Second Thoughts

[catalina_francisco]

This looked like an interesting thread topic to revisit.

 

[Netzach]

The perfect life is and must be a work in progress. This is what keeps it interesting, that ever-shifting ground of defining "perfect."

I hope I never get there.

I live my life the same way I make my art, the same way I deal with a sub partner, it's all the same. A professor nailed it when he said "you have moments of brilliance and you have doubts. You seem to work from doubt to doubt." Creativity, for me, is the solution to the problem posed by doubt, and there will always be a new one nagging on my horizon, to be solved only by the perfect (aesthetic?) decision at that perfect time.

Style is anything but "who I am." It's a tone, a mood, a voice. And mastering one depends on trying many, is helped along by the ability to revert to one I don't care for much or rely on often.

I don't know what "vanilla" things are anymore, the term has kind of lost it's meaning to me. If stressors and life crises are keeping me from expressing BDSM wise, and keeping M from doing same, well....maybe that's ok. Maybe they are clamoring for attention for a reason. This too shall pass. I'd rather express in an SM sense when both of us are in the frame of mind wherein magic has a chance of occuring. Till then, bills to be paid, things to do, a life to run. That's not vanilla, that's just death and taxes.

 

[ethereal~minx]

This looked like an interesting thread topic to revisit.

for a moment I thought Shadowsdream started a new thread
but this is an awesome one to revisit!!!

thank you catalina

 

[AngelicAssassin]

The perfect life is and must be a work in progress. This is what keeps it interesting, that ever-shifting ground of defining "perfect."

I hope I never get there ...

Thank you.

i found the rest of your post just as enlightening, but quoted the core for me.

 

[dr_mabeuse]

I've never seen a good relationship that wasn't a 2-way street, D/s included. If things aren't working out, you've lost contact with your lover, and you're not going to repair the relationship single handedly on your own no matter how much of a badass you are or how much whipping you do.

---dr.M.

 

[Artina Heartflash]

When They begin to look back and see what They are losing by allowing too many vanilla distractions into Their lifestyle will They get the Fuck It! attitude and continue to let the situation slide beyond repair?
Boredom and disappointment tinged with a low burning anger will simply set Their eyes searching for what They know They deserve and can attain as simply as They can breath.

Anyone care to start a new conversation?

I am going to add only one question here, and a truth to consider:

Can a Dominant become so obsessed with his lifestyle and personal agenda that he loses all appreciation for any kind of favorable interaction with another human, be it vanilla? (Let's not exclude ourselves from any blessings in life, great or small.)
The submissive has something to teach us with his attitude of total service, a giving nature, not so focused on what he can attain as what he can offer.

---thoughts from a switch

 

[Shadowsdream]

Re: Re: Second Thoughts

I am going to add only one question here, and a truth to consider:

Can a Dominant become so obsessed with his lifestyle and personal agenda that he loses all appreciation for any kind of favorable interaction with another human, be it vanilla? (Let's not exclude ourselves from any blessings in life, great or small.)
The submissive has something to teach us with his attitude of total service, a giving nature, not so focused on what he can attain as what he can offer.

---thoughts from a switch

I doubt it...for no matter how deeply a Dominant lives this lifestyle the vanilla world threads through it with golden threads on a continuos basis.
We learn most I believe from the submissive just as they likely learn most from Us the Dominants if you are referring to the lifestyle lessons of kink and pleasure be they service or not.

 

[CutieMouse]

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