Sex....Solo Vs With a Partner, which is better?

[Nexxus]

I know, I know. "Ain't nuthin' like the real thing baby!"
But I'm curious. Is having sex with someone like seeing the movie after reading the book? Doesn't your imagination always make it better in your head than it can ever be when it actually gets played out? Does fantasising about being with someone while you jerk off always turn out to be a bigger turn on than when you finally get to have sex with them?
Care to enlighten me all you sexual geniuses!!


Nex

 

[Bonnie Wee Lassie]

Sorry I am going to have to say it.....Nothing like the real thing!

 

[morgainefairy]

i completely understand what you mean, nex!!

my fave partner was a phone buddy for a month or so due to circumstance, and i realized i was more fulfilled with my fantasies and conversational fantasies than i was when we resumed normal in-the-same-room-as-your-partner sex.

but there are certain aspects you can never replace and could not think to fantasize about if you hadn't been there at one time.

ooohhh--i think i need to make a phone call!!

 

[Nexxus]

You are so right MF. Experience makes life life!!

N

 

[Nicole]

I just have to answer this ....

Sex no matter what sort ... Real life, Cyber, Phone or totally alone .... isn't it ALL about the fantasy.

Weather you are actually physically touching that person or touching their mind, it ALL comes back to the fantasy. That is what makes some sex more tense than others. If you share the fantasy with the person that you are with then the sex is, of course, Mind blowing.

I haven't had physical sex in over a year now, but I have had phone sex (why am I telling you all this???), I have to say the phone sex has been more satisfying than the Real thing ... mainly because I share the fantasy with the person that I have phone sex with, we have the same fantasy so it becomes more intense.

I only hope and pray that one day we will be together to actually share the fantasy physically. But until that time we both have to make do with the phone and the fantasy.

But like I say, it all comes down to the fantasy. Physical touch is only one part of sex, and if that is all you have then the sex will unfortunately be as boring as being completely by yourself without anything to help you along.

I hope to god I make sense here. I am sorry if I don't.

Have a Good Day.

 

[Isabella Thorne]

I need to feel your hands all over my bod, baby!

well ummmmm cyber and phone sex, masturbation .. they are all wonderful ... good things ... lol ..

but how can you even ask a question like this Nexxus dear .. there is no fucking comparison to real sex with a hot uninhibited partner(s) ... doesn't even cum close baby!

 

[Thor's Hammer]

<----rarely speechless, but Isabella said it all...and very well too!

 

[Isabella Thorne]

The Best is Yet to Cum

ummmm k i was thinking bout this and i have to say first of all .. wow Thor .. thank you so much darling .. what a wonderful nod in my direction.

and also i should elaborate a bit more to say that when i was younger like say Nikki's age .. i had not yet experienced physically gratifying sex .. (and yes physical sex where the fantasy is mutual .. mmmmmmmmmmm undescribably deliciously sinfully wonderfully ......ohhhhhhhhhhhhh)

but i digress ...

sooooooooo if i could have had incredible mind blowing phone sex with a partner who shares a mutual fantasy at the time i was say bout Nikki's age ... then yes certainly that would be the best sex ever for me (up to that point) ..

so Nikki darling .. look at it this way luv ..

The Best is Yet to Cum!

<big cyber hugs>

 

[Nicole]

And just how old do you think Nikki is????

I have had the mind blowing sex, been there done that Isabella ... my point was ..........

Fantasy is what it all comes down too, if you share the fantasy then the sex ... No matter what sort ... is going to be mind blowing.

I had that fantasy once before with my ex, when the fantasy started to die so did the sex life ... it went from mind blowing to just plain blowing.

I am sorry for getting deffensive but you are talking about me like I am some naive teenager. I have had the sex and I have had THE sex. What I was mearly trying to say was that if the person that you are Fucking doesn't feed your mind aswell then sex Physical or not is not going to be enjoyable. I say that because I know that ... I have been there.

I also agree that physical can't be beat ... but until the day that I have that with the man that I love, then I don't really want it at all. Hey, people can go without sex you know, I would rather have my mind blown at this point until we can be together than be with someone that isn't going to satisfy my body and mind.

If you don't have the fantasy then you don't have a very good sex life as far as I am concerned. Without Fantasy you may as well go Masturbate anyway.

Have a good day

 

[Skitten]

That is an easy question there is nothing like the real thing. Actually being with the one you love. You can act out all your fantasies with the one you love and the one you are with. Masturbation cannot even compare as being with the one you love and having that physical attachment.

Fantasies are much better to act out when you are being physically with the one you are with.

 

[Isabella Thorne]

I'm really really sorry Nicole .. i meant no disrespect .. i guess i was just trying to see in you what i went through .. we are different people .. please forgive me.

i think you will be 29 years old in a few weeks.

i didn't mean to make you mad at me.

 

[Nicole]

I'm not mad Isabella, I just don't seem to be making my point here.

Yes I am 29 in two weeks ... Thank-you for that.

I am trying to say that sex is only perfect (whenever that is), when you have both physical AND emotional. I would love to have both right now but, it can not be just yet.

I have had the mind blowing sex, yes it was good while it lasted and yes I agree that sex with a partner is the best sex .... Just as long as it has fantasy behind it.

I am not talking "oh I want fucking up the ass" Fantasy, I am talking mind fantasy, sharing something deep and meaningful to both of you. When you loose that, then the sex starts on that downward spiral too.

So I guess until I can get to be with the one that I love, I have to make do with the Mind part and making myself happy physically. That doesn't bother me people so don't start to feel sorry for me.

Isabella I am sorry for having a go at you, I am a little on edge right now trying to come to terms with some personal things in my life, I shouldn't do that to people that I truly like.

Have a good day

 

[Never]

Un fortunately I do not have enough experience in this area to give an answer... eh, for the sake of the board I think someone should help me fix this.
(If you have nothing useful to say, at least try to get some)

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[Cheri]

I think fantasy is better. Maybe you won't have as good an orgasm, but then again you won't know if he has so much body hair it looks like he's wearing a sweater! Unless you've developed some sort of emotional attachment to the other person, why get together just to have sex. That's what Doc Johnson invented vibrators for.

"There's nothing better than good sex. But
bad sex? A peanut butter and jelly
sandwich is better than bad sex."
- Billy Joel

 

[Thumper]

???????

Partner??????

Me confused....

 

[Weinergirl]

I think sex with an unimaginative person is not as good as solo sex. I think that so many people are afraid to really open up ; fear of rejection and all that -that's why cyber sex and phone sex is popular. Luckily I met someone who is very similar to myself. We've been married for six years and man it just keeps getting better.

That's not to say we don't jerk the gerkin or wax the weiner anymore. We do that too-a lot. Sometimes I really do have a headache.

Partner sex rocks!

 

[Thumper]

O solo mio....

Shit weinergirl..now I'm hungry!

Siren....got any carrots???

 

[Svedish_Chef]

Yeah thumper... so can you tell me what a partner is?

 

[Nicole]

Well listen you two .... Since none of us seem to have partners give me a call my number is (08) *2.........

Let me know and we will see if we can organise something

Does that suit you both???

 

[Thumper]

Hmmmmmmm....

I'm stumped chef...only chance of me having a threesome is if I use both hands!

Nicole....you make australia way too inviting..
a very good reason to "go down" under!

If we all get together would ya call it a "conglomerate"?
Let's do lunch and talk merger...or would ya prefer a hostile takeover?

[Edited by Thumper on 08-21-2000 at 09:05 PM]

 

[Nicole]

Well Thumper Baby, Thank-you very much.

Still don't know if that was a yes or no though

 

[Thumper]

Yes yes yes yes...

YES.....uh what am I sayin' yes to???