was an oops baby...he's 4 now). I went to WebMD and the ladies there recommended a book called "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" it has EVERYTHING you could ever want to know about the female reproductive system...cycles...lengths...etc. Now my problem is that I haven't had a Natural period since october 12th. My dr prescribed Provera in dec and I got a period on dec 31...but i'm still waiting. I went off of the pill (took last white pill on sept 8..got period on sept 10th) anyone with experience? I was ALWAYS regular before i had my son and went on the pill. it's VERY frustrating when you are trying to conceive ya know?

 

[Guest]

I am confused about what you said about your doctor prescribing Provera. Depo-Provera? Isn't that a three-month contraceptive shot?

 

[JigglyJoan]

hi every1 this is my first post on this forum (yay! )

when my bf and i where fooling around on my bed, i got caught in my doona and my forearm landed on his balls. i felt terrible coz the pain he appeared in. did i hurt him permanently ? is there any way to check?

 

[WI-Ken]

Forearm to the Jewels

Jiggly -

No need to worry. Us guyz ARE extremely sensitive . . . well, at least our testicles are

I've taken blows to mine (no, not that way!) many, many times; from 90 mph hockey pucks (yes, I was wearing my Stanley Cup) to one of my daughters jumping onto my lap - knee first.

I've survived each. Though in the moments after impact, that was in doubt!

Your bf's probably already fully recovered.

To prevent any other lingering damage, I'd suggest (French) kissing the affected area 3X daily until the patient feels he's fully recovered . You can check his progress by gently fondling his testicles for the next several years. If some large, cylindrical mass (from 5" to 12" in length) gets in the way of your fondling, just apply the French kissing to that mass too and it will soon retract out of your way

Good luck and let us all know how things turn out!

 

[Ange1icflowers]

Depo Provera is an extremely strong form of Provera. As you know...depo is used as a three month birth control plan. Provera is progesterone which in lower doses is supposed to kick start your cycle and make you have your period again. I am still waiting...and on day 8 of the provera (you only take it for 10). the ob/gyn said that if i dont' get my period 5 days after the last day of taking provera...i need to go in b/c something is wrong...ie early menopause...which is NOT a good thing for someone at 23 who wants more kids. Oh well...at least I have one

Angel

 

[sweetnpetite]

Hey you aren't the only one who don't know jack...I was in that SAME boat...but My husband and I are trying to get pregnant with #2 (#1 was an oops baby...he's 4 now). I went to WebMD and the ladies there recommended a book called "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" it has EVERYTHING you could ever want to know about the female reproductive system...cycles...lengths...etc. Now my problem is that I haven't had a Natural period since october 12th. My dr prescribed Provera in dec and I got a period on dec 31...but i'm still waiting. I went off of the pill (took last white pill on sept 8..got period on sept 10th) anyone with experience? I was ALWAYS regular before i had my son and went on the pill. it's VERY frustrating when you are trying to conceive ya know?

if I had any money, I would certainly buy that book. Sounds great. I'll have to check my library.

 

[Caliber]

hi every1 this is my first post on this forum (yay! )

when my bf and i where fooling around on my bed, i got caught in my doona and my forearm landed on his balls. i felt terrible coz the pain he appeared in. did i hurt him permanently ? is there any way to check?

It probably hurt like hell, but otherwise he should be fine.

In the young ages, a blow to that area can be pretty damaging though (thats why it is advised to not spank young boys on the butt now-a-days. Catch an odd testicle by accident and maybe you could sterilize 'em or something.)

As far as ovaries, my girlfriend has sharp pains in her ovaries every time she ovulates. This isn't cramps, its the egg busting through.

Being extra sensitive in the ovary region isn't too uncommon, but again, Doctor knows best.

 

[Guest]

Depo Provera is an extremely strong form of Provera. As you know...depo is used as a three month birth control plan. Provera is progesterone which in lower doses is supposed to kick start your cycle and make you have your period again. I am still waiting...and on day 8 of the provera (you only take it for 10). the ob/gyn said that if i dont' get my period 5 days after the last day of taking provera...i need to go in b/c something is wrong...ie early menopause...which is NOT a good thing for someone at 23 who wants more kids. Oh well...at least I have one

Angel

Angel -

How long were you originally on the pill? I was on it more than 7 years, and I remember it took me about six months after I stopped taking it to have regular, normal cycles (and it was more than two months before my periods even started at all). My doctor was not worried; she said it was fine, she would watch me carefully, but I should give my body time to recover. The pill tricks your body into thinking it is pregnant so you never ovulate; sometimes it takes awhile to return to normal.

I think your doctor is a bit premature with his conclusion. ANYTHING can mess with your cycle, including stress, lack of sleep, the common cold!!! Maybe your body just needs more time. And, not every woman reacts the same way to a massive increase in hormones.

Is it possible you can get a second opinion before he decides to "experiment" further? The hormones did work in December, after all, and it hasn't really been that long since you stopped taking the pill.

You need to relax! The more you worry about this, the less likely it is your period will start!!

You need: someone to babysit your 4-year-old (preferably overnight), someone to cook dinner for you, a long hot bath, a few drinks, wonderfully wild sex and a long relaxed morning to sleep late.

Moms of busy young children everywhere understand!!

 

[Ange1icflowers]

sex? what's that? It's been awhile!

As moms of children can relate!!!!

 

[Guest]

Re: Forearm to the Jewels

Jiggly -

No need to worry. Us guyz ARE extremely sensitive . . . well, at least our testicles are

I've taken blows to mine (no, not that way!) many, many times; from 90 mph hockey pucks (yes, I was wearing my Stanley Cup) to one of my daughters jumping onto my lap - knee first.

I've survived each. Though in the moments after impact, that was in doubt!

Your bf's probably already fully recovered.

To prevent any other lingering damage, I'd suggest (French) kissing the affected area 3X daily until the patient feels he's fully recovered . You can check his progress by gently fondling his testicles for the next several years. If some large, cylindrical mass (from 5" to 12" in length) gets in the way of your fondling, just apply the French kissing to that mass too and it will soon retract out of your way

Good luck and let us all know how things turn out!

Okay - now THIS is the best advice I've read in a long time!

My husband (reading over my shoulder) is most impressed with your medical training, and thinks that I should apply the same treatment to him.

(even though it has been awhile since our four-year-old rang his bell - lol)

Great info!

 

[Guest]

sex? what's that? It's been awhile!

As moms of children can relate!!!!

*giggles*

For a long while I craved SLEEP more than sex!

And our 4 year old still won't sleep in.

*sigh*

We take turns sneaking power naps - someday we'll sleep until noon! This I vow!!!

 

[Ange1icflowers]

well it's the "monster" as we affectionately call our bundle of sheer energy coupled with my husband's on-going medical problems that have put him on 30 pills a day for a month that leave him absolutely drained.

God i need to buy a vibrator!