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Hornymwtxn said:
Well sure I gave up wanting a physical relationship when I had to do ALL the initiating and really why would I want to fuck someone who isn't interested in sex anymore?

Reality is she turned asexual after menopause and there is not a thing I can do about that.
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I totally agree,
I gave up eventually because she never seemed to want sex! Never initiated anything, never wanted to talk about the situation and when I did say something she looked at me like I was the most perverted person on earth! So yeah I gave up
 
Winchester3030 said:
I totally agree,
I gave up eventually because she never seemed to want sex! Never initiated anything, never wanted to talk about the situation and when I did say something she looked at me like I was the most perverted person on earth! So yeah I gave up
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Exactly 💯%

Like they say it takes two to tango.
 
gisade said:
I know its cliche but marriages require work, especially as we get older. A sexless marriage signal to me that one or both partner have given up
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Things aren't always as simple as that, with my first marriage we grew apart and probably were both guilty of not putting in enough effort - meaning that love died and the marriage ended. So kinda fits your profile.

With my current marriage there is no shortage of love and affection, loads of kisses and cuddles, it is just that post menopause she has lost her sex drive and we need to use lubricant. One of our friends has very low oestrogen levels, leading to thinning of the vaginal walls and severe dryness, even after nearly 40 years of marriage they are very much in love but she just finds sex too painful. Sometimes life throws crap at you.
 
HampshireBoy said:
Things aren't always as simple as that, with my first marriage we grew apart and probably were both guilty of not putting in enough effort - meaning that love died and the marriage ended. So kinda fits your profile.

With my current marriage there is no shortage of love and affection, loads of kisses and cuddles, it is just that post menopause she has lost her sex drive and we need to use lubricant. One of our friends has very low oestrogen levels, leading to thinning of the vaginal walls and severe dryness, even after nearly 40 years of marriage they are very much in love but she just finds sex too painful. Sometimes life throws crap at you.
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That's fair. However, the effort still applies to most cases I think.
 
My sub stopped having sex with her husband years ago. She said that she used to have to initiate sex, or that if he wanted sex his way of letting her know was very passive hints. A few months after we started our affair sh stopped responding to the rare hint, and eventually moved out of the master bedroom to a spare room. She still loves him and tries to take care of him but no sex. He never seemed to have a high sex drive, though they do have kids. The past 20 yeas he did not seem to complain about the lack of sex.

I stopped having sex with my wife 25 years ago. She put limits on what she would do and then started coming to bed sweaty, gritty and stinky. I moved out of the bedroom and started looking for a GF/sub.

I'm direct with my sub, asking flat out "When are you available?". Sadly, she is not available all the time since she has quite a few grand kids and one of our rules is "Health and family first". We IM nightly and meet about once and sometimes twice a week with long breaks for holidays and family events. But when we get together the agenda usually includes sex. Sometimes we socialize or do hobbies but when we get in the bedroom she does what I tell her to. Sometimes we exchange back rubs, sometimes we cuddle, sometimes we simply undress and I just stick my dick in her mouth. But the expectation is that she will serve me sexually. When I say flip she flips. Well... with age comes a certain reduction in alacrity so it is a roll and crawl (we are in our early 70's). Sometimes she orgasms, sometimes she does not. What she likes is that I tell her that I want her and what I want. So if you want sex that is the first thing - tell her you want her sexually.

Given our age, we are starting to hit physical limits. Her solution is a) talk frankly to the doctor b) don't be afraid to use aids - lube, cock rings, Viagra c) try to get in shape and d) take a break once in a while then start again until I cum.

"The way to a mans heart is through his stomach, either coming from above or from below."
 
DDBustyBrit said:
I am totally in a sexless marriage and have been pretty much for a few years! We’re out there but we are a bit like unicorns 😂

I am a woman in her 50’s with the sex drive of an 18 yr old boy, that’s not normal I’ve been told by female friends the same age and male friends. I should be settling down for my old age with my hormones dying a slow death, but hell no! 😁
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Consider being early 70's with the same fire and desire of a much younger male in addition to a sexless marriage for the past several years. I do believe the youngin's call it Incel. We just called it Horney. The sad part is she was my Fire and Desire. Once the spark is dead, it's called The End for that part of our relationship. AMEN for the internet. Used to buy mags, not any more. Lots and lots of toys out there to take the edge off let alone websites for individual tastes. Could be better, BUT, could always be worse.
 
I’ve been on both sides. My ex husband had low testosterone and had zero sex drive. We had sex maybe 4 times the last year we were together. At the time I would have been happy with daily sex. Sometimes twice a day. Now roles are reversed. I had weight loss surgery and it messed up my hormones bad and my testosterone plummeted and now I don’t have a drive. For months it didn’t even cross my mind unless my husband was screaming at me about being a terrible wife. I’m on hormone therapy trying to remedy it and it might be slowly coming back but I mean sloooooowly. And it has nothing to do with anything other than legitimately my body isn’t working properly. Stimulation does nothing most days. Hang in there no matter what side you’re on. Sexless or couldn’t care less about sex. There’s remedies (maybe). And if not, you only have one life to live and no one wants to be miserable.
 
gisade said:
That's fair. However, the effort still applies to most cases I think.
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I agree its true that "the effort" applies in an awful lot of cases (no idea if its most), people get comfortable and stop putting the effort in. We still have date nights, not on a planned schedule (as in every wednesday is date night) as we feel that is counterproductive. Until you've lived through a partner with medical problems which impact sex drive and general energy levels its hard to realise what it can be like (for them and their partner). :(
 
gisade said:
I know its cliche but marriages require work, especially as we get older. A sexless marriage signal to me that one or both partner have given up
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It does seem true that very often the one who doesn’t want sex isn’t investing anything else in the relationship either, but it doesn’t seem like that person has “given up,” because, the suggestion of ending it would usually spin them out to no end. They expect a commitment.

Too bad for them when the other person gives up, and leaves. Often there is nothing at all the other partner can do to get them interested in sex again. Very often, they don't even see it as a problem they have a part in. They see it as the other partner making a problem for them.

They don’t owe the other partner sex, but the other partner doesn’t owe them a marriage back either.
 
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Don't know what's worse? Having a sexless marriage or your partner being very vanilla where I'm the complete opposite
 
CurvyButterfly1978 said:
I get that...luckily a lot of people can attest I at least am who I say I am...they've seen pics of my cunt now as well as other things. But it is hard to take risks and trust. I love a voice or pic of something to hope they are representing themselves accurately as far as sex and age. I had a friend tell me about a blackmail, attempt, some people are motherfuckers. Hope you find intimacy and happiness. 😘
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I've had a few try to blackmail me, luckily I keep I pretty nonexistent internet life so it would be difficult to find the real me
 
Hello my sexless married friends...wishing you a Happy Thanksgiving. I have been lucky enough to play with a few of you and wanted to say hang in there!

Any special requests for pics before I dissapear for the long holiday weekend? Tits, cunt, ass? All of the above? Let me knwo here - be brave or PM me as some of you normally do 😘 🫦 :devilish:
 
CurvyButterfly1978 said:
Hello my sexless married friends...wishing you a Happy Thanksgiving. I have been lucky enough to play with a few of you and wanted to say hang in there!

Any special requests for pics before I dissapear for the long holiday weekend? Tits, cunt, ass? All of the above? Let me knwo here - be brave or PM me as some of you normally do 😘 🫦 :devilish:
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Love tig ol bitties.
 
CurvyButterfly1978 said:
Hello my sexless married friends...wishing you a Happy Thanksgiving. I have been lucky enough to play with a few of you and wanted to say hang in there!

Any special requests for pics before I dissapear for the long holiday weekend? Tits, cunt, ass? All of the above? Let me knwo here - be brave or PM me as some of you normally do 😘 🫦 :devilish:
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Allow the above
 
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