Trimix? I'll have to tell my husband to ask his doctor about it and if it would work for him. My husband has to have testosterone injections which he does here at home so I don't think that he'd be phased by another injection. My husband has to have both knees replaced and naturally, he's not looking forward to it. Thank you so much for the suggestion of Trimix.
My knees were done one at a time. I think that is better because rehab is easier and safer with one good knee to help. If his knees are bad enough that might not be best for him. Make him buy into rehab. It won’t feel right at the time but things are so much better on down the road. Also, I get testosterone pellets injected in me twice a year. BioTe is the trade name. Best wishes.Trimix? I'll have to tell my husband to ask his doctor about it and if it would work for him. My husband has to have testosterone injections which he does here at home so I don't think that he'd be phased by another injection. My husband has to have both knees replaced and naturally, he's not looking forward to it. Thank you so much for the suggestion of Trimix.
The people I know we're definitely looking towards knee surgery. Sure, it's a hassle with rehab afterwards, but they say the pain stopped at the surgery!
Yes. Get it done. The more you delay the more you stress other joints due to compensating for the bad knee(s).
Your last statement makes a LOT of SENSE to me, Lady White Wolf! Because I see the two of you practise love-making under your particular circumstances. So I don't see your marriage as sexless. Which it never has to be when there are ED issues combined with loving partners. For I imagine, counteless pleasures await the two of you without PIV sex.
I actually understand why you don't want a playmate. He's the one you want to experience intimacy with because of your emotional connection. That is truly special and that says a lot about you as a person and the relationship you have with your husband.
Hi saintcero (love your Marvin the Martian avatar!) My husband is definitely having one knee done at a time. This first one will be done this Fall and the other one he's planning to have done in Late Spring next year. I've had 3 knee surgeries myself (thankfully just torn meniscus for all three. Hurt like hades but once they healed, I've been good to go since!)
Hi adamISOeve,
Our lovemaking is a unique situation and seems to work for us. I've been suffering with vaginal atrophy for a few years (had to have a complete hysterectomy due to golf ball sized cysts in my uterus, and cysts that were wrapped around my ovaries and all of them on the verge of going cancerous.Lost my older sister to ovarian cancer, so this is a family health issue and worry. To add to that fun- my appendix was within hours of rupturing. Thank goodness my OB/GYN caught all of it and removed everything, thus saving my life. It took almost a year for my hormones to finally straighten out. I still have the odd hot flash from time to time) and penetration can be quite painful. So we've been going back to Square One- Lots of lube, oral and foreplay, plus have found some vaginal dilators to help stretch me out slowly and safely.
Orthopedic surgery can definitely be kind of creepy. I have already warned him that his knee will feel wonky. He does know that he has to go to therapy after his surgery and if he gets a bit recalcitrant about going, I suppose I can always break out the cattle prod (paddle) to get him to move out. lol We live on my family's working horse and cattle ranch, so good ranch work has already made an improvement for him physically. He does go to the gym 3-4 times a week (which has really been helping him lose weight) and I've been joining him at the gym as well.
Same. Vanilla and infrequent
This is so sad — really! There is nothing wrong with what you are asking for. Many are in successful wife-led marriages with orgasm management from the wife. Unfortunately, since Elise Sutton’s site on “Loving Female Authoruty” went dark several years ago, there really is a lack of good, non-porn information on the web about FLR and orgasm management.
The habit of going to the gym should definitely help with the rehab. Will just need a bit different kinds of exercises. Especially the stabilising ones, meaning all kinds of little muscles that are often ignored, to help with the wonkiness.Orthopedic surgery can definitely be kind of creepy. I have already warned him that his knee will feel wonky. He does know that he has to go to therapy after his surgery and if he gets a bit recalcitrant about going, I suppose I can always break out the cattle prod (paddle) to get him to move out. lol We live on my family's working horse and cattle ranch, so good ranch work has already made an improvement for him physically. He does go to the gym 3-4 times a week (which has really been helping him lose weight) and I've been joining him at the gym as well.
Yes, I think it will be very beneficial for him as well as myself.
Yikes, that was a bit close call!Hi adamISOeve,
Thank you for that.
But it was all done in one go? Probably better for healing that way 
. I'd known about the cysts for several years and they were always called "iffy" and was told to keep an eye on them. Every OB/GYN check up, the doctor kept checking on them. He's very thorough naturally, so I have always appreciated his above and beyond care. The cysts seemed to be getting bigger in my uterus and during the last ultrasound, the doctor was *very* concerned. We had already discussed my having a hysterectomy for some time. I'm 53 and started going into menopause at 40. Which is weird to me because I was a bit of a late bloomer. I'd been having hot flashes and bad stomach cramping that heating pads and Midol couldn't seem to touch. I was vomiting profusely and losing weight. So the morning of my hysterectomy surgery, my doctor told my husband that he was going to remove my ovaries, uterus, and cervix (I have a difficult time awaking from anesthesia, so the doctor made the surgery a one stop deal). As he was performing the surgery, that's when he discovered that my appendix was within hours of rupturing, so he made the split second decision to remove the appendix as well. Believe it or not, it was the best thing that he did all of that in one go. I healed pretty quickly and well. I'm so blessed and thankful that my doctor performed that surgery. I do believe that he saved my life.
When my wife did finally agree to a one month trial of FLR and her managing my orgasms, She had two conditions : No more PIV sex and that she would never clean another bathroom. I was shocked at the first request and very humbled to listen to her reasons, but I agreed. (In actuality, she has allowed me penetration three times in the last several years under very special circumstances, but I wasn’t able to last long.)
Bathrooms are cleaned on a weekly schedule, and the guest bathroom before guests arrive.
That sounds like a very bad situation before the operation. But at least it was well planned. Loosing a infected appendix is not something anyone would complain, I think.You're telling me!
I agree that vaginal penetration seems like the end all be all for many. It's delightful when it works, but I much prefer that simpler, closer intimacy with my husband.
. We find that if we both know what the other likes / wants we have a much better sex life and a lot less stress
Well, if you go backwards you'll notice that some have talked but solutions are hard to find, and for some it's hopeless because the other one is not ready for an open discussion.I’m sorry to butt in on this one but have you all tried talking about things ? I’m sorry if this has all ready been said. We are very open about what we like and want out of all sides of our relationship and it works wonders for us
I realise that in many cases it can’t be possible. It’s just what worked for us We chatted about what we used to fantasise about and we found we had the same things we wanted We have not been together super long though so it’s easier probably
You are open to discussion, that's why it's easierI realise that in many cases it can’t be possible. It’s just what worked for us We chatted about what we used to fantasise about and we found we had the same things we wanted We have not been together super long though so it’s easier probably
Yes we have both learned to our cost that we need to communicate in a relationship. It’s funny that we actually like the same things and are happier now then ever but it took some courage to be honest but it’s also much better to try and see than look elsewhere tooYou are open to discussion, that's why it's easier
In one relationship we talked, but couldn't solve it (in retrospect I know why). In the next we talked, but actually there weren't problems to solve. In the 3rd we talked, somewhat. Until the issue became that it was never a good time for sex. Always in pain, or too tired, or he just wasn't there - and then he wasn't ready to discuss anymore. So it was unsolved until cancer made him incapable. (Of getting it up at least. No talk of him helping me irregardless - not that he ever learned to do it well with his hands...)
And now in the current... No problems, but more discussion than ever. Any even slight possibilities off problems are snapped as buds.
