Sapiosexuals unite

[TnA4U]

Sapiosexual: a person who finds intelligence sexually attractive or arousing.

Would you count yourself among the sapiosexual crowd? Who do you find particularly arousing?

Over the years there have been a few men I've found highly stimulating, both intellectually and physically.

My current sapiosexual crush is Peter Zeihan. Damn, I love starting my day listening to his brief geopolitical videos. Something about his casual style and intelligence turns me on so much!

 

[BrentJW]

Good thing you included the definition so I didn’t have to look it up. Yes, I find intelligent, confident women attractive and I’m not submissive sexually at all. I too listen to Zeihan but only for his perspective, he doesn’t do anything for me, but then I’m hetero. My guess is he’s not married just by the way he pops up everywhere continuously, but haven’t a clue of his sexuality.

 

[ChrissyClitLit]

The term "sapiosexual" is intensely unattractive to me.

I quite agree.

I used to think I was sapiosexual, but that was because I only ended up dating clever people. Kind people are far, far more attractive to me. It doesn’t matter how brilliant they are. But do I still close my eyes and find myself pinching my nipples to the narrator of a cosmology documentary?

Yes. But it was just that one time and I was super lonely.

 

[live4thebj]

I don’t care for air heads so that may count.

 

[YesIamReal]

I quite agree.

I used to think I was sapiosexual, but that was because I only ended up dating clever people. Kind people are far, far more attractive to me. It doesn’t matter how brilliant they are. But do I still close my eyes and find myself pinching my nipples to the narrator of a cosmology documentary?

Yes. But it was just that one time and I was super lonely.

I am looking for a woman who will embrace the power of the word "and". Kind and sapio.

 

[EStaccato]

I quite agree.

I used to think I was sapiosexual, but that was because I only ended up dating clever people. Kind people are far, far more attractive to me. It doesn’t matter how brilliant they are. But do I still close my eyes and find myself pinching my nipples to the narrator of a cosmology documentary?

Yes. But it was just that one time and I was super lonely.

You sure it wasn't because Gillian Anderson was the narrator?

 

[ChrissyClitLit]

You sure it wasn't because Gillian Anderson was the narrator?

Who told you!!

 

[EStaccato]

Who told you!!

Bitch, I know what you like.

 

[joe_schmonyc]

Yes. This. I am hugely attracted to smart, intellectual women - academics, librarians and others.

 

[TnA4U]

I'm glad I'm not alone in my pursuit of intelligent partners and playmates.

Thank you all for chiming in.

 

[Otis_Ravelli]

I have always been drawn to women who are intelligent and competent. My problem is always that I worry I'm intellectually out of their league. When talking to people I know to be intelligent it tends to lead to me questioning my own intelligence level.

 

[ericrodman101]

Sometimes it's better to get the sex out of the way before finding out how intelligent they are. Over-analysis can be a barrier.

 

[morelikeasong]

Me! I’m very attracted to intelligence. I don’t need an arduous display, but I love when a man is clever and witty. It’s such a turn on to me, even before the conversation takes a dirty turn.

 

[soflabbwlvr]

Some of the most satisfying relationships I have had were with exceptionally intelligent women. They push me more, make me work harder to be better as a person, a man, and a lover. One in particular stands out. At first I was physically attracted to her, but as I got to know her better I realized her intellect exceeded mine. That made her even more attractive to me. Our brief time together left an indelible impression on me. I still think about her to this day. If the circumstances had been different, who knows where we would be today?

 

[Not Normal]

I would say sapiosexuality is part of my personal spectrum.

 

[CuriousRick]

Sapiosexual: a person who finds intelligence sexually attractive or arousing.

Would you count yourself among the sapiosexual crowd? Who do you find particularly arousing?

Over the years there have been a few men I've found highly stimulating, both intellectually and physically.

My current sapiosexual crush is Peter Zeihan. Damn, I love starting my day listening to his brief geopolitical videos. Something about his casual style and intelligence turns me on so much!

This is a new term for me. I am definitely more attracted to someone who is intelligent.

 

[jsmiam]

I can’t just stop there!

Sapphiosexual - finds intelligent lesbians attractive

Scapiosexual - finds intelligent men who manscape attractive. (Finds intelligent finely coiffed people attractive.)

Sariosexual - finds intelligent women wearing saris attractive

Sadiosexual - See strapiosexual.

Samiosexual - finds intelligent people named Sam attractive

Satiosexual - finds intelligent people with good SAT scores attractive

Sawiosexual - finds intelligent horror movie fans attractive

Saxiosexual - finds intelligent sax players attractive

Shapiosexual - finds intelligent curvy people attractive

Strapiosexual - finds intelligent sadists attractive.

Snapiosexual - finds intelligent warlocks attractive

Swapiosexual - finds intelligent swingers attractive

Scrapiosexual - finds intelligent scrapbookers attractive

Shapirosexual - finds intelligent people with last name Shapiro attractive

But yeah. I suppose I am regular Sapio too. Welcome to my world.

 

[Hotshots44]

I don't consider myself to be sapiosexual, but I consider myself to be quite well educated, with a good general education, political interest, open minded and aware that I can and want to learn more and more every single day. I like eloquence, perspicacity, and logical thinking. I'm also a bit of a spelling monk. I'll put it this way: I probably couldn't do anything with a woman who wasn't the brightest candle on the birthday cake. In this regard, I need eye level. But it's even more fun and exciting for me to exchange the expressed eloquence for really nasty dirty talk. When it comes to Sex, the only thing that counts is horniness. Of course, this works much better and easier for me in German than in English because I'm German. But as I said, I'm learning and it's a lot of fun here

 

[CuttingEdge]

I am VERY much a sapiosexual, but I find it is more of a curse than something to be really proud about.

The first reason is that it is completely frustrating. It is fine now as I met a lady who is incredibly intelligent and has the education to back it up, but when dating a few years ago, it was tough for me. Since I am attracted to highly intelligent women, that is not something you can readily pick up on. By the time you really vet out if they are truly smart, they would think I was moving too slow, or uninterested in them, and so there would be no more interaction as they concluded wrongly my impression of them.

The other aspect that leads into that frustration is the Dunning-Kruger theory. This is where phycologists figured out that dumb people think they are smart, and smart people think they are dumber than they really are. The problem with that is, in society we assume people tell us the truth. When someone I was hoping to start a relationship said they were smart, I would naturally believe them. Over time I realized how accurate the Dunning-Kruger Effect is. Really intelligent people realize, while they may know a lot, they are also smart enough to know they are NOT the authority on a subject and that there is so much more to learn. Because of that, the really smart ladies don't advertise themselves as such, and so it is really hard to find them. Unfortunately, the opposite holds true too; the dumber ladies often bill themselves as intelligent, so it sends a sapiosexual like me down a lot of dead ends relationship wise.

But I found an intelligent lady now, and I am extremely happy. The afterglow of sex is as much a part of the pleasure of sex as the physical act, and to get that sapiosexuality right means in bliss, we have amazing afterglow conversations. Or in purchasing the right house for us. Or setting up our home that contains libraries filled with amazing books, or having our finances in order so that we have a solid plan for our future. So for sapiosexual's, it is worth getting right, but it is tough to find that right combination.

 

[ouchfeelsgood]

Sapiosexual: a person who finds intelligence sexually attractive or arousing.

Would you count yourself among the sapiosexual crowd? Who do you find particularly arousing?

Over the years there have been a few men I've found highly stimulating, both intellectually and physically.

My current sapiosexual crush is Peter Zeihan. Damn, I love starting my day listening to his brief geopolitical videos. Something about his casual style and intelligence turns me on so much!

I completely agree about sapiosexual individuals. I won't pretend to downplay physical attractiveness, but an intelligent conversation is equally arousing, whether or not it's about sex.

 

[j769]

Does two and a half languages count?

 

[TnA4U]

Love it!!

 

[CuriousRick]

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Does two and a half languages count?

Reminds me of the scene in the movie A Fish called Wanda

 

[Littletoo]

Sapiosexual: a person who finds intelligence sexually attractive or arousing.

Would you count yourself among the sapiosexual crowd? Who do you find particularly arousing?

Over the years there have been a few men I've found highly stimulating, both intellectually and physically.

My current sapiosexual crush is Peter Zeihan. Damn, I love starting my day listening to his brief geopolitical videos. Something about his casual style and intelligence turns me on so much!

One of the special Crosses we recovering Catholics must bear is a working knowledge of Latin. If you look up the etymology of sapiosexual, you will find that it comes from the Latin "sapiens" which means "wisdom" not "intelligence."

"Wisdom" and "Intelligence" are not the same thing. I am sexually aroused by wisdom, not hi IQ. We all know Hi-IQ people who do incredibly foolish or even evil things:
Jeffry Dahmer. Ted Bundy, andTed Kaczynski (the Unabomber) all had hi-IQ scores.

The wise people I am sexually attracted to exhibit experience, as well as knowledge, and good judgment.

"Wise" people usually have IQs on the right half of the bell curve, but their intelligence is tempered by experience. Gaining enough experience to have good judgement requires making mistakes, which exposes the wise person to the variabilities and uncertainties of life. It usually seasons the wise person's intelligence with empathy, a touch of sadness and a basic kindness. Those are the qualities I am drawn to.

"Smart" people tend to think they know everything. Wise people know that all knowledge is provisional. As Twain put it: "it ain't what you don't know that's the problem. It's what you DO know that AIN'T SO.

I am not sexually aroused by sheer intelligence, but by wisdom.

Love

Leah Blue

 

[jsmiam]

Theres definitely a risk of sounding like or being a snob. Maybe without even realizing it!

That’s the value of really corny jokes. So with that said…

Asapiosexual - attracted to prompt intelligent people

Whasapiosexual - attracted to intelligent people who mimic bud-light commercials from the 90s. Or wait. Early 2000s?

Maasaipiosexuals - attracted to intelligent Maasai people

Sassapiosexuals - attracted to intelligent sassy people