Sensory Deprivation & BDSM

[Richard49]

Talk to me

As a Dom it pleases me to hear the submissives responds and for her to have enough movement that I can use her hands etc.

Now I have read this and other things simlar
So what am I missing by not being in deeper bondage and gags?

 

[Ebonyfire]

I am no expert at this, but I love using sensory deprivation on my subs. You have to be careful, cause prolonged sensory deprivation causes all kinds of problems. I will dig up the websites later on and post them if I can.

I like to tie my sub spreadeagled to the bed, and blindfold & gag him. Then I get the boom box and put earphones on his ears, that plays music I have chosen just for the occasion.

I sit and watch him, sometimes for a minute, sometimes for ten minutes.

I then use all kinds of sensations. My pinwheel, feather dusters. floggers, those rough gloves that you can use in the bath, a loofah, a back scratcher, my rider's crop, etc.

I vary it pain with tickling (he is very ticklish). I often use CBT also. I use my hands, too. Anything I can find to give a sensation I use. Ice, etc.

I alternate fast and slow; hard and soft.


Just watching his reactions are so erotic. Sometimes you can see the hair on his body stand on end.

Anyone else care to share their experiences and/or fantasies using sensory deprivation?

Ebony

 

[SexyChele]

Damn, but you make it sound SO good! I know you are only attracted to male subs, but I wouldn't mind be on the receiving end of some of that!

For me, about the only I can handle in r/l is a blindfold. It's been suggested to try a bit gag, and I am curious to do that, but other gags might have a tendency to trigger my TMJ. No fun having your jaw locked open and trying to find a dentist to help "unlock" it! Also, my ears are very sensitive to direct sound, such as earplugs. Prolonged use, as in 15 mins, can make me feel dizzy and off-balance.

But just thinking of being in the dark, unable to speak, unable to hear while a Dom is pushing the limits of my submission sounds wonderful!

 

[Ebonyfire]

Look at this

Damn, but you make it sound SO good! I know you are only attracted to male subs, but I wouldn't mind be on the receiving end of some of that!

For me, about the only I can handle in r/l is a blindfold. It's been suggested to try a bit gag, and I am curious to do that, but other gags might have a tendency to trigger my TMJ. No fun having your jaw locked open and trying to find a dentist to help "unlock" it! Also, my ears are very sensitive to direct sound, such as earplugs. Prolonged use, as in 15 mins, can make me feel dizzy and off-balance.

But just thinking of being in the dark, unable to speak, unable to hear while a Dom is pushing the limits of my submission sounds wonderful!

Look at this hood chele? Could you stand this? And I use the earphones that cover the whole ear, not ear buds.

 

[Ebonyfire]

the effects

A very interesting website:

The Effects of Sensory Deprivation

Ebony

 

[Ebonyfire]

Latex hoods

How about this little hood to wear around the house?

Eb

 

[SexyChele]

Re: Look at this

Look at this hood chele? Could you stand this? And I use the earphones that cover the whole ear, not ear buds.

I love the image and thought of a hood, but I am also claustrophobic. (Yeah, I'm a walking mess, sometimes!) My first Dom used a simple black hood once on me - basically an open cloth bag over my head. If the room had been brightly lit, I probably could have seen right through it, but the room was dim. I loved it for about 10 mins, and then I started getting freaked, and he had to remove it.

The strange thing is, blindfolds of any sort do not bother me. I think it's a psychological thing of only my eyes being covered and not my entire head.

Luckily, the Dom I am seeing now doesn't get much out of hoods, and doesn't have a fondness for gags, unless his submissive shows a desire for them. I would like to try the bit thing, though, at least once.

I didn't think they made the earphones that completely covered the ears anymore! Yes, those I can handle much better than just those little ear plug thingies. Looks like I may have to do a little searching around! I'd ove to get this total effect sometime!

 

[Ebonyfire]

Re: Re: Look at this

I didn't think they made the earphones that completely covered the ears anymore! Yes, those I can handle much better than just those little ear plug thingies. Looks like I may have to do a little searching around! I'd ove to get this total effect sometime!

Yep they do, they are very cost effective through the online electronics stores.

I will post the link if I can find it.

Eb

 

[P. B. Walker]

I'm with SexyChele on this... it sounds pretty awesome. Definitely on my "to try" list

PBW

 

[serijules]

Sensory Deprivition is probably one of the most undesireable and frightening part of BDSM for me, for a variety of reasons. It's hard sometimes because it sounds so good...and the fantasy is wonderful...but the reality for me is a disaster.

With my being deaf, my hearing is already deprived, and taking away my sight by blindfolding me takes away my ability to 'hear' entirely. With my hearing aids, I can hear a little, so if someone would remove them as well as blindfold me....complete sensory deprivation. Pyschologically, if I can't see whats going on around me, my mind goes into overdrive worrying about what is happening. It's a loss of control I just can't handle.

And gags factor into this too....I have always breathed louder/harder than I need too...since I lost my hearing. I figure it's because I need to hear myself breathing in order to assure myself that I am....sounds strange I'm sure, but it's a mental thing. If I'm gagged, I feel like I lost control of my ability to breath because I can't 'hear' myself breathing, and I panic.

So blindfolds, gags and masks are huge limits for me.

However, I love being tied down and having all the sorts of things that Eb mentioned used on me...usually I can drift into subspace with a long flogging; it's almost a natural sort of sensory deprivition...and I almost sensory deprive myself....by closing my eyes, taking out my hearing aids or simply blocking sound, biting down on my lip to contain my moans and ability to speak, etc. Then the slightest touch will set me off, make my skin tingle, and so on, but I continue to 'block' other senses. That's about the closest I come to complete sensory deprivition, which really isn't close at all lol.

Great thread Eb, will be interesting to see more responses.

 

[Pure]

Ebonyfire said:

I then use all kinds of sensations. My pinwheel, feather dusters. floggers, those rough gloves that you can use in the bath, a loofah, a back scratcher, my rider's crop, etc.

I vary it pain with tickling (he is very ticklish). I often use CBT also. I use my hands, too. Anything I can find to give a sensation I use. Ice, etc.

I alternate fast and slow; hard and soft. //
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Sounds like royal treatment, Eb!

D'ya have men lined up on the street, wanting to get in?

J.

 

[Mr Wolf]

Now we're talking. I love sensory deprivation, it can be a real buzz for both partners but EB is correct you must be very careful and watch the time limits. Remember this is a form of torture used with great effect and can cause serious harm!!! But damn its good fun in a controlled way.

Edit for poor proof reading skills, oops

 

[SexyChele]

Re: Talk to me

As a Dom it pleases me to hear the submissives responds and for her to have enough movement that I can use her hands etc.

Now I have read this and other things simlar
So what am I missing by not being in deeper bondage and gags?

I guess I was so blown away by Eb's posting that I missed the question that inspired it all! My apologies, Richard!

I can't speak for what a Dom might be missing, but I have had conversations with Doms who have a mixture of "yeas" and "nays". Most seem to like blindfolds, though hoods can be iffy. (One Dom referred to them as being slightly "scary" to him) I think the attraction, from what I understand, from the Dom perspective is the sub not knowing what is going to happen. She cannot see what implement or action is to be performed on him/her, and this elicits possibly 2 things: 1. a feeling of control for the Dom/me, and 2. a feeling of submission for the sub. There has to be a certain level of trust to do this. Of course, as stated here, for various reasons, some subs have limits for this.

Most Doms that I've talked to don't seem overly enthralled with gags. They will use them if a sub really gets off on the idea, or if a true gagging (silence) might be required, but in the men that I've talked to, most want to hear their subs reactions.

Hearing deprivation would accomplish the same as sight depravation. I know that when I am blindfolded, my sense of hearing kicks in, and even with a moderate hearing loss, I can make out what he is doing unless he is extremely quiet.

I do like to have my hands restricted as it simply turns me on. I often wonder what the attraction is for Doms, as it would seem to me a sub would be better able to serve them if they could touch them. I'm not certain, but I think the attraction might be in watching the sub struggle slightly because of the desire to touch their Dom/me. But, then, I could be wrong.

I think Eb gave the best reason - and sent most of us into subspace with just her description! But, as in all things, the final decision is between the two people engaging in what is happening.

 

[Richard49]

Re: Re: Talk to me

I guess I was so blown away by Eb's posting that I missed the question that inspired it all! My apologies, Richard!

No problem
Thank you for your thoughts

Anyone else got any ... thoughts on my question that is

 

[Ebonyfire]

D'ya have men lined up on the street, wanting to get in?

J.

Actually, I only use it with subs I know well. I usually use it with sissy cause he and I have known each other 1 1/2 years by now, and he trusts Me completely.

I intend to use even more sensory deprivation with by 24/7 salve proud stallion, but in a very, very controlled way. It may become a ritual to ramp down from daily activities.

A time out, in fact.

Ebony

 

[A Desert Rose]

I enjoy sensory deprivation during sex. I love being blindfolded and bound. I love the sweet torture of different tactile sensations and there are many I have yet to experience and long desire to.

And again, it comes down to reliquinshing control to another.

 

[Ishmael]

Good thread.

I find sensory deprivation to be an extraordinarally useful tool. However I look at it from a different perspective. I refer to it as sensory focusing.

By diluting or depriving one or more senses you are focusing the bottoms remaining senses. By using selective deprivation, one can stimulate other senses to a heightened state.

As pointed out, there may be very real physical or psychologiocal reasons that this technique not be employed. But barring any of these reasons it is a great way to 'train' all of the senses to a higher state of awareness. One at a time.

Ishmael

 

[SexyChele]

Good thread.

I find sensory deprivation to be an extraordinarally useful tool. However I look at it from a different perspective. I refer to it as sensory focusing.

By diluting or depriving one or more senses you are focusing the bottoms remaining senses. By using selective deprivation, one can stimulate other senses to a heightened state.

As pointed out, there may be very real physical or psychologiocal reasons that this technique not be employed. But barring any of these reasons it is a great way to 'train' all of the senses to a higher state of awareness. One at a time.

Ishmael

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Ish, I just wanted to say that I am glad you have decided to participate here. I don't always agree with everything you say, but your arguments are sound and you always seem to have something interesting to say.

Sorry, folks, for the highjack. Now, on to regular posting....

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[Ebonyfire]

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Ish, I just wanted to say that I am glad you have decided to participate here. I don't always agree with everything you say, but your arguments are sound and you always seem to have something interesting to say.

Sorry, folks, for the highjack. Now, on to regular posting....

</highjack>

One more, and it is off to the communal spanking bench, missy!!

LOL

Eb

 

[SexyChele]

One more, and it is off to the communal spanking bench, missy!!

LOL

Eb

Is that a promise? And can I take PBW along as well?

 

[A Desert Rose]

Is that a promise? And can I take PBW along as well?

And what am I? chopped liver? ~waving my arms~ I wanna go tooooooo......

 

[Ebonyfire]

Is that a promise? And can I take PBW along as well?

Of course. Is he a co-spankee or a co-spanker?

Eb

 

[Ebonyfire]

And what am I? chopped liver? ~waving my arms~ I wanna go tooooooo......

Ok, young lady, your ass is grass, and I am the lawnmower!

Eb

 

[Richard49]

How did I get left out?

 

[Ebonyfire]

Re: Talk to me

So what am I missing by not being in deeper bondage and gags?

Well Richard, it seems the dynamics are different between femsubs and malesubs.

I love to gag my boys. You can still hear their moans, but when you live in an apartment building with thin walls, you want to muffle them somewhat. I find that a gag has great psychological effect on them.

As for bondage, I love to tie by big ole strong boys up. It is good on a lot of levels.

First of all my boys and bigger, taller, and stronger than I am (for the most part). It really is humiliating for a male to be bound and gagged. I like the humiliation factor.

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Ebony