Sand or stone?

[Ishmael]

A story goes that two friends were walking through the desert. During some point of the journey they had an argument, and one friend slapped the other one in the face. The one who got slapped was hurt, but without saying anything, wrote in the sand: "TODAY MY BEST FRIENDSLAPPED ME IN THE FACE."

They kept on walking until they found an oasis, where they decided to take a bath. The one who had been slapped got stuck in the mire and
started drowning, but the friend saved him. After he recovered from the near drowning, he wrote on a stone: "TODAY MY BEST FRIEND SAVED MY LIFE."

The friend who had slapped and saved his best friend asked him, "After I hurt you, you wrote in the sand and now, you write on a stone, why?"
The other friend replied: "When someone hurts us we should write it down in sand where winds of forgiveness can erase it away. But, when someone
does something good for us, we must engrave it in stone where no wind can ever erase it.

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Ishmael

 

[calypso_21]

This speaks volumes Ishmael.

 

[Kitte]

that is a wonderful sentiment, I wish more people would believe it.

 

[Aquila]

Im more of a kickem in the nuts write it out in their bodily fluids kinda guy. honestly, Im not one for forgiveness.

 

[Ishmael]

Im more of a kickem in the nuts write it out in their bodily fluids kinda guy. honestly, Im not one for forgiveness.

Been there, done that. But then you have to clean it up.

Ishmael

 

[Kitte]

Im more of a kickem in the nuts write it out in their bodily fluids kinda guy. honestly, Im not one for forgiveness.

Not to get all deep and philosophical. But if you never forgive, you can never hope to be forgiven. We are all human, we all make mistakes, poor judgement calls. It happens, we hurt one another. We can only hope for forgiveness. When someone else hurts us, all they can hope for is the same.

 

[Aquila]

Not to get all deep and philosophical. But if you never forgive, you can never hope to be forgiven. We are all human, we all make mistakes, poor judgement calls. It happens, we hurt one another. We can only hope for forgiveness. When someone else hurts us, all they can hope for is the same.

I generally kick people to the curb pretty quick. forgivness is all well and good, but It takes alot for me to be pissed enough for you to need it. so I figure it all balances out.

 

[Kitte]

I generally kick people to the curb pretty quick. forgivness is all well and good, but It takes alot for me to be pissed enough for you to need it. so I figure it all balances out.

I guess I just belive that if someone who I care about comes to me, with great sorrow over their actions wishing to be given another chance. It is in my nature to do it. There are times when we all make mistakes.

 

[Aquila]

I guess I just belive that if someone who I care about comes to me, with great sorrow over their actions wishing to be given another chance. It is in my nature to do it. There are times when we all make mistakes.

You can be sorry for someone, but can you really forgive a person? to the point where you think it never happened?

Example
If your friend stole from you to pay for whatever drug habbit they had, would you trust them?
If your SO cheated on you could you ever truly forgive them?
If your friend keyed your car because of a spat. could you forgive them?

stuff like that. just kick em to the curb and go about yuor business.

 

[Kitte]

You can be sorry for someone, but can you really forgive a person? to the point where you think it never happened?

Example
If your friend stole from you to pay for whatever drug habbit they had, would you trust them?
If your SO cheated on you could you ever truly forgive them?
If your friend keyed your car because of a spat. could you forgive them?

stuff like that. just kick em to the curb and go about yuor business.

Trust does not happen..it is earned. In some of those instances, no I would not. But in others...yes I would. I would give them a chance to earn my trust again.

 

[curious2c]

The parable sounds good. However...the Klingon in me still says...'Revenge is a dish best served cold.'

Also in the mix is honor. What does one do to do the honorable thing? What is the honorable thing?

I would like to believe that the sand would blow away and I could forget a wrong done to me...problem is I have a memory that won't let it be sometimes.

Some would turn to their respective God or Kone, I...well...I like cold dishes. They are served well most times.

 

[Pamela]

I have never heard that before. Its beautiful.

 

[red_rose]

I was going to make a joke about sandstone...but I'll refrain.

I dig it. It is a philosophy that I have lived by for a few years now. I try to remember the good and not dwell on the bad.

 

[Smooth_Operator]

As people are irrational and unpredictable by nature, the idea that anyone is trustworthy is dangerously naive. Trust is something that is given; it is never deserved.

 

[Rhys]

and once trust is broken, it is hard as hell to repair.