sexual asphyxia

[Aphrodisiac]

How would someone go about doing this ?

I was trying to look up some information concerning this online but it all seems to be in a negative light.

Has someone had some experience concerning this subject... any ideas you would like to share would be nice.


Thanks in advance.

 

[Aphrodisiac]

Maybe I should have taken this question to the BSDM forum ?!?

 

[marksgirl]

Sorry doll, can't help ya on this one. You may be correct in your thinking about the BDSM board.

 

[hbcacouple]

Not a happy subject, a childhood friend of mine died playing this "game" by himself.
Be careful...

 

[marksgirl]

Not a happy subject, a childhood friend of mine died playing this "game" by himself.
Be careful...

From what little I heard, read, etc...on this subject it does not sound like a safe thing to do........well in fact it scares the shit out of me!

It's a bit on the extreme side for me and damn I'm extreme!

 

[Aphrodisiac]

From what little I heard, read, etc...on this subject it does not sound like a safe thing to do........well in fact it scares the shit out of me!

It's a bit on the extreme side for me and damn I'm extreme!

marksgirl,

I know what you mean by it being on the extreme side.
I have no interest in this because I also think its a little on the dangerous side.

But, I was asked if I would consider doing this & its something he would like to try so I thought I would gather some information on the subject .. just to get an insight into it.

 

[1hotjob]

This is bad news. I'll give you a little war story about it.

About 5 years ago, I was working and we got a run for a "person missing". Well it seems this guy never showed up for work that night. He was a cook at a restaurant and lived 2 stories above the restaurant. The owner of the restaurant couldn't get into his apartment so he called the FD to force entry. We pull up and being on a truck company we get our tools to force entry. One guy goes up the fire escape but the window's are tight and the shades are down. My officer and I go up the inner stairwell ask the owner of the building how he wants us to take the door. Less damage as possible he says, so we basically destroy the door at the hinges and force the door in. This guy had about 4 different locks of all types on the door. So we get in the apartment and it's dark, the only light coming in from the streetlights. I go into the bedroom and sure as shit, there he is, a rope around his neck going over the top rail of the bed and coming back down between his legs and back up to the top rail again. It seemed that he would sit on the rope and therefore it would apply pressure to the rope around his neck. Well he went a little too far this night. He was like that for 3 days. Porn mags spread all over the bed. What a way to go. Naked, dark and alone, plus his family was outside waiting. Explain that one to them.

 

[Aphrodisiac]

This is bad news. I'll give you a little war story about it.

About 5 years ago, I was working and we got a run for a "person missing". Well it seems this guy never showed up for work that night. He was a cook at a restaurant and lived 2 stories above the restaurant. The owner of the restaurant couldn't get into his apartment so he called the FD to force entry. We pull up and being on a truck company we get our tools to force entry. One guy goes up the fire escape but the window's are tight and the shades are down. My officer and I go up the inner stairwell ask the owner of the building how he wants us to take the door. Less damage as possible he says, so we basically destroy the door at the hinges and force the door in. This guy had about 4 different locks of all types on the door. So we get in the apartment and it's dark, the only light coming in from the streetlights. I go into the bedroom and sure as shit, there he is, a rope around his neck going over the top rail of the bed and coming back down between his legs and back up to the top rail again. It seemed that he would sit on the rope and therefore it would apply pressure to the rope around his neck. Well he went a little too far this night. He was like that for 3 days. Porn mags spread all over the bed. What a way to go. Naked, dark and alone, plus his family was outside waiting. Explain that one to them.

1hotjob,

Well that was depressing!

And , I was not thinking along the lines of him doing it alone ... someone would be in control ... ya know ?!

 

[Ms_Lilith]

by asphixia do you mean smothering or choking? I enjoy sexual choking now and again... whether with hands or a scarf that he has the power to pull or tighten or whatever. But like everything else BDSM, you need to have a safe word, like bluesky or something not related to sex that means you STOP. It's all a matter of trust and control.

 

[Aphrodisiac]

by asphixia do you mean smothering or choking? I enjoy sexual choking now and again... whether with hands or a scarf that he has the power to pull or tighten or whatever. But like everything else BDSM, you need to have a safe word, like bluesky or something not related to sex that means you STOP. It's all a matter of trust and control.

vixen,

Well he told me he would like for me to do this with a scarf, he would like for me to pull & tighten as he gets close to his climax... he has been intrested in this for sometime and while I am willing to try it for his sake .. somehow I feel that I am not going to be good at it .. because I would be to concerned about him and hurting him in some manner.

He got this idea because he once read a book where a woman while having sex with her partner... was straddling him and she draped a silk scarf around his neck , well she kept pulling and tightening as he got closer to orgasm ....

Since reading that he has been curious about how it would feel... I think my man reads to much...

 

[MR.GGG]

Similar story to 1hotjob. There was a movie that came out in the early 80's that showed a guy masturbating with a noose around his neck. Just before he came he slumped down, the noose tightened. The O2 rich blood going to the brain kept goin to the brain because the carotids are deeper than the jugs. When the noose tightens the jugulars get cut off the blood can't get out of the brain. It is a little like turbocharging the brain. Also the Co2 bulds up and that increases (not sure how) orgasmic response in the brain. The orgasm is, apparently, incredibly intense.

That's the good part. The bad part is that several things are LIKELY to happen. With the increased blood flow to the brain you give yourself dozens of tiny strokes - vessels bursting in your brain and then you pass out - both from the intensity of the orgasm AND from the effects mentioned. When the noose or pressure (a hand can do the same thing) is released and if you are healthy and young the burst blood vessels in your brain repair quickly, blood pressure returns and you "come to " having had an incredibly intense orgasm. If you try this alone and you are in effect, hanging, when you pass out you do NOT come to and you strangle while you are passed out.

Like 1hotjob mentioned...explain that to the relatives. I had to deal with families where the sister or the mother came in and found a son or brother hanging in the closet, pants around his ankles, rope around his neck and cum dribbling down one leg. I can remember the devastation in the eyes of some of the fathers trying to deal with the fact that their son had NOT intentionally committed suicide but was, obviously, a pervert...they didn't know which one was worse.

It happened many times just in the area I worked. I have no idea what the national stats were but that movie, I expect, killed hundreds if not thousands of kids over the next few years. What a waste of young lives. What a nightmare for the families.

With a partner this can increase sexual intensity but just remember if you do this and your partner (even if she or he ASKS you to do it) were to have a major stroke and die when you are doing this during sex it COULD be viewed as a type of manslaughter. There have been cases of girls ASKING for very rough and forced oral sex and when she suffocated he ended up in prison so watch it. This technique would probably be viewed by the courts as criminal rather than simple misadvanture. Be careful. Know the dangers and NEVER NEVER NEVER NEVER try this by yourself.

 

[SexyChele]

I know you stated in the BDSM forum that you want to hear from people who have had positive experiences with this type of play. However, I think you are going to find more bad experiences than good.

If you feel the least bit uncomfortable doing this, DON'T! It's not worth it. If you have an interest in looking into it further, investigate. Know all the dangers and risks. Know anatomy. Familiarize yourself with how blood to the brain works. (Mr GGG gave an excellent start - build on that) If you begin investigating this, be certain to talk to Dominants who practice this and can help you along. I don't believe there are many (if any) here at Lit. I would suggest going to alt.com or bondage.com (both are free and have either a chat room or BB), and asking Dominants what to do. I would not expect to even begin slight experimentation for a few more months. This is dangerous play. Not everyone takes the same amount of pressure to pass out. Some people can die relatively quickly from this "play". Be certain you have all the facts, as much knowledge as you can get, and that you feel comfortable.

You might want to try this: while on top of him, have a scarf already drapped around his neck. Pull slowly, but keep your hand between the scarf and his neck. DO NOT pull it hard. Give it the same pressure as you would a slightly tighter turtleneck - and release immediately. Then talk about it with him. Investigate your own feelings.

As to safewords, I believe in them strongly. However, if one has a scarf tightly wrapped round their neck, cutting off their breathing, guess what? They can't speak. Safewords cannot be used in this instance. While I do not recommend this play to anyone, you would have to use a safe movement. In other words, you would have to work out some form of him expressing, through hand or feet, that he is uncomfortable with what you are doing. In the trial example I gave above, you could have him hold a ball in one hand. If it becomes too much (and what I'm suggesting would be extremely light), he drops the ball, and you stop immediately.

Just be certain you BOTH know what you are getting yourselves into. Also, think on this. If you two are playing around, and you do get to a point of wrapping a scarf around his neck and cutting off his breathing, and he dies - guess what? You could be brought up on manslaughter charges. Yeah, you know it was consentual, but it might not appear that way to police. And I do know of a professional Domme. who engaged in this practice frequently, who had a client die and was charged with murder in the second degree.

This is serious stuff. Know all you can before even considering it.