Preferring Masturbation to Sex

[ppete3]

It almost feels taboo to write, but I'd rather masturbate than have sex. I know I'm not the only one out here, and I'd love to have others chime in. Sex is great for an emotional connection with another person, but masturbation has always been better for me, pleasure-wise. Maybe it's because sex is an orgasm I have to work for while also focusing on the pleasure of my partner, while I can be completely selfish when I'm pleasuring myself. I've never been with someone who has made feel like I didn't have to masturbate in addition to our sex life.

 

[Ssbbw4u1974]

I wouldn't feel embarrassed or ashamed. There's too much pressure for anyone to be in a relationship, or have a partner.
And sometimes we can find the right person for us emotionally but not mentally or physically.

I was in a 25 year commitment/marriage/yadda...I put so much shame on him for masturbating and watching porn that I am ashamed of myself now that he's gone.

Now, jump to the last few years... And all I do is lust for men who masturbate and freely watch porn

I also know masturbation can feel best alone. (With no other person IRL or wherever)

Unless you find someone that shares your kinks, fetishes, desires... Orgasms and pleasure won't feel best with them, IMO...

 

[shewantsmore]

I do have sex and i enjoy sex,with both men and other women, but i openly admit i masturbate ,its something that ive been doing more and more in the last few years, surely we can combine both but at the moment i seem to be masturbating more than sex, i masturbate every day

 

[betabrad]

I also enjoy masturbating more than sex . But the main reason for me is that I have always just been really bad in the bedroom - I’ve always had trouble getting it up and when I could get it up I always came in just a few seconds . I know that I have never satisfied a woman with my penis. And now that I’m older I can no longer even get a full hard on anymore. But I still enjoy getting off to porn. I especially love bisexual MMF, cuckold and sissy porn . I don’t have to get fully hard to masturbate and I can edge myself for hours. I swear sometimes I think I probably look like a girl masturbating when I lean back in the chair, spread my thighs wide and rub my little chubby frantically thru my briefs as I look at hot sexy women sucking and being fucked by such big hard juicy cocks.

About once a month I also call a phone sex line and masturbate while I talk to a woman about my bisexual fantasies or roleplay about how she would watch me sucking another man’s cock or being fucked. It always makes me cum so hard and she has me eat my cum for her.

 

[WantonSavage]

I have always preferred masturbation over sex. I enjoy sex, but rarely orgasm during sex, especially as I grow older. I think while having sex, my energy is put into my partner's enjoyment. Masturbation allows me the freedom to visualize my fantasies and enjoy without judgement.

 

[eric_erosfan]

If I know I won't have sex for a while I don't mind filling the time masturbating. For me it can be an all day edging session followed be a very strong orgasm. I can't edge all day with a partner usually. So both are great. And both are different experiences.

 

[MrMSmithers]

Ok, super new here, literally my first post (just like everyone, read for a long time, finally joined) I think like a lot of things in life this changes for a lot of people. Early in my marriage, sex was way better than masturbating, but as my marriage progressed and eventually fell apart, I preferred masturbating over sex simply because for both of us, sex was kind of a chore. Now as a 45 year old, I love both equally probably. However, it really also depends what "needs" i'm trying to meet. Obviously i'm not romancing myself, masturbation, while fantastic, is usually pretty utilitarian

 

[Not Normal]

I thrive on my partner's pleasure when having sex. I love their sounds and reactions. I often go all afternoon with, basically edging through intercourse. There is lots of oral and spankings and other erotic activities.

I'm having more sex in the last 8 months, and I do masturbate less. But when the sex schedule gets changed, usually due to work or travel, I do masturbate more.

I think of time with my partners are connection and giving as much pleasure as I possibly can.

Masturbation time is usually just for me. I want to see and explore things on my own times frame and as 'research' for the times I spend with partners.

 

[tristantrotsky]

I do have sex and i enjoy sex,with both men and other women, but i openly admit i masturbate ,its something that ive been doing more and more in the last few years, surely we can combine both but at the moment i seem to be masturbating more than sex, i masturbate every day

We can always masturbate together? Or masturbate each other?
It does not always have to be a solitary thing. We can share...

 

[Nekidinaz]

It almost feels taboo to write, but I'd rather masturbate than have sex. I know I'm not the only one out here, and I'd love to have others chime in. Sex is great for an emotional connection with another person, but masturbation has always been better for me, pleasure-wise. Maybe it's because sex is an orgasm I have to work for while also focusing on the pleasure of my partner, while I can be completely selfish when I'm pleasuring myself. I've never been with someone who has made feel like I didn't have to masturbate in addition to our sex life.

I think you make a good point here, especially regarding the part about focusing on the pleasure of one's partner during sex whereas when masturbating one can be completely selfish while focusing solely on one's own pleasure.
I love to masturbate by myself or with someone else masturbating me...I have wonderful orgasms from masturbating and I can control everything about my sexual pleasure when I'm masturbating...
While I'm not into "edging" per se, I do enjoy controlling the timing and the intensity of my orgasms...and when someone or multiple others are watching me masturbate, it can be very erotic and sexy feeling for me and I love that level of arousal...

 

[phil97405]

I enjoy sex, especially oral (giving) with women or men, but I prefer masturbation, even with a partner. I really like to edge and get lewd and nasty with myself. It makes me cum hard!

 

[OnaTangent]

Even when I had a more active sex life I have always enjoyed masturbation for variety and filling in the gaps.

 

[Wonderer67]

It almost feels taboo to write, but I'd rather masturbate than have sex.

I dont think it’s taboo. Everyone is different and everyone’s sexual dynamic is different.

Like an other poster above, I want my partner to have as much pleasure as possible. In fact, we practice orgasm denial and control. Her pleasure trumps mine and I love making her cum.

I only cum every few weeks (lots of edging, mutual masturbation and sex, but no cumming for me).

This makes each ejaculation very special and very powerful.

It works for us.

 

[Sienna62]

I wouldn't feel embarrassed or ashamed. There's too much pressure for anyone to be in a relationship, or have a partner.
And sometimes we can find the right person for us emotionally but not mentally or physically.

I was in a 25 year commitment/marriage/yadda...I put so much shame on him for masturbating and watching porn that I am ashamed of myself now that he's gone.

Now, jump to the last few years... And all I do is lust for men who masturbate and freely watch porn

I also know masturbation can feel best alone. (With no other person IRL or wherever)

Unless you find someone that shares your kinks, fetishes, desires... Orgasms and pleasure won't feel best with them, IMO...

One of my most rewarding partners was a prim proper outwardly reserved older woman who shocked me by saying
“ I like watching porn, and wanking myself off to it, sometimes I’d like you just to be there , is that ok ? “ SUCH a turn on .

 

[Kenrychard]

I understand the reasoning. My answer to it is to forgo the mythical ideal of "cumming together". Sure it can happen. But my ex wife and I had very different paces during sex. I like slow and passionate, she needed it much more energetic. So... just forgetting entirely about myself and focusing on her alone would lead to much more satisfying sex for her. It wouldn't ALWAYS be reciprocated, sometimes the price for doing it too well was she was over the edge LOL and DONE. But when she did, it was way nicer than masturbating. She new all about edging and would do so by hand and mouth until I was begging her to finish it, LOL.
But I definitely get it. If my partner was new, or worse, a one night stand, I usually had to finish myself later, even if I was just reliving what had just happened. And returning to partner sex after a long time alone was really tough. But emotionally? Probably because I have had too much of my adult life where it was my only choice. Sometimes just another's touch is enough, before my ex wife was my wife, she was for a time my brother's girlfriend. He treated her like crap to the point of even kicking her out of their motel room in just panties at 1 AM and tell her to go stay in my room, LOL. There were 2 times we had to share a bed, I couldn't sleep, and instead of letting me go take a hot shower and masturbate, she asked me to stay so she could watch. That was FAR better than alone, AND she always ended up caressing my balls, she likes balls LOL. Having someone watch and touch while you masturbate is pretty damn nice.

 

[MakeMeWetAF]

It almost feels taboo to write, but I'd rather masturbate than have sex. I know I'm not the only one out here, and I'd love to have others chime in. Sex is great for an emotional connection with another person, but masturbation has always been better for me, pleasure-wise. Maybe it's because sex is an orgasm I have to work for while also focusing on the pleasure of my partner, while I can be completely selfish when I'm pleasuring myself. I've never been with someone who has made feel like I didn't have to masturbate in addition to our sex life.

I thoroughly enjoy both masturbation AND sex BUT if I reeeally, really HAD to choose either for the rest of my life it would 1000% be MASTURBATION! Dead set!

1. I love the versatility of it. There's no shortage of places or situations I find myself masturbating in. I'm spoilt for choice with toys I can use in and on myself ️

2. I'm not reliant on sexy Lover Lover and his loins being available whenever I'm gagging for some playtime ️

3. I can STILL indulge in mutual masturbation or tandem masturbation with him, suck him dry and he can still devour my pussy️

4. I love that I know every millimetre of my pussy, clit and tits soooo well having experimented with them so much ️

5. Masturbation is so intimate yet freeing and empowering at the same time️

So the lonnng story short while I stick and swirl my glass dildo deep in my pussy, is that I'd still THOROUGHLY enjoy myself if sex was completely off the menu for the rest of my life. I don't need it to achieve orgasm.

 

[Hardguy6]

Short answer… Yes, I prefer masturbation over sex.
Don’t get me wrong, I still love sex with my wife and all of the pleasures that brings to both of us.

I enjoy the freedom that masturbation allows me/us, weather it’s mutual or self indulgent.
I know how to and where to touch me. I know how fast, slow, hard, soft and when to touch me.

Not to mention, there is no pressure, I’m there pleasing me.

 

[susurrus]

These days, masturbation is my only option. Menopause was not kind to my wife, plus she's had health issues that just exacerbate the situation. As well, the physical exertion of sex was too physically demanding for me the last few times we did try fucking.

I do like masturbation, mostly while enjoying porn, as I can indulge in any number of fantasies and fetishes while I edge and get myself off. However, I do miss the connection, and having my cock stimulated by someone else always feels better than my own hand.

 

[JusticeGrey]

For me, masturbation is easier and, depending on the stimuli, can be much more intense than the sex I typically have, but the sex is far more satisfying.

 

[phil97405]

I thoroughly enjoy both masturbation AND sex BUT if I reeeally, really HAD to choose either for the rest of my life it would 1000% be MASTURBATION! Dead set!

1. I love the versatility of it. There's no shortage of places or situations I find myself masturbating in. I'm spoilt for choice with toys I can use in and on myself ️

2. I'm not reliant on sexy Lover Lover and his loins being available whenever I'm gagging for some playtime ️

3. I can STILL indulge in mutual masturbation or tandem masturbation with him, suck him dry and he can still devour my pussy️

4. I love that I know every millimetre of my pussy, clit and tits soooo well having experimented with them so much ️

5. Masturbation is so intimate yet freeing and empowering at the same time️

So the lonnng story short while I stick and swirl my glass dildo deep in my pussy, is that I'd still THOROUGHLY enjoy myself if sex was completely off the menu for the rest of my life. I don't need it to achieve orgasm.

I'm totally with you! I enjoy sex, but having hot, lewd sex with myself (aka masturbation) is the best!

 

[cruiser_2015]

I get full sex but I still masturbate. I can get a much better orgasm masturbating as I can take my time and better control the tightness of of my hand round my cock, the rythm and the length of my tugging and stroking. I can ogle porn looking at penis-straining pictures of women. But no masturbation ever equals the whole body experience of being naked with a naked woman under me against me with her arms and legs wrapped round me.

 

[stormyrosey]

Personally I get more turned on chatting and taking photos while pleasuring myself than I ever get when having sex spent 2 hours last night dripping wet

 

[BiWifeMyrtleBeach]

I love sex with my guy. Nothing tops that in its own sexual sphere. There are times, however, I want to have alone time where I can indulge my thoughts, fantasies and desires without someone else present, wanting to discuss them, and enjoy self pleasure at my pace.

 

[phil97405]

Personally I get more turned on chatting and taking photos while pleasuring myself than I ever get when having sex spent 2 hours last night dripping wet

Mmmm, I can relate!

 

[Oshkosh60]

Mastering is certainly handier.

My sex drive has always been more keen than my partner's, I couldn't suggest to my partner that we have sex as often as I wished to have it because that would be no fun for them. So I always had to supplement. when married I remember a time when we were only having sex once every ten days and I was probably taking things in hand at least three or four times during the same period. She would hit the door every day after work.... "I am so tired..." I would nod knowing chances so sex were nil for that night. There always seemed to be an excuse....the kids might hear us, an argument had cooled things off, I so wanted physical connection. I would lay in bed next to her nearly in tears wanting connection and physical affirmation.

Then five or six years alone (well, several people filled the gap) and then my current partner who has health issues this past year and we had an adult daughter return to the nest. So I still have to take the edge off. Sometimes I think I should just get up and have a wank so I won't be thinking about it. But occasionally that has been a curse in that the stars align themselves and we can actually jump in bed for a session but I am then less up for the job than I normally would be. I do like oral though and that is good for her and she doesn't mind that finish off by stroking while lying next to her....because sometimes I can't orgasm otherwise. Even hough she has nearly never had an orgasm while being penetrated, she still like it when I come inside her.

So, yes I would prefer to have intercourse more frequently and come inside her, but filling in the frequent gaps by masturbating helps a great deal. I do though sometimes worry that my performance is subpar because of the solo work.