Sex fun

[stickeater]

What do you do to keep sex with your significant other fresh/exciting? Honestly for me most of the time intercourse is the cherry on top not the goal. Sometimes I just want to have half naked fun. No matter what it is, cheesy sex games, food play, w/e. I’m in my early 30s but I guess I missed the fun of most people’s 20s... just curious

 

[masterslave00]

What do you do to keep sex with your significant other fresh/exciting? Honestly for me most of the time intercourse is the cherry on top not the goal. Sometimes I just want to have half naked fun. No matter what it is, cheesy sex games, food play, w/e. I’m in my early 30s but I guess I missed the fun of most people’s 20s... just curious

Wait until you are married for 25+ years and 58yo like me ... You will also be happy to get once a week one...

 

[Jada59]

Really depends on your other half. I've been with guys who are too serious and that sort of stuff would never happen. I'm a child at heart. I make fun! Not sure how to really tell you how I do it. Just seems to come naturally to me. But it only seems to work if my other half is the same way.

 

[stickeater]

I try to make it fun, but I’m so jaded by the last few women I’ve been with. One was just a cold fish and wouldn’t really respond to anything but didn’t object either... just weird. And the last one was basically lie back spread her legs and okay I’m ready.... I mean if all sex is to you is a hard dick insert repeat then I’ll buy you a dildo... it’s sad that I haven’t had that many partners, not like single digits or anything, I’m still young and sex is just boring...

 

[oneblueye]

hey...

I try to make it fun, but I’m so jaded by the last few women I’ve been with. One was just a cold fish and wouldn’t really respond to anything but didn’t object either... just weird. And the last one was basically lie back spread her legs and okay I’m ready.... I mean if all sex is to you is a hard dick insert repeat then I’ll buy you a dildo... it’s sad that I haven’t had that many partners, not like single digits or anything, I’m still young and sex is just boring...

Ya want sex to be more interesting--,?
STOP watching so much bullshit and misinformation in the way of porn.
And instead find someone with the same level of willingness that you have to EXPLORE sex with you.

 

[glBock]

I try to make it fun, but I’m so jaded by the last few women I’ve been with. One was just a cold fish and wouldn’t really respond to anything but didn’t object either... just weird. And the last one was basically lie back spread her legs and okay I’m ready.... I mean if all sex is to you is a hard dick insert repeat then I’ll buy you a dildo... it’s sad that I haven’t had that many partners, not like single digits or anything, I’m still young and sex is just boring...

Sorry to hear that for you, sex "did not start off on the right foot yet".

Even though sex turns out rather different for different people, it seems to me a few "universal thruths" apply to every couple. The most important of which: having similarly strong sex drives not only helps a lot but is essential. The two women you talked about apparently did not have much of it, and gifting them a dildo before leaving them would have been a good idea.

On your new search for another partner you can watch out for signs of her taking the initiative. But you may also want to make sure that she has good reasons for taking the initiative. By expressing to her your intention of making sure she will sense erotic bliss coming from you. In the form of stimulating her whichever way you can. Starting with her nipples and ending with her clit. with stopovers on every erotically sensitive zone of hers you can detect. And if I were you, I would rely on your tongue more than any other organ of yours.

My experience has been that once a woman senses that you have her enjoyment in mind primarily, and that you receive a good part of yours by feeling her have orgasms, she will do the same for you. Providing she does have a penchant for giving herself, and is not simply an egotistical bitch.

And once both of you know for sure that every erotic play will end in blissful happiness, I bet motivations will develop endlessly, to get a new game started, every now and then.

My two cents worth anyway!

 

[stickeater]

Ya want sex to be more interesting--,?
STOP watching so much bullshit and misinformation in the way of porn.
And instead find someone with the same level of willingness that you have to EXPLORE sex with you.

I don’t watch porn much but you are right maybe I should just get away from porn erotica or even this website in general and my sex life will surely improve.... anyway this thread went in a different way then I imagined anyway. Later all!

 

[docoral]

What do you do to keep sex with your significant other fresh/exciting? Honestly for me most of the time intercourse is the cherry on top not the goal. Sometimes I just want to have half naked fun. No matter what it is, cheesy sex games, food play, w/e. I’m in my early 30s but I guess I missed the fun of most people’s 20s... just curious

You want to change things up, have a out of house event! Ask your wife to just wear a sexy soft summer dress, mid thigh, and nothing underneath. Pick a slow morning to go to the mall with escalators and follow her at a distance as she rides the escalators, mix in an occasional purse drop so she can bend over and put her charms on display for those dirty old men LOL. Make sure she gets the attention of teenage boys or older men and watch them drool all over themselves. Just be careful for security. I guarantee you will fuck like bunnies when you get home. We did that quite often and had so much fun!

 

[amofiga]

Wait until you are married for 25+ years and 58yo like me ... You will also be happy to get once a week one...

Amen to that but add another 15-20 years to the marriage time.

Seriously, most people go through a lot of the classic "change it up" stuff like various sex toys, some bondage play, maybe some role play, pretend pick-ups and affairs, even an open marriage or swinging. Somebody suggested watching porn which can be fun IF both people have an open mind to it. The key to keeping sex "fun", and I don't necessarily like the term fun, is to keep a very open mind and be ready and willing to explore each other's sexuality without a shred of judgement or recrimination. Discuss your fantasies and give them a go for real. NEVER laugh at or denigrate anybody's kink or fetish or desire.

All that being said, I WISH I had that in my marriage. I had more of what I suggested above with other men's wives rather than my own. The stereotype is of MEN going out to seek what they don't get at home because "their wives don't understand them". There are just as many wives out there whose "husbands don't understand them." It seems to me that if each spouse grows sexually and is willing to expand their horizons equally over the years, it's a good thing. You will not be the same person at 40, 50, 60 that you are at 20, 30. Your interests and turn-on's will change as well as what you have to do to satisfy each other. Be willing to open up, accept each other, and hopefully be accepted by each other.

 

[docoral]

What do you do to keep sex with your significant other fresh/exciting? Honestly for me most of the time intercourse is the cherry on top not the goal. Sometimes I just want to have half naked fun. No matter what it is, cheesy sex games, food play, w/e. I’m in my early 30s but I guess I missed the fun of most people’s 20s... just curious

Don't overthink everything. The fact that you're aware things are a little stale is a positive step in the right direction. Discuss things with your wife and play outside the box. Sexual stimulation begins with the mind and can be enhanced anywhere. Put her needs above yours and you will be rewarded. Compliment her on how sexy she is, urge her to dress somewhat provocative within reason and sit back and watch how other men flirt her up. That will certainly give you a different perspective on her sexual appeal to other men and will kind of validate why you find her sexy. Be as dirty as you both can stand and have fun. Fuck her at different places. Go on vacation and do things where the possibility to get caught is real.

 

[4yourpleasureiam]

spend time combing each others hair. And kissing where it grows.

 

[MascaraRuns]

You want to change things up, have a out of house event! Ask your wife to just wear a sexy soft summer dress, mid thigh, and nothing underneath. Pick a slow morning to go to the mall with escalators and follow her at a distance as she rides the escalators, mix in an occasional purse drop so she can bend over and put her charms on display for those dirty old men LOL. Make sure she gets the attention of teenage boys or older men and watch them drool all over themselves. Just be careful for security. I guarantee you will fuck like bunnies when you get home. We did that quite often and had so much fun!

Sounds like fun

 

[screwher]

My wife and I are going into our third year in the hotwife lifestyle. We always had a great sex life but when we confessed our desires for her to havevsex with other men we kicked it into overdrive.

 

[Lucien_Al]

Massage

We have been married for 32 years and about a year ago I bought a massage bed and we started to get into Tantric Massage and now Nuru Massage. Often no full sex but rather just concentrating on the others pleasure.

Wife is very vanilla so this has been a great way to spice things up. Probably too tame for most

 

[glBock]

Amen to that but add another 15-20 years to the marriage time.

Seriously, most people go through a lot of the classic "change it up" stuff like various sex toys, some bondage play, maybe some role play, pretend pick-ups and affairs, even an open marriage or swinging. Somebody suggested watching porn which can be fun IF both people have an open mind to it. The key to keeping sex "fun", and I don't necessarily like the term fun, is to keep a very open mind and be ready and willing to explore each other's sexuality without a shred of judgement or recrimination. Discuss your fantasies and give them a go for real. NEVER laugh at or denigrate anybody's kink or fetish or desire.

All that being said, I WISH I had that in my marriage. I had more of what I suggested above with other men's wives rather than my own. The stereotype is of MEN going out to seek what they don't get at home because "their wives don't understand them". There are just as many wives out there whose "husbands don't understand them." It seems to me that if each spouse grows sexually and is willing to expand their horizons equally over the years, it's a good thing. You will not be the same person at 40, 50, 60 that you are at 20, 30. Your interests and turn-on's will change as well as what you have to do to satisfy each other. Be willing to open up, accept each other, and hopefully be accepted by each other.

amofiga, I read your post just now, and I believe your advice makes a lot of sense; I second all of it.

Trouble with the OP's question is that he does not seem interested in meaningful answers. But asking a question and ignoring answers given, is a waste of time.

My two cents worth!